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How do I tell my boyfriend that I don't want to be with him? (anymore)

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Ar33
October 18th, 2020 7:40pm
Communication is always the key to any relationship, even if you decide on breaking things off. It's an important thing to do, even if it may seem difficult. Understandably confrontation is hard so here's a fewthings you can do: - Start off by setting a time and a place that won't attract attention; somewhere quiet and away from prying eyes. - Start off by letting him know how much you appreciate him and all the ways he's impacted you positively. - Then proceed to give him a solid and clear reason as to why you want to end off the relationship in a calm manner. - Add anything else you want him to know: if you want to remain friends afterwards or cut off all contact.
JennMarie2
October 31st, 2020 3:59am
I am sorry to hear that you are going through this! One thing I would suggest is to be as upfront and as honest as possible. In the long run, they will likely appreciate your honesty. A lot of times, people try to find ways to "let their significant other down easy" in this situation but it will be hard no matter how you choose to do it. I would be honest about how you are feeling and let them know that your heart just is not in the relationship anymore. It might be hard at first, but once you have the conversation, you will feel a lot better and you will hopefully be able to move on. I hope this helps!
Anonymous
December 28th, 2020 5:05am
This is a tough one. Breakups are hard, but it is important that if you feel something does not seem right in a relationship, to address it immediately. It is important to let your boyfriend know that you care for him, however, the relationship you are in is affecting you personally, and you cannot be with him anymore because of this. By saying this, you are not letting him know that he was a terrible person to you, but rather, someone that you just cannot be with at the moment. Although this may hurt him, keep reassuring him that it was not his fault and that you personally, just need time to yourself.