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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
Last post
 December 13th
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 December 6th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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TW: COCSA…i think?
by ana26baka
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more i was just thinking about this randomly. a bit of a longer story…. • • • but when i was 5 i had this friend who i considered my best friend like i would go to her house many times after school for playdates. and i remembered that i told her i had a crush on this boy in my class but she said the only way he would like me back if i had s3% with her. Now at the time i had NO idea what that meant. she explained it to me. and *** i agreed but still i still didnt understand.  Anyways we “did it” one day when i was over her house. she had a whole plan and i basically said yea to go along. Now thinking back she was always sort of s3xu4l. she had older teen siblings so that could’ve been an influence in what she hears + sees. But ever since that happened I frankly have had this weird feeling in my gut when it came to anything sexual. I can admit at one point i was pretty hyper s3xu4l in my teens but now im completely turned off by the idea like even simple physical touch is awkward and sorta unwanted. idk am i reaching? i really pushed this situation down as a kid and tried to forget but its a memory i can see clearly :/  if you read all this ty. 
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Getting sexually assualted by someone I thought I could trust
by fashiond0lly
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more Are there any coping mechanisms I can use to cope with the trauma of being SA’d? I’m currently struggling and it’s affecting me physically and emotionally. Im not able to feel peaceful. I feel afraid all the time.
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My Silent Voice (Diary)
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Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My notes for today: Fake people with Fake motives yet they are the ones you are suppose to love and care about?? It is so hard to change me when daily I face the same unproductive crap that keeps feeding on my Traums's How do you get out of this dark hole when everything around you keeps dragging you into this pit. I never knew Love and I've had to make my pain my pleasure and find Happyness in it. Makes me wonder are some people born just to endure torrment and abuse. I trive as I just want to survive, The saying we all have the right to life and the pursuit of happyness. I'm still looking, still trying to find what should already be mine. ScarletPear1945
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Tw Sa, abuse
by lunne29
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Um hi, it's 3 am and my minds a mess, all thoughts jumbled up together. I just want to get it our or something idk. I'll probably regret it once I wake up and feel better lol. I just feel like what I have experienced will never be enough. I mean it could always be worse right? Ik I shouldn't be invalidating like this but I can't stop. I feel like if the abuse was never the worst, my trauma isn't valid.  I have experienced emotional abuse pretty much my whole life, still happens from time to time. But then I get called overdramatic or a crybaby for having meltdowns. But then there are nice moments with my parents, and end up thinking if I was actually being dramatic and it was never that serious. It's not like I remember most of the arguing and stuff because I disassociate through it all and forget. The line between the nice moments and abusive moments blur together and it's hard to identify one from another. Actually I don't remember huge chunks of my life, a few moments here and there. I think my mom has been physical as well during the childhood, but I barely have any memories from then so idk. It's not like anyone cared if she was, to them it was discipline, whats a slap or two? My dad has been physical with my brother, I remember them fighting and yelling. I know it happened alot when I was 11, and in turn my brother used to hit me. Once my mom and my brother were arguing, and I happened to be in the same room. He turned his aggression towards me and started strangling me, my mom got him off. I remember crying alot, and my mom yelling at me to stop crying as if nothing happened right in front of her eyes. His actions were always dismissed as siblings quarrel. Again at 11, I also had an abusive teacher. Used hit me and humiliate me in front of my peers for no apparent reason. It went on for a whole year. She would stop me from spending time with friends, insult me in front of everyone, make me a specific target for physical punishment, lie to my mom about me. I never understood why everyone liked her. Once again it was the norm, no one thought it serious. When I was 9 or 10 (I dont remember properly) I was touched inappropriately for the first time in a bus. I didn't ask for help bc i didn't know what was happening. I tried to get away but he didn't stop. Happened again at 11, this time I knew it was bad, that I should tell someone, but the words got stuck in my throat and never left. What's a few touches here and there. It's not like they even touched the skin, it was over clothes. I was more worried if anyone saw it happened (happened in public) and how disgusted they would be by me. It was just a few touches so why do they still bother me seven years later. I dont remember the aftermath of these two, but I remember the feeling of disgust to myself and feeling dirty. That's when my disassociation got worse I think, I dont remember much from my whole life, even this year as it passes by, or even the week and days as they go by become hazy and a huge blur all jumbled together. Like that kind of floaty feeling? Constantly. The thing is I can't sympathise with myself, my trauma never feels like mine if that even makes sense. I can only sympathise if I think of past me (specifically at 11 yo, the age most of the trauma occured) as a separate person, not an extension of me, it's easier like that, because then it's 'her' trauma, not mine. Ik it shouldn't be like this but I don't understand myself. Invalidating my trauma has been a huge part of what I have been dealing this whole year. There are good days when it is easy to convince myself of the abuse and trauma, but most of the days are bad. I can't stop questioning myself. Did it even count as SA? Was the abuse ever serious enough or am I being dramatic? The abuse will never be enough for me to think of myself a victim.
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My personal healing journey with flower essence
by Lieschen01
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more        Personal Journey with Flower Essence My personal journey with flower essences began during a profound period of grief and darkness. In February 2008, at the age of 19, I experienced the devastating sudden loss of my father. This traumatic event plunged me into an emotional abyss, leaving me feeling lost and overwhelmed by and in a dark depression. It was during this challenging time that a close friend, a holistic practitioner, introduced me to flower essences, specifically recommending Rescue Remedy and Star of Bethlehem. As I began incorporating these essences into my daily routine, I noticed subtle yet significant changes in my emotional state. The overwhelming waves of grief became more manageable, and I found myself better able to process my emotions without being completely overwhelmed by them. This experience sparked a deep interest in understanding how flower essences work and their potential for trauma recovery. Understanding Trauma and Flower Essences Trauma, as defined by van der Kolk, is "an experience of helplessness and terror" that fundamentally alters how we perceive danger. This definition resonated profoundly with my experience. I discovered that trauma healing requires looking inward and facing both visible and non-visible wounds. Flower essences are subtle liquid extracts made from the flowering parts of plants. Unlike essential oils or herbal remedies, they don't contain physical plant material. Instead, they are believed to carry the energetic or vibrational pattern of the flower. The process of making flower essences typically involves collecting fresh blossoms, floating them in pure spring water under sunlight, and then preserving the resulting infusion with brandy. Indigenous Trauma Theory and Complex PTSD Indigenous Trauma Theory expanded my perspective beyond individual trauma to understand the broader implications of collective wounds. This theory emphasizes the multigenerational impacts of colonization and historical oppression on Indigenous peoples, encompassing collective, cultural, and intergenerational aspects of trauma. Complex PTSD, with its five key features - emotional flashbacks, toxic shame, self-abandonment, a vicious inner critic, and social anxiety - described exactly what I was experiencing. The gentle nature of flower essences proved particularly effective in addressing these multiple layers of trauma response, offering support without overwhelming an already stressed system. Dr. Edward Bach's Work Dr. Edward Bach, born in 1886, was a British physician who developed the Bach flower remedies in the 1930s. During World War I, Bach worked with soldiers suffering from shell shock, which we now recognize as a form of PTSD. This experience likely influenced his later work with flower remedies. He observed that personality and emotional state played a crucial role in recovery and overall health. Bach's approach was revolutionary for its time. He moved away from conventional medicine, believing that healing should address the whole person, not just physical symptoms. His system of 38 flower remedies was designed to correct emotional imbalances, which he saw as the root cause of many physical ailments. Personal Experience and Effectiveness Through my experience with flower essences, I found them to be particularly valuable for addressing early childhood trauma and the effects of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). They offered gentle yet profound support for processing these deep-seated issues. I like to say they do behind the scenes work,because they work within our energetic bodies and they do this  without retraumatization. Specifically, I experienced: * A sense of calm during moments of overwhelming anxiety (Rescue Remedy) * Ability to process grief in a more gentle manner (Star of Bethlehem) * My night terrors slowly faded * A feeling of being more at peace Conclusion My journey with flower essences has been transformative, offering a gentle yet profound path to healing from trauma. While scientific validation of flower essences remains limited, the personal experiences of many, including myself, testify to their potential in trauma recovery. As we continue to explore and understand the intricate connections between mind, body, and spirit, flower essences stand as a promising tool in our healing arsenal. This holistic approach has been crucial in my journey toward wholeness, addressing trauma's impact on both body and spirit. Flower essences, with their subtle yet powerful influence, offer a path to this holistic healing, supporting us as we navigate the complex landscape of trauma recovery and personal growth. Works Cited: Bach, Edward. The Twelve Healers and Other Remedies. C.W. Daniel Company, 1936. Brave Heart, Maria Yellow Horse. "The Historical Trauma Response Among Natives and its Relationship to Substance Abuse." Journal of Psychoactive Drugs, vol. 35, no. 1, 2003, pp. 7-13. Felitti, Vincent J., et al. "Relationship of Childhood Abuse and Household Dysfunction to Many of  The Leading Causes of Death in Adults: The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study."  American Journal of Preventive Medicine, vol. 14, no. 4, 1998, pp. 245-258. Herman, Judith Lewis. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. Basic Books, 1997. Smith, Heidi. The Bloom Book: A Flower Essence Guide to Cosmic Balance. Sounds True, 2020. van der Kolk, Bessel A. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking, 2014.
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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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CPTSD, possible tw*
by amiableBlackberry92
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more I'm in the middle of a bad CPTSD episode. It's like a fog that hijacks the brain. It creates suicidall ideation thoughts out of nowhere. I'm tired. I'm sad. I feel alone. Distractions don't work. I've been doing this way too long. Triggers come from unexpected places. I hate those former friends who are gossipping untruths about me. I guess they are perfect with no trauma. Wish I was perfect like them * sarcasm. Is it possible to ever get well and get past some seriously cr*ppy trauma inflicted on me as a child and then as an adult. I feel defective and stupid. How did I get here? ABB 😓
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We're a DID system. Are you?
by moonphasesystem
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hi, we're seeking support from others, mostly another system, ideally close to our body age (34). We really can't find a space to talk with other traumagenic systems/those who live with DID. We've tried some forums but so many are outdated and barely seeing posts. Reddit and *** feel overwhelming with non-traumagenic plurality, which we don't want support from (or to get caught in a debate about).
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Let's be honest *no replies please* *TW*
by mytwistedsoul
Last post
 Monday
...See more I created this space for me to be able to write - whatever is on my mind that I may not want replies too. It isn't that I don't appreciate the replies - it's that alot of times I am really uncomfortable with the support. Sometimes it's the well meaning words get twisted around in my head - sometimes it the well meaning suggestions that are turned around and taking the wrong way. Sometimes - it's fear - rejection - judgement - fear of offending someone with what I say. Even now - the creation of this is - causing some anxiety - and I feel the edge of a panic attack - so let's take a pause and a few deep breaths I often don't feel as though I deserve support. I waste peoples time and feel like an inconvenience. With that in mind - I've been slowly going quiet The TW is because - well - lets be honest - if I'm going to put some of whats in my head and and I don't want replies - you dear gentle reader should be warned at least. Because there are times my head is a scary place - I'll say I'm sorry in advance because sometimes I do swear - I try not to and I try to remember replace some letters - but well sometimes I dont care and sometimes I forget. Idk - I suppose I should say sorry for my sense of humor in advance too - because sometimes it's alittle dark or alittle inappropriate So - let's post and panic over this now shall we?
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i’m still struggling deeply with my accident
by blackbird1026
Last post
 Monday
...See more i got in a very severe car crash this past wednesday, it was raining really harshly and i was taking one of those big loops to merge back onto a route. my car hydroplaned horribly, i went in one direction intially, hit the curb before i was able to go in the other direction. i lost control of the car and i hit a pole head on. it fell on top of my car. i can still vividly see the accident, as if im still stuck there. i can still feel the broken glass particles all over me, the cold air coming in from outside due to the back windshield being shattered by the pole falling on it. i’ll be at home and constantly it’ll come back to me randomly, the panic and anxiety will hit me and then i’ll be crying from i don’t even really know what, maybe fear. i can barely sleep, whenever i try my mind goes back to the crash, whenever i close my eyes it’s all i can see. the wrecked car, being alone and disoriented in the minute it took me to get myself snapped out of shock and call my dad. i can’t forget the feeling of pure unadulterated fear and panic coursing through every nerve, bone, vessel and inch of my skin. my parents have been really supportive, they don’t even care that the car is a total loss, they’re just very relieved i’m okay and only came out with a harsh seatbelt rash on my neck. the pictures of my crash are not pretty. it’s honestly a miracle that i came out almost unscathed. but i’ve always struggled talking to my parents, we have a long history of them being emotionally absent which we’ve been trying to rebuild over the past 2-3 years. i just still find it hard to talk to them in fear of being judged or invalidated. so i’ve just been feeling really alone and scared after my accident, even though my parents have been supportive, on friday i brought up what would happen when i needed to drive to class on monday night directly after work. my mom told me that im driving. and i checked the forecasted weather for monday. it’s supposed to rain. i tried saying i was scared to drive so soon, especially in the rain but they told me the sooner i get back behind the wheel the better. i just, i don’t know what to do. i’m deadly terrified to get behind a wheel again. especially not even a week after the accident. and i’m still struggling with coping. i am seeing a therapist, who i have expressed majority of these concerns to (a lot of them started after our session bc that’s when my post traumatic stress symptoms kicked in) and i do plan on talking to her about all of this when i see her again. but i would appreciate any advice, insight or just kind words, thank you <3
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Yesterday evening my father almost killed our dog
by 0anny0
Last post
 Sunday
...See more It's embarrassing the speed with which situations escalate with a person undergoing treatment for anger issues and how stupid i feel after seeking help with no success. The only plan for the evening was to cut the nails of our elderly good-girl dog. He just had to hold her still because she doesn't cooperate, she always resists: I make a mistake by cutting a little too much, she didn't even scratch, not even a sound, but her nail bleeds and she resists even more. I recognize when he snaps. He starts hitting her, repeatedly slams her against the furniture, once She hits her head. I help her escape going in the other room, but he reaches her again, he grabs her by the tail and pulls her into the room, hitting her head on the corner of the cabinet. I get on top of her screaming as loud as I can "enough! Enough! Enough!" Hoping the neighbors will hear.I pick her up and carry her to grandma on the other side of the house. Blood everywhere but it was from the nail, it was my fault. While my father was yelling about both the dog and me, my grandmother helped me hold it, I clean the blood, bandaged the paw, prepared the dinner. I know I had to report, I had this though repeating but I had fear he would certainly know I did it, I am the only one who could do that to him. My grandma would never, indeed even if she knew everything that just happened and she blames him because he's crazy, she calls him for dinner and eat it like normal, like they do everyday. So this "1522 app" came up to my mind considering it also allow to reach out via chat. I spent an hour chatting with an operator, who tells me I have to report to Animal protection but for sure he'll know it was me. I keep telling all the story of my father's condition (he takes psychotropic drugs but has never undergone therapy), that I am afraid of telling out loud because every other family member excuses him because he is psychologically unwell (they keep telling me "to behave accordingly, to not get him snap, because we all know he's unwell"). The operator said we are all abused victims, keep telling me to contact the anti-violence center... On Monday (it's Friday night). I keep asking for a writing contact because I'm afraid of being heard at the phone and I need support, I would use it immediately. I tell her that I'm at the end of myself, because when I see that scene in my head - I thought she could have died both times me dog hit its head. The night has gone, I couldn't reach anybody (I'm also without a car now - because he doesn't want to help me find a new one) and the dog can barely stand. My grandmother told not to tell anybody and he said "maybe he broke its back legs because he put too much strength holding them still. Yeah, because he never remembers what he did.
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A poem for you.
by hereforyounowalways3
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...See more I searched far and wide  I never reached it  I looked here and there I never found it  Where will i look for it Where will i see it How wide the ocean is How cloudy the sky looks Its like myself  Just edging to break down Just fighting to hold on Only now can i say I haven't looked there yet Only now will i say I wish i looked there Because i must find it I love the smile I love the cuteness  Everything around you glows Everything without you is me Please look this way I heard i looked good today Will i see another day  Another day of harming  Another day of happiness  How long i longed for How hard i cried for Sad it may look  Yet blessed i do feel Seconds are yours Mine is yours I wish the feathers would fall Into my hands at last

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
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