Good evening. How was your day?
I'd say if she’s gay, she’s not interested, just being nice. Are you sure she’s gay?
Have you tried any dating apps? They’re terrible lol, but they may be a good start for you. Just something to ease yourself into dating. Do you have any specific requirements for your future partner? My therapist recommended writing a list of needs, wants, and no’s.
that list is a good idea i might try that also.
i tried the dating apps a few months ago and it was a nightmare lol i would try again now bc im a lot dif then i was then. tbh my hang up is i don’t think i have good pictures. im kinda cute for a dude lol but my pix are lame. i don’t rly do anything besides work and go home lol
she’s currently bi. she said she had such horrible experience with guys that she switched teams lol when we first met she had a gf but that ended. she also had a daughter.
we are really good together. but i still am not sure if she sees me like that. i might just be locked into the friend zone lol that wouldn’t be the worst thing bc she is an incredible friend. like fr the only person who really gets me. we clicked and hit it off immediately. but idk she might not even see me that way.
it’s a tuff spot and i don’t wanna be the typical guy friend that is in love with the chick lolol
im just gonna play it cool and see what happens. hopefully i don’t miss my shot…im really bad with that lol i allllways miss my chance
We got snow, still getting more.
I think I’m going a little crazy being in the house. May try getting out tomorrow. Just for a walk or something.
Other than that, just rested all weekend.
A little irritated though. There’s some specific ways I like things and ways I like to do things. One of these things is doing laundry. I like to deep clean the washer and dryer before I use it. It’s just one of my ocd tendencies. I DO NOT like washing in between others. If I’m washing, it’s at least a two day event. So I always make sure to ask my ex-partner if he needs the washer because I’m washing.
Well today I got through a couple loads of laundry (I ALWAYS separate my clothes by category). Since I’m going to bed, I left the washer open. I was going to resume washing in the morning.
Well he decided to do his laundry. I KEPT asking him if he needed the washer earlier. I told him to go use it because I had soo many clothes to wash.
I'm trying to let it go, but I have to clean the washer again and start over. I’m seriously *** off. He has done other things this week that have irritated me as well. I think I just need some space from him. I’m just really irritated tonight now.
hope im not being out of line plz tell me if i am ❤️
yo that’s fugged up! he absolutely knows that upsets you why would he blatantly do that? sorry i know he’s a truly great guy and i’m def not out to trash anyone but i don’t understand that move. like there’s no way he didn’t know that would bother you. it’s not like some passive aggressive act right? i’m such a paranoid dude hahaha
we didn’t get any snow yet. i think it starts tomorrow. it keeps getting pushed back. i’m hearing around 4 inches but we’ll see if that even happens.
this chick is really amazing but i don’t wanna be that kinda friend that’s into her like that if she’s not ya know. it’s a little pathetic. but we clicked immediately we talk all the time we really close. we do work together and that’s usually a big red flag for me. i really don’t ever look at girls at work like that. i did that before and it’s messy. she feels the same. i just don’t know if she sees me like THAT. there’s a serious chance she doesn’t.
i feel like the smart bet is to say she’s not into me…but when you look at our friendship it could make ya think there’s something more.
all that said…im not looking for a relationship. this just kinda landed on my lap. i wouldn’t want to jump into a serious relationship. i want it to be casual for a bit. not exactly exclusive but i don’t want to share.
so secretly i was hoping something would happen after our work party. the holiday party got pushed back to feb lol in the meantime im just playing it as cool as i can (im def not cool lol)
she’s absolutely beautiful…like take my breath away. she’s tuff. she’s a bit crazy but exactly my kinda crazy lol i need a little crazy in the relationship. i like the fire but it must be managed and handled right. i don’t wanna messy relationship but a little fire is good lol she gets me and i get her. im the only one from work she texts and we text all the time. she sent me a pic trying to be like i lost too much weight i look too skinny and duuuuude lol hubba hubba 😂 🤣 she told me she’d find my porn hahaha like dude what am i doing. this is so confusing hahaha
Good morning! How’s your day so far?
Have you gotten snow yet? We’re completely covered here. They even canceled work (but that doesn’t affect me since I don’t work today anyways). Do you work today?
I think sometimes he doesn’t consider things or realizes things. We have different styles of cleaning; how he cleans is DEFINITELY not how I clean; what he considers clean is DEFINITELY not what I consider clean. But I’ve chosen to let him do his way and I’ll do mine. At the end of the day, as long as it’s clean, it truly doesn’t matter.
But I separated my clothes out in front of him last night. We had full blown conversations while I was doing this. I have MOUNTAINS of laundry to do. He could’ve at least asked if I was done, not assumed. That’s the most annoying part.
It’s also kinda the final “nail in the coffin” this weekend. I consider the kitchen MY domain. I organize it the way I want, I’m mostly the one cooking, and I’m the one washing dishes. Well he needed space on a shelve while I was busy. So I said I’d clean and organize it. He decided to just do it himself. I probably really shouldn’t care that much. But I seriously took it as a violation of my space. He could’ve waited the next day for me to organize it. But that particular day he was kinda pent up with energy, so I kinda get it.
I’ve accepted we have different ways of doing things. And there’s certain spaces I won’t touch that are his. That’s fine. But when it comes to my spaces or our shared spaces, I wish he’d ask before just doing.
I may try expressing my emotions to him. But I don’t want to seem crazy or make a big deal of it. But it’s really been bothering me.
Well it certainly sounds like y’all are friends. And certainly could be more than friends.
But trying to date someone from work is always messy. Anything could wrong from lies to accusations to a messy breakup. And are you her supervisor? Because that’s definitely be something you’d have to take into consideration too.
All I know is you should operate on the side of caution. You don’t any anything to damage your job position. I know it may be difficult, but maybe waiting until someone leaves the company is the best idea.
Plus if you’re not into something serious right now, a little innocent, friendly flirting is probably something you could do right now.
But those are just my thoughts and opinions. I definitely don’t “date just to date” but always with an actual relationship in mind. But that doesn’t sound like something you’re into right now, so it may be different for you.
solid advice. where things are now are much better than a few months ago so i should just be happy with what i got.
she’s actually my manager
i hate dating lol i just wanna go right to the couple phase bc im an amazing boyf. but im so awkward at dating. it feels mostly soulless lol but i guess that’s just the game.
the snow finally started. this walk to work is gonna suck lol
Sorry, missed your other messages.
Yeah the dating apps are definitely not fun. Glad I was never really into them.
So she has a daughter?
And if that’s the reason she’s bisexual, that may mean she’s “truly bisexual), if that makes sense. I’m NOT trying to discredit her experiences or redefine her personal experiences. But in MY, UNPROFESSIONAL OPINION, her switching teams could be a defensive mechanism. And I get that. You’re hurt soo many times you want to try something different, see if the grass is greener somewhere else. But (in my unprofessional opinion) sometimes it’s what type of person, what type of qualities, what type of standards you need to change, not the gender. You could still change the gender of who you want, but still end up with *** females. You have to change WHAT you want to attract someone who’s better for you, no matter what your preferences in gender may be.
Stating again this is my unprofessional, personal opinion. But it sounds like the reason I switched teams, so it could also be her reason.
Or she could be greedy and have different appetites on different days. Definitely understand that as well lol ☺️.
Yes I know it’s hard to be happy with what you have lol, but sometimes waiting brings you nicer things.
Still think if she’s your manager, the same rules apply.
And, not to assume your dating style or judge, but dating does not have to equal sex. The point is to get to know the person and build a mental/emotional connection before a physical one.
Are you wanting to jump into a relationship right away to enjoy the physical benefits, and not have to worry about if she’s sleeping around? Or are you tired of being alone and anyone will do? I think it’s important to evaluate WHY you don’t want to date to get to know someone.
Again, not judging, just asking ☺️.
that’s all really great stuff. def don’t think you’re being judgey lol i very much appreciate it all
yeah it seems like she switched it up bc the boys were so bad…but she’s finding out lesbian relationships are just as abusive lol i had to set her finger. looks like the girlfriend broke it 😬
but hey maybe she’s into it. to each their own. i just gotta work on me and that’s rly all i can worry about.
i totalllllly agree a relationship is def def more than just physical. it’s truly about the connection. a strong connection with a person…literally nothing compares to that. but it’s been a very verrrry long time for me lol the breakup will be a year in march and it’s not like the relationship was physical towards the end ya know.
and no i don’t think id be fine with someone also sleeping with someone else. but i also don’t wanna jump into being official. i want it to be chill but i dont wanna share anymore.
we’ve hit 300+ messages lol daaaaaaaamn we good friends 🙂🙂🙂
fr im glad we’re friends
you’re awesome
what up..i’m walking home from work now. cold and snowy but i don’t mind the walk. it’s the closest i get to exercise lol
how was ur day today…feeling any better??
hey homie hope ur good. how’d everything go with that laundry fiasco?? i’m brainstorming rearranging my room. i think the change will be rly good for me. and i think totally rearranging a room is a great way to 100% clean everything ughhh its gonna be a lot of work. if i wanna do it right and i know ill be lazy about it lol it’ll take me multiple days 😢 but ill def be happy when its over. i can tell ur fr about organization and cleaning so any tips for a dumb bro like myself will be suuuuper helpful lol
Good evening. How was your day?
Still not feeling the best. I go back to work Thursday so hopefully I feel better by then.
Just slept most of today. And did laundry.
No cleaning and organizing tips. Just don’t overwhelm yourself trying to do it all at once.
that’s actually a really good tip lol i didn’t realize i was starting to do that. my list was becoming daunting lol
im off today since me and my friend switched yesterday
i think im gonna stay in and start this procedure lol
not feeling the best?? sick or sad??
if it’s sick a prescribe chicken broth
if it’s sad i’m gonna say all types of stuff until you laugh lol
hey what’s up how ya feeling today?? any better than yesterday or about the same or worse???
i did some intense cleaning and trashing of old stuff last night lol haha last night…it was like 6am but i didn’t go to sleep till about 8am
i rem when i first broke up with ash and i tried trashing things she gave me and it hurt soOoOo bad…now im making half court shots into the trash with old hoodies she got me lol KOBE!! haha i’m jus playing lol ive been trying to have more fun lately. its better than feeling angry all the time. i still have my sad moments and angry moments but now when i feel
the chance to be happy or have fun, i lean into it. i’ve tortured myself long enough.
so what’s good with you…ya doing ok? anything ever happen with the laundry fiasco. can i ask ya something and this will def make me gross to you lol how do you do that hahaha do you use the lysol sanitizer stuff? do you use reg detergent??
i might go to marshall’s today….i wanna fresh outfit for the holiday party. i still have a few weeks so k def dont wanna go today. but i heard my hot boss is planning on really turning it up and im trying to compete with that lol so i need to think of what i wanna wear.
im thinking for my next haircut i do something very different. idk yet tho.
i downloaded bumble lol oh boy! i had a profile i set up like 8 months ago. i updated it a little. changed the bio. my pix still suck. i don’t ever do ANYTHING. normally im all good with that. i have fun everywhere i go. im def more attracted to a chick with a regular pic instead of the vacation pics.
hope i get something…last time i got for real nothing. i think it was 3 messages in a month or 2 and they were absolutely not getting messaged back lol
i’ve been getting a better idea of what im currently looking for. which is good. i feel like before i was so desperate i would of taken anyone that would have me. i just gotta get myself out there and try as much as possible.
this is very uncomfortable lol