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Anonymous
November 15th, 2019 4:23pm
Breakups can be very hard to go through. Most of the people need time to recover, and sometimes that involves not thinking about the person you just had a breakup with. Maybe he isn't doing it intentionally, he could be trying to recover. It takes time to recover for a breakup. I would recommend to distract yourself and think about something else, as that can help you recover yourself too. Try doing activities you like, watch a movie, or get an ice cream with your friends. Self-care is important and soon you will thank yourself. It is a process.
It’s hard not to look back, not to go back to the relationship you just put an end to. Even if he broke up, it may be hard not to act as he did when you were together. He may need some time on his own, to think about what he’s supposed to do and who he’s supposed to be now you are not together anymore. It may take some time for him to go back to you as a friend... but you need to accept that he may be uncomfortable with going back to you, and he may not come back. It can prove too hard, too painful to start a new relationship with someone you broke up with. Do the same thing: think about where you’ll be off to, and do the necessary work to go forward
Anonymous
December 15th, 2019 5:56am
When my ex dumped me the main question that soared through my mind was 'why?'. That question consumed my entire life. Whilst studying, excessing, hanging out with friends and family and really, almost everything. I needed to get over him, or rather, the emotional attachment I had to him. Many people deal with that de-latching differently; however, the way I dealt with it was by ignoring him. Cold-turkey in a way, completely cutting him out of my life. I attempted to erase the memory of him. Eventually, I found peace and harmony in who I was and re-discovered my goals. With this 're-discovery' came strength and I gained ability to speak to him again without the harsh 'why' question rubbing my brain. It may not be the best solution, but it helps in some cases.
Anonymous
December 28th, 2019 6:13am
There are many reasons for why this can be the case. Maybe he is looking for a period to cool down and gather his emotions and thoughts. This may be a form of coping for him, as he tries to understand his actions. Not everyone handles breakups well, especially if one was emotionally invested in a relationship. However, it is important to understand that he may be struggling himself. Perhaps, consider letting time heal emotionally salient wounds and reconnecting at a later if you care about his well being. Essentially, follow up once you think it's a reasonable time to reconnect.
Break ups are hard for both people in the relationship. If he has decided that the best thing for him is to get over you and move on, he might need space to achieve that. Getting over an ex is different for every person . For some people it is easier by keeping contact with the person and knowing that they are doing okay. But for others, trying to cut that person out of their lives is the best option. So in your situation I would say that he is most likely trying to get over you so that he can heal from the breakup
Hey there; I'm Frostwire, and welcome to 7 Cups. Why Does it befit a person to ignore a past relationship partner? Let's ask five questions to assess the idea; sha'll we? What was the cause of the break up? How long has it been since the break up? Is this person actually the one; or, is he just a ride to exstacy? I believe in the power of emotions.
Emotions can cause disturbance in most males lives. It's not the same as an annoying little brother or sister but; its totally what most guys use to abstractly figure what they feel torwards there spouse. Just like any relastionship, they are in need of time to think about themselves. But during these times i would highly advise that you not give to much time to be replaced with something else in his mind.
THanks for reaching out to 7 Cups; I'm Frostwire, your friendly supporting listener.
Sometimes it is easier to deal with your emotions if you do not have to face the situation causing the anxiety in the first place. This is not always a healthy option though. Sooner or later whatever the issue may be will need to be faced. To be able to move forward you often need clarification around why some situations are transpiring. You can’t always control these situations and you just need to do your best to make the best of any given situation. Things will not always fall into place as you want them to and sometimes you need to be flexible with how you respond or action things.
He is trying to clear his mind and life of the loss of the relationship also. Both sides are affected in some way. It is probably for the best for both if avoiding each other. Keep the peace and pray for each other. Send helpful advocates their way to help in any way that they can to see that they are able to deal with the stress and not alone doing it. It is always best to look out for someone at a distant than to leave them alone. Always be kind. Never cause stress. They are counting on the help.
Anonymous
March 5th, 2020 4:23pm
There are multiple reasons that he is ignoring you after breaking up. Could be that he is trying to move on from you. Ignoring you will help him heal and forget your memories together. Second reason is that he actually did not like you before breaking up so he found breaking up a good chance to ignore you. Third option is that you hurt him emotionally during the relationship so he is ignoring you after breakup so he doesn't get in any fights with you. Or there is no reason for him to keep in touch with you. There could be many reasons he is ignoring you after the break up. I do hope you can find your way on healing and moving on to.
If you initiated the breakup, then he's hurt and trying to forget about you. If he did, willingly, then he's trying to avoid any situation that'll make you feel he wants you back so he can move on with his life without hurting you more.
If he's ignoring you to move on, then he is finding it difficult to forget about you. You need to give him space so he doesn't keep hope alive when he should move on.
If he is the one not hurt, then he's trying to have as little contact with you as possible so you can move on quickly. That way, his conscience will free him to do whatever he wants.
You both have broken up, that's why. You are no longer together, hence he's ignoring you. You both have seperated your ways, and none of you owe anything to one another. It might be hard to digest but it is what it is. If you want to talk to him about something, just tell him that. And I'm sure he'll listen. But other than that, I think it's best to just let go and move forward with your life. It might take some time to accept that it's over but it is. And the best thing you can do is to just stay away from him.
Anonymous
March 21st, 2020 3:37pm
Personally, for me, I ignored the person I broke up with due to it being hard for me and I wasn't feeling happy and I got memories of the time me and them were together and I also ignored them to get over them and not so depend on talking to them and trying to show my weakness to them Also; I was busy making new friends and doing new hobbies to keep my mind off the breakup that happened and I needed more space from them as I was they were a massive part of my life and functioned with them.
Anonymous
March 24th, 2020 12:00am
It depends. If it was mutual, then he is moving on and wants limited contact to make rhe process easier on his side, also in that way it might help you as well. They stop loving as soon as they stop caring. Its one way of the other party showing that you don't matter anymore. Painful as it may seem but over time you will realise you deserve better. At the present moment, you may not understand, like how is this person that you spend time living each other could turn to be so cold. Humans have a way of dealing with pain. Either we retract or we pursue till we get an answer. In this case he chose to be silent
Sometimes people tend to feel awkward after break up with their partner because the bond/relationship they had involved physical and emotional intimacy. And to avoid those feelings which would remind them of the relationship and memories associated with it. They tend to avoid situations which would trigger those thoughts/memories or feelings because somewhere they are still trying to adjust and accept their life without the person with whom once they were very close to. Everything takes time and everyone has different way of coping up to the situations, maybe for few people avoiding their ex-partner seems to be the only best option available for them.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2020 8:50am
There are a lot of reasons that you might be ignored after a breakup-- none of which are acceptable. Sometimes a guy needs space but doesn't know how to ask for it. Sometimes... it's too painful a decision to live with, so this can be a sort of denial. Sometimes the communication breakdown happens because there's nothing left to say or talk about between you two anymore. And sometimes, it's because he feels mean or feels wronged. Sometimes, He's already moved on before he broke up and wants to spare you the hardship of finding out. Either way... it's not a viable option.
I understand you might want to go back, express feelings. But when he was heartbroken, or he broke up with you, or whatever, he doesn't want to associate with you anymore. That seems really harsh when I put it but for him, it is over. There is nothing to talk about. After you guys initiated the breakup, he doesnt want to talk about it because it'll make him sad or mad or whatever he's feeling right now. Let him find his own life, his own path after the breakup. It'll be the best thing for you too, being able to get over him.
If a person ignores somebody after a breakup maybe they really want to break things off forever so please learn to give that person their space because a breakup is a breakup and sometimes people need to heal and a little time needs to happen and just depends on who it is but I think it should take a little time before that person is able to talk to you again subject most of you know you are respecting each other's boundaries. As I said depending on the situation it was before the break up this can depend on a person will feel about talking to you and about how long and you can always reach out and say look I hope we can still the friends and then if they answer back make sure you are able to make clear that you mean what you said about friends in case this person feels threatened as some people they need lots of space after a breakup and it totally depends but this is a good thing to do it's just a space to somebody because a breakup is not easy.
Anonymous
April 24th, 2020 8:14pm
It sounds like you may be feeling hurt. Breakups can be a time of confusion and sadness for many. Although you may feel guilty or sad that he is ignoring you, he may be doing it because he is hurt himself. I cannot give a definite answer to his behavior, because I have never experienced a day as you or as him, and I do not know the details of the relationship. However, I am here to listen and offer support based on what you confide in me. I am here to help! How are you handling his behavior?
Sometimes after a breakup, individuals feel the need to ignore their ex because they want to be able to move on. After a breakup, it is easy to start feeling regretful, impulsive, and sad. By ignoring you, he might want to be able to move on and not give himself the chance to try to get back together with you. Breakups are difficult on both sides, regardless of what caused the relationship to end. There are many reminders of the relationship that he will encounter, and ignoring you may be his version of letting you go. This could be due to his own negative feelings, or a desire for you to be able to move on as well.
have you tried talking to him recently and seeing what is going on. it can be hard right now. but see if you can talk to him and see whats going on. something might be happening in his life as well currently.Many women automatically believe that an ex ignoring them means it is because of something bad when that isn’t always the case. It may be surprising to you but your ex may be ignoring you because he actually still cares for you and has feelings for you.
Breaking up with someone is a highly emotional roller coaster full of confusing emotions as you know yourself as you’re going through it yourself. Everyone reacts to breakups differently though and him ignoring you may be a way for him to heal from the breakup.
While you may be ready to start talking again, he might not. He made need more time to get over it and heal before he can be ready to talk. In this instance it is important to not make this about you. It is clear that he still has hurt feelings and ignoring you is a way for him to keep his head clear to be able to think clearly.
Without knowing more, he might just want space as he knows that there is no future between the two of you. If you are broken up, he might be hurt and not want to be around you or talk to you anymore because it's too fresh and hurts him right now. It would also depend on who broke up with who. If he broke up with you, he might have already mentally moved on and no longer wants to be around you. If you broke up with him, he might be too hurt to talk to you or might not see a point in talking to you anymore.
Anonymous
May 17th, 2020 5:21pm
Well there are so many reasons why a guy is ignoring you after the breakup, but bein' upset or overthinking won't solve it. To deal with it first you need to calm yourself down and re-analyze the possible reasons why your ex is ignoring you. The reason could be any and varies on the situation that on which grounds your breakup was done.
I'm listing down various possible reason (based on my personal experience) why an ex ignores:-
1. He needs some space.
2. He's upset with you over a thing and want to make you realize.
3. He want you feel his importance in your life.
4. Might be has moved on or has find something more interested than you.
5. He is dealing with job issues, stress, family issues, etc.
So it's better to give him some time and maintain a "No-contact" rule for sometime 'cuz chasing him further will make him go away. If he truly loved you, he'll come back to you. So be optimistic and deal wisely with the situation.
It depends on the nature on the breakup amongst other things. Different people take breakups in a different way and approach their feelings and emotions in their own ways. He could be feeling low or he could be trying to process it all. From my experience, break-ups are naturally rough and I like to take time out for myself to focus on how I can heal and what I want to do going forward. He will not ignore you forever. If he isn't replying to you, just let him know you're there for you him if he wants to chat and tell him how you feel and leave him to process it and come back to you in his own time.
Anonymous
May 22nd, 2020 7:07pm
A break up is a very difficult time in two people's lives. After being together for a long time and understanding the other person at such an intimate level, there are a lot of conflicting feelings that come when you break up. That being said, it is important that both people in the relationship take some time for themselves in order to focus on themselves during this difficult time. He is probably ignoring you to do just this. He wants to not only be able to focus on himself but also be able to move on and develop his relationship with others.
There are many reasons people ignore one another after a break up. Sadly, many times they ignore us because they feel guilty. Perhaps they feel like they didn't handle it in the right manner, hurt your feelings, or wasted time. Sometimes, they simply feel awkward and aren't sure how to act around you until a new "normal" can be established. Other times, there are hurt feelings and the feelings are just to raw right afterwards. Communication is key; tell the person you're just not ready to talk and it may take some time for you to feel comfortable enough to get to that point.
Breakups are never easy for either party, and it doesn't matter if an individual wanted to breakup or not. Sometimes individuals who just broke up need some time to heal. This will include distancing themselves from the other person both physically and emotionally. This will require not connecting with the other person in-person and virtually. Although this may be a big change from when the two of you were together, it is a good method to dealing with a breakup. Now is a good time to connect with friends and family. Reach out to them as I'm sure they will be there to support you.
Because you broke up. Not being harsh at all but sometimes when a relationship ends, people need time to themselves to re-evaluate their life, their goals and that can take time. And sometimes while in an ideal world it would be nice if we could all stay friends with our ex, its not always the same for everyone. Maybe its too painful, maybe they just need to move on - everyone is different and handles the ending of a relationship differently to how we would like. There are so many different reasons why people react to whatever situation they are in (or have left) and it may or may not be the reason we think and that can hurt but more often than not - its unintentional, they have moved on. And that "moving on' process is different for everyone.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2020 1:42am
Depending on the circumstances of the breakup he may either be hurting or needs space to heal. Breakups are hard in general so sometimes space is best at first. It is important to focus on healing and doing things that are right for you and will help you. After some time has passed maybe you can reach out again to check up on him as a friend and maybe see if that is something he would be interested in. If he does not want to be friends then, of course, it will sting but ultimately you need to respect that.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2020 12:35pm
Probably because he doesn't want to face any emotions and he is scared of remembering the happy moments he had with you. I don't want to build my argument on stereotypes but it's pretty common that guys have more difficulties in facing emotions than girls. It'll probably take some time for him to be ready to face your past together. Take thinks slow and wait for him to work on his feelings and thoughts. I'm pretty sure he will feel ready eventually, just wait and see. In case he doesn't come back to talk eventually, it means that he's still a child in his mind.
He might just be overwhelmed with all of the emotions he is going through after the break up. Everyone is different, so people will cope differently to one situation then a other. Don’t get offended if he doesn’t talk to you after the break up. Give him some time and he will be back to his normal self again. For now you can get control over how you are feeling and take care of yourself and not worry about how he is feeling, this moment in time. I am sure he will message you when he is ready. :)
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