How to forgive yourself for hurting someone?

We need to understand that we all make mistakes and it's okay to make mistakes because we are human. Let the person you know that you are sorry for hurting them and let them know that you would not do it again. Then move on. Its okay to make mistake. It really is.

Depending on how you hurt this person and if they're still hurt from whatever happened can be hard. In this world, no matter how many times you apologize and make up for the deed sometimes people will still give you a cold shoulder. The best thing you can do is apologize, and accept it with yourself. Not everyone will accept you back in their lives, but if you accept and love yourself then it won't be something you have to worry about anymore.

It's tough, the most important part is accepting that you've hurt them and understanding how/why it happened. Once you've accepted that it has happened and why it happened you then need to focus on letting it go. It's not an easy thing to do; guilt is an extremely potent emotion and it's one of the more tricky ones to deal with!

I'm assuming you've had some tough conversations with yourself by this point; you've searched for the answers to why you did what you did, what sent you down that road and most importantly, what reparations you've made toward that person and are they aware of how sorry you are. If you've crossed those hurdles then it's time to know a few things; we're often harder on ourselves than we are on other people, we'll often forgive others before we forgive ourselves and we're also in the invidious position of remembering our own wrong doings long after we've forgotten what others did to us. On that basis, give yourself a break. Know what happened, own it, forgive yourself and move on. None of us is perfect and by making mistakes we learn a huge amount about ourselves in the process. Don't let history repeat itself and make attempts to live a good life; forgiving yourself will follow.

Accept the fact that you already hurt this person and you cannot take it back. What you can do is to say sorry. If you want to prove him/her that you are still worthy of that person's trust, then do it.

Its not easy. I cheated on my girlfriend back in june. I was overwhelmed by guilt but the best thing i found to forgive myself was help others. It makes me feel less bad of a person despite my wrongful actions

If I would have hurt someone and get to know, I needed at first the forgiveness of God (confession) and if possible the forgiveness of the person I hurt to forgive myself. Furtheron, if possible I would like to make my up for my mistake. That is what I would need to forgive myself.

Recognize that you are a human being, and human beings, every single one, has their flaws. You are not perfect. Everyone hurts people sometimes, and most of the times it's an accident. If you feel genuine regret, you should recognize it and move on. You can't change the past. You made a mistake, yes, but now you should be looking forward into the future, because that is what matters, in the end. Forgive and move on.

Even if the person you hurt hasn't forgiven you, you can still forgive yourself. You feel bad for what you did, you knew it was wrong, and depending on the situation you might have tried to change your actions to reflect how sorry you are. You deserve to be able to forgive yourself for you mistakes.

Asking them for forgiveness and doing what I can to make things right and then move on and forgive myself and make sure I do not repeat the mistakes I have made.

You have to forgive your self when you have hurt someone or else you will never move on you have to stay postive and think that you are a changed person.

Accept that what you have done is wrong and try and make it up to that person by getting them to forgive you

Remember that people make mistakes. You may have made one, but you don't have to let that one mistake define who you are, who you want to be. It's easier said than done, agreed, but there really is no other way to go about this. Forgive yourself, forget the past, move on to live in the present and enjoy the moment. Good luck!

The first step to forgiveness is an apology. Apologise to them and ask for their forgiveness, then you can finally forgive yourself.

Sometimes we hurt someone because we protect us and sometimes we hurt someone because we are overwhelmed by feelings of angriness. When we look back to the events, when we're not in need of protection or angry feelings anymore, we start to feel guilty. We do not understand our actions anymore because we are in another state of mind then. But: We do out best in every situation. Sometimes our best is less than our best at another time. And sometimes our best contains hurting someone. When you are in a higher state of mind later, you can do your best then. You can apologize. And you can forgive yourself.

It is a hard thing to forgive yourself for hurting someone, especially someone you care about. You need to be honest with yourself. Look at what you did accept that it was done. It was likely a mistake if you are feeling bad and want to be forgiven. Mistakes happen, it is a simple fact of life that cannot be changed. But we can learn from them. Ask yourself and come to terms with why this happened. Once you are able to understand the reason this all took place and you were able to hurt this person you can make movement towards forgiveness. Remember forgiving is hard, often even harder when we have to forgive ourselves. We tend to be our own hardest critics. But if you keep striving toward the goal of forgiveness it can be done.

Just know that everyone makes mistakes and that you were ignorant back then, but now you know and recognize what you did. Know that it's the past, there's nothing you can do now (in most cases), what happened happened, and that you can only learn from your mistakes and continue on with your life.

If you've already sought the forgiveness of the one you hurt, then you may need to confront yourself. The other person may not forgive you but ensure that you have tried. It may sound like a platitude, but you have to accept the fact that you are a human who makes mistakes. That can at times feel like an excuse, but it is a fact. You cannot change anything that happened, You messed up. You may feel as if your mistake is too big, any other error might be understandable, but not 'this'. Perhaps. But 'this', whatever it is, is what you have to deal with. Forgiving yourself shouldn't be about feeling like you are a good person, though you may get to that point. It should be about allowing you to pick yourself up and keep going. Let the feelings of guilt drive you to become a better person. Don't dwell on it and let it destroy you, but keep it in memory and let it actively drive you to making better decisions. All, you can control is what you will do. If you do so with the understanding that it is in human nature to make even the biggest mistakes, then you just might arrive at a better point in your life.

Well, just remember that you are human, after all. Everyone makes mistakes, including me. Just take it easy, and treat yourself nicely. What's done is done, you can't change the past. The one thing is you can do is remember to not hurt anyone in the future.

Separate what you did from who you are. Realize that going back may not make things better. Sometimes you have to look for forgiveness in after coming to terms with yourself.

let them go, and move on find someone and talk about your problems to them let it all go and maybe have freedom and feel better

Say sorry, and then remind your self, that everybody makes mistakes. We do have to make mistakes to learn something. Accept that you've done something wrong, give your self time to be mad about it, but also give your self time to let it go.

Try to re-channel your energy into how you can prevent this feeling in the future. What lessons were learned? What would you do differently in the future?

Apologize sincerely to that person, try find a time & work it out w/them. Don't beat yourself up too hard over the matter. People make mistakes and as long as you learnt from it, that's another important point too :)

Experience is nothing without mistakes and once you are aware that you've hurt someone, it's very easy to dump all of the blame on yourself. It will soon become apparent that you are the only one pointing the finger at yourself; if other people are blaming you, they will forget if not forgive over time. You have to learn from the moral of your mistake and take it along with you, not the blame but the knowledge and experience. With that, you can strive to avoid more mistakes and become a better person.

One way is to make amends to that person. But if that is not possible, sometimes it's enough to avoid hurting someone else in the same way and recognizing both your limitations and the things you actually can do. Also, a good mindset to develop is valuing relationships over individual actions. Even if you make up for things but still see the rapport as a score sheet--getting -1 for hurting them and +1 for doing a good deed to them--even if you reach a balance of 0 or stack a +x number of good deeds, you will always feel bad because you're depending on the numbers. Forgiveness is less about acts, more about relationships--with others or with yourself.

Know that we all make mistakes and what happened had happened you cannot change what you did. But you can start over in a blank paper. If you can't rewrite what you did you still can write something new. Something good and beautiful. If you hurt someone then don't hurt anyone else again. Not just that but also be kind and take initiatives to help others and care about them always whisper to yourself "Be gentle " "Be gentle "also prevent other people from get hurt. Always remember you cannot change what you did. But you can control what you will do

Nobody is perfect. Instead of feeling guilty we should try to work hard on not repeating the mistake

This is a toughie. All I can suggest is to remember that you are only human — we’ve all hurt people, and we’ve all been hurt. But in spite of the mistakes you’ve made, they do not define you. You are not your choices. You matter, and you are worthy of forgiveness, especially your own.

Standing up and asking for forgiveness to the one you harmed. You identify with your victim, because you don't want suffer the same they have suffered so, if you really feel that way, you should talk it with the one affected. You cannot achieve much by closing inside yourself.