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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. (Update 10/15/2024: I cannot delete posts due to a bug. I hope this will get resolved soon.) If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
Trauma Support Community Check-In for November 2024 - Veterans & Military Families Month
by audienta
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Veterans & Military Families Month. (Source [https://www.militaryonesource.mil/media/toolkits/service-provider/national-veterans-military-families-month/#:~:text=Every%20November%2C%20Military%20OneSource%20honors,members%20of%20our%20military%20community.]) This month we want to appreciate the support that families of soldiers give them and the sacrifices that they make to be able to give this support. We also want to appreciate veterans for the work they have done. Being part of a military family as well as being a veteran can come with a lot of trauma so we want you to know that this community is here for you.  On a side note, we're currently working on a regular support chat for veterans, so if you're interested in that, please pm me. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for November 2024 1) What is something that helps you to feel grounded when the world around you gets overwhelming? 2) What are some challenges you're anticipating this month? 3) What's a strength you've discovered in yourself or your family through difficult times? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://www.militaryonesource.mil/parenting/family-life/military-family-appreciation/ [https://www.militaryonesource.mil/parenting/family-life/military-family-appreciation/] ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
What to do after a sexual assault
by audienta
Last post
 October 2nd
...See more What to do after a sexual assault If you're in danger, please call your local emergency line. TW: Sexual Assault What is sexual assault? Sexual assault is defined as sexual contact or behaviour that happens without explicit consent. Examples of sexual assault are: * Fondling or unwanted sexual touching * Non-consensual kissing * Forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex or penetrating the perpetrator’s body * Penetration of the victim’s body, also known as rape * Attempted rape What is explicit consent? The consent should be freely and clearly communicated. Also, it can be taken back at any point. You cannot give consent when you’re * incapacitated by drugs or alcohol * feeling pressured, threatened, or intimidated * under the legal age of consent What do I do right after experiencing sexual assault? * If you’re severely injured or in immediate danger, call your emergency line. * If you’re not in immediate danger but do not feel safe, consider calling someone you trust for support. * Know that what happened is not your fault. * If possible, call your local sexual assault hotline or a victim support center. * Go to a health care facility to receive medical attention and a sexual assault forensic exam, also known as “rape kit”. This has to be done within 72h and if possible, you should not go to the bathroom, shower, comb your hair, change your clothes, or clean up the area in which the assault has happened before you have done the exam. * Consider getting Post-Exposure-Prophylaxis, DoxyPEP, or the emergency contraceptive pill to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy depending on what you want and what your doctor recommends. * If you want to, report the assault. If you’re already getting medical attention, you can tell a medical professional that you want to report the assault. Otherwise, you can also call your local police department. What do I do afterwards? * Safety planning Brainstorm what you could do to stay safe and reduce the risk of future harm. Remember that it is not your fault that it happened though. * Therapy Working with a therapist might help with dealing with the challenges you might face after experiencing sexual assault. * Support group Dealing with the aftermath of a sexual assault is hard. But you’re not alone. In support groups you have the option to talk to other people with similar experiences. * Self-Care Making sure that our body and mind are well cared for can make such a difference. Focus on what helps you to feel grounded and safe. * Be careful with media consumption Portrayal of sexual violence in the media can be very triggering for sexual assault survivors. Remember that you don’t have to watch potentially triggering content. Pay attention to trigger or content warnings and read about the content before you watch it. How can 7 Cups help? 7 Cups can only support you while you’re not in crisis, which means, you can’t be actively self-harming, suicidal, in active danger, or planning on hurting someone while using 7 Cups. When you’re safe, this is what 7 Cups can offer: * 1-1 chats with trained listeners You can talk to our trained listeners 24/7. You can browse for listeners here [https://www.7cups.com/BrowseListeners/]. * Open and guided group support chats You can find the schedule of all trauma support discussions here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/ScheduleDiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunity_302437/]. * Self-help guides There are different self-help guides available, including one about traumatic experiences. You find all of them here [https://www.7cups.com/supportGuides/selfHelpGuides.php].  * Online therapy 7 Cups offers online therapy for USD §39.75 per week. This includes daily messaging - the therapist responds 1-2 times a day from monday to friday. If you want to have weekly video sessions, this costs additional §55 per week. You can find more information about that here [https://www.7cups.com/online-therapy]. Resources After Sexual Assault | RAINN [https://rainn.org/after-sexual-assault] Recovering from Sexual Violence | RAINN [https://rainn.org/recovering-sexual-violence] Tips for Survivors on Consuming Media | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/tips-survivors-consuming-media] Self-Care After Trauma | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/self-care-after-trauma] Telling Loved Ones About Sexual Assault | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/telling-loved-ones-about-sexual-assault] Reporting to Law Enforcement | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/reporting-law-enforcement] Steps You Can Take After Sexual Assault | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/steps-you-can-take-after-sexual-assault] The Importance of DNA in Sexual Assault Cases | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/importance-dna-sexual-assault-cases] What Is a Sexual Assault Forensic Exam? | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/rape-kit] Sexual Assault | RAINN What Consent Looks Like | RAINN [https://rainn.org/articles/what-is-consent] What Is Sexual Assault? | Columbia Health [https://www.health.columbia.edu/content/what-sexual-assault#:~:text=Sexual%20assault%20can%20encompass%20a,committing%20the%20harm%20against%20them] Post-Exposure-Prophylaxis | WebMD [https://www.webmd.com/hiv-aids/post-exposure-prophylaxis] DoxyPEP Factsheet | Public Health LA [http://www.publichealth.lacounty.gov/chs/Docs/DoxyPEP_Factsheet_EN.pdf] Emergency Contraceptive Pill | NHS UK [https://www.nhs.uk/contraception/methods-of-contraception/emergency-contraceptive-pill-morning-after-pill/what-is-it/#:~:text=The%20emergency%20contraceptive%20pill%2C%20sometimes,on%20the%20type%20of%20pill.]
Are you a listener who supports DID 1:1? Let us know.
by Heather225
Last post
 October 28th
...See more Hello, everyone! Just want to inform you that we have an official classifieds thread in General Support dedicated to connecting listeners and members on the topic of DID. Are you a listener passionate about supporting DID? Follow this link to share your experience and contact information and help members find tailored support here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/Classifieds_360/ListenerClassifiedsDissociativeIdentityDisorderDID_339333/] Thanks! ❤️
Did system....
by DCcat1989
Last post
 October 28th
...See more I feel like I'm the only "oldie" who is a system..... Please reply if you are also a system... Hi I'm Dandan and I have did. I have 5 alters who can range from 3-34....  My system includes a cat, a little, a protector and a teen, and myself (host).  My goal is to feel less alone 
How do we fix ourself?
by SaturniidSys
Last post
 October 28th
...See more (using 'we' and 'our' bc we are a plural system.) TW for mentions of abusive behavior, SA, and SH I feel like we can't hold on anymore. we are so violent and lost. We need to distract ourselves. We can't keep doing this. Lloyd is extremely stressed and traumatized from like 4 alters touching them, I(morro) miss my partner who is sleeping for a LONG time, Katelyn is overworked with protecting the system, and overall, just very stressed. because of one thing, we formed 4 alters. (2 resulting from a split). One of the alters is of our ex who called us abusive for swearing. we are afraid that this current relationship might also be seen as abusive. The body is getting urges to SH and we can't stop them. we are tired.
DID/OSDD
by reservedJar1498
Last post
 September 26th
...See more Hey! I recently started developing DID symptoms about 5 months ago and I got a diagnosis a couple months ago. I know about simply plural but I was looking for literature or websites that talk about DID and how to live a fulfilling life as a plural. Another thing, does anyone else have experiences with an alter that is completely uncooperative with communication. They refuse to log their fronting and often do really irresponsible things. I know she has no control over this but she hasn't cofronted in weeks and since I blackout when she comes out I haven't been able to communicate with her. Is there anything you think might be helpful?
I'm scared
by sympatheticTiger2424
Last post
 September 9th
...See more so i just want to rant. thats all i was scared for years to talk about myself in public, but i need to do that to heal im not here to help anyone, im broken and im fixing myself. i need to be selfish in my aproach. i cant help you, only you can help you. thats the way i look at it. only i can help myself too i started my journey a few days ago, relived my truma few times, it gets easier and easier every time but i hve so much doubts about myself, my own feelings. i dont have control over my own self i just want to heal and get better ive been isolated for 22 years, and its enough i will get through this im proud of my proggres so far when i first broke thought my trauma, i had the feeling this will be easy and it will be solved in a day but it wont. it will take a lot of time 22 years is a long time to run away from yourself. it will take a lot of fixing. introspection, facing my fears, helping myself, learning and improving its nice to get support, it feels good that others are there for you. i needed this my whole life. but it was also what was keeping me down i had a strong need for others, and triyng to get from them something i can only give myself and thats self love others cant give me self esteem, others can give me confidence. they can, but in small doses, it doesnt fix the core thats inside of me i will learn how to do that myself the need for others is a trap so i dont start loving and working myself i need help i need help so much that its overwheling but im here i will help myself
subthreshold symptoms // dissociation
by starryheadedNOS
Last post
 July 30th
...See more i'm wondering if it's possible to have something akin to DID but without fully-fledged alters?? most of the resources i can find sort of assume they have their own memories/consciousnesses, but what i (we??) have is more like one stream of consciousness that gets intruded on sometimes. usually, this looks like random thoughts, feelings or opinions that pop into my head out of nowhere. and there is amnesia, but it's more like a collective pool that degrades in quality over the course of days or weeks than between switches. i don't really know what it's like to have someone else take over my body apart from really stressful situations, it's more like i just randomly notice i feel like a different person. it's worth noting that the chance i've accidentally given myself symptoms is high - i'm at an Impressionable Age™ with a hyperfixation on mental health. afaik i've never been SA'd (i do have some self-inflicted child s-xual trauma but that's a whole other thing) and most of the stuff that's happened in my childhood that i know of is either very mild, a one-off incident, or only verbal/emotional (i.e. wouldn't cause a dissociative disorder according to the DSM.) i don't even meet PTSD criteria because i don't have flashbacks. so like. is this a thing or am i just pathologising normal human experiences? i can give more context if needed, but i may have to look at some of my old notes bc i can't think of anything off the top of my head.
DID
by SukoLovesHito
Last post
 July 7th
...See more Anyone else have DID? If so, How do you better deal with it?
What is the fun in fourth of July
by moonflowersystem
Last post
 July 5th
...See more Why do I feel like it's not okay to force you to watch your other siblings and cousins be able to play games in front of you and win stuff and shove it in your face but yell at you when you ask to play a game is that like neglect or emotional abuse or something because that isn't normal. We wanted a stitch hat.. Yea it's on Amazon but it's ten times funner to win the dang hat! We have two little crying over this one has a few tears do to him being older but we have a five year old sobbing her eyes out because she loves stitch... But it seems okay because what else did she give not just that! Our stepmom didn't bring sunscreen so our dang sunburn started to blister and skin started pealing! We are in pain and she doesn't care what do I do
Share your story
by beYOUtywithin
Last post
 July 3rd
...See more DID is very complex and often misunderstood by others. It is typically caused by longterm trauma which began in early childhood. I would love to have a place where those who suffer from DID can share their story and their experiences. I welcome each of you to share as much as you are comfortable sharing about your experiences with DID and how that has impacted you. Please feel free to share in this thread if you wish.
WOrst parts of having littles in an osdd system
by moonflowersystem
Last post
 June 3rd
...See more Worst part of having littles and age regressors is right now two are just having a mental crisis over a stuffed animal- one wanted to win it from r the other then couldn't so now it's a joined impure regression session which I so fun yayyy
the way we got our system name :P
by l0litaSyStem
Last post
 May 15th
...See more helloooooo, my name is gir! :p our main fronter is diona came up with the name because not the book the book is stupid and concerns us. SOOOOOO our system name is named after our grandmother, her name was lolita she sadly passed 3 years ago. but she was a seamstress and gardener. we loved her. fun story when we were young we had a speech impediment and couldnt pronouse Ls correct and when wed say "i love you" wed say "i waddy you" and when talking to our lolita we'd call her waddy. we thought about calling our systemed the waddy system but we felt as though no one would understand it and its hard to explain- but thats our story thanks for listening! 
Teach Me About DID?
by jesusredeemedme2425
Last post
 May 12th
...See more I've been doing a lot of research/interest-led learning (whichever you'd prefer to call it; it's mostly the latter) on DID. I learned about it semi-recently and I found it very intriguing. I found myself on a rabbit trail of random DID websites/videos tonight. I was wondering... Would you guys mind telling me more about it? I'm new to the world of DID, and I'd love to know more! I'm not looking for a dictionary description of DID (although that would be super helpful too!), but I'd be interested in knowing about what DID is like on a personal level. Some questions to kickstart the conversation: What is a typical day with DID like? Do you have a few alters, or many? How do you keep track of them all (or do you?)? Do you have non-human alters, and if so, what are they like? Is the person whose name you were given at birth an alter as well, or the host? How do people treat you? Does switching hurt or is it uncomfortable, or are you even aware of it? How does it work when an alter is deaf or blind, but the body itself isn't? Is it ever awkward around others when a Little fronts? Do you like or hate your DID? Is saying "you" appropriate, seeing as "you" are multiple? (I'm not sure if the pronoun usage is different when you are plural.) And anything else you can think of! I'd love to learn whatever you can teach me. :) Just an FYI, I have multiple issues myself, such as PTSD, Aspergers, OCD, ADD, depression, anxiety, and many more. I can probably relate to some things (although not all) that people with DID face, so please don't worry about censoring yourself! Also, I'm new to learning about DID and I'm ignorant. If I ever say anything that sounds offensive, please remember that it's ignorance. I'm genuinely interested in learning whatever I can in a respectful manner. Please have grace; I mean no harm. <3 Thank you in advance for sharing your experiences with me! <3

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
Community Leaders
Community Mentor Leader
@audienta
Chatroom Moderator
@InsightfulPhoenix
@Kieran000
@WillingToHelpU