Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion

Thank you Laura. What a beautiful message! :)

I think this is beautiful. I know the struggle of self-forgiveness all to well. I have something I'm battling with now. I really don't know how to make it ok. I really don't gel I can forgive my self for this mistake.

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Wow, self forgiveness is something I need to work on!

I have a hard time forgiving myself for the mistakes I've made, especially when I should have known better.

For example, the other day, I actually tried talking to someone ('twas hard because I have social anxiety) and I messed up badly... said some really awkward things... tumbled over my words

.... And I mentally beat myself up for it. I was thinking why did I say that... I sounded like an idiot!

This happens often... and it used to get me feeling all discouraged, and sometimes I would stop talking to people for days after it happened. I just couldn't forgive myself for "messing up" like that.

Nowadays, I'm getting better at forgiving myself for being awkward in conversation. I keep talking to people even when I mess up, which is a HUGE improvement on my part!

Self forgiveness is very important because, if we are unable to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, then we will keep feeling bad about the mistake. We're all human, and we were made to make mistakes... it's a part of who we are. It's normal to mess up.

We must all try to remember that it's ok to make mistakes. You just need to get up from where you fell, dust off, and keep on going in life.

Mistakes are our teachers - they help us learn. If anything, when we make a mistake we should try to learn something from it. If we try to learn something from the mistake (even if it's "ok that was bad, I won't do it again"), it will help us grow.

Well, that was longer that I expected... but that's ok! :)

Hope you are all having a great day!

Stay strong & carry on.

I am posting so I remember to watch this later. I am always very hard on myself. To a fault. The people who love me most point it out and in that, I feel worse about being so hard on myself, that I apologize to them... It's hard to forgive yourself especially when your actions have caused huge consequences but it shouldn't be hard to not be so hard on myself for the day to day..

For the last couple of weeks I've been feeling crappy about myself about something that I did almost a month ago and this has really been impacting me from moving on and going forward with life. Because I screwed up, I feel like I don't deserve to move forward/taking action towards a goal of mine. It's really hard for me to forgive myself most of the time...

@Laura I have a question is self acceptance part of self forgiveness?

@Laura Thank you for the video; this is something I forget to do and end up beating myself over and over. I discovered another of your videos that I felt went very well with this one, Positive Self-talk & Reframing. Maybe a video on Acceptance could be helpful? Now I'm off to watch all your other videos !!

I like that, it is so true, living with anxiety makes it really hard, because when I mess up ,I develope a fear that I will always do that, so I tend to shy away from making big decisions, but I like how you said that we should accept that it happened and learn from it, after all none of us are perfect, even though my problem is , I think others expect me to be, my mind plays old tapes of my childhood, time to delete them and make more positive and more helpful ones, thanks Laura!

@Laura it's really challenging for me to forgive myself or to accept myself, but it's something that i know i can improve on. i think in my time here, self-forgiveness isnt something ive directly focused on, but now that its come up, i think its something i can get better at