Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion

When something has happened that you had control over all you can do is try not to repeat it. If you allow something to repeat, within your control, then you need to look at it in more detail. You are not learning if it repeats. Your feelings will continue to be negative if the situation repeats. If you were to "foregive yourself" then it would seem that you are OK with the repeated wrong events.

This video helped me out. I have so much guilt built up inside of me. Self forgivess seems to be out of the option. or was until this video. now Im going to start working on myself forgiveness

Great video...my problem is I'm dwelling on a mistake I made out of letting my emotions get the best of me. I accept it, regret it, and learned not to repeat that again. However, the person I hurt does not forgive me, nor believes anything I say when apologizing. It really puts me down as a person and doesn't allow me to move forward. Any advice?

very helpful

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on self forgiveness. ;-)

it's help me. thank you

This is really true and I think realizing why you did/said something helps. Knowing you are someone completely different is good. It has helped me move on and help grow. I forgave myself and it had been holding down and back from where I could be. Thank you that is so inspiring to think like that :)

The video really helped me start to pin point where my self deprecation comes from. I feel like I let people define me too much. Sometimes its not that I don't love myself, but that the things I love about myself are not always accepted by other people.

I never used to be self consciousabout my weight until someone called me fat. I had never thought that about myself. I actually loved my body before someone spoke out against it.How do you overcome the labels that people place on you? No matter how true or untrue, people's words hurt. Is there a way to love yourself beyond another persons hatred?

You've got to love yourself, be proud and comfortable in your skin. You're always going to have haters. But that's just a product of their own unhappiness and insecurities. They try to attack those they see as vulnerable. Try to ignore them. It's easier to do if you're confident in yourself. Don't let others define you, because you know who you truly are. Best of luck.

Wow this is Really Wonderful Laura...Thanks for Sharing was really Helpful to me!!

Thank you! I really needed to hear that today. I did something really terrible yesterday that I regretted. Forgiving me and moving on is the only way..

Gave me a lot to think about

Thank you for this. I shared it with my facebook friends.

Great post. Sometimes I find it hard to forgive myself because I worry that it might make me forget. But I am realizing that forgiving and forgetting are different and letting go of the shame of our past mistakes makes it easier to focus of being better in the future. It also helps me embrace self love. Which I think is the first step to loving others. I appreciate the reminder of self forgiveness.

Thank you for sharing this video.

Great advice!

Forgiving oneself is one step but then the challenge is moving forward after letting it go.

thanks for the video...

Sure, was there anything in particular that you learned?

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It's important to forgive ourselves we all make mistakes

@shyMap8400

Agreed :)

Thank you Laura. What a beautiful message! :)

@GuideOnTheSide

I am so glad you like it !

I think this is beautiful. I know the struggle of self-forgiveness all to well. I have something I'm battling with now. I really don't know how to make it ok. I really don't gel I can forgive my self for this mistake.

@starfire6915

What holds you back from self-forgiveness? Do you understand what it is?

:)

Wow, self forgiveness is something I need to work on!

I have a hard time forgiving myself for the mistakes I've made, especially when I should have known better.

For example, the other day, I actually tried talking to someone ('twas hard because I have social anxiety) and I messed up badly... said some really awkward things... tumbled over my words

.... And I mentally beat myself up for it. I was thinking why did I say that... I sounded like an idiot!

This happens often... and it used to get me feeling all discouraged, and sometimes I would stop talking to people for days after it happened. I just couldn't forgive myself for "messing up" like that.

Nowadays, I'm getting better at forgiving myself for being awkward in conversation. I keep talking to people even when I mess up, which is a HUGE improvement on my part!

Self forgiveness is very important because, if we are unable to forgive ourselves for our mistakes, then we will keep feeling bad about the mistake. We're all human, and we were made to make mistakes... it's a part of who we are. It's normal to mess up.

We must all try to remember that it's ok to make mistakes. You just need to get up from where you fell, dust off, and keep on going in life.

Mistakes are our teachers - they help us learn. If anything, when we make a mistake we should try to learn something from it. If we try to learn something from the mistake (even if it's "ok that was bad, I won't do it again"), it will help us grow.

Well, that was longer that I expected... but that's ok! :)

Hope you are all having a great day!

Stay strong & carry on.

@TalkativeIntrovert123 Agreed! Thank you for posting this!

@B342213b - And thank you for thanking me!

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I am posting so I remember to watch this later. I am always very hard on myself. To a fault. The people who love me most point it out and in that, I feel worse about being so hard on myself, that I apologize to them... It's hard to forgive yourself especially when your actions have caused huge consequences but it shouldn't be hard to not be so hard on myself for the day to day..

@Starchildren10 .... hey, just a post to remind you.... have you watched Laura's video yet? It's worth it :) Platy

For the last couple of weeks I've been feeling crappy about myself about something that I did almost a month ago and this has really been impacting me from moving on and going forward with life. Because I screwed up, I feel like I don't deserve to move forward/taking action towards a goal of mine. It's really hard for me to forgive myself most of the time...

@Laura I have a question is self acceptance part of self forgiveness?

@Laura Thank you for the video; this is something I forget to do and end up beating myself over and over. I discovered another of your videos that I felt went very well with this one, Positive Self-talk & Reframing. Maybe a video on Acceptance could be helpful? Now I'm off to watch all your other videos !!

I like that, it is so true, living with anxiety makes it really hard, because when I mess up ,I develope a fear that I will always do that, so I tend to shy away from making big decisions, but I like how you said that we should accept that it happened and learn from it, after all none of us are perfect, even though my problem is , I think others expect me to be, my mind plays old tapes of my childhood, time to delete them and make more positive and more helpful ones, thanks Laura!

@Laura it's really challenging for me to forgive myself or to accept myself, but it's something that i know i can improve on. i think in my time here, self-forgiveness isnt something ive directly focused on, but now that its come up, i think its something i can get better at

Thank you for sharing this @Laura. When I try to forgive myself I think of something Dr Maya Angelou said - "When you know better, you do better." You also said something like that (the person you were in that moment). So I try to remember that I did the best I knew how at the time and I am hoping to do better in the future, even while realising that I will make mistakes again and that it is human and it will be okay.

Thanks Laura, I really appreciate this video, what you said, what you shared and what you instructed.

@Laura

Thank you for this video. I struggle with guilt a lot. Even if it's not justified, it's hard to let go. It's even more difficult to forgive myself when I truly believe I made a mistake. As others mentioned, it's helpful to imagine my older, "wiser" self (a "friend") talking kindly to me from the past. These kind words of love and acceptance make it a bit easier to soften my heart and be more self-forgiving.

Thank you for making this video.This is a difficult concept. I struggle a lot with anxiety from guilt over a whole number of things and very recently have been working on ways to cope with something I did with very little luck. I don't feel I am close to start thinking about forgiveness right now- but will keep this in mind!

@Laura Great video, thank you for sharing! Right now, I'm still in the process of recovery, and so at this very moment, I feel as though I cannot forgive myself for most things that I have done. But I forgive myself for the little things.