Trauma Support Check-in: July 19 - July 23
Hello hello lovely Trauma Support community! I hope everyone's having a spectacular Monday and is ready to take on a new week. Gosh, more than halfway through July already?! This year has been flying by!
Let's all take a 5 second inhale, and a 5 second exhale. Inhale positivity, exhale negativity ☀️
Check-in questions:
1. How are you doing?
2. What has been going well for you? What has been challenging?
3. What is on your "plate" this week?
4. If you could have dinner with anyone from the past, who would you choose and why?
Have a wonderful week everyone!
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Thank you
feels easier said than done. But I keep trying to remember those words. Yes a lot on the plate, when I think I have it figured out someone dumps another pile in the plate.
That can feel overwhelming when you experience one thing after another. We are here for you <3 We have all sorts of resources for you!
Also, I’m sorry to hear you have so much going on. A lot of us can relate to you! Thanks for sharing :)
@fairyava
1. Honestly, not well at all. I just can't find a way to forgive myself for a couple of things, and feel impossibly alone from being backstabbed.
2. Nothing's really going well or badly this week so far aside from having to deal with being in my own mind.
3. I'm supposed to write a letter... To someone I considered a friend about 10 years ago. He's in prison now, not doing well, and his mom asked me to write him. I agreed, and I'd like to reconnect... Possibly... But I have no idea what to say at all. He changed a lot. Not in good ways. It's kind of stressing me out.
4. The best I can come up with right now is Robin Williams. He had a lot of personality, and we only ever got to see a hint of it. I feel like I could've learned a lot from him and feel like we would've gotten along well.
Hello @Torean. Sorry to hear if you aren't having the best week. We are here for you in any way we can! Our listeners can be reached by browsing or a general request.
Robin Williams is a perfect answer. I wish I thought of him first 😊 I miss him too, but I’m grateful his laughter and joy has been immortalized and shared in film. Some people never truly die… they will always be remembered.
Just being here today is the most I have to offer of me today.
1) okay
2) activites-good bad-thoughts
3) volunteering
4) my Opa i miss him
@fairyava
Hello, I am studying the Listener Path.......Trying to keep my head on straight.
Nothing has been going my way, But I am trying to keep my cool.
Keeping a journal
I would like to eat with Jesus.
@scarletPear1945 How's the listener journey going? I'm sorry nothing is going your way. I know you had said about your therapist and cutting them loose - I hope you can find another one that can be more helpful. It can be really hard to keep your cool - at least in my opinion. I know I have trouble with it anyway
I think you're trying really hard - you standing up for yourself with the therapist is a good thing - especially if they weren't of much help - it takes courage to do that :)
@mytwistedsoul
I can do ok with the written studying but being able to be a listener
is very hard for me. I was trying until this 7cup therapist told me I did not need to do that because my normal mind was messed up. That really took away my confidence and desirer to want to be a Listener. I am trying to overcome those words in my head and gain more confidence. Small steps
@scarletPear1945 I bet you do great as a listener 🙂
Small steps are the best way and you can set the pace and take chats only when you feel up to it. I like seeing that you're working hard to prove them wrong 😁 You can do it!
@mytwistedsoul
Thanks for the encouragement.
As I worked on my Listening path work assignments. I went into 2 chat rooms, I introduced myself and I let them know this was my assignment and left to continue to do the work. My next assignment was to do 3 ice breaker questions in a chat room and see who responds. One person answered one question and no one else bothered. I got mad and went back to my assignment and it won't let me go any further. I guess it thinks I did not do the work. I decided once again to go into a chat room and I earned a badge for interacting. But I still can't proceed on my Growth path and that sucks. Trying to gain confidence . I am being flagged now for something.a drop-down about forum rules. I give up
1. How are you doing? I am doing well. I just came off of a self care break but the first day back was rough so now I am tired.
2. What has been going well for you? What has been challenging? I started a new job and it has gone well so far. The most challenging thing is my co-worker who is so inappropriate in the work setting. For example, 5 minutes into meeting them I thought if I was boss I'd have fired them a long time ago.
3. What is on your "plate" this week? Mainly just working
4. If you could have dinner with anyone from the past, who would you choose and why? Definitely my grandfather. He was my hero and I miss him everyday. I'd take just even that dinner for five minutes worth of hugs and "I love yous"
1. I’m overall calm, and that’s good compared to last week. But I’m also exhausted, so I guess maybe those two things go hand in hand. 2. The good is I’m asserting boundaries better and spending little by little less time on social media (it fluctuates and I know I need to seriously curb this for my mental health). The bad is this asserting boundaries is coming with some sadness because I feel disconnected a bit from the person I love most because we’re not talking much… And, the whole reason I’m so addicted to social media in the first place is because I spend so much time scrolling waiting for him to contact me… not it’s just turned into scrolling for the sake of it. I got rid of so much social media years ago, don’t have certain platforms most people do, all because I wanted to unplug. Before we got into talking online I used to only go on social media maybe once a week or once every other week, this was back in 2017… for several years now I’ve been glued to my social media, and while some bad habits like political debates and whatnot have formed, the fact of the matter is deep down I know I’d turn it off or never use it for weeks on end, except maybe to promote business for money if that ever became a thing for me… I’m attached to it because I want to hear from him. And it makes me feel pathetic and hurt and angry that I’m constantly waiting around for him to talk to me at all, never knowing when he’ll bother to treat me like I exist. …. So I’m pulling back and asserting boundaries because this isn’t healthy for me. 3. Managing physical pain and trying to use a new sleep tincture with CBD / CBN and valerian, hoping it helps me get some sleep on time, and helps with ny anxiety and fibromyalgia pains. Also, TMI warning but terrible menstrual cramps today. Also, I need to clean this room out so I can have a less triggering and more peaceful space, sharing space with my childhood family as an adult for financial reasons, has been hard and humiliating for me since the pandemic hit. I miss some of my independence from living alone, but I’m also grateful not to be dealing with a crappy landlord or crappy roommate. It’s been a struggle to avoid clutter though, because half the stuff in my space isn’t my own belongings, and I’m really needing to toss crap nobody is using… it’s a struggle because they don’t want it tossed out and there’s no space elsewhere. 4. If I could go back in time or summon the dead and dine with someone who has passed to the other side, I would want to dine with Frida Kahlo, she fascinates me. Or, Emma Goldman.
Sorry the paragraphs didn’t separate again 😬 I typed them, but they must have evaporated before smashing the submit button.
hi there!! i'm doing alright, i'm doing my best to cope with my anxiety and the memories and i've been doing well with writing my narrative and bringing myself back when i feel like i'm spacing out. it's been challenging to deal with the hard emotions that come, but i'm getting better at it as time passes and letting some days be more difficult than others since i know my best will look different every day. this week, i have my narrative writing, my art, getting new glasses, and seeing my friend on my plate. if i could have dinner with anyone from the past, i think if i could, i'd choose myself. i want to tell her really important things that she needed to hear back then.
1. How are you doing? I'm okay, I've had a lot on my mind. I don't always know how to express my emotional health. 2. What has been going well for you? What has been a challenge? Work is going well. The challenge that I have been having is stressing about the past. I have PTSD and I have been having flashbacks and I am trying to stay calm. 3. What is on your "plate" this week? This week is school and work mainly. I have some health stuff going on. I have to get a sonogram and I am not pregnant which is a little unnerving. 4. If you could have dinner with anyone from the past, who would choose and why? If I could have dinner with anyone I would want to have dinner with my best friend's, and my cousin's that passed away and our creator. The reason is I miss the I wish I could just sit on the couch with them and watch a movie or joke with them. I love them so much and just want to know their safe and okay. Our creator because I so many questions about why things are they way they are and to get wisdom and direction in my life.
1. How are you doing? been staying more inside, trying to be more safe from abuse/trauma from outside
2. What has been going well for you? covid with lots of things online What has been challenging? trying to get around the city, which is a little over 900 square miles, on city buses that have been cut back with covid, where you can wait an hour and a half for one bus, and you have to ride many to get somewhere and then back. Also verry challenging is dealing with my C-PTSD and DID and what all goes with that.
3. What is on your "plate" this week? in a few hours--church. I have only a few appointments this week.
4. If you could have dinner with anyone from the past, who would you choose and why? my father, who I called, "Da." He died from cancer in 1999 at 70 years old. I miss him so much and I would love to just be able to spend some time with him, and over a dinner would make him very happy.
@Amelia2324
I am sorry to hear that you have gone through so much. I know these times can be tough for everyone especially during the pandemic.
@HereToHelp135
ty, but, no worries about that stuff. it is just part of what life is for us now. there are major things and problems in life. these are more minor nuisances that will not be permanent----perspecitve is important