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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 23 - 29)

by KatePersephone

2 days ago

...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today? * What’s your dream vacation destination and why? * Skiing down a mountain or ice skating on a frozen lake? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM 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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️

by ASilentObserver

Sunday

...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @neatOak8548 @mobob214 @JBBeenThereDoneThat @beanpaste04 @amicableDog5012 @lanastoh24 @Dilpreets23 @tryingtosurvive2024 @sensitivePal85266 @generousCircle2628 @lotspots @bloom006 @fearless1000 @purplebutterfly58 @thoughtfulNectarine910 @lavenderLemon7824 @intuitivePenguin4529 @nn13 @cupidzheart @reliableCamp9106 @Johnnyboy4eva @generouspuppy072 @sociableComputer6143 @Atticus9152 @passionateDay5033 @calmComputer5520 @boiEddie @UkwenP01 @toughTurtle617 @impartialEyes7172 @loverbase ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24

Relationship Stress Automated Taglist

by Tazzie

December 9th

...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 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by charmingBranch7954

How can I be the man she needs me to be

by Kyle8118

2 days ago

Past Childhood Trauma Affecting My Relationship Now

by proactivePear8021

2 days ago

...See more Ever since I was young my parents were absent and so they had to temporarily have me live in some of my relatives house, which is not for long since we had to switch around at most every year so I never really felt loved or safe. My parents always tell me I have to put everyone over myself, and since I’m living with my relatives I have to do things to make them happy and satisfied so they don’t make me go back home, but later it caused me to become a really severe people pleaser. Once I started middle school that’s when I started living with my parents but they had work all day so we barely see each other. However, whenever we do, they would come home stressed from work and would release that stress on me saying how stressed from work they are and will pick on small things I did that I didn’t even do wrong either. This will also lead to bad physical and mental abuse. I’ve never recalled a time my parents complimented me or tell me how much they loved me, instead they would say a lot of bad things about me and criticize me every day. Their excuse was “if you can’t handle criticism from us, then there is no way you’ll get through criticism from society.” Yet now I’m an adult and I’ve never gotten as much criticism in society for the past few years compared two one week at home. This also caused me to become really insecure about myself and always blaming, criticizing, and doubting myself. They also never communicate with me or sat me down to talk about my day. Except the only time they talk to me was when I did something wrong or they’re stressed. At first I wanted to understand why they’re like that or I want to do something to make them satisfied or feel better but in the end I started not to care. Instead I began only caring about explaining myself and easily shutting down when arguments occur. My parents also taught me, ever since as a kid, to never trust anyone not even my best friend and future boyfriend/husband. They’ll tell me how they’ll all betray me and no one will take me seriously or want to actually be friends with me. That they only be friends with me to use me. So fast forward and now I’m in college and I have my first boyfriend. He’s really patient, loving, caring, and kind. There were times I get really insecure thinking he would leave me one day, but also having a fear of abandonment. A lot of past experiences and feelings make me feel really insecure and scared in this relationship when I shouldn’t have. We were perfect on days when we don’t argue but when we do, it always becomes really bad because of my lack of communication. I get really emotional and all I care about is to explain myself, yet what he wants is me to listen to him and make him feel heard. I feel really bad because I hurt him because of my past trauma that had nothing to deal with him. I also doubt his love for me a lot because I always tell myself I don’t deserve to be loved or no one would love me which he reassures me a lot but I still always deny. Now we broke up but he still wants to wait till I heal so we can start again. I know I hurt him a lot so I become hesitant but now I want to heal for him but I need advice on how to best heal from past traumas. Thank you. Sorry if this is too long

I’m too tired to go on..

by brightAvocado1767

2 days ago

Missing him no contact

by intuitivePenguin4529

Humor and Laughter in Relationships

by KatePersephone

2 days ago

...See more Humor and laughter are great ways to sustain long relationships because they enable the couples to get through daily problems and hassles. When people share a laugh, they share a memory or experience, and that bond between them grows stronger. Humor can be a tool in resolving conflicts, enhancing one's communication, and helping to maintain a positive relationship environment. Types of humor, such as affiliative and self-enhancing, may also relate to long-term relationship quality. Humor can ease the stress in daily dealings and make a couple much more resilient, keeping a joyful partnership. Some of the benefits of humor are: Better communication: Laughter serves as an icebreaker and relaxes people enough to comfortably discuss difficult matters. Increased bonding: Laughing together increases bonding between partners emotionally, hence making them feel closer to each other. Stress relief: Laughter releases endorphins that will help reduce stress and thus uplift the mood, a dire need for a healthy relationship. Resilience: Humor in relationships brings resilience, allowing couples to deal better with challenges and conflicts. Positive health effects: Laughter has physiological benefits, such as improving circulation and boosting immune function. Humor is often expressed in different ways. Some types of humor are: Affiliative humor: Involves amusing others to keep things positive and lively, sustaining and enriching relational bonds. Self-enhancing humor: Reflects the ability to poke fun at oneself in a good-natured way, helping to see humor in unfavorable events. Aggressive humor: Includes sarcasm and ridicule, which can be harmful if not appreciated by both partners. Therapeutic humor: Invites others to engage with difficult or painful situations in a way that uplifts and commiserates. Inside jokes: Shared jokes that carry personal meanings, reinforcing intimacy and solidarity between partners. A lot of people often find it rather difficult to incorporate humor in their lives. Here are some strategies for it! Find the funny side: Look for humorous angles in situations to lighten the mood and provide relief. Create humor rituals: Establish regular activities centered around humor, like game nights or comedy marathons. Use playfulness to problem-solve: Approach challenges with a playful mindset to foster creativity and reduce tension. Laugh at yourselves: Embrace imperfections and quirks to diffuse tension and avoid conflicts. Use humor to communicate: Convey thoughts and feelings in a lighthearted manner to make conversations more approachable. * What’s a humorous memory or inside joke you share with your partner that always brings you closer, and why do you think it’s so special? * How do you think humor can be used to resolve conflicts in relationships, and can you recall a time when laughter helped you or someone you know overcome a challenging moment? 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How I did everything wrong

by charmingBranch7954

2 days ago

...See more Hi everyone, I've been on 7cups for nearly a decade, since my teens. This is my first time posting here, and the first time opening about my life, so please bear with me if you can, this might take a while. I've always been the quiet elder child of the house. Expected to just take it like a man, bear all responsibilities and do as I'm told. Brought up in an abusive household, I could barely ever speak up, let alone stand for myself. I tried to escape that, while also providing for my family, by joining the army at 16. But things didn't go too well there. Due to my soft spoken nature, I was constantly bullied and taken advantage off. And one day, disaster struck when I fell on my back from like 15 feet on training. Everyone was fearing I might not walk again. I did somehow recover, enough to move, walk, and eventually run, but I do have back pain at times. The greatest help with my recovery was my then girlfriend, who I had met online at the age of 17, after coming back home. The internet was a simpler space back then, and not everyone was hiding who they were. We both met at a vulnerable point in our lives, and I had severe doubts if I could ever be loved. But she assured me I did, and we loved each other with utmost passion. Making plans to move in together, get married, have kids. However, that would only last for 7 years, when out of nowhere, she hit me with "I'm sorry, I fell out of love". Without her, I felt lost again. I had lost my anchor. I held on somehow, going back to my old ways and bad habits, chatting with people online since I'm too introverted and don't really socialize irl. I found someone else, went through the same again, and she did the same, though this time it was a 2 year long relationship. Quite the cycle, isn't it? But idk, this time it hit me harder. Things couldn't get any worse, right? You'd be wrong. About 2 years ago, I had joined a new workplace. And what do you know, a girl actually did like me, at least for a while. But just my luck, I was going through a bad phase, dealing with a breakup, death in the family, and my dad suffering two strokes, coupled with financial struggles. I pushed her away, thinking that I was protecting her, but I only hurt her. So deeply that she would go on to say yes to a guy her dad picked for her to marry. That guy would go on to break her heart, and she would lose all hope in love and marriage, calling the whole concept ***. So here I m, lost, broken, guilty, alone, living a goalless life, with no real will to live.

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