Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

Let's rearrange that to boyfriend. So a little background I met my bf 7ish years ago. We had a short break, about a year to be exact, due to cheating. I mean it was mostly online companionship, trading of pics and videos, and one meet up where he semi-acted on his desires. I was so paranoid for years. I always thought he was cheating, I would go through his phone. I would cringe every time I heard a ringtone that wasn't familiar. He changed his tones up a lot to keep me off his trail. The thing is I was so worried yet I wasn't truly sharing that with him. Now to be fair it turned out that I have Bipolar and that had a part to play in my paranoia, due to not being treated. I started treatment and began to feel better but by that point he was to far long gone. Now that we are back together we took a new approach, direct communication. Having direct, honest, and open communication is the foundation of a relationship. Anytime I have a suspicion I ask, it calms me down and my parnoia subsides, yes I still suffer from paranoia to an extent. It doesn't follow me anymore, that could be the treatment or it could be the open communication. I'd like to think it is a combination of both. Become self aware of who you are and the role you play in this. That will help a lot, plus partners tend to appreciate self-reflection. Once done start an open dialogue. Explain why you feel this way. It may be because yall don't talk enough, maybe because yall don't spend enough time together, or possible your intimacy department has changed. It's ok. This is normal. Many people struggle with this. Take it a step at a time and don't overthink it if you want to salvage the relationship. I know I know that is easier said than done. You can do it!!! Good luck to anyone dealing with a fear of cheating situaitinon.

Sounds like anxiety. Sometimes our thoughts get the best of us, but isn't always right. Anxiety like to play tricks on us I would have a nice talk with your girlfriend.

Is it possible you have been cheated on in the past? Perhaps this person is doing things which remind you of things your cheating ex did. This could either mean that you have learned the signs of a cheater, or that you are simply assuming things based upon seeing things that look similar in this girl. Is it possible she has done something very subtle that hints that she is cheating, even though it isn't direct or obvious? I'd say the best thing is to politely and gently ask her about it. Don't assume the worst. You might be able to tell by the way she answers.

That's probably because of the things you see your girlfriend doing, or the feelings she expresses. But don't let those things get in the way of your relationship. You have to trust each other, even if it feels like they are cheating.

This could be displaying your trust issues, she very well could be cheating, and if that is the case I would not stay with them. But if she states she is not cheating and seems to not be lying, don't go and send a team of people to see if she really is, simply believe in her statement

It's normal to get those feelings, maybe you could try to talk to your girlfriend about it.

Has he done this to you in the past? If so and you took her back, then you have to learn to trust or walk away. Without trust you don't have a good foundation to build on.

Dont let such thoughts eat you up from inside. Be open with your girlfriend. Share your thoughts with her.

Sometimes if we are insecure about ourselves we tend to worry about what others do, maybe you should sit down and talk to her about it and how you feel

This is perfectly normal it can happen to anyone. This mostly happens because you might be having some trouble with your self esteem... You might think you're not good enough and so your girlfriend will find someone better and cheat on you. But the principles of every relationship are trust and honesty. So tell her how you feel and try to trust her more. Relax a little bit. And if something really happens then you know she wasn't the right girl for you. You deserve someone who loves you endlessly and who channels such confidence to you that you never think she's cheating. 💓

This is usually because having codependency in the relationship. If she is away from you, you are unable to feel anything except neglected. Try to define yourself, do things you like and make yourself happy.

Maybe you don't trust her or you don't trust each other, and this is really bad in a relationship. You have to figure this out and talk to her.

A lack of trust for others in your past maybe? Possibly even your present. Maybe she has given you a reason to not trust her? If that's not the case, maybe insecurities of your own are what's playing a part in this. There are definitely some kind of trust issues present in the relationship if you believe that she is cheating all the time.

You may feel like this due to the past? Trust issues or bad experiences- however if you love your girlfriend and she loves you you should be happy together

Sometimes our ability to trust others comes from feeling stable and confident. We believe that we are deserving of love, and it's easy to believe that someone would want to be with us. On the other hand, if we feel insecure or undeserving, we can project that onto others instead of trusting them. It can be hard to believe that we are worthy of a committed and loving partner, even if they haven't given us any reason to doubt them. There could be many reasons that someone feels insecure, including past experiences! Remember that it's okay to feel insecure, but those feelings don't necessarily stem from the actions of your partner.

In my personal experience, cheating suspicion roots from personal problems or the partner has given you a reason to distrust. If your partner is giving you reasons not to trust them, make them think you are cheating, or are cheating physically or emotionally, then those feelings are completely rooted from your partner. Regardless of the situation your feelings are validated, but could you potentially be displacing your feelings? Is there something else going on in your life that would cause you to lash out at your girlfriend? Are there an external factors outside of your relationship that would cause you to feel this way? Maybe asking yourself these questions can help you solve your issue. It can be frustrating when you feel that your partner is cheating on you, and confrontation can cause more stress or even guilt.

Sometimes we tend to think that our significant other is cheating on us, that simply due to the insecurity in the relationship. That could possibly be due to the lack of communication, intimacy, trust, honesty the mere simple connection. For example, in the lack of communication that would lead to the significant other to believe that we are hiding something from them which leads to insecurity. However, sometimes we tend to drag in our past experience in the relationship into our current relationship which leads to insecurity. If that happens, we should notify our current significant other. Also, perhaps doing something with our significant other, because the past relationship brings a battle of insecurity to the current relation. Side Note: In any Healthy relationship, important keys to follow is being honest, truthful, and communication (Not hide anything).

There are multiple reasons why you could think your girlfriend is cheating on you. It might be how she acts around a specific person or that you have something that leads you to believe this. It could also be because she had done things in the past that affect how you view her and you have picked up a habit of questioning her every movement or action. So, in this case, it would be good to do fun activity's with her that allows you to connect/trust her more so your mind does not automatically go to oh she's cheating on me.

This could be from actions she does/have done that make you worry she has or will do it. It also could be because of past experiences you have with someone doing it or acting like they have. One of the best things to do in this situation, would be to simply talk to here about it. Tell her how you feel and ask her if she is or isn’t. Tell her you want her honestly answer. That she doesn’t have to say something that she thinks will help you feel better also. If she gives you a lie, it could hurt more than the truth.

This may be due to your own insecurities or paranoia - I recommend you talking to her about these trust issues and find the root of the problem - it could very well be a problem from your end, a problem with her or something both parties must work on

Because of severe reasons : - maybe ur past experiences with you ex girlfriends. Having a bad experience stops you from trusting new people, its totally normal, but not all peoples are alike, there is some good people as much as bad people is that earth.. - Insecurity Insecurity and being afraid of loosing that person is the same thing.. It happens because you dont have confidence in yourself that time, you think that there is someone around better than you who deserves your girlfriend more than you, you think that you arent good enough or smart enough or handsome enough. Bref, its all in your mind, youhave to trust confidence in yourself first, so you can trust others people too!

There can be several reasons. One is that you are insecure and afraid of losing her, thinking you're not worthy of her and that she has realised that. It could also be that she - or another partner you've had - really has cheated on you once and you find yourself unable to trust her because of that.

It’s completely natural to feel like you’re in danger of losing things you love, significant others included. I personally think, “This is too good to be true” or “She couldn’t REALLY love me”, but it’s important to think about the times your significant other has said or shown that they love you. If you’re really worried, perhaps it would be a good idea to confront them about it (without being aggressive). Having meaningful conversations that are understood to be serious by all participants can really help your significant other know what you’re going through and what your thought process may be. Sharing the complete and honest truth can be the most beneficial thing to your relationship. I hope this helped!

It can be hard to trust your spouse, partner, significant other. At times, they may seem to be acting differently around you than what you are used to. As human beings, we cannot help but to be skeptical of people at times. While it is normal, if it becomes an everyday thing where you are constantly not believing them, you may want to talk to them about how you are feeling. Perhaps they are being shady around their phone and are constantly hiding it. Maybe they even smell like someone else. However, the best way to fix this issue is by confronting them about it and working out your issues. Not trusting them could also be the result of someone hurting you in the past. Trust issues are hard to handle, but, if dealt with properly, not impossible to overcome.

You always think your girlfriend is cheating on you because of lack of trust and faith in each other

If you always feel she is cheating on you then you may not trust her, or you may be a very jealous kind of person. That isn't bad but if you are very jealous than you may feel for whatever reason she is cheating on you with someone else. If you don't trust her, try and figure out why that is and discuss it with her.

Maybe there some deep part of you that is insecure or not confident, perhaps you might not feel at ease or attained self control. Maybe from your past is the cause? Grieve, forgive and then let it go and learn from it. what is on the inside reflects on the outside. If you'll be able to resolve this within you, you will become a better version of yourself. It gets easier, but doing it everyday is the hard part, but it gets easier everyday, everytime you practice doing it wanting to change. It will be alright, if you fail, then get up and try again.

It sounds like you have a feeling of some doubt, but I reassure you assumptions aren’t always good, sometimes they have a negative affect. You should just have a chat with her and let her know what your feeling. I believe that self doubt can be a very challenging thing, but not impossible. Doubt can really affect your perspective on certain things. They can also put uncertain answers in your mind. I’ve personally can connect with this feeling. I use to think I was different and didn’t have self confidence. I was very timid and assumed I was weird, but only to find out I had lied to myself by making assumptions. So I encourage you to speak with your girlfriend, I really do hope everything works out.

People often think that their significant other is cheating because their is an inherent lack of trust in the relationship. If you really want to make things work, talk to them about this distrust. It's worth the risk to get an answer once and for all.

Because of the lack of trust you probably have with her. Assuming this may lead to a risky path in your relationship.