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Why is he ignoring me after breakup?

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Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 10:07pm
He probley wants time to himself he might be feeling bad or sad or mad and he wants to be alone. It is NOT your fault
MrHedgehog
March 15th, 2018 2:15am
Most likely because he is trying to move on. Breaking contact is the most efficient way of moving on from a breakup, though not quite the easiest.
ItsAcidalia
March 25th, 2018 11:05am
some people prefer to become distant from the person they just broke up with. it's not that they hate you. they just need some space, some time to accept what had happened and to get some closure so that he can move on
creativePalm12
March 31st, 2018 7:34am
After a breakup, people tend to need distance to recover from whatever emotions they were experiencing that lead to the breakup. It may be that he felt a lot of negativity towards you that he needs to get past. With time, things may calm down, and you'll be able to communicate with each other, but right now, things are most likely to raw for the communication to be effective.
UniqueHero20
March 31st, 2018 1:15pm
He's probably ignoring you because he doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Face the facts. You just broke up. Just give it some time.
glowingLake86
March 31st, 2018 9:59pm
He is maybe trying to realize what happened and it may be hard to talk to anyone right now heart broken
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 3:59am
People need closure after an ending of a relationship. They need time to process, heal or be able to move forward. It is best to cut contacts and all social media etc..when you are trying to move on or forward from a relationship. Its a great time to have self care and take care of feelings so that you don't lead with anything as you move forward.
intelligentBeauty89
April 5th, 2018 3:28pm
Maybe he needs time to process his own feelings. But it’s a breakup so contact isn’t needed unless kids are involved.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 3:59pm
from my own personal experience being ignored after breakups and simply for us to grow and understand that we must learn to sometimes be stronger even when we are left out in the cold it is teaching us to grow in the hardest way possible many times people don't want anything to do with us. Because we are too overwhelming for them. We definitely have to look back and reflect on our own selves simply because we need to see that the problems are indeed very big and we need to learn to identify recognize and accept that we do have a problem that we need to work on ourselves
Anonymous
April 6th, 2018 5:57pm
It was based on my personal experience. My ex-boyfriend ignored me after breakup. He was the one who cut all the ties. But I think he needs time to heal his broken heart and communicating with me is not the best option to do. After all he loved me when we still together so it will break his heart when we breakup.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 5:50am
he probably doesn't want to contact you anymore or doesn't know if it's appropriate. i suggest not being pushy about it because that could be awkward & problematic. contact him & if he shows signs of disinterest then it's probably time to step away. don't give him attention if he doesn't give you any. any relationship takes two to tango. at the end of the day, you know yourself best & you know the situation better than anyone else.
notsureletseeyo
April 12th, 2018 8:16pm
Because he wants do get over you. It would probably be easier for you too if you do the same. Keep in touch in a respecful manner, but don't get nostalgic with him.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2018 2:06pm
He may need a break to handle what just happened. Break ups are a very serious thing and each individual takes it differently. Just let him know that your their for him and care for him if he needs you. That way not only does he have someone to talk to you can spend time with him and try to work things out if that's what you want.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 9:08am
He might need some time to be normal again. He might also be maintaining a safe distance as to not to hurt you out of lonliness and rage. Or it might just be too difficult for him to stay friends with someone he loved.
Kayaondra02
May 5th, 2018 1:05am
Give him some time to cool down. Break ups are hard. Depending on what happened, he may not want to talk to you right now.
CursesAndMagic
May 18th, 2018 1:35am
Sometimes people need total break of contact after a breakup. It’s often difficult to remain friends after a breakup but in time this is sometimes possible. Maybe he needs space to process thoughts, feelings and emotions.
SupportiveSockMonkey
May 19th, 2018 10:44am
It might be because he's dealing with the information. Sometimes it's best to give eachother space as it can be a big change in someones life. They may also be hurting or trying to cope with the situation. Some individuals after a breakup cannot remain friends and maybe that's could be how he feels.
Anonymous
June 17th, 2018 9:41am
I think he's ignoring you because he needs some time for himself, and to move on. Break-ups are bad for both parties usually and can be damaging to people who were really into the relationship. Maybe he just thinks that avoiding you would help him move on from his past.
Anonymous
June 27th, 2018 2:43am
He may still be trying to sort out his feelings after the breakup and he thinks some time alone will help the process.
porsxh22
July 12th, 2018 12:19pm
Because he is obviously hurting and can’t stand to see you at the moment, if you still love him maybe don’t give up just yet!
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 6:19am
He is ignoring you after a break up probably so as to give you both time to move forward. Also not give you false hope that you will get back together.
FelixLlyod
July 20th, 2018 7:59pm
For some people ignoring is a step for moving on. That way they think they might stop loving that person.
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 25th, 2018 11:13pm
Maybe he is ignoring you after the break up cause he needs to process this. Maybe he feels keeping in touch with you is hard on him to move on and heal. I don't know this answer as only he does.
Positivityiskeyalways
August 3rd, 2018 1:45am
He might just need space to think about the situation. Best thing to do is give him time to clear his head instead of constantly messaging and calling him.
hnthalia
August 10th, 2018 5:39am
I've been through this and I'm done with the self loathing and blame I put upon myself. I realized that it's not necessarily anyone's fault. Sometimes people need time to heal and the best way to do it is to distance themselves. It's okay.
MissCarmen
August 10th, 2018 9:51am
There could be several reasons, but most common are 1) he wants to avoid guilt and 2) he wants to move on with his own life and wants a fresh start.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 8:30am
He most likely doesn't want to know news about you anymore or he's trying to not miss you it's best if you ignore your ex's so you won't miss them
Anonymous
August 29th, 2018 8:12am
Some people react to break-ups very differently. Some are quick to get under the next person, and others need a bit more time to heal. There are also the people who need to cut you off, clean turkey, in order to fully get over you. I have a few possible explanations for you: (a) He’s realizing the role you play in his life has changed and he needs to put some distance between the two of you. Sometimes you find that it’s easy to fall back into old habits, when you don’t give yourself space. (b) He’s hiding something. I have a friend who was dumped abruptly. Her ex became stone cold, and started giving her the cold shoulder. Only to discover that he was seeing another woman, THE WHOLE TIME! A married woman for that matter! (c) He probably feels guilty for breaking up with you abruptly.
Red1088
September 1st, 2018 10:37pm
Sometimes after people get out of a relationship, they need space. It could be that the relationship ending was a dramatic change for him, clearly affecting him deeply. If I were you, I would let him be for a while so he can get his head together. Eventually, he will come around and start to warm up to you again. Time heals all. Especially breakups, so just remember that he time and space. I know it can be hard to let someone have space but trust me, it’s for the best and if you do, all will come round 😁
BobaTea3
September 14th, 2018 2:09am
It really depends on the reason you both decided to break up. It could be out of embarrassment, him thinking he's not much of a man and is too embarrassed to confront someone that doesn't think highly of him, or it could be that he's still in love with you or just because it's too awkward to confront after a break up. I mean, any regular person would really ignore after a break up, it wouldn't be expected you'd become friends again the next day unless you always had that bond. You wouldn't expected to become friends the next especially if you were in a long relationship.