For All Victims of Bullying ❤

As somebody who's been bullied before, twinni let me just say i love this. ❤

@NewRomantic677

Thanks sweets <3

also, Twinnie* but sure, tehre. All covered up ;) #EnoMoves.

@NewRomantic677 So sorry to hear this.

Amazing thread, @221Skye!

And very well pointed out all those important things someone needs to know about bullying!

@cristiana33

Thanksies Cristi! <3 Do add on, if you've any thoughts sometime :D

@cristiana33 I agree with what your saying.

You gotta stop with the blowing my mind thing *gasp* I am not sure if I can handle it anymore! The perfectness of this post (THE LITTLE NUMBER BULLET POINTS, GAHH) is overwhelming for lesser beings. <3 Skye, like always this is so amazing and I am really proud of you for doing it! I agree with everything you said wholeheartedly and thank you for doing this my lovely <3

@amazingrea

GAHH YES THE LITTLE BULLET POINTS. I'm highly amused that that's what you pointed out xD Thanksies Rea, I'm glad you agree. <3

@221Skye Your brilliant writing was implied silly :P

@amazingrea YYEAHH THE NUMBER BULLET POINTS WERE IMPRESSIVE xD

@amazingrea @NewRomantic677

goodness, you retardos ❤ ❤

Hey Skye!

Awesome thread! This is a topic that has a lot to do with me and hits home very close. I was bullied for the most part of my childhood. When I was a kid I was very shy and when I entered primary school (In a different school), it was hard. The teacher took a special liking in hating me and abused many of us. I had only one friend and that was the quietest year of my life. My mother found out and the next year I changed school again.

It was worse, way worse. There I spent the worse 4 years of my life. I swear it was a jungle. Where you had to fight to survive and not be eaten by others stronger. I became someone I didn't want to be because of that. When I reached the last year I passed there I was someone else completely different from whom I was when I entered. I didn't like it. I was violent and I had become one of them. They used to ignore me, pull my hair, call me names, make me cry, make my headache and mostly, make it seem like I deserved it and make me take the blame with the adults... Leading up to sexual abuse.

I was never one to keep quiet, I guess that I learned the rules of the jungle and throw the punch back as hard...

The last two years of my primary school were weird. Third school, public school. The other two were private and full of rich guys so this was definitely a change. Every school I started I did it with the aim of being someone else, better. I have built myself over and over again trying to be better, for others. Change my attitude and the way I acted. (There is some things you can't change though, as I have always been the nerd). It was better. I made good friends finally, and although we don't talk anymore now that we are in secondary school... I still appreciate them even though they were very different from me, that didn't mean we couldn't be friends.

I found my space when I entered secondary school. I made the best of friends and I am proud of them. I'm not one to trust friends easily.

I could never get rid of that attitude though. I made an irreversible change after being bullied for so many years, and although that's not something that's happening to me right now the effects of it still affect me. They destroyed me and crushed me again and again until I almost couldn't be back on my feet again.

That being said (I feel like I'm rambling a little...). I'm here to beg you not to stay quiet. That's the worse you can do. I never talked about the sexual abuse they were inflicting me. My mom pressed me until I told her, after crying and crying because I had been punished by the headmaster for running in the stairs. What was I running from? I was running from him. From them. I didn't want my mom to tell anyone about it but she did it anyway. Because I said, "If I say something, it'll be worse." My mother started crying after that not believing the words that came out of my mouth.

It's not okay. We can not allow them to treat us like this. Never. By any circumstance. It's not okay and we all have to do something about it. Speak it out, as loud as you can and as many times needed till you make it stop. There won't be other way to stop it if no one else finds out. Believe me I tried, I thought I could take care of it myself but the truth is that I couldn't.

I believe in you.

@MelAllyouneedislove

Firstly, Mel thank you thank you thank you SO much for typing that. It made me cry, and I could relate so clearly to what you were saying. I am so sorry you went through that, it is the worst thing and it feels completely crushing. It's hard to get up from that fall. You are so immensely strong. I didn't know I could admire you more than I already do, but apparently I can <3

"I'm here to beg you not to stay quiet. That's the worse you can do." This is something I agree with a 578%. Or more. My maths sucks. My point is: Speak up. It's the first step to making things better, and yes as many times as it takes to be heard.

@MelAllyouneedislove reading this gave the feels. You're soo soo strong ❤

@MelAllyouneedislove

Mel, thank you for sharing this. Thinking back to my own experiences I know it was not easy to share this, but I really think it will have helped someone, heck, it helped me be reassured that I did not tattle that, I chose myself, I chose my safety, my mental health, and I chose my happiness.

I also want to add something: for me, the bullying did not get better, my school was terrible and the bullying took place on a school bus (mainly, the really bad stuff, at least) and so it did not stop. And that sucked. But, my mum knew, and my dad knew, and they pulled me out of school, and I went to a new school.

That school made me happier than I had been in 5ish years, it changed my life to be perfectly honest.

So, to add to Mel's perfect post: People say that leaving a school because of bullying is running from your problems and lets them win, but you know that? I would rather run and be called a wimp than to still have an eating disorder and depression. To hate myself and to hate my body with every speck of energy inside my body. The words and the things they did to me have stayed with me, maybe they always will, but, THEY haven't. I am gone, out of that situation and they can't break me if I am not there to be broken. Also, just for the record, you aren't a wimp, not at all. You were brave enough to admit and to accept that what was happening wasn't right or healthy and wasn't going to take you anywhere good, anytime soon. I wish I had told someone the first week it started, not 3+ years after. 3 years is too long, I implore you not to wait.

Sorry I ramble a lot <3 :P

@amazingrea

YOU GUYS RAMBLE VERY WELL. I would just like to say~ yes, there is NO shame in asking for help and even lesser shame in leaving the situation and le scene of the crime. It is not cowardly to leave an impending volcanic eruption, nor a beach about to be hit by a tsunami. It's smart and right to do. <3

"I wish I had told someone the first week it started, not 3+ years after. 3 years is too long, I implore you not to wait." This. THIS. Do give a voice to what's happening, you can get out faster. <3

@221Skye OMG YES. No one would ever tell a Tsunami victim: "you should have stayed, it is unhealthy to run from problems." THEY WOULD TELL THEM TO GET THE HECKKITY OUT OF THEIR AND SEND ARMY TROOPS TO HELP. *just saying*

Also, thankies for liking that, I was worried it was too much <3

Gahh. I noticed my #EnoMove as it was posting *buries into hole" @NewRomantic677 come disguise it for me love? <3

@amazighngreha wtah? Whta do yyuo wnat me to disiguse #FixedIt @amazingrea

@NewRomantic677 You did it perfectly! <3

@Mel Thanks for sharing your story with us.

I am sure it will help a lot of people.

Hey @221Skye, sorry for the fashionably late reply Hahaha but it was a really fantastic post and I love it! It's a topic close to my heart and if only I can read all of these in that stage of my life! You're really awesome for sharing these tips on how the victim should react and how people are able to help them. It does provide them with support and makes them feel less alone. (And those number points look awesome )

@221Skye, see even atmosphere agrees! ;) :P

@YayyySphere @amazingrea

Good lord, you weirdos xD I'll teach you where to find those bullet points chill D:

Thank you sphero <3 I'm glad you think this might be helpful, it's the best thing I would want out of this post. If you have anything to add on at any point, do it!! :D <3

There is a lot of bullying that goes on in my school. People come to our school to talk to us but it doesn't make a difference. What are ways to really STOP bullying?

@calmApricot8242 I see I'm rather late, and for that, I'm so sorry ♥ Hmm, by stop, do you mean stop a current bullying experience or the entirety of bullying in the world?

For the former, I strongly believe the best way is to speak up. Silence isn't the answer. There is NOTHING wrong with voicing what's happening. It's tough, can be dangerous, and should be done in a sensitive way to the right person but it is still one of the most amazing ways. I'd like to refer you to Mel's post above!

For the latter, well, this is infinitely harder, we can't just stop all of bullying unfortunately as it's too numerous. But what we CAN do is spread love and perpetuate a culture of kindness. It's a small step but the more people do it, the less people will be resorting to bullying.

Hope some part of that made any sort of sense! PM me if you'd like to talk ♥

@calmApricot8242 So sorry to hear this.

Thank you so much for the awesome post. These are definitely things to keep in mind when you encounter the bullying problem in your life and often times people get too caught up with the situation they forgot how to handle it.

Sincerely,

Sacchan

@sacchan You're super duper welcome! I'm glad you think it can be helpful under those uber stressful times ♥

@sacchan This is very true.

Thanks for pointing this out.

To be honest I'm from those who bullies others

@Abir Heya ♥ That must be tough to deal with in its own way, and hopefully the people here and the post has given you some insight into the victim's end of things. I would just like to refer you to a truly wonderful post by my twinnie for anyone who's been a bully. Hope you enjoy it, lovely! ♥

Unfortunately, I took longer than I should have to reply but hope that sufficed anyway

Thank u, it is helped but on the other side made me feel worse

@Abir

You can always PM a listener to talk about it. ♥ I'm glad it's helped at least a little.

IIt sounds like this feed is mostly for kids. But I have to say you can be bullied as an adult and it's just as disempowering.

@turquoiseYard6069

Hmm, that's true yard! Since I am a teen, I suppose I unconsciously drifted towards that age group, but being bullied as an adult must definitely feel just as bad, and completely rid us of self esteem. Perhaps, it'd be a good idea to write a similar post aimed at adults. Thanks so much for sharing that ♥

hi

@221Skye

@turquoiseYard6069 Yes you can be bullied as an adult as well.

Thanks for raising this point with us.

It doesn't matter ,they don't know you personally ,play wth sarcasm 😊

Helpful post. Thank you for sharing.