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Marriage is a very vert serious topic which might be scary to a few people at times because it is kind of a commitment you wish to devote yourself to for your lifetime. If your boyfriend is serious to the core about your relationship, talking to him about marriage shouldn’t be that hard a task. You can start by telling them your thoughts and views upon marriage. You can also list the examples of some beautiful and successful married couples around you. Then you can tell him that you wish to get married someday too and that you would like him to be your partner, that is, only if he consented to it
The easiest way. Explain your vision and your idea, along with a range of feelings you've developed so far. Be open and listen to your boyfriend's background and currently feelings about it. Don't be too pushy or judging. Your partner comes before a contract, and so do your needs. In case there's an overlap of needs, yay! In case there are differences in values, timing, feelings and expectations, reduce this Big Talk into little bits and keep it friendly. Don't overdue this. Face just one aspect per time and give your partner time to absorb information or develop its own idea.
Marriage is not really very easy thing to do it's a great responsibility. if you are interested in asking about your boyfriend about marriage, you are sure of marrying him. If not please rethink. Once you're sure then you can start talking about future plans, if he looks serious you can tell him what you think of your future with him. you can ask for marriage or if you are finding it difficult to ask face to face you can always use texts message or email. Best of luck from my end. I hope it will work for you
Anonymous
July 20th, 2018 1:11am
I have talked with my partner about marriage and my hesitancy to marry until after we are settled and have a good financial foundation. We have talked about it after he proposed and I told him no. We had to have a talk about our expectation and desires and we made sure to get on the same page. He was discouraged when I said no but loves me enough to respect my opinion.
i will make dinner first and then sit him down and talk to him about marry and how will he feeling be marriage to that person that he love and care about
During a pleasant conversation when both people are feeling good, you can talk about the future and your visions for the future. When he talks about the future, are you a part of that vision? Talk about your vision of the future. Does that include marriage? Try to be as non-judgmental and non-confrontational as possible. But if he doesn't want marriage and his long-term visions of the future don't include you, and if you want marriage, it's time to consider if this relationship will meet your needs.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2018 10:29am
There can't be a one specific way to do that. You know him better, find the right time to share your feelings.
Look for an appropriate occasion when both of you are in a good mood, begin with something about marriage to see how your boyfriend responds and decide what to do next.
If he asks you what you want for a birthday present "A Ring" is always nice :) Talk abount family, About moving together. About "long term plans".
Pick the right time and place to ask about it, and when you ask, take it slow and give it some time.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 12:55am
It will depend on how deep you guys are in the relationship, but generally just take in slow and soft approach, so no surprise reaction will occur. Talk about the little things so hint here and there and a casual conversation about it one of this days.
First talk about your plans in the future. Talk about kids, ask him how many kids he wanted if he dont respond dont push through with asking about marriage. But if he reaponded, jokingly tell him that its good and he need to be on his knees first.
Anonymous
June 7th, 2018 12:56pm
Just relax, no need to be nervous. Do not overthink or over prepare. The only thing you should reflect on is if you yourself are truly ready for marriage (financially, emotionally, spiritually). If you're ready for marriage and your boyfriend is not, you have some decisions to make and it's best to make those decisions sooner than later.
Anonymous
May 30th, 2018 2:33pm
First you need to be sure where you stand on the topic.You have to be absolutely sure.After being confident about your feelings you need to try to know what your boyfriend feels and then have an honest talk.
No ultimatums, no manipulation, no arguments or getting too emotional, but most importantly no beating around the bush. If you are an adult who is ready for marriage you should be able to tell him so. And if he is ready or even considering it he will be able to hold a calm and beneficial conversation with you about it. Start with a question. Ask "Have you ever thought about marriage?" See how he responds and go from there. You will figure out when the time is right, or when it's time to move on.
Marriage indeed is a big decision. Boys being usually of the type who rather are often afraid of the feeling of being committed, you don't want him to freak out. You also must take care of your behaviour when you approach him, like you should not be all tensed and serious. Just walk up to him casually and with a smile on your face say that you have something to say to him. Be careful not to jump to the actual reason and also just don't beat around the bush. Keep it simple and tell him how much he means to you, what positive effects he has had on your life and how you enjoy each moment of his company. After confessing what you feel for him and before jumping to the conclusion, ask him for his opinion about you and your relationship with him. If he has a positive answer, you can finally reveal your emotions to him about marriage and how you want to spend each and every moment of life with him thereafter. However, if he is still uncertain about you two guys but you definitely want to be with him, give him some time and don't force it on him. If you are lucky enough, he will eventually own up to you about his feelings. What may be the outcome, I hope it's the best for you.
Suggest that you want to get married one day and ask how he feels about it. See if he relates to your feelings or not.
be upfront and honest about your expectations of marriage. share your values, ideas, goals and what you want in life long term. make sure you are ready for marriage and both share the same same goals for a future. that you both want the same thing in life. because marriage is sharing a life with someone, through everything life throws at you. good and bad. it's not the same as dating when you get to just walk away when things go bad in the relationship. marriage is a lifelong commitment that you cannot walk away from that easy and decisions have to be made by both partners not just one.
Anonymous
February 13th, 2018 10:52am
So you've been together for a while now, and you find yourself thinking it's time to ask the big question: Where is this going? Is this long-term? Is this "the one?" You know the deal. So when you've gotten serious with someone and you're wondering how to make things progress, how do you bring up marriage (aka the question before THE question)? It's a tough conversation to have, particularly if you're at an age where you don't want to waste time with someone who doesn't want the same things you do. However, you owe it to yourself and your partner to be honest about what you want and what your intentions are. Do they see this ending in marriage, or do they even want to get married at all?
The worst part about this conversation (aside from the anxiety it induces beforehand) is often the aftermath. Either you've got to navigate more serious waters in the relationship, or you are faced with breaking up if you don't want the same future. Often, though, you'll be surprised that you and your partner are on the same page after all. But for now, let's stick with the basics: How do you go about bringing up the M word?
1. Get To The Point
This is my favorite way to have any conversation. Keep it simple with something like, "I know that I want to get married someday. Not today or tomorrow, but it is something I want in my future. How do you feel about it?" It's an open-ended question that isn't accusatory and doesn't come with loads of pressure. Avoid statements like, "are you ever going to marry me?" Hopefully, you had the "what are we?" discussion with similar maturity.
2. Start A General Discussion
If getting right to the point freaks you out a bit, then try to start a more general conversation on the topic. If you have a friend who got recently engaged, by the way, don't be afraid to casually bring it up — talk about how old they are, how long they were together before getting engaged. You may be able to at least gauge their interest in marriage or their general feelings about marriage. This is a wise move if you think your boyfriend or girlfriend might have some negative feelings about marriage and you want to avoid an awkward, direct conversation.
3. Don't Try To Be Too Cool
We have definitely all made this mistake, where we act like you don't care about something when we really do. You know how it goes. You pretend that marriage, commitment, and a family aren't important to you. If those things actually aren't important to you, that's totally cool, too. What's not cool is pretending to have different priorities than you do. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to your partner — you'll inevitably start resenting them. So, when it comes to the marriage talk, be honest with yourself and your partner.
4. Don't Assume
Just because your significant other is great with babies and is a wonderful fur parent doesn't mean they want to get married tomorrow and have kids. Don't bring any assumptions into your conversation, or you may be unpleasantly surprised.
5. Skip The Ultimatum
Regardless of how you choose to bring up marriage, an ultimatum simply shouldn't be part of the conversation. We've all probably made this mistake once (I know I have) and you live to regret it. the bottom line is, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you, and you certainly shouldn't have to convince someone to marry you.
This discussion shouldn't be avoided, because it will show you the status and the direction of your relationship.
Don't be too eager to start a discussion about this, first.
You can start talking about how you see your own families, how do you see other families, what would he like to see in his own family, and other questions which address the subject of family and marriage but not directly about your own marriage. In this way, you can test the waters and see if your boyfriend is ready enough to take such a responsibility. If you feel that he is, you can open a discussion about how he sees your relationship in the future and what plans does he have.
How to talk to your boyfriend about marriage isn't simple. You should get to know what they want int he future then tell them what you want in the future and tell them that you would like to get married at some point in the relationship.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2018 2:57am
It is a difficult decision, so it's understandable if it's challenging to talk about. At the same time, if you know him well enough, you could try to find the perfect time and place to start talking about it. For instance, if he's a morning person, you probably don't want to talk about it in the evening. If he likes a particular restaurant, just take him out to that place and then talk. Having a favorable surrounding that makes him feel comfortable will make it easier for you to talk about it. Start by conveying why marriage is important to you and why you believe that you two should get married. All the best!
Talk him about your love for him. Tell him you want to get involved more deeper. Tell him about rhe dreams you have for future and your concerns. Assure him that you respect his time and decisions and just communicting what you are feeling. And in now way, you are pressurizing him for making decisions..
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 2:04am
Be clearly, some guys are not good at getting hints. Also start by saying you don't expect to get married tomorrow and are simply wondering about what the future holds for you both.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2018 4:38am
A good idea would be to wait until you feel that your boyfriend is more than comfortable discussing it. Then, you'd probably want to introduce the idea in a non-threatening manner(Some people do not handle knowing there will be commitment properly) and to introduce it in a way that you feel is gentle enough to make them comfortable.
There comes time in every relationship when we need to know if we have the same partnership goals. Asking your partner what their intentions are in having a future together is difficult and frightening. Partly because we put ourselves at risk of possible rejection, and partly because we leave ourselves vulnerable and are forced to face our insecurities. However, it is important to make sure the commitments we make that include another person and affect our future are on the same page.
If you've been in a relationship that is secure, committed and You have a good, healthy line of communication established, and you're ready to move onto an even greater level of commitment with your partner go ahead and ask them how they see and what they hope the future holds in store for the both of you as a couple.
Gently, calmly speak from your heart and task them where they see you both going as a couple.
But remember that above all else you yourself must make sure that your partner is capable of taking care of your heart, mind and personal needs. You first must know your own intentions before asking what your partners are.
try bringing up the topic slowly, but honestly. ask him if he would want to get married with you and where how etc. and from there i would start planning your proposal
My personal experience with this is actually rather recent, as I brought it up to my boyfriend, I was blunt, and I told him outright, "I want to discuss a big and serious topic with you, if that's okay, which is marriage" and just like that, we were able to discuss it calmly like adults, and both give our input and set our terms, worked like a charm :)
I would use a couple of silly comments to see how he feels about it first and then from there build it into a conversation
Anonymous
April 8th, 2018 10:17am
First of all, ask him about his goals and motives for the future. Ask him if he wants to get married. And slip it in, while talking about the future.
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