Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
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Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 4:11pm
This could be paranoia, or an intense feeling of jealousy that is clouding your mind. Try talking it out with her, and explain your delimma.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2016 3:54pm
You may believe that your girlfriend is cheating on you because of a strain in your relationship. The best way to deal with this is to evaluate your relationship and see where it is going. Talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and see if your suspicions are true.
Lack of trust is sometimes an issue in relationships and you could say it is common. Unless your girlfriend has done something to misplace your trust, it could be down to paranoia. You can read about paranoia through google and the websites that come up when searched.
Do you have any reason to think she might do this? If she has in the past, then you might be right in thinking so. If there's no reason to mistrust her, maybe you are struggling with trust in a broader sense. Has somebody else betrayed your trust in the past? Maybe another partner, friend, sibling or parent? Maybe connect with someone on here in 7cups and talk it out. All the best.
From my experience it usually stems down to the fact that you may feel she is too good for you or you are not enough. That was what it was for me at least. Lack of self confidence is usually the cause of these feelings and a lack of trust as well; it might be worth doing a little bit of reflection on why you feel this way and what you can do to stop it. I did this and it seemed to help so it might be worth a shot :)
this could be low self esteem in yourself, feeling like she is better than you! should not be the case when your together .... or a guilty conscience ...
Because you feel insecure. Why whould she cheat on you?. What does another person have that you don't, so she prefers him/she?.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2016 2:58am
Trust in a relationship is very important and so is communication. There might just be a misunderstanding
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 12:37am
you might have trust issues. You could do some trust-exercises with her, like falling and letting her catch you.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 1:31am
You more than likely have had experiences that resulted in trust issues. Either that or you are a skeptic by nature (like myself).
because these days cheating issues are so popular that we are unable to trust our loving partner or girlfriend. we usually hear some these kinds of issues and our thoughts begin to convert in a different way , you know what i mean. may be this is not the case but if you think you are unecessarily doubting her then this might be the exact case with you my friend.
Multiple of reasons. Perhaps she is giving you reasons to believe that she is? Does she have many guy friends? Or even perhaps because you're feeling insecure? Either ways, you should always talk it out with her, and let her know how you feel.
If you think your girlfriend is cheating constantly, it may be an inner insecurity that has grown from something else, such as your parents or past relationships where someone may have been unfaithful.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2016 8:19pm
You are not secure about your relationship. It could be many reasons: you don't think she loves you, you don't trust her friends, you don't trust yourself to be able to keep the relationship. You should talk to her about how you feel so you both can find the best solution
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 2:54am
You are the only one who knows the answer to this. Why do you think this? Do you ahve trust issues in your relationship? Have you asked your girlfriend about your anxieties? What do you feel when you are thinking that she is cheating on you? What are minor feelings you have when you think about that? Why do you think you feel these things? In a private moment, remain calm, open-minded and honest and say to her, "I really need to talk to you. I want to be a good boyfriend, but I have a thought that you're cheating on me when you ___" or "...that you're cheating on me because I need ___" Try to remain calm regardless of the other person's reaction, but also be open-minded to misunderstandings that may be at play. Ultimately relationships are about trust, communication and love. You always need to do what is best for your own personal well-being and that may mean finding someone with whom you do not feel this anxious.
Insecurity can be a big part of it. So can doubt and trust issues, Previous experiences of being cheated on, Overthinking, jumping to conclusions, But really it all stems from some part of you believing that she could possibly cheat on you in the first place. Either you don't think you can keep her, or you think she's too good to want you, Or you don't trust her to stay, or believe too good to be true. Those can all be reasons on their own, or mix and match and combine. I personally believed all at once over one girl. But I'm not the best reference, because most of the times I got that feeling I was right about her cheating and that's not a normal thing that happens. So, Yeah.
Anonymous
October 13th, 2016 2:31pm
You may think that she is, but that might not be the case. It may be just be your anxiety and paranoia.
Do you feel that you trust your girlfriend? Maybe the problem lies within the relationship, you should start focusing on building a solid foundation and bond of trust.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 12:16pm
maybe you don't have trust within the relationship so i suggest you and your partner to spend quality time and discuss feelings and what has made the trust decrease.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 11:40am
Insecurity is one initial thought. However sometimes if you have that feeling or hunch you could be right. Do habits change? Has she changed? Look for obvious changes.
Anonymous
October 15th, 2016 1:09pm
If you have ever experienced trust issues with a friend/relative/ex-partner, it maybe hard to retrieve the same amount of trust from somebody else.
Anonymous
October 23rd, 2016 6:46am
It could be a sign of communication issues. Open talk is key in a good relationship. You could also think if you have personal insecurities or self-esteem problems that could explain your doubt, and work on those.
Because one is afraid of losing that person. They are afraid they are not good enough. This fear creates a lack of trust in the relationship which will slowly drain the life from the relationship. One should develop trust in oneself and the relationship. It is the only way out of fear.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2016 3:21pm
As A female, I see it that my guy feels this way when Im not showing the attention I should. Scheduling time for each other helped make sure he felt more secure.
If she is not cheating, then you are likely insecure. What makes you think she is cheating? Is it because you are comparing her to someone else or another relationship?
Anonymous
November 18th, 2016 6:28pm
It might be helpful to consider when the thoughts of your girlfriend cheating started and what incidents make you feel that this could be true. Additionally, There may be some questions that you have not asked your girlfriend but might need to know the answer to in order to think differently. If you decide to discuss your thoughts with your girlfriend please be kind as it is also possible that your thoughts could just be thoughts.
From my experience, jealousy and these kind of emotions come from a personal insecurity. Maybe you've been cheated on before or maybe you struggle to trust people easily. Talk to your girlfriend about it, explain how you're feeling openly. You may even want to look into couple counseling if you both feel it will help!
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2016 10:14am
Sometimes, when uncertainty strikes, it can make us doubt our partners and have these thoughts. Maybe a similar thing's happened before so you're more careful this time. And it's good to be cautious. However, having these thoughts can affect relationships in certain ways so it's better to talk it out with the significant other, so you both build a better understanding and it would be easier for both of you to deal with these uncertainties.
You might have some insecurities about yourself. Usually when we're suspicious or jealous it's about ourselves and not the other person.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2016 6:19pm
Insecurity might possibly be a problem if you think you have no reason or proof over the matter.
Because sometimes we feel like we're not good enough for someone or something, that we're less.
But, it could always be something completely more practical. How does she act?
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