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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 February 9th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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Military and First Responder Trauma Support Group
by Kieran000
Last post
 February 8th
...See more Hi everyone,  I’m excited to announce the new launch of a Military and First Responder Trauma Support Group following wider community feedback requesting this support space.  The first session will take place on Sunday 9th February in the trauma support room on the adult side from 2:00pm to 3:00pm (2:55pm) ET and will provide a space for active or veteran military service members, emergency medical staff and law enforcement officers to share their experiences of trauma.  The timing is a little difficult at the moment as my availability for this weekend is extremely low and I’m not sure about the expected activity levels depending on times it takes place but hopefully this will provide enough time to have lots of thoughts shared and listened to, as well as the opportunity to suggest your own preferred times for future sessions possibly through a google forms document that will be sent out at the end of the session.  Hope to see many of you there! @Nick003 @SleeplessVet 
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I'm not like my ideal self enough
by camo303xvp
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Relevant to the self-discrepancy theory in psychology. I'm very insecure about my own personality/cognition/behaviour etc because it doesn't align with what I identify as. Traits I am deeply ashamed of and distressed by (feeling inferior to others as a result): * oversharing * acting without thinking, being impulsive * being energised by speaking to people * being aware of my surroundings, rarely (if ever at all) "lost in my head" as some people put it * being superstitious * having an eviction notice due to self-neglect, struggling to keep the house tidy, pushing people away, and it's all my fault. My entire life pretty much I've been acting without thinking of the consequences and I'm so ashamed. * caring what others think. * needing to leave the house every day otherwise I feel bored. * being more selfish/ "my way or the highway" instead of letting other people have a say. * obsessing over my physical appearance. * being more emotional than logical. * lacking critical thinking skills, or certainty in whatever conclusions. * being emotionally expressive, overreacting. * preferring the internet over video games. * taking pleasure in eating food, weighing more than a certain amount. * buying unnecessary things I do not need. * someone else having aesthetic taste or fashion sense etc that is more ideal self than I am. It's as if the anti-self traits outweigh any and all "ideal self" traits I have (intellectual curiosity, introspection, neurodivergence, etc). This self-hatred feeling is just unbearable. I invented the term "trans-typal" because of this. It's like I force myself to be as un- anti-self as possible yet simultaneously not wanting to because the act of forcing yourself to do certain things or not do certain things just for the image even when you are reluctant to is inherently antiself in itself, leaving me completely confused and uncertain as to what I should actually do. I would rather die than be the list above. The more undesirable traits I have and the more "emphasised" they are the worse I feel about myself. I feel like life is meaningless and boring and pointless--- unless I get public transport to a nice location and smoke weed there, that's fun af but it's also too anti-self (my ideal self is content staying indoors all day, maybe with the exception of walking locally sometimes) Seeing my social worker is just the worst. The reminder of the painfully brutally ugly truth, not the comforting lies I tell myself just so I don't [cessation of DNA], I'm at risk of eviction due to not engaging with staff (my typology obsession results in me psychoanalysing everyone and feeling inferior to others because they are more ideal self than I am for whatever reason, that being said I find it difficult to engage with others in any context especially IRL and not the internet because of intense feelings of inferiority), struggling to keep the property tidy (I've always been a messy person), and self-neglect / failing to pay pills on time / etc. It's all my fault. I've dug myself into a hole. How impulsive. How anti-self. I can't help but feel intimidated out of my skin and eventually start breaking into tears sooner or later whenever around my social worker.
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Flashbacks
by Sydrid
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello all. I'm new here and just want to connect with others. More so about trauma and the depression/burn- out that stems from it once you are no longer in a cycle of it. More specifically, abuse trauma and loss trauma. I understand everyone copes differently but some days, I find myself absolutely frozen. I am either in a state of rumination or sometimes even total numbness from the things I have gone through. I want to find a healthy middle ground with this and a way to balance out my thoughts without either obsessing or shutting down. Flashbacks are what I believe to be causing this... the thinking back on all the things that my brain wants to pick apart to figure out why they happened or how things could have been very different if only... If you'd like, please feel free to share your experiences with this and what are some of things you do to distract yourself from flashbacks... or even what you do to motivate yourself during times of burn-out and mental fatigue from it. It would be so appreciated to be able to hear your insight. Thank you -Bonnie
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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 9 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Was I sexually assaulted???
by aquaSailboat8365
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more I’m sorry if this is long or doesn’t make sense. Over the last week, I’ve been having some complex feelings over an incident that happened a few months ago. While I was sleeping, i woke up to a close friends hands in my pants I didn’t say anything. I just acted like I was moving around and hit my head, and then he stopped jerked away. I acted like I was still asleep. (I never said stop, but I never said it was OK does that matter??? I was asleep it’s confusing) I had never told anyone else about this because I convinced myself that it wasn’t that. I’m a guy also gay if that matters. Recently, I hung out with a guy and I think it made me realize what he had done. I thought for the longest time, especially after that, I just wasn’t a touchy person, wasn’t really into physical contact and stuff, it made me uncomfortable, but when I was with the guy it sorta clicked that I did like physical contact and I sorta spiraled. I think since he was a close friend (I’ve known him since I was 12) it couldn’t possibly be that (the guy is also suicidal, so maybe I just convinced myself that if I said anything he’d kill himself). I just feel like I’m being dramatic because it was months ago I’ve never planned to bring it up, and I really just wanted to pretend it didn’t happen, but I am having mental and physical problems that are effecting me over it. I feel like a coward because I didn’t do anything, and I feel like maybe I’m overreacting??
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My Silent Voice (Diary)
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Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more My notes for today: Fake people with Fake motives yet they are the ones you are suppose to love and care about?? It is so hard to change me when daily I face the same unproductive crap that keeps feeding on my Traums's How do you get out of this dark hole when everything around you keeps dragging you into this pit. I never knew Love and I've had to make my pain my pleasure and find Happyness in it. Makes me wonder are some people born just to endure torrment and abuse. I trive as I just want to survive, The saying we all have the right to life and the pursuit of happyness. I'm still looking, still trying to find what should already be mine. ScarletPear1945
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TW The Trap Was intriguing to me and exciting as a child
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more As a child at the age of five my mom was trapped by a babysitter's husband during her divorce to my dad at the babysitter's house she showed up unannounced to try to kidnap my brother and I from the babysitter's house so the babysitter's husband stood against the front door preventing her from taking my brother and I have the front door she escaped with us to her Vega her blue two door Vega where she put my brother and I in the back seat of the car after she had us in the backseat of the car my mom and the babysitter's husband began to skip around her car and when she was skipping I heard her say dinky dinky this is stinky let me go she kept on saying that for about 5 until they got into the car and got into a fight the babysitter's husband threatened to break up my mom's arms if she did not get her car keys to him and my mom told him not to fart in her car and got out and started skipping around the car again until my dad showed up I gained a hero and role model that day because my mom wasn't supposed to be there and I used to play with the babysitters kids her son and her daughter the babysitter's husband will always be my hero and role model I have ended up practicing all the moves by standing against the door and skipping around my own car I practice because I have hatred toward my mom still to this day I see a therapist because of this situation
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Looking more into my Alter
by StrawberrySweetTea
Last post
 21 hours ago
...See more I don't know where she came from. Just on Monday she appeared in my head and just said she was in a deep sleep until 5 months ago for some reason. Rin told me something but I forgot. I don't know exactly and there are mysteries on where she came from that I don't know. I have a hunch it was about grief because she awaken the day we had my Grandma's funeral. Rin told me it was something more than that but not to worry about it as she would protect me. I need help into figuering out her origins. Please and thank you. I want to thank @QuietMagic for introducing me to this community.
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"TW" The Trap
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more My mom and dad had a divorce when I was five she showed up to a babysitter's house and the babysitter's husband trapped her and chased her around the outside of her car my mom didn't have custody of my brother and I was trying to kidnap my brother and I at the time today the babysitter's husband is my hero and role model
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The Dinky Dinky trap
by creativeStrings1531
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more 'TW' At the age of 5 my mom and dad were going through a divorce and she tried kidnapping my brother and I from a babysitter's house because she didn't have custody of us so the babysitter's husband did against his front door and blocked it on my mom so she took us out the back door after a little while of being trapped inside the house she got us to the car which was a two-door Vega color blue she put us into the back seat of a car the babysitter's husband came out of his house said he was going to jump on the hood of her car then they skipped around her car she started to say dinky dinky let me go they got inside of her car they had a fight the babysitter's husband told her he was going to break off her arms if she did not give up her car keys to him she told him not to fart in her car we got back out skipped around it some more until my dad showed to me babysitter's husband is my hero and role model because of him I feel sometimes like trapping my mom and chasing her around her car myself I practice just about every day when I can
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New
by PeacefullyFocused
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more New here
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Family and health issues
by loyalnectarine809
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more I'm going through a very difficult situation and feeling very lonely. I live with my mother, but she doesn't support me regarding a serious issue I had with my brother, who assaulted me. My father, who has also been abusive towards me, has stopped supporting me financially as a form of retaliation for deciding to stay at my mother's house instead of going with him. This affects me a lot because I have an illness that requires expensive medication and treatment, and now I don't know how I'm going to afford it. I can't leave here because I'm not physically well, so I can't work, but being in this environment makes me feel even worse emotionally. I would really appreciate talking to someone who understands.
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can anyone help? TW sexual assault
by nobodyspecial111
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more i think i may have been raped/molested/whatever by my dad. haven’t spoken to him in years so no immediate danger. i have nobody irl i can speak to about this and no access to that help atm.  i don’t even know how to explain my situation. since i learned what trauma was i’ve almost been wishing to Have trauma to explain why my brain is like this. i get terrified around grown men especially if they come into my bedroom. i have these weird, freezing moments? it’s like a weird almost-memory of hands touching me inappropriately and i freeze up and zone out and idk if it was my dad or someone else and honestly idc who, but i wanna know if i’m right about this y’know? i have some sort of blank years in my life. times where i just can’t remember that much besides particularly big things (an injury, a school play. everything else is,,, blurry) i’ve been hypersexual (at least i think?) for as long as i can remember. when i was idk 7? maybe even younger i cant remember, i would (unknowingly) pleasure myself while thinking about people doing things to me without my consent (didn’t know what it meant) when i was 9(?) i discovered things like porn and such. i remember one day i was looking through all that stuff online and my dad kept coming into my room and sitting on my bed and idk i felt weird.  and idk when it was that i started being scared/uncomfortable around him but i was and that only got worse until he left and then there were the dreams, i think they started around 10/11. they arent/werent frequent but it would be dreams of him raping me basically. ive had dreams since of just loads of strangers doing the same but it started with him and in the dream he was telling me we had to be quiet and i just don’t know where i even got that from. i don’t think i’d consumed content of any kind that would’ve given me that idea and then a couple years ago my mum and i were talking and she admitted that she thought he might have done something to one of my siblings and said sth like “i just wish if it had happened to one of them they would tell me so i could go to the police” and idk it made me feel. weird i’m 99% sure i’m missing details here, it’s all jumbled in my head and i’m exhausted and i just. don’t know what to do. this is kinda a last resort for me. sorry this was long and rambly. sorry if i’m not using this place correctly

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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