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Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?

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Last Updated: 11/27/2023 at 4:15pm
Why do I always think my girlfriend is cheating?
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Josed
July 19th, 2020 11:01pm
It's always a tough situation when you're worried about infidelity in a relationship. I have been in multiple relationships where I felt the same way. In my opinion, I would just reach out to her and ask/tell (!!!) her how you're feeling. Sometimes it's due to a lack of effort or reciprocation that you may be feeling, or it might be that the feelings in the relationship aren't being shown from her part. In situations like this, as I said before, communication is key. Make sure that you feel comfortable not only talking to her about this but make sure that you feel comfortable after the conversation as well. I also highly recommend that you read our help page on relationships and it will give you some tips on how to maintain a healthy relationship.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2020 10:25am
Typically when we feel like being in a relationship with someone is "too good to be true," we think that there's something else happening behind the scenes. Having open communication could help avoid this feeling. Falling in love with someone can be scary. The only that gets us through to the other person is by trusting them. I may not know your situation, but asking yourself if there are any moments where you feel like she is hiding information or lying to you. Hold on my friend, anxiety can take the best of us sometimes. When in doubt, talk things out.
JesiBonill
August 16th, 2020 9:12pm
Sometimes we think that our partner is cheating on us, but the reality is that is just us making overthinking of stuff that doesn't happen at all just because we feel vulnerable. Because you feel insecure and do not have a very trustful relationship. Trust and communication are very important in a relationship and can affect how the relationship goes all the way because we don't trust or we don't communicate at all. We need to share and communicate a lot better to make the confidence and trust between partners in a relationship. Communication, trust confidence, and balance are key in a relationship!
Smilingbirdie
September 7th, 2020 3:38am
Well I believe one of the reason may be the past behavior or incidents that drive our imagination towards that path ...if you are cheated once . It's really difficult that you are able to trust again ...You can try simple excercises with making a real survey of what you feel and what reality is ...slowly you will be able to feel better for yourself ... Because at the end it's all about taking control of our own thoughts, If we keep thinking the are going to get caught in the never ending thought cycle ....it will just disturb us nothing else ....So it's really important to clear your head.
Anonymous
September 11th, 2020 2:49pm
I think it is because of your trust issues with her! As long as a trust is present in a relationship, the bonding is considered to be a strong one! If you are thinking she might be cheating on you, any past incidents would make you doubt on her! But if she is a trustworthy person, needless to say, she is a gem! You may not doubt her! If you still thinking she is cheating on you, I guess you are not with a proper mindset about her personality or the so-called misunderstanding! The key for a good relationship is communication! So, communicate more often to get to know more about her. Stay positive!
Anonymous
October 1st, 2020 1:17am
Trust is important in a relationship. It is the foundation of a relationship along with communication. Talking to your partner is a crucial part of the relationship and something without it we may feel like things are happening which may not be true, just mere misunderstandings. Talk to your girlfriend, communicate and see if that eases your mind. If you seriously doubt something, then it is best to communicate your feelings so people know that that's how you are feeling. Make sure you take some time to think about your insecurities and address issues by talking to people so they know how you feel.
Anonymous
October 17th, 2020 6:18am
Maybe the reason you feel your girlfriend is cheating is because of some insecurities you have, known or unknown. These insecurities could stem from past experiences or from some type of fear of unfaithfulness of someone you know or were close to. To feel your Girlfriend is cheating on you, is not of surety and certainty that, she indeed is cheating. Perhaps, she is showing you certain signs of this act, but just as in law, until you have concrete hard facts of an evidence to pin the “accused” you have no case. And i will explain why (just hold your breath for awhile). To linger on mere assumption is a risk to take in any relationship. It shrinks to make one, a victim of a situation than to patiently orchestrate a plan to know the behind the scenes of one that you suspect of being in the act of cheating. The feeling of your girlfriend cheating is only partial. And the fact that you have no fact to uncover the factual truth, means that, what you feel is not real,
Ellakmason
November 4th, 2020 12:58am
Whatever you're feeling is natural in a relationship. However, no one should treat you poorly, nor should your partner ever cheat on you. It sounds like you're in a very tough situation. Anyone would feel conflicted and confused if they were in your position. What is it that your girlfriend does that makes you feel this way? Did she say or do something? Maybe ask your self if you consistently feel like this with partners, or if you're only feeling this with your current girlfriend. I'm sorry you feel this way and that you're having to deal with this stress.
rayofsunshine888
November 20th, 2020 8:39am
your trust issues might come from past experiences you've had with people. if you have been cheated on before, it's inevitable to have a suspicion about everything. but if you haven't been cheated at before, your feeling might come from the way your girlfriend acts or talks or if she has portrayed a change in behavior. Trust is the most important factor in a relationship. you should trust your partner to be in a healthy relationship with them. but if you're suspecting it to an unsettling extent, you can talk to her about it. just tell her your feelings without accusing her of anything and see what she tells you..
Anonymous
January 27th, 2021 3:41pm
trust issues are more common than you think in relationships and often lead us to question our partners infidelity. Although this can be a problem that is cause by self esteem issues, that is not always the case. It all depends on how you read into situations as well as when you read into them. There is a such thing as observing things at a certain point in time where an incident that was nothing can look like something and vice versa. So, because you feel this way does not make you king/queen of speculation, but can simply mean that you misread situations.
Minikin
June 10th, 2021 5:53am
Depends on the situation: does she give you reasons to feel this way? If yes, then it's normal to doubt her, and you absolutely should. If not, then you might be dealing with trust issues. This usually stems from the inside - your own subconscious feelings about yourself may project themselves onto your girlfriend. As such, they plant doubt in your mind where there probably shouldn't be any. It's not that you necessarily don't trust her, but more so this relates to (most likely) your own self-esteem, or your own sense of guilt for something that happened (it doesn't have to be cheating). Regardless, for one reason or another, if you're actively searching for things to ping on her, the relationship might suffer, and you might come to regret this later on. Ask yourself if you have any evidence (even if it's "just a hunch") that she's cheating, and if you don't have any but the feeling persists, it's okay to let her know how you feel - so that she can help you deal with this.
Anonymous
September 10th, 2021 10:20pm
It’s completely normal to feel that way remeber to just trust your gut and be truthful to yourself be 100% sure. Make sure you come first. If your girlfriend had been acting suspicious it could be because of anything, you know what’s best for you so do what YOU think is best. Remember you come first, if you’re not happy with how your girlfriend makes you feel confront her or find resources we are just listeners that don’t know your full life story so know what’s best for you. Make sure you find a great solution and trust your gut.
Anonymous
September 29th, 2021 8:18am
sometimes we cannot shake these feelings and it can be insecurity we have. This could come from a previous relationship or just the type of person we are. I would suggest you speak openly with your partner about this and you might find you feel a whole lot better about it. This can be hard to suffer with alone and you do not need to suffer alone. If your partner is understanding and cares for you then it should not matter if you have these feelings. They should be listened to and understood. Please try reaching out to her, and if you struggle to talk then write everything down.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2021 1:01am
Sometimes this can be a manifestation of insecurities that one has in oneself. If we believe that we aren't worthy of love or of commitment from our partner, I feel like it would be easy to assume they would be cheating because we honestly believe that they can't love us enough not to stray. I also think that this could be projection. If we have impure thoughts about others that may be considered cheating (depending on the relationship) or if we are actually cheating on our partner, then I think it would be easier to believe they are also cheating. If we would do it, why wouldn't they?
Anonymous
March 9th, 2022 5:00pm
Lack of trust usually makes one think like that. The trust factor is either missing here or it's been broken by the opposite party. In either case, you both should work it by talking, understanding and communicating your thoughts and feelings genuinely to your girlfriend. Listen to her thoughts and feelings very sincerely, don't fidget, look into her eyes Then make a list of restaurants or places you both can visit and explore. By this you can slowly build that trust in your relationship. It's all in the matter of going that extra mile for your partner 🙂
Anonymous
April 16th, 2022 6:13pm
Are you cheating? Do you have thoughts of cheating? Sometimes we worry others are cheating because we find ourselves insecure about whether we would do the same. Alternatively, have you experienced a relationship in the past where someone cheated on you? Maybe that could be fueling those thoughts. If so, consider having an honest, direct conversation with the girlfriend about that real insecurity; see if as a growing experience to try to get some support and become closer together. Wherever that feeling is coming from, consider setting concrete boundaries about what expectations you have in the relationship; make sure the other person knows where you stand (and vice versa as well).
ColorMeHopeful
May 25th, 2022 2:09pm
Hi. I know how difficult it can be to feel like someone you care about is being unfaithful. This could possibly be linked to your past relationships and the fear of what possibly occurred happening again. It could also be that you use different communication styles. It’s best to talk with your partner about what you are feeling. Take some time to get a better understanding of each other and discuss ways that could bring you reassurance in your relationship. For instance, messaging each other to check in throughout the day. Relationships are hard work, but with love, communication and understanding, you will be able to build the trust you need to grow in your relationship. Wishing you the best!