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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 13 minutes ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Feedback about Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by WillingToHelpU
Last post
 January 3rd
...See more Hello everyone! I hope everyone is doing well. I'm writing about the discussions of the trauma sub-community; we're looking for input to continue hosting discussions that interest the folks in this community. I've made a form here [https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A] that asks people for their insight into what discussions they'd like to see more of so that we can keep growing the discussions. What are these discussions? These discussions are hosted throughout the week in the Trauma Support Room. For more information about when, please check out this post. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/] They are designed to have a variety of discussion topics and categories so that people can join any discussion they're interested in. Why are you looking for feedback? Growth and listening to the community are the biggest things we are looking for to make these discussions sustainable. While we offer the ability to have feedback during discussions, I've created this form for specific requests about things that people would like to see. How will this be incorporated? We are looking to expand some of the guides we use to host discussions, so these responses (collected anonymously) will help us create new guides for hosts about a wider variety of topics that people want to see. It may take some time to see a topic you've requested become a topic for discussion, but we want to incorporate as much feedback as quickly as possible, so keep an eye out for possible new discussion topics coming to discussions in 2025. More questions? Feel free to leave them below and I'll do my best to respond to them :) Thanks for any feedback you leave, it is all greatly appreciated!! Links: - to the form: https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A - to the announcement thread: https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
Last post
 December 25th
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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Dealing with a Friendship Turned Toxic
by sincereWillow4496
Last post
 January 9th
...See more For the last two years, I worked as a trekking leader at a riding centre in the heart of Brecon. It was truly my dream job. I loved being around the horses, I met a lot of interesting people who came to ride with me, I would end up having some fascinating conversations and enjoy a lovely day out with them. Ultimately, I made a lot of new friends and professional contacts because of the job. But there was one time where things did not go according to the norm. It has stuck with me for all the wrong reasons and I find myself routinely questioning if I did anything wrong or missed something.  On this occassion, two people turned up for an afternoon ride in the beacons. It was a perfect day for it and I was genuinely optimistic about leading the ride for these two friends who were visiting from London. They were both lovely people but one was decidedly more verbose than the other. I discovered that I got on really quite well with this girl in particular. We had a fair amount in common, read the same literature and was naturally a good conversationalist. We had a really nice time and a good laugh. At the end of the ride, she asked if we could keep in touch and I agreed. It was a regular occurrence for me that I encountered people in this manner and did not assume this to be any different.  Boy, was I wrong.  The following day, she contacted me to say that she and her friend were due to leave for London, and she asked if I could swing by on my way to work so she could have a photo taken with me. She had forgotten to take one the previous day after the ride and wanted one for her photo album. They were staying in a place literally en route to my work, so I obliged. They took a couple of photos with me, I decided to give her a little keepsake (a stone) to remember her ride and her holiday and wished her well on her travels. I genuinely did not mean anything by this. I am a naturally generous person and friendly - many of my longterm friends have been given keepsakes as this before and understood the context it was intended.  In this case, it swiftly became apparent that she was not looking for just a friendship with me, that she wanted a lot more than I could possibly give her. For context, I am married and have been with my wife for years - something that came up in conversation during our ride and that she was well aware of from the start.  Our conversations following that ride began innocently enough. She would ask me questions about my life outside of the job and family history, things that most of my friends knew. I occassionally sent her photos or videos from the riding centre that I thought she might like and we chatted and laughed about horses. I only started growing suspicious when I realised she would never answer my own questions about her life or family in return. In hindsight, I realise I never really knew anything about her. Shortly after our latest conversation, she told me that the boy she had visited the riding centre with had cut her off as a friend and that she was having a tough time. It had become apparent to her that he had feelings for her and that things had become too complicated to keep things going as friends. She told me that he had become jealous of our 'connection' and wanted me gone from the picture. She started asking me what I thought of all of this but I decided not to comment. I did not know him well enough to have an opinion.  Things then got worse when her family got involved. She let it slip a couple of weeks later that she had told her father she had met someone and had allowed for the context to remain as romantic not friendly. He had been supportive until she had admitted that I was a married woman and he had gotten very angry with her. They had started arguing and it was affecting her behaviour and our conversations. I went quiet for a fair while after this because it was uncomfortable and I was not entirely sure how to respond. Nothing like this had ever happened to me before and I confided in my wife and asked her what should be done.  We decided to try and nip the whole thing in the bud. I sent the girl a message and said that it would be best for us to part ways and cease contact. I explained that it was for the best interests of all involved and that I had enjoyed getting to know her. My wife agreed that it was the sensible option given the sensitive nature of the issue and so we waited for a response. She was very upset with me and accused me of being too rash in my decision making. She suggested that we could all be friends and that this was the human thing to do. Appealing to both our spirituality and desire to be peaceful we decided to offer a second chance but insisted on neutrality.  For a little while it was fine. We all had conversations together and laughed and joked and the friendship seemed to be going well. Then the turning point came. She began to message me directly and implying she had strong feelings for me but that she would not acknowledge them as love if I was still married. She began to compliment me ceaselessly over my accent and my intelligence. She called me beautiful and complimented my wife in the same manner. She then went even further by suggesting that if I left my wife then another door would open to me and that she would take care of me, etc. All the emotions became too much. I stopped eating and sleeping properly. I dropped a lot of weight and had terrible dreams if I managed to drift off. I was feverish and inconsolable and I felt trapped.  If I said that we had to stop talking, she complained and would try and return to nominal conversation(s). If I ignored her, she got upset. Every solution hurt more than the last one and because I was still trying to be nice, I held that space for her to my detriment. When I started backing off, she started messaging me about other women she had met (all married) and had feelings for and I began to realise that this was her thing. She was doing exactly what she was doing to other relationships, other people, other friends and probably these people were also suffering in the way that my wife and I were struggling. What precisely did she want? Why was I being targeted and why was it so hard to let go even when I knew it was right? Did she even care about me in the way she said she did? How had I let it get this far? My wife and I were drawn even closer together because of it which is a godsend in of itself because something like this could have had the exact opposite effect. I believe that our honesty was the key to this. I began to loath this girl as much as want to be her friend. It was almost instantaneous how my opinion changed. She continued messaging about her feelings (sometimes for me and sometimes for other women she had met). She would ask me what my thoughts were and I only ever began replying with that it should not matter what I think. All the while I was devising a way to get away from this situation. I knew I had to get away. I knew it could not continue. It was starting to affect my happiness and work and home. I had to talk to my manager at work about it and explain why I looked so ill.  Then finally the last day of contact came. She messaged me saying that she was coming for a ride again and that she really wanted to see me. But that she was bringing someone else with her - a girl she had met. She tried asking me what I thought about her bringing someone and whether she should come on her own but I said that that had nothing to do with me. She decided she would bring this girl and said she wanted me to lead them for a ride in the Brecon Beacons. She asked if I would be there and I said I probably was (which was not a lie). It would later turn out that the date she was going there was the only weekend I had not been put on the rota but I had not realised at the time. In hindsight it was probably the best thing that could have happened because I had panicked right after. I both wanted to see her and did not want to see her. I wondered if we could return to simply having a conversation like we had on the first day I had met her but deep down knew that was probably not going to happen. My emotions had been played with for so many weeks that I felt ill from it.  This is where my regrets come in. I feel like an ***. I feel guilty somehow for leaving in the way I did. The day of the ride came. I had realised that morning that I was not needed for work and had gone for a walk on my land to think. I did not want to even consider it and my stomach was hurting. An hour before the scheduled ride, she messaged me.  Hey. It simply said with a smiley face. Expectant.  I'm not going to be there. I messaged back almost immediately. There was an unforeseen change in the rota. I'm sorry. The other girls will take really great care of you both and you will have a lovely time. Enjoy your ride.  Silence. A horrible wave of nausea and a migraine so piercing that I had to sit down in the field and close my eyes. Then relief. Quiet and stillness.  It has been a year since I sent that message and deleted her number. She has blocked me on social media and has not spoken to me since and yet in some way I wish I had the chance to explain just how terrible the whole thing made me feel. But why do I miss her? Why does that entire experience weigh so heavy on my shoulders that it bothers me even now? I had to leave my job in the end because it only reminded me of that whole thing. Am I the *** for leaving in the way I did? Or was in simply an inevitable trick of the universe that pushed us apart finally?  I of course know that she was not what I truly wanted. I am happily married with a beautiful life. But somehow the impact of that short encounter has really struck me. Should I feel as bad as I do? Or was she simply playing me all along?  Literally, less than a month later, she announced she would be coming back to the trekking centre. Only this time she wanted to bring someone - a girlfriend she had met. She suggested I should take them both out for a ride and how nice it would be, etc. At the time I thought I was working and said I’d probably be around but likely would not be on the ride as it wasn’t dictated by me. Later on, I realised I had not been placed on the rota. I had to send a last-minute message to her explaining that I wasn’t there but that the other staff would look after them both well and to please enjoy the ride. In hindsight, I think it was meant to happen this way anyway as I was getting increasingly uncomfortable and I’d tried to back away before but to no avail. She never spoke to us again and we have since lost contact. AITA for leaving in the way I did? The whole situation lasted for months, I was very unwell from it and I’m still recovering even now. I was going to send her a message via social media to say goodbye and wish her well, explain what happened, etc for my own peace of mind, but she has blocked me. How do I come to terms with this and how does one go about healing from such a thing?
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Hi
by Nidhug
Last post
 November 25th, 2024
...See more Hi
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DEALING WITH TRAUMA
by powerfulHuman858
Last post
 June 22nd, 2024
...See more Hello I’m new here wasn’t having a good day so I’m here now I’ve learned a lot about myself I am very traumatized by events that have taken place in my life as in adult but mainly I am ready do to know why my past affects my day to day life!!
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My first post
by eheart432
Last post
 July 18th, 2023
...See more I like to journal my thoughts so ill just post a recent journal I wrote. TW: suicidal ideation I just don't know how to cope with being alone all the time. I decided to go back to Reddit but no one really stands out. I tried to reach out to two people. I deleted my first message after having an episode and then I reached out to another person and they haven't responded so I just feel really blocked right now. I just feel like something is telling me I'm meant to be alone and I can't talk to anyone but I honestly feel like I'm starting to lose touch with reality. My priorities are clearly off, I can't seem to grasp why I'm alive or why anyone would want to be alive, or how anyone could possibly bare it each day. I don't want to be here at all anymore. But I guess that's just a summer feeling that I seem to have every single year leading up to my birthday. I'm trying to get to the bottom of the suicidal ideation associated with summer. It kind of feels like brain damage or something. I feel like I have been so damaged from an accumulation of terrible summers that I can no longer bear it. I'm trying to understand the purpose of solitude like if I can just see how it benefits me then I won't fight it as much. Solitude was never a second thought for me but as I've gotten older, I really don't like how bad I feel every day. I don't associate being alone as a bad thing but I guess it's getting old? I don't see how that's possible but it's like the aloneness is just becoming loneliness. On top of that, I don't have any motivation to be myself — like dedicate time to hobbies. I just want to sleep and wait for Fall because I associate that with school (and social contact). It's not like I really see anyone at any specific season but it's just absolutely unbearable in the summer. I think I've heard that passive social contact is good for introverts like we seem to do better mentally with at least being in rooms with people. I feel like I'm aching like I just feel so overwhelmed that this is my life. I just can't believe this is my life. It hurts so badly that I have no one in my life to rely on or just simply speak to or hang out with. Sometimes I feel like it's my fault and I must be completely socially inept and unlikable but sometimes I think that the universe is trying to keep me this way. I think you can learn something from any experience but I just don't understand this. I really feel that my mental health has worsened and that I'm less open to people. I feel like I can't even trust my intuition. What's bothering me the most is that this has been recurring, every July. I need to understand why this is so specific. Since I associated it with SAD (seasonal affective disorder), I wanted to see a therapist but that won't happen for a long time. I just need something, literally anything to get me through this. I feel like Im drowning. I think I've had so many bad experiences with people that I have embedded them into my identity. I believe that relationships will never be easy and I simply cannot have friends. I just think it will always be painful. I don't know if this is true because, since my transformation, I have not made any real friends—I haven't had prolonged contact with anyone. There is nothing to compare my experiences to. I don't know if I have truly changed or not. Im not sure if I ever will know because I feel like ill always be alone.
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Are There Any Theories?
by blueAngel00
Last post
 June 12th, 2023
...See more I don't know if this qualifies, but I'll place it here anyway... *TW* Why do some of us have the inability to detach from toxic relationships? And even more specifically, from the toxic person that hurts us over and over again? Are we covert masochists? Are we validating an extremely low sense of self-worth? Is the toxic person a carbon copy of our mom/dad and we're trying to gain their approval through that carbon copy? Are they personal challenges to us, to where if they don't hurt us anymore, we win the challenge, so we have to keep giving it another shot because Lord knows we can't allow ourselves to fail? Are we trying to prove something? To the world? To the toxic person? To ourselves? I know for a fact people DO NOT stay in any kind of relationship unless they're getting SOMETHING out of it. So besides more pain, degradation, and humiliation, what is it we're getting out of these toxic relationships to prevent us from detaching from them? I'm pretty sure I know the reason I can't let go, but generally speaking, are there theories about this I just don't know about? Which actually could very likely be the case because I'm pretty darn new to this toxicity aspect of relationships...
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Can't stop thinking about how he replaced me
by greyrocks629
Last post
 June 4th, 2023
...See more He used to flirt with me a lot and we spent months talking to each other, the entire day, he was a huge part of my life. But then he started ignoring me. He just went and found someone new and also decided to show off right in front of my face. He just gave me hope and then left. He tried to apologize once but I was so mad that I couldn't even talk to him. He even sent me messages about how much I meant to him, but I'm scared to trust him. I just feel like he's trying to play with my feelings. Everything he says feels like a lie. But somehow I still wish we could mend things, even though I know there's nothing he can do to gain my trust. But I miss him, and can't stop wishing that we could be like what we were before.
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How about trouble with simply having attachments ?
by NoraTheExplora420
Last post
 May 2nd, 2023
...See more Does this happen to you too?
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Being clingy
by Searchinglightofhope
Last post
 April 28th, 2023
...See more You know dear when someone is trapped on dark for so long without anyone reaching out to them It's really normal that they will want to possess even a single ray of hope or a kind gesture obsessing over that feeling anxious whether it will last or whether they will again be abandoned,
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I can’t detach myself from a friendship that ended months ago
by JemilioJ
Last post
 April 18th, 2023
...See more At first she told me she didn’t want to call me anymore, then she said she wanted space indefinitely, then we didn’t talk for months. She then said she wasn’t mad at me anymore but told our mutual friend she wouldn’t initiate conversations and just doesn’t feel anything towards me. Then I broke down and felt really, really bad and guilty, like this was all my fault. I told her I felt really sorry and that I was mad at myself and she cut me off right there, blocked me, and I‘ve only felt so much worse. I failed a relationship that was so special to me, and now I cry and break down every day, and I just don’t want to live like this, but don’t know what to do either.
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Fearful avoidant attachment
by amiableBlackberry92
Last post
 March 23rd, 2023
...See more I discovered my attachment style, fearful avoidant. It explains so so much . I am researching ways to trust and get past this so I can connect with people. This style is one of the rarer types caused by an abusive childhood. I desperately want deep connection all of my life but never could find it. It's taken me decades to even become aware of my issues. As painful as this is I am trying to fix this. Opening up about my feelings and needs is incredibly difficult as I was never taught that this was okay to do. I had not realized that this was my problem not the people around me. I have been burned so many times by predatory type people over the years. I'm still learning and I'm scared . This is so difficult to overcome. My siblings are dealing with this same attachment style problem. It is a grieving process realizing I've missed out on so much because of my deep self protection actions. I didn't even realize what I was doing ..... Wow more challenges to get through, hope I can do it. I have been through so many already. ABB 💜
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I'm tired
by helpfulChestnut6980
Last post
 January 7th, 2023
...See more Hey i just wanted to share something. So my ex caused me many problems and made me almost loose my best friend. But i was in love with him and accepted him again but i think if i best friend knows i did this she'll leave me and i don't wanna loose her. So what should I do?
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Attached
by messedupgirl01
Last post
 December 5th, 2022
...See more I got attached to my singing teacher and she's just left and I don't know how to cope with it anymore 😔

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

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Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

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Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

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You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

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In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

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Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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