Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
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Either you have experienced it before and are carrying it over to a different relationship, or maybe you might be right. Find out before you make accusations
We all have a part of ourselves that doubts people, this can be from trauma or past experiences.. Most of the time, we are just overthinking :) There is that few times though, that your gut is right... Personally I like to break down the situation, sometimes you see where your thinking is flawed or right! :)
Many reasons could explain this. Possible reasons include a lack of self-confidence, a lack of trust with or without a valid reason, or it could just be how you express your fear of losing your girlfriend. But only you have the answer.
Past experience often comes to our mind when we get caught in a similar situation. Talk to your partner about the situation.
We all have our own insecurities. Trust is one of the hardest things to earn in a relationship. The longer you are with a person, and you get know the type of person they are, does trust come. If you have been in a relationship for a while and you still dont trust her, then it may be on good evidence.
Maybe trust has been an issue for you in the past. Or, you are feeling insecure and lacking self confidence. Maybe you are letting you mind tell stories and you need techniques to avoid that trap. maybe you have had bad experiences in the past. You need focus on positive thoughts, clear communication with your girlfriend and practice mindfulness when the thoughts get carried away.
Sometimes we think our girlfriend/boyfriend is cheating because we don't feel secure in the relationship.it can be caused by the lack of commnication and trust.Talking can really help cure any uncertainty you have.
Maybe because you aren't happy with the relationship. Maybe you are cheating , or maybe you have a instinct and feel something that's truly happening. You need to talk it over with your girlfriend just be honest.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 5:32pm
If there isn't really a past incident which you can link it to, it might be a reflection of your self-esteem, that you're worried you're not good enough? It might help to talk to her about it - if you told her that you were worried about whether she'd be loyal to you because you can get quite self-doubtful, obviously not straight off that you suspect that she's cheating on you! Hope that helps.
Mostly this is a sign of great attachement and that you really care! It is however also a sign that you have some unresolved trust issues with her. I'd advice you to talk to her about how you feel and carefully bring over your concerns.
There could be many reasons if you have been in a relationship before where a they have chest you may just be worried it might happen again. However they may be acting differently or showing signs of them cheating or not showing enough interest in the relationship.
There are several reasons for this. One could be that you've possibly cheated on her in the past and in turn, you're worried she'll do the same. The other could be that you've been cheated on in the past and have trust issues.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2018 4:01pm
Past experiences can lead to paranoia in future relationships. It's about learning to trust and remembering that not everybody is the same.
hm...why do you think this? have you experienced a significant amount of betrayal in your own past? it does not have to have happened within a romantic context. it has been said that history is a good teacher, and as humans we often use the past a reference for predicting the future. you may have come to expect that people will abuse the trust you have placed in them. examine your own motives for thinking that this may be the case. talk to people you trust about the situation. it could just be anxiety on your part. the alternative of course, is that something in her behavior stuck out to you, and that maybe she is. if thats the case, it likely is more related to her own issues than anything else
Well, if she seems secretive. Like she protects her phone, you notice certain things that you find odd. You ask what’s she’s doing and doesn’t want to tell you. But wants to know all you do. She just might be hiding embarrassing girl stuff. Maybe pornography to be honest. Thinks she might feel embarrassed about. Don’t sweat it, ask and communicate.
This could be due to previous negative experiences causing paranoia and insecurities. It is very common in first relationships and those where people have been betrayed. try talking to her about it and explain the situation to try and overcome this barrier.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 2:50am
Has she done anything to make you feel this way? If not then I would say that you just have trust issues. It is perfectly fine to have these thoughts, as long as you are not accusing her of doing something that she has never given you a reason to think. Talk to her about the fact you find it difficult to trust and she may surprise you with a way to help over come it. This problem if between you and your girlfriend.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2018 9:29pm
This typically happens when people see themselves as inferior to their significant other; they think themselves not to be good enough to be loved, and following that idea, may consider that the other person may be certainly cheating on them.
But, realistically, consider whether you have any evidence of any potential cheating - too often, it is all on our heads, and that alone!
Anonymous
June 24th, 2018 9:56pm
That is a great question to explore. Trust is the foundation of any relationship. I wonder if it would help to identify some times you start to think she is cheating? Is it something that causes you to think that? It could be fear, a fear of losing her or an expectation to lose someone you love. It is best to explore those feelings, jot down in a journal when you feel that way and see if there is a realistic correlation to your feelings or not. You might see a pattern that emerges in your journal.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2018 9:59am
because you dont trust her, that's the only reason. you think like that. increase your bonding and make her more comfortable.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2018 10:25am
Question your beliefs, question your thoughts. Probably because it's either true, or your not confident in yourself.
Maybe this is some insecurity on your behalf. Do you maybe not trust her because you do not trust yourself? Have you been cheated on before?
Talking from personal experience, it sounds like you are insecure about yourself. Do you have a good relationship with yourself? Do you like who you are? If not, working on yourself might be necessary. If you're not insecure, it could be that you have had bad experiences with previous partners. Have you been cheated on? Lied to? Abused? Maybe you're in the mindset that your girlfriend is going to betray you because everyone else has. Has your girlfriend actually given you a reason to believe that she's cheating? If not, then it's important you work on your level of trust with her, otherwise you will drive yourself crazy thinking she's cheating.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2018 10:34am
You are confused. You think you aren't enough for her. I had that fear too, my boyfriend is too handsome. I thought I am really ugly and he can easily get anyone. But now I am proud of me. I think I am so pretty. I know he loves me truly. And he loves only me.
This has to do with trust, maybe you’ve had bad experiences in the past or maybe you are protective
Anonymous
July 20th, 2018 8:21am
Communication is the key to success. If you never express it in words, how are they supposed to know?
If your girlfriend shows signs of cheating, maybe you should confront her in a calm way and talk to her about it and maybe request that she is honest and open about her actaions so no one is emotionally hurt.
I had the same issue and always assumed my girlfriend was cheating! In a relationship - trust is a very important part of keeping a healthy and stable relationship! If you feel like your girlfriend might be cheating on you, consider speaking to her about how you feel!
What we think arises from our feelings and experiences - if we have been hurt or cheated on in the past then we feel like there's a chance of it happening again. Or alternatively if we have low self-esteem or feel our partner is better than us then we convince ourselves that they'd seek someone "better". But in both these cases it is important to recognise that these are all our OWN thoughts - not the thoughts of our partner, and the past does not predict the future. Your thoughts and feelings are valid, but that does not mean they are true.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 8:21pm
You might be paranoid or have no trust you should really seek help with this, let her help you trust again
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