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How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)

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gentleForever34
November 5th, 2016 12:30pm
You should ask ur boyfriend to meet u and tell him everything how you feel and tell him why you dont want to be with him. Talk in a polite manner and make him realise that there is no pint in being together if you are not willing.
prettygrlnay
November 5th, 2016 4:22pm
sit him down and tell him how you feel so he can understand where you coming from and tell him you don't want him no more and that hope he will understand!
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:40pm
You should just be honest with him. Expect him to be in shock and hurt but in the end you are saving him from later pain.
SleepyWillow54
November 10th, 2016 9:14pm
Be honest. It can be a tumultuous time dealing with the loss of someone who was once a big part of your life. But if you have made up your mind and honestly believe it's for the best, then find the time where you two meet in person and express exactly how you feel. Clarify whatever needs clarifying but continue to stand firm with your decision. "To fall in love is by chance. To fall out of love is by choice." Good luck!
Anonymous
November 11th, 2016 9:24am
It may be challenging but honesty is only fair to you and him. It will set your stress free and you can move on
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 6:45pm
You need to be honestly, if you don't want stay with him, be honest and say the truth, it will make him sad but he need to know just the truth
patientRabbit30
November 12th, 2016 7:43pm
I have recently experienced something like this, you will be better telling him in person calmly with reasons and ask to be friends, rather than doing it via phone. That way you can make sure that they are OK and also you will receive a better reaction. Choose a private place to tell him.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2016 6:40am
Gently ask him how he feels. See if he feels the same as you, because if he does it will be easy. But he he really loves you, you will feel worse knowing that you are living to yourself and others. It may be hard, all of them are, but you can get through it.
charmingYellow14
December 7th, 2016 4:14am
Be honest! Tell him how you feel tell him that what was working is no longer working and your done wasting your time.
Koli2424
December 17th, 2016 2:12pm
The best way to inform your boyfriend of your intentions is to organize a meeting with him and explain exactly how you feel about the situation. Doing such thing via social media is not the correct way to do so as the person who you're dealing with will come to the conclusion that he didn't matter to you, which may or may not lead to depression, suicidal thoughts and more. Once you organize a meeting with him, you must be sure to be as clear as possible and explain to him, without hurting his feelings, that the relationship is simply not what you expected it to be. Additionally, you may list the reasons behind your conclusion to end the aforementioned relationship.
Anonymous
December 29th, 2016 2:59pm
Talk to him about it. Sit him down, face to face and tell him that you feel the relationship isn't quite what it was before. You don't share the same burning passion, or happy days that you did once before. Tell him that you loved him, but you need some time apart. Ask if you can give him a hug and then ask him if you want to be friends.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2017 1:59am
If you are in a relationship with someone you no longer have interest in its easier to just be honest! It will cause you less stress in the long run and make things easier for the other person the less time you waste. If you are concerned about your safety let an adult you trust know about the situation and be cautious! But don't deprive yourself of a happy love life.
musicalWhisper
January 11th, 2017 3:53pm
Face him confidently and affectionately. Try to be as clear as possible so that he doesn't get ant wrong idea so that there is no miscommunication. Once you decide and confront, don't be weak and go back. Stop talking to him, block him on every social media site and from your life if you can.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2017 9:36pm
1. Choose the appropriate place, probably 1 to 1 quiet environment will be the best. 2. State your reasons Most importantly, try not to let your emotion drives the conversation and be sure to give him the time to talk also.
Rach42
February 11th, 2017 9:41pm
Be open and honest with him. Tell him how you feel, and why you don't want to be with him anymore. If he doesn't want to understand that, it will only prove something you didn't see his character before. But also, see if you can rekindle something that was missing before. You never know what can go from there :)
softFlute92
February 24th, 2017 4:16pm
Be honest about your feelings. Tell him exactly how you feel and why you want to end the relationship.
Anonymous
February 25th, 2017 6:44pm
As respectfully and self-respecting as possible. Be sincere, unambiguous and firm but polite. Offer no justification for this preference if you are certain about your decision. No one wants to be told they can turn things around when they can't.
LittleMissJoy
March 1st, 2017 12:19pm
Be as honest as you can with him. Tell him the reason why you choose to break up with him. Try and avoid sugarcoating how you feel just so you don't upset him because then it seems like your unsure of feelings and you're decision. Let him know that you don't want to end of bad terms.
11Fallenangel11
April 21st, 2017 3:39pm
Be honest, explain that this relationship is no longer what you want and you don't think it's right for you anymore. You're not being rude by telling people how you really feel and looking out for yourself so it's best to be honest. Explaining to him that this isn't what you want and it isn't right for you is being honest while not blaming anyone for the situation.
Loki1216
April 26th, 2017 2:45pm
This one is tough, breaking up is never easy. That being said, sometimes its best to just come out and say it, talk to them, in person (If possible I understand the issues of Long distance as well.) Don't just drop an email or text, this is like a cop out, you cared about this person enough at one point, they deserve to hear you or see you say it. He will ask why, ask yourself if you're ready to give him an answer. But the best way to do it is, just to do it, like a band aid, if you're having these thoughts, its most likely he's picked up the signs and can sense it even if he won't admit it. Do not try and fight with him about it, fight's never lead to good places, and usually prolong the relationship beyond the point it should be. Most importantly, be honest, don't give him the spiels of "Its me not you." et cetera et cetera, you're better than this is, and most often he's worth more than a spiel. I hope this helps!
Anonymous
April 30th, 2017 7:45pm
Explain to him your situation and why the relationship is not doing justice for you or helping you become who you want to be. Be kind. Do not blame.
trashprince69
May 5th, 2017 3:31am
Just explain to him as truthfully and straightforward as you can. Give him a safe space to ask you questions as I'm sure he will and answer those as honestly as you can without hurting his feeling too much. :) Hope it all goes well
Suitcase33
May 5th, 2017 11:12pm
From my experience, breaking up face to face, if possible, is already a good basis. It would be nice to tell them at the end that if they have questions, they can message you in 3 days or something and you can meet up face to face. Remember that this talk can be good for closure for the both of you, but be careful of your own emotions and wellbeing as well.
PigfaceMcGee513
June 2nd, 2017 4:25am
First understand WHY you don't want to be with him. If it is because of principles, beliefs, then see that through. If it is because of the way he treats you or talks to you. Let him know that. But if it is because you feel he cannot provide things on a material or financial level, emotional level, let him know that too. Breaking up is hard to do. But to delay it delays the pain it does not stop it. It just procrastinates his pain and makes your pain greater with time.
balmySemir23
June 15th, 2017 9:01pm
Well , that would be the best way to tell him in real life , not over social media or something like that , but if you know that wouldn't be good or you wont be able to tell him at real life than , a social media would be a good. But at first you have to think are you 100% sure that you want to abort your relationship.
Pascifier
June 24th, 2017 2:26pm
Be honest, firm, but gentle. Explain why you no longer want to be with him. Bring him to a safe quiet place where you feel comfortable to talk. When you are done be considerate of how he feels. Give each other space and room for understanding. However, don't compromise your feelings if your boyfriend takes it badly and don't let them guilt you into staying. All in all just be honest and talk it out.
Rosepetaltea
July 2nd, 2017 4:12am
Being honest even though it affects both you and him is beneficial to you both. He deserves closure and you deserve to go after what you want.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2017 11:36pm
You can be honest with him, talk in a clear and concise manner. Plan ahead of what you're going to say (make notes beforehand - if you think this will help you). Explain why you are breaking up and mention that you have to do what's best for you.
Anonymous
August 3rd, 2017 3:29pm
You should consider he is human and that will hurts him, say it in a nice way and from inside just accept his reaction and never take it personal, he may be shocked and out of control. And when you say it never go with evidences that he is not enough for you, just keep the conversation about the future not the paste.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2017 10:09am
You just do. Clear your thoughts and the reasons why you think that this is not working for you anymore and you try to be as straightforward as possible without putting the blame on someone. Honesty is the best guide when it comes to human relationships.