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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Feedback about Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by WillingToHelpU
Last post
 January 3rd
...See more Hello everyone! I hope everyone is doing well. I'm writing about the discussions of the trauma sub-community; we're looking for input to continue hosting discussions that interest the folks in this community. I've made a form here [https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A] that asks people for their insight into what discussions they'd like to see more of so that we can keep growing the discussions. What are these discussions? These discussions are hosted throughout the week in the Trauma Support Room. For more information about when, please check out this post. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/] They are designed to have a variety of discussion topics and categories so that people can join any discussion they're interested in. Why are you looking for feedback? Growth and listening to the community are the biggest things we are looking for to make these discussions sustainable. While we offer the ability to have feedback during discussions, I've created this form for specific requests about things that people would like to see. How will this be incorporated? We are looking to expand some of the guides we use to host discussions, so these responses (collected anonymously) will help us create new guides for hosts about a wider variety of topics that people want to see. It may take some time to see a topic you've requested become a topic for discussion, but we want to incorporate as much feedback as quickly as possible, so keep an eye out for possible new discussion topics coming to discussions in 2025. More questions? Feel free to leave them below and I'll do my best to respond to them :) Thanks for any feedback you leave, it is all greatly appreciated!! Links: - to the form: https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A - to the announcement thread: https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
Last post
 December 25th
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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Avoidance trauma
by hopefulencounter
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more I think I have avoidance trauma because I tend to avoid to remember about something traumatic. Like I avoid that memory so I don't feel sad. I know it's such a cowardly act but idk anymore i just want to be happy without worrying :((
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How do I move on?
by hopefulencounter
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Guys I need advice, how can I move on from something that's triggering? I try to let go to let it be let time pass but then it comes back to me.. sadness, rage. It's really hard for me to forgive my past mistake 😭
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betrayal and trust
by tidyCar5002
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more I have been cheating on my wife for 5 years since before we got married and I found out 6 months ago..we have a 2 and a half year old and this has given me the strength to move forward but the insecurity is destroying me
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My Silent Voice (Diary)
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Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My notes for today: Fake people with Fake motives yet they are the ones you are suppose to love and care about?? It is so hard to change me when daily I face the same unproductive crap that keeps feeding on my Traums's How do you get out of this dark hole when everything around you keeps dragging you into this pit. I never knew Love and I've had to make my pain my pleasure and find Happyness in it. Makes me wonder are some people born just to endure torrment and abuse. I trive as I just want to survive, The saying we all have the right to life and the pursuit of happyness. I'm still looking, still trying to find what should already be mine. ScarletPear1945
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Just the trauma brief thought …
by livbinny
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Thinking why some trauma is unprocessed Something I get like imaginary scenarios in my mind maybe due to silenced voice or my own anxiety when I needed comfort n couldn’t have any Sad n scary  It all hurts guys💔
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Therapy woes
by witchybirdie
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more So I started therapy a few months ago. It's all online, which is great for me. It's on Saturday, which is perfect, I enjoy the time and enjoy my therapist. We're both nonbinary and queer, so that understanding of my identity and intristic part of myself is super helpful. Initially I was very funny, because I have a desire to be liked and be the funny guy for everyone. I don't want to seem like a downer irl. If I do talk about my childhood trauma, it's a stand up routine. "Haha, isn't this so funny?" And initially, they would laugh along. They'd ask me to reflect on why I found it funny, but that I was good at jokes and finding the humor in bad situations, and wasn't that admirable, that I could be so funny and bring joy. This mildly irritated me, because idk, it just felt like they were giving me reasons to be funny instead of delving into my issues. I communicated this to them, and they were receptive and said they'd make the necessary adjustments, and to keep giving feedback and they appreciated my telling them. Recently, though, especially this session I was just in, they've started poking at my humor, my self deprecating jokes, my trauma. And like, that's good! That's what I want. But I also hate it. I feel like I can't be happy with therapy. Either I'm paying someone to pretend to be my friend so I can do stand up (which I don't like, I can do that for free), or they're actually my therapist and I don't like how that makes me feel. I feel hurt, and somewhat condescended to. And the thing that upsets is I know they're not being condescending. They are doing the standard therapy, "Why does that make you feel that way?" "You've been through a lot of trauma, that's awful and you can make jokes, but why is it funny? I want to consider if you'd laugh at someone else in your position, because I worry it's out of meanness and self hate. If it's not, that's okay, but I want you to make sure that's not what's happening." It's not condescending at all, but because it's hitting so close to home, that's the best way I can describe it. But I didn't love the old approach, and I don't like this one that much. I feel like I'm just being picky because I want therapy, but I think I don't want to do the work? I just want to magically fix myself by talking to someone, I think? I'm not sure. But maybe I'm not ready? Idk I'm debating stopping therapy. I don't like this feeling. But maybe it's supposed to be uncomfortable? Idk any feedback is appreciated. Maybe I'm just being dramatic. Again, I appreciate their current approach. I just feel a lot of feelings about it.
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Betrayal Trauma - Partner of a Porn addict
by purpleYard1149
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Does anyone here have experiance with betrayal trauma? Just wanting to chat to people about it. My 2 previous marriages were with men who were addicted to porn. And my last partner was also a sex addict and mentally abusive.
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New Here… PTSD/ Severe Anxiety with depression
by SilverSkies24
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more I’ll try to keep this short… I’m in my later 30’s have children. Divorced twice. Recently married… I have been struggling a lot lately. I do suffer from PTSD and I have had trauma since the day I was born. I have been told that living a very long and excessive trauma filled life is definitely why I am the way I am… My first two husbands were abusive in every way and cheated on me in the most horribly disgusting ways possible. My childhood was def filled with trauma. I’m not really good at sharing I get nervous and scared about people knowing my weaknesses bc I fear that’s the only reason people ask is to use it against you. With my new husband, I am currently in a state of not really thinking I’m being cheated on but definitely being “set off” like just noticing things that remind me of my past when I was cheated on. I feel like I’m not being heard at all at home and it makes me care less and less about myself or what I need to do in life. I do see a therapist weekly but I don’t feel like it’s working. We have been talking for 5/6 months now, weekly. And I’m just not feeling any better on any level
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by Rentifa
Last post
 Friday
...See more I don't even know this at first I should wrote down on groups so maybe my thread will be read by anyone. Gosh I am so stupid. So it's on my journal now if you click my profile. But maybe that's for the best as Idk if I can write my original post on community directly. Idk it's crazy I know when you need help but also scared because you've been traumatized and in reality there's no one for you ☹️😥 My page. [https://www.7cups.com/@Rentifa]
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Hope in Humans
by JenistaJane7
Last post
 Friday
...See more Slowly fading away, With every person I meet, I lose it all every day, Hearts too heavy with self to feel, Eyes turned inward, where truth can hide. Where’s humanity? Kindness? Empathy? Hope in humans - a dying candle light. When someone’s struggling with trauma and depression, they need empathy, kindness, and compassion. Even if it’s not a thoughtful conversation, all they need is someone to hear them out, to be actively by their side. At times when life gets rough, all one needs is someone who values them and respects them. We fail to do this, especially when in love. Every day forward, I keep losing hope in humankind, in love, and in everything that used to be good in this world.
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Depressed
by creativeIdea7286
Last post
 Friday
...See more Here’s a rephrased version of your third message: --- When I was younger, my father used to physically and verbally abuse my mom. Our home was a very toxic environment because, although my dad showed me some affection, he often treated my mom terribly. He didn’t allow us to visit my maternal grandparents much. My mom stayed with him mainly due to a lack of financial security, as she came from a village where girls didn’t have the opportunity for higher education. My dad worked in the police force. Five years ago, the abuse reached a breaking point, and my mom took her own life. When my dad found her, realizing that his actions would be exposed, he also decided to take his life. In the aftermath, my grandmother (on my dad’s side) spread lies about my mom, claiming she had abused my dad, and said my mom didn’t let her speak to his family. None of this was true, but when I stood up and tried to correct her, my grandmother labeled me as rude and disrespectful. She started verbally abusing me too, using hurtful language and abuse continues to this day As a girl in India, I know what society expects from me—getting married by 21, having children by 23, and then possibly dealing with an alcoholic or drug-addicted husband, along with toxic in-laws. This pressure feels overwhelming, and it scares me to think about how my life might unfold, especially considering the abusive environment I’ve been living in. I feel trapped by these expectations and uncertain about my future.
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Trigger Warning: Drugging, Manipulation, Psychopathic Behavior
by 1amHuman
Last post
 Friday
...See more -------------------------  For over a year, I endured a cycle of manipulation, violence, and gaslighting that shattered my sense of reality. Not only did he hold a gun to my head on multiple occasions, including one time where I watched him load a shotgun before pressing it against my skull, but he also drugged me with meth for an entire month. I had no idea what was happening to me until I started noticing the changes in my behavior and the toll it was taking on my body. When I finally caught him using, his response wasn’t one of remorse but a chilling justification—he claimed that I used it too, so I couldn’t be mad at him. ------------------------- This manipulation was classic—he used the drugs to control me, keeping me in a vulnerable state so I couldn’t think clearly or leave. His psychopathic tendencies allowed him to view everything as a game—my pain, my fear, my dependence on him—it was all part of his twisted plan to dominate me. He never took responsibility for his actions, and his threats toward me and my family were constant. 9 months later and heavy police intervention and a court order, he continues to reach out daily, alternating between professing love and threatening my life. ------------------------- ------------------------- Thank You For Listening 🫶🏽

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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