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Relationship Stress Community: Check-In (Dec 16 - 22)
by KatePersephone
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello there, Relationship Stress Community! To start off this week… * How are you feeling today?  * What’s a song you could listen to on repeat forever? * Cozy socks or fluffy blankets? Excited to hear from all of you! Have a great week ahead <3 ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSefNgW-Va7dyBx67M3d27INmkndnwm1C3Ywa7NJoFa2EscQkA/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- tagging the community: @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding 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@LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81 @modestRaspberries7557 @BeautifullyLostxo @batgirl1234
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New to the Relationship Stress Community? Introduce yourself here!! ❤️
by ASilentObserver
Last post
 December 12th
...See more Greetings from the Relationship Stress Community!! Are you new to the Relationship Stress Community? Tell us some things about yourself and get to know others that joined the community this month! Question prompts: What brings you to the Relationship Stress community? What is one thing you love most about yourself (or, perhaps, your loved ones)? Benefits of being a member of the Relationship Stress Community: Give and receive support from others who are in relationships. Share your relationship journey (memories, struggles, challenges) in relevant topics comfortably. Participate in community activities and events (eg. Check-ins, Icebreakers, Forum Discussions) Plus, members who participate regularly could become part of the Relationship Stress team, as well! Here are some quick links for you to check out: our taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Join in to get updates on discussions and events. check out this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/] for updates on weekly discussions! check out our newest check-in [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressCommunityCheckInDec915_342093/] here! check this post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/RelationshipSupport_66/IntroduceyourselftotheRelationshipCommunity_239/HowToGetStarted_134558/] with more information on how to navigate the community. If you have any question, do not hesitate to contact KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] (teens and adults) or reply on this thread! Do not be a lurker! Join us and introduce yourself here!! tagging our newest subcribers: @lovingGrapefruit8860 @raspberryKiwi4131 @turquoiseNest9943 @pluckyAcres9036 @patientMango4300 @peanut123456789 @Dash0 @PuffyCloud23 @understandingComputer9065 @MaCara @automatonic @sincereLion3371 @MuresanAndre @VelvetPoppy @GreenBlaze @persistentBalsam5393 @ggoidell @RamneetKaur  @charlenedelfin @skyraven02 @sereneMuse @Astraois42 @djadee @energeticShade4362 @loyalPeach3985 @pumpkincatmother @Mokuro @drowningmermaid88 @azureCoconut2121 ard [a brown and white bear dancing together while holding hands] ------------------------- Are you new to the Relationship Stress community? Introduce yourself here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/NewtotheRelationshipStressCommunityIntroduceyourselfhere_164924/]! Do you want to be the first to get updates on discussions and events? Consider joining the taglist [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressAutomatedTaglist_222210/]! Do you want to be updated on the weekly discussions in the Relationship Support Room? Subscribe to this thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/relationships/CommunitySpace_1256/RelationshipStressGroupSupportSessionsSchedule_316598/]! Do you want to help out in the Relationship Stress Community? Consider becoming a forum supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSehAkk72S0RWV1oQ5zShECQ6s-_fDYaxPE974iHorzqNRo1Ag/viewform] or a room supporter [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSetyJ7jp7W52-EIpqvFYLhfmpsgTW4BbzUwmi9r22OQ9AdH8w/viewform]! ------------------------- Edited by KatePersephone [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 16.12.24
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Relationship Stress Automated Taglist
by Tazzie
Last post
 December 9th
...See more Welcome to the Relationship Stress Taglist! This thread is an auto-updating list. The list is regularly updated and can be found below. Please direct any questions or issues to tommy [https://www.7cups.com/@tommy] via private message. Why should I join the taglist? ✔ Never miss out on the weekly check-ins ✔ Get tagged and notified by community leaders whenever a new relevant thread has been posted ✔ Become a more active member of the community. What do I need to do? ✅ To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. ❌ To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please remove me. Taglist updated by KateDoskocilova [https://www.7cups.com/@KatePersephone] on 01.12.24 @00Nyx00 @1funredhead @4Jasmine @6Dragonflies @aabrah @Aathmika @AbbyHarris1976 @abiior @AbusgaKayatasha @Adarlya @adhdgal1992 @adribrown7 @adventurousPal4301 @Affliction1 @Albatrosinthesky @Allieeee1121 @AlyGalaxy @AmandaRose89 @AMomentInTime1830 @Anexmos @Angelcrossing1986 @AnotherPerson92 @answers @AntenorA @aPeacefulafternoon @AquaNavySky @Arman13 @ashlynnmarie22 @AshtynLuv97 @Asru @Athenathebluejay420 @Auditormadness9 @auntmommy @Avaboo @AveryLove @awkwardRice @azureSky1487 @Bea945 @beanie @BeginningFixing @blueberryjean345 @blueDog2773 @BlueEast @Booklover95 @Bossedupx3 @bouncyVoice4149 @braveGlobe2817 @bravePeach4448 @breeuniqemsns @Breevus @brightOcean2387 @BrooklynM @Bubbles120 @bubblyFaith17 @bunnyhugs616 @Busranurr @BwahahaLove @c9frexs @caitlin1217 @Callies07132017 @CalmingStar @Calmpineapple @caringCreature8571 @CaringCharlie @CarrieHolmes @Cexe @charmingbeauty55 @ChrisA97 @Chrisbgood46 @Clarisse29 @Colourfultiger @ComingOutAsNB @CompassionateYoshi88 @confidentVision4766 @conscientiousPineapple1782 @ConversationThot404 @Cparsons816 @CraigyP @crazycountry210 @creativeComputer2115 @DanaMH @dancersoul @dancingLake682 @DanielaC @DanielGarzaV @daydreammemories @decisiveScarf8956 @Den2542 @discreetShip7372 @DogFish1 @doodlefroggie @dopey @EchoTheDragon @electricLily13 @ella12346 @ELLE @Emirson2018 @EncouragingSteps @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @eohseo @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @EvolvedScorpio @Explorer6115 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @faithfulHickory1025 @Falkenberg @fantasticDancer50 @Feepersane @Floatingbubbles @fluffycow27 @forcefulFriend4768 @Foreverchangedbyyou @Francescahelps @FranklyMaple @Freshmelon54 @Friendlycomfort81 @frostedPudding @Gabrielamtineo @generousWriter2778 @glasseyedgrace @GodsBabyGirl1981 @goldenFlower74 @gracefulVoice9463 @grassup @Gtalker8845 @GusteeMoon123 @gymnast9460 @Hailey3 @hairyxsnail @HarmonyBlossom @Hashib22 @HealingBrokenWIngs @healingHeart1111 @healinghearts0718 @Healingwhispers14 @Heartofgold07092019 @heavenlyHug9328 @helloapple1885 @helloCity5743 @hereforyoualways123 @heysunshine12 @hippiewannabe @honestWater4345 @honeypie720 @Hope3729 @hopefulPower54 @HopefulPower54 @HumorousPear1826 @iDeepScar @ILikeCilantro @imaginativeneverhappening @imofficiallyburnt @IMott71 @imrose123 @independentClementine6064 @infinitivethoughts2k19 @ingeniousfriend59 @intuitiveSummer6764 @JamilaBrownPsyD @Janet33 @JellyBean299 @jerom222 @joiefae @jwong611 @k87 @Kailah15 @kasmin21 @Katee02 @Katheryn @KatLis123 @Katrine92 @Kentsch @ketket68 @Kevin2009 @kindJoy3316 @kindLemon2749 @kizzyaaliyah @Kpopcat2020 @LadyDair @LadyInSilence @Lalonso2 @LavenderHere @lavenderOrange4849 @LeafOnABranch @LeoisListening @LePapillon @Lexloveslife @lightDrum8955 @lightLemonIsaac5408 @LightSoul108 @limeVillage7000 @Liv143 @Lovelylady18 @Lunasel @Lunaticphilosopher @luvkyleigh @lyricalPillow74 @lyricalpillow74 @madels20033 @magicalHorizon48 @mamapants @Mared @MarvelousMack11 @Mavvinder @mbrito712 @Mellietronx @Mellifluous11 @Mia1602 @MidwesternCalmSeeker @MikkyA @MilaAvery @MissDaria18 @MithLycos @modestPine7046 @Morpheus13 @MotherOfAVirgo @Mountainmystic777 @Mrrytu @MyownkindaCrazzi @nabilah17ism @navyOcean3488 @ngsuling1986 @niceCLEMEMTINE1415 @niceDaisy36 @Ninab0bina123 @ninetaleslove @NityaSpiritualHealer @NotAllHere713 @Offmytrack @onedirection1213 @OneErased @Open2Change @ouiCherie @OwenJackson73 @pandaprincess9 @Pandora3796 @pathFinder1725 @patientBranch9284 @peachkitty @PerpetuallyKekastrophic @persistentShade5213 @phia7292 @phia7293 @pioneeringSkies8568 @PlumBeechwood7549 @purpleMango7295 @PurplePansies21 @Purplerain00001 @purpleTree4652 @PurpleVelvet @quickwittedOwl8855 @quitahearsyou @Radioguy @Randomguyuk @Rebekahwriter13 @red85 @Rednuc270539 @rheyoflight @richbich @rieeavery1920 @RoboPhantom @Roro36 @RoseJuliet @rosenova1513 @rrrak @ryha3274 @Sadstan869 @Saeraleis @safetysource12 @Sailor57 @SaimaK @sarahR2004 @SavoyTruffle20 @selfloveisthecure88 @SentientiaPoecile @Seri123 @sgtdavis33 @ShareenBirgesBASSCounGDYMH @ShawnMendesGoals @She13 @ShineWithin @shugha14 @Siciturastra @Silver0824 @sincereFarm2814 @Skybar @skyfallingrain @Skywalker2002 @Skyy0 @sociableOcean9153 @Softheart01 @Solivagant2609 @somewhathappy @SophieKate547 @SparklingSnowflake15 @Spiritseaker @SpreadPeaceandlove @SpringWaltz @SquishySquid01 @StardustLetters @starplucker123 @Stephen @stephi0504 @strawberrywillow @Sugarcoat3 @SugareeIsMe091121 @Summershy @sunnyApricot6027 @SupportiveMonkey46 @sweetcake0707 @sweetlife101 @SylvestreX @Tahja07 @Tazzie @thegirlnatureforgot625 @TheMcManager @TheMushroomMan1216 @thisllpass @thisthenewme @Tiger222 @TranquilSkye @TravellingPrincess @tryingmybest7 @unassumingHuman4669 @understandingWater785 @Uniquesmiley @urbanwave @vallllllllllllll @w305 @warmheartedPlace7925 @Warrior2684 @Waves4 @Webehejdjfj @weirdbook @Wildarkberry @WinglessYetFlying @Wittie96 @WriterOfTheNight @WunderfrogWeirdo @xandia @XanFransisco @Xerah @YankeeOrangetiger @SpiritTea @Grammy23 @quietlistener2023 @HopefulOne81 @modestRaspberries7557 @BeautifullyLostxo @batgirl1234
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Sex life struggling.
by calmLunch2881
Last post
 10 minutes ago
...See more I'm struggling with depression for 9Y. 3Y ago it was intensified by postpartum depression. My housband is my first lover, and we are struggling with our sex life for past 9Y. His libido was much higher than mine to start with, but mine is nonexistent at times. This lead to many arguments resulting in compromises where I performed sex activities when I didn't feel like it. That led to me disliking sex, but felt the need to satisfy him. Now I know that the pressure for sex led to me hating the act altogether. My housband had many complaints of my non happy face during sex and me treating it as a chore. 1Y ago I stopped breastfeeding to start different meds (psychotropic) in hopes that they would bring my libido back. Turns out my problems are more complex and ofc that did not work. I'm starting psychotherapy with sexuologist, to cover my dislike for sex. Housband wants a divorce, because in past 2 months I did not bring him to ***. I don't want to hurt my child with divorce and cause him attachment problems. Should I just go back to having sex (including oral)? Maybe a divorce is a good idea? Any ideas for other fix to satisfy my housband? He pushes for divorce on daily basis now and wants me to agree to shared custody, but since I'm the main caregiver to our child I don't agree on that being a good solution.
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Need help with TERRIBLE retroactive jealousy
by Dilpreets23
Last post
 34 minutes ago
...See more Well i have a girlfriend who had been in a 2 year relationship with someone before me. They had done wild sexual things and have made so many memories together in general. I don’t know what to do but i can’t get over it. She has reassured me and showed me that she has changed and is saying that everything was a mistake and she didn’t want to do any of it. Even when i’m hanging out with her , I always have a bad gut feeling or i’m having bad vivid thoughts of her and her ex. They’ve done so much together sexually and in general. I don’t want to do but I really want to be with her.
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I'm only posting because I have to
by Sturmpanzer
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more As Mt title says
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I’m in a relationship with a girl who cannot stand to be kissed
by willingCranberry8588
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Every time I try to kiss her she turns away or practically refuse
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I am not good enough for a Girlfriend.
by tryingtosurvive2024
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more I am a guy.  I am a Christian.  I have a learning disability called ADHD/ADD.  I wrote a post about Church hurt where I go into details on why I am not in Church anymore.  I once prayed that if I could be around Women then I might learn how to get along with them.  Did that prayer get answered?  I honestly don't know...  My learning disability and  other mental health problems cost me two jobs before landing the job I am currently in.  22 years ago, I had no idea I would get stuck where I am at. I am currently working for a School.  I clean 2:00pm - 10:30pm.  The school has around 50 Women employed, from Office Workers, Cafeteria workers, Teacher Aids, and the Teachers.  Over the course of 22 years I have had lots of little interactions/talks with some of the Women there.  97% of them are already married.  What I think I have learned from my experiences is that I'm not "boyfriend" material.  It constantly feels like I got to walk on eggshells around them. Since my real life is like this, I decided to try online.  In the early days, it was easier for me to find a woman to talk too.  But the women I would meet was always long distance away, and they were not right for me.  As time went on, I found that it became harder and harder to even meet them.  Since I have found myself thinking about this again for the 1 Billionth time.  I decided I would write about it.  See I just wrote something about it. What is wrong with me?  I think the main thing that is wrong with me is my learning disability.  Somehow it effects everything about me, including my body language.  The lack of connection causes depression, and everyone around me can tell that is happening too.  It is like a circle that I can't get out of it.  But one thing I can do is write about it.
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Aversion to noise
by determinedSea4370
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Does anyone else deal with this? I live in a house with thin walls and whenever anyone talks on the phone or turns on the TV, I lose my mind a little bit. I feel like the sounds trespass into my space and I feel violated- I either start having a mild anxiety attack or I get depressed and paralyzed. Like the sounds are an attack, like they are pushing me out of the house and taking up all the air until there is no room left for me. This happens to me in my house and sometimes I just fall into a depressive slump because of it and other times I can shut myself into the closet in the far side of the house to escape any chance of a noise attack. This whole noise aversion thing was one of the main reasons I couldn't live in a dorm or apartment- I would get anxiety attacks all the time and I would spoil any chance of socializing because I would make sure I was only there to sleep. If I had to be in the apartment or dorm, I would usually end up drinking myself silly or self-harming and blasting music in my ears until my head hurt. I feel insane because when I tried to explain this to my parents they just accused me of being overly sensitive and my friend told me I was just spoiled. I need to socialize and get out there in the world, but sounds absolutely kill me.
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Relationship break after 4 1/2 years
by intuitivePenguin4529
Last post
 15 hours ago
...See more Hi all, I’d just like to gain some insights from people on here regarding my situation. I apologize if this is a bit long. So i’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years, been through college, travelling and so many memories together. i truly see him as my partner and bestfriend. We’d always talk about the future, getting married, kids and he wrote songs about me. I’ve never felt more safe and comfortable being myself around him. We recently graduated from college, and he decided to join training for the guards straight after and I decided to take a year off before pursuing my masters as I felt severely burnt out. I’m so so proud of him and I love being here to support him as his cheerleader. Recently, I felt like I was giving a lot more effort than he was in the relationship but I always just said it’s because he has his career to prioritize right now so I was okay with it. I always tried to call him to check up on him, how his day was going and tried my best to show my appreciation. At one point, I started to feel lonely? He was drinking with his friends and I was waiting for a call even if it was a little late, I waited. I was happy he was enjoying his time but I couldn’t stop the feeling of craving his attention a little bit more, you know? I was waiting sometimes hours for a text back or i’d expect a call after his night and he’d forget or just be too tired. anyway, i tried to understand and he made time for me once a week. I cleared off my schedule to have Saturdays specifically for him. And that was our time to spend together. Whenever we’d spend time together, he was always feeling tired and I just wanted to be in his presence, ofcourse I wanted physical intimacy but I knew he was exhausted so I never pushed for it. After many weeks of trying to life his spirits up, i got a little upset because when I do see him I just wanted him to show some love. It never turned into a fight or an argument but i’d express my feelings and he’d apologize and say he was just really tired. Then after that, we’d decided on a day after his stage 1 training where we’ll have a sleepover. I was super excited, even called him to bring his big snoodie so we can cuddle and be comfortable. He picks me up after work and then parks near my house and then all of a sudden says “I think we need to break up”. I didn’t get any clues that he was feeling anything negative that day so it absolutely broke me. He explained that he has been feeling emotionally distant the past few weeks and feels he couldn’t be there for me emotionally and physically. I reassured him that it was okay because I understood that he was always exhausted and apologized if I ever did or said anything to make him upset. I practically begged for him to give us a second chance, which probably made me look so dumb. We were just crying together and even though I was upset I couldn’t bring myself to yell at him or get mad at him… I left after a little while and broke down in front of my mom. I called my friend and she said I should call him again and talk it out. So we called again two hours later, I offered the alternative that maybe he just needs a break. Give him time and space because he’s overwhelmed and stressed and maybe I was adding to that. So i told him that time and space away from me might help him think. As much as it hurts me, it might be what he needs.. and it’s a decision that I’m also a part of because it allows me to think too. we agreed to some ground rules like no contact, and no talking, texting or seeing other people. I’ll be gone for a month to my home country (the timing also wasn’t the best because I’m leaving in a few days), so after I’m back we can reassess. We have a set date to talk about everything. I’m anxious, hurt and overwhelmed because I feel like throwing away 4 1/2 years of happiness together all of a sudden doesn’t sit right with me.. I wish he could have talked to me about how he was feeling instead of letting it build up and settling with breaking up as the conclusion. I love and care about him so much, but I know that I should prepare for the worst and hope for the best. it will suck not talking to him while I’m in my home country, I have so many things I wanna show him but this might be what he needs… how do I deal with this? could he come back to me potentially? I don’t really know how to feel at the moment because sometimes i’d just randomly break down and start crying, I also don’t wanna ruin the holiday for my family so I’m trying to stay positive. any advice is appreciated <3
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Upcoming holidays
by needlenelly
Last post
 16 hours ago
...See more I was wondering how everyone who is recently single is preparing for the holidays. I thought I was pretty ok, also because I have to work at Christmas and new years (I'm a nurse), but it is starting to get a little weird being single and without children now that Christmas is almost there. I was feeling happy buying and making personal gifts for my family and friends, really ok with everything. But now I'm feeling a little sad knowing I'm travelling all by myself at christmas eve to my brother. It's a 2,5 hour drive, then dining with my family, as we do every year. The next day I'm heading back to work again untill january 2th. Normal life again but still the feeling that it's different this time, frustrates me (I broke up with a cheating and lying psychopath after 4 years. Didn't know who he really was untill I found everything out in one day and just got out of the door as quickly as I could) Sorry for this chaotic story, but I'm honestly wondering how to get through these days being happy. I don't want to be in a bad mood when I'm with my family. I'm pretty calm about everything that happened, working through my days a little zombie like. But inside my head a lot happens and my heart still hurts.. Every tip or advice is welcome:)
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Need help.. destructive relationship..
by sensitivePal85266
Last post
 17 hours ago
...See more So. I was in a relationship with a girl for like 4 months, and it was kinda messy. She's a very mentally weak person in general. She's 16, and I'm close to 18 now. She's from Germany, I'm from Egypt. On our last 2 weeks, we had a lot of arguments, because she was not able to keep her promises and like let me help her and help to keep the relationship. I was trying to help her, but she didn't want to help herself, and she pushed me away badly. By cheating on me with another guy. I discovered it, listened to her explanation, and she refused to breakup with him. So I snapped at her and told her extremely mean stuff, and that made her attempt to overdose, or to kill herself and stuff. So she cheated, and I almost killed her mentally, then I blocked her immediately. After that, it has been like 2 months, and I found a male friend who's from the same country as her, and had him like make a teasing prank on her In her dm And the friend said that I should clear things out with her instead of like bullying her online, and I agreed. Obviously, we kinda argued at the beginning, as both of us were really overwhelmed. I even cried a lot to myself during that. Then something unexpected happened After clearing a lot of misunderstandings about stuff (except for the cheating) And the fact that I almost had her kill herself, I guess it meant that we both are equal at making mistakes So I asked her if we should take a second chance She agreed, and she broke up with the guy, because I guess he was rude to her daily, and he wasn't good We are on like the 6th day of our reunion now, in the relationship And things have went horrible horrible She kept making mistakes, that I warned her on, because they were a trauma for me. So I pointed them out to her in a caring way But it happened a couple of times And that overwhelmed her badly, and she has no will nor strength to take accountability, she's sensitive to every little thing. Her brain is pure chaos She wants to kill herself, and the communication we had was the worst thing ever, she says that she hates herself, but at the same time she never blames herself when she makes a mistake. I offered to help her, she accepted, but now she pushes me away again I got deeply hurt because of her for a while day, with continuous cries. She says that this is the new her Talking to me in way that hurts A few hour ago she threatened to block me, so I blocked her And she came back wanting to clear things out, from a random group I haven't left She had a confusing talk, that she wants me to be a friend untill she heals And at the same time, when I say something about leaving her, she says "Go ahead, do it" Her mind is in chaos, and I'm dying from the inside because I don't know what to do anymore And now I came here seeking help. I'm overwhelmed My heart is breaking Just like that day she cheated on me on She keeps hurting me, and says that she doesn't wanna hurt me at the same time "I don't wanna be your girlfriend untill I heal" And then proceeds to hurt me again She hates herself deeply She made false promises about trying to be a good partner, or atleast try to not destroy everything again I even made a plan that she agreed on To discuss the things she don't want my help on, and other things that she would accept my help on We literally had fun preparing that yesterday So that she doesn't feel forced when I try to help her, so I have her take her own choice on what she accepts to be helped on It was going perfectl And now everything is crushed No matter how hard I try, she never looks at the good side of things Assuming the worst after everything last night, she called me a manipulator out of nowhere Because I apologized for talking about my issues to her I know that I can just leave her and save myself But she's suicidal She already tried it before By overdose Nobody in my family can help or support me They are not supportive My environment is not healthy, or encouraging I don't have friends Her biological father did something bad to her in her childhood, and now her step father abuses her Her little brother turned against her, and her mom has anger issues I don't blame her for being like this, but I don't deserve this pain She wanted to breakup, but the issue isn't me, she is the whole issue. I try to listen, and think that this time she will actually accept my help as she promised, but no. I managed to send her a number for suicide lines, but I doubt she will actually call it, or chat. I'm so overwhelmed by everything. I wanna see her happy, I don't want to let go of her, if she gets in another relationship, she will suffer worse than this. Especially from guys who would probably target her, she's in a non religious area, so it's less likely to have people who don't fear God in hurting others. I need any help.. please...
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Tell me what I need to hear!
by imofficiallyburnt
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more A Little Backstory: I grew up with separated parents who struggled with drug addiction. As a result, I was placed in the custody of my aunt, who was more of a distant relative and given guardianship over me. This early upheaval contributed to my development of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Throughout my childhood, I faced bullying and drama from both girls and boys, which further complicated my social interactions. Between 8th and 12th grade, I had a few relationships, but they were largely toxic. I graduated high school in 2019 while in a relationship with my boyfriend, Oscar. Our relationship was tumultuous, marked by many ups and downs. Despite the toxicity, I stood by him as he struggled with an addiction to Xanax and infidelity. This experience left me with deep trust issues, insecurity, and a tendency to obsessively worry about him. After nearly three years together, I broke up with Oscar. Our breakup was messy, with him harassing me through numerous emails after I blocked him on everything. I thought that would be the end of it, but around Thanksgiving, I received a text from his sister informing me that he had overdosed on Xanax and passed away. This news sent my emotions into a tailspin, and I turned to alcohol for several months. I withdrew from my family and friends, blaming myself for his death for a long time. After many months of healing and therapy, I met my current boyfriend, Sam, on ***. I was immediately attracted to him but hesitant to enter another relationship. After a few weeks of direct messaging, I found comfort in having someone dependable to talk to and spend time with. At the time, Sam was in college with plans to pursue a career in agriculture. He enjoyed making rap music and skateboarding. As we began dating, he expressed understanding of my needs and reassured me that he would do anything to make me happy, much like others had promised before. Current: Sam and I have been together for over three years now, but we’ve been struggling with his infidelity on and off. I’ve caught him downloading apps to flirt with women around the world, posting inappropriate comments on local Reddit pages, and liking pictures of other women. He even had inappropriate conversations with a family friend with whom he has a history of intimacy. His cheating became so overwhelming that I eventually kicked him out of my house, hoping he would seek therapy and address his issues. After some time apart, I decided to give him another chance and let him move back in. Recently, I discovered that he had been liking a female coworker’s pictures on ***, knowing how uncomfortable and disrespectful I find that. They even had text conversations about my belongings, with him referring to them as if he owned them, without mentioning me at all. It also came to light that he had created a backup Reddit account over a year ago, despite having deleted his previous account after I found inappropriate content on it. Beyond his infidelity, Sam has been cold and disrespectful. Whenever I express my feelings or concerns, he dismisses me as being dramatic or invalidates my emotions. He often takes my car without permission, telling me I can’t go with him, and stays out all night with friends I don’t know, drinking and having fun. I’ve only ever allowed him to use my car for work, but if I voice my discomfort about his outings, he accuses me of being controlling and not letting him have freedom.  Our relationship lacks intimacy and connection. He rarely takes me on dates, buys me gifts, or shares interests with me. He doesn’t compliment me, show me off, or help me with my problems. During intimacy, he doesn’t seem to care about my pleasure. The only things we seem to do together are smoke, eat (whether I cook, or we buy food), and go to bed.  I’ve been hearing a lot from my family that I need to do better and seriously consider breaking up with Sam. Despite this advice, I continually find myself justifying his behavior and how he treats me. I feel an overwhelming sense of guilt just for contemplating leaving him, even though deep down, I know I’ll never be truly happy in this relationship. With Christmas approaching, all these conflicting feelings are weighing heavily on me, and I can feel myself spiraling out of control again. My mom suggested that I wait until after the holidays to break up with him, while my sister thinks I should do it before Christmas so we can return his gifts, confident he doesn’t deserve them. I’m at a crossroad and feeling really lost. Any advice on how to navigate this situation?
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Do I deserve the punishing words?
by Tanpopo1000
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more So I may not have the cleanest foundation with my wife however I can confidently say I and we have gotten a long way together in a short amount of time. Tonight I received some harsh words, upsetting things, assumptions, “reminders”. Okay, so tonight I was unable to reply quick enough or pick up a call immediately as I had not known while out playing cards with my friends. Yes, I apologise but do I deserver the added punishment (just) because our trust is not perfect from our early foundation? I think it is a bit iffy to contemplate it but I feel it is off regardless. I am open to a reality check, or reassurance.
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Lost all hope and don't know how to move forward ?
by philosophicalAcres3910
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more My ex gf of a 3.6-month living relationship broke up with me in July 2024. What I understand from this is that she has been planning for this for a long time. But it was a sudden bomb for me. 2-3 months post-breakup I was really in a mess and could not able to think straight. Then I started to work on myself, hit the gym, became more focused towards my studies, and started to make new friends. I was trying everything to change myself and become a better version of myself but deep down I was holding hope of getting together with her again. No matter how much I tried I was not able to get rid of this hope because this hope was the only thing that was pushing me to change myself for her. I love her so much that I can do anything for her. After a breakup in July till August 20th we were talking back and forth. She had already blocked me right after a breakup but she used to respond to my missed calls. After the 20th of August, I went into total no contact and started to work on myself in the hope that maybe she would miss me and try to reach out to me but this never happened. Now after almost 6 months post-breakup she hasn't reached out to me but I was still holding on to the hope. As we both go to the same college and it's our last year we cross paths a few times but we don't each other and looking at her I can see she doesn't even care about my presence. As I was in NC I didn't try to stalk her to try to find out what's she doing. But in the last few days, some batchmates of mine told me that she was with a new guy. I haven't seen it with my own eyes but as this information has been given by 2-3 people I know it's true and even my heart can feel that it's true. My heart got shattered and I don't know how to move forward now. I feel like everything I have done during the relationship and even after the breakup, was just a big waste. All the ex-coming-back theories available on the internet are just bogus the art of manifestation its just time waste, true love is nothing. The thought of someone else touching her made me puke last night. If anyone could help me then please guide me. And if something same has happened with you please share your story with me so that i can understand how i should move forward from this. i m M/23 and my ex F/23

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