How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)
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Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 5:39pm
Communication is key.
Just tell him straight up. at the end of the way you deserve to be happy. With or without him
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 9:31am
Nothing trumps honesty. Breakups are always hard, there's no denying, but they can also be an opportunity for growth for both people in the long term as long as they are handled on honest terms. This means providing the honest answers your boyfriend will need to give him the closure required to move on. Equally that means being honest with yourself too so that your next relationship might be more successful.
Whether the reason is personal or you just lost feelings, no one deserves to be lied to a in a relationship. I think it's best if you have a truthful conversation; but don't be harsh and angry! Be simple and gentle, as they might still want to be with you. Reassure them that they will find someone, and so will you :)
I would arrange a time for you and him to sit down and talk about the reason you do not want to be with him anymore and tell him the way you feel and try to tell him nicely but clearly.
just be direct and sincere , it might hurt him but at least you would be honest and you should show him that that means you were honest from begining till the end
Honestly, the best way to deal with this situation is to just approach him with honesty and respect. Make sure that you have spent some time thinking about why you don't want to be with him anymore. Being honest with him saves unneeded extra heartbreak for the future. Remember that taking care of yourself and distancing yourself from toxic people and emotions is the first and bravest step to healing.
Have you identified the reason you don't want to be with him anymore? Perhaps be gentle as you would if the shoe is on the other foot, but be honest as well.
Honesty is the key. There is no easy way to tell someone that you no longer want to be with them. Whatever way you tell it, its going to hurt them so i think that just be honest and be reasonable.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 10:17pm
Be honest and understanding, tell him how you feel and he will understand -if not was he really worth getting with in the first place?
It's always hard to break up with someone, especially a romantic partner. However, the longer you stay with someone that you no longer enjoy being with, the longer you will both be unhappy. From my personal experience, the best way to break up is just by simply stating it. Remember that breaking up does not require any reasoning or explanation, it's just doing what's best for you (and likely the other person).
If that's what one wants, it's better not to hide such feelings as the more we wait the more it hurts, but if you are going to tell him, it would be better if it's a real conversation than over text. If we are not comfortable for speaking then we can even write it down and give them, but giving before them is what matters, to stop misunderstandings if any.
Anonymous
September 18th, 2016 2:27am
Just say hey this isn't working out....I hope we can still be friends. I like you, just not like that
You just talk about it with him I guess that's the best way to sort things out and he can be happy with it but if you do anything behind his back he will feel disappointed and there might be some consequences about that talk to him convince him that you don't want to be with him it's good that way.
Anonymous
September 21st, 2016 2:14am
You can start by destining your self a little. This will help you gain the space and the courage that you need to talk to him honestly about your feelings. Remember, he deserves to know the truth, so be honest :)
Anonymous
September 29th, 2016 3:07am
Explain why you feel the way you feel. Also think about what his response will be. Try to understanding without changing your mind.
I think honesty is the best policy in this situation. Sit down with your boyfriend and explain that the relationship is not what you want anymore. Perhaps explain specific details and that you do not think it would be healthy to continue on together.
Be honest and just say it flat out. Lies or skirting around the issue will never help or make things better.
Always be honest about your needs and about what it is you really want. If you need a clean break don't leave dangle the chance that you might be able to work it out. Think about what you would want if your partner decided to break it off with you. How would you want them to treat you to make it clear, yet compassionate?
It is difficult but you have to do what is best for both of you. Just be kind, gentle and honest. Let them know that everything will be ok.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 1:35pm
Please leave me alone as i cant be with you and if you love me then dont force me to be with me and allow me to find my own happiness
Sit him down, and in a polite buy honest way, explain how you're feeling and that it's best to end the relationship. It's important to remember to stay honest, and not to feel guilty for your feeling. Your boyfriend may get upset, cry, or beg you to reconsider. While it is ultimately your decision, remember that it is unfair to both of you to maintain a relationship that you do not want to be in, even if your boyfriend does.
Although its hard, it is always best to break up with someone in person. The best advice I have is to be honest. Talk through the reasons calmly and nicely, as he will probably be upset.
You just have to be honest and say so. It would also be fair and beneficial to give your reasons though. Telling someone this is never easy, but if you believe that it's something that has to be done, it's all about building up the courage now. Usually, you would feel scared to say it, but that fear is your fear of how the other person will react. That, however, is something out of your control. Your goal is to just let him know how you feel.
Anonymous
October 21st, 2016 10:36am
I have to be honest with him and with myself and not to lie to him anymore. I need to tell him nicely that it is mostly about me, and not about him and to ask for forgiveness and permission to just move on.
Sit down with him and discuss why you dont want to be with him. Do not let him over power you emotionally and stand by your points. Make sure that you are cautious with your wording so that you do not hurt his feelings. Be honest with him.
First, I would suggest talking to him. Find out where problems in your relationship lie, then try and compensate on a solution. Second, see how things go from there. Yet, if you can't come to one and/or you've already talked and it's not working out, then I would still suggest to talk to him. However, this time it has to have more of a substantial reasoning behind it (if I was to be broken up with, I would want substantial reasons as to why this breakup is happening). I would give all the facts and reasoning behind my decision and say that it was my final choice. I would try and make it more on peaceful terms than aggressive/negative ones.
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 9:54am
Explain that you care for his feelings so you are letting him know that it is time for both of you to go separate ways for what ever the reasons may be. You do not feel the same as your once did about him and that is okay. Things fall apart sometimes.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2016 10:22am
Do not tell abruptly. A kind closure would be nice. Make it formal and tell him it in a sympathetic manner. But do not be harsh on words. Let him know you still care and that the relationship is getting dry.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2016 11:13pm
Be honest with him. I know that it's easier said than done, but he deserves that. Think about how you'd like to be treated if you were in his situation.
Just call him and tell him in person. You first point out the positive things he's having then continue with the reasons you want to move on and make a request to respect your choice.
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