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how to overcome negative thoughts about ourselves

User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 February 8th

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I will be the first to admit to everyone there are times I have negative thoughts about myself. I am not sure why I always have to be my worst enemy in life, been like this all of my life. 

Why do we all have negative thoughts of ourselves. Negative thoughts can be " Why am I so hard on myself", :why am I weak ", "why am I so unlovable". These are some of the things we may feel at times. Negative thoughts or feelings can be devastating to our mental health. We may begin to believe these thoughts whether we are  thinking it  or it is said to us by someone else in our lives. 

We all deserve to be happy in life. Sometimes are day is going good until we are fed a negative thought ( like a bump in the road ) and we begin to act on those thoughts. 

Here are some ways to work on stopping negative thoughts:

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How do you feel when experiencing negative thoughts?

How do you work on letting go of any negative thoughts? 

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User Profile: Admirablerainbow2825
Admirablerainbow2825 February 9th

I feel many negative emotions such as anger, sadness, hopelessness etc.

I use some strategies such as praying, journaling, physical activity to reduce these feelings of negativity within myself.

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP February 9th

@Admirablerainbow2825

It sounds like you have it covered with how to deal with it. I also do a few of what you do seems journaling really helps me to work on the negative I am dealing with. 

User Profile: TrueMind
TrueMind February 10th

@Admirablerainbow2825 You may try practicing forgiveness and mindfulness as well. 

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User Profile: Admirablerainbow2825
Admirablerainbow2825 February 10th

Yes, thank you 🙂

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User Profile: purpleNest2545
purpleNest2545 February 12th

Same

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User Profile: gbrenna
gbrenna February 9th

@pamharley003  Please add me

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olivePineapple3146 February 9th

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 February 9th

@pamharley003

How do you feel when experiencing negative thoughts?

How do you work on letting go of any negative thoughts? 

There are days when old negative thoughts are visiting me. What helps me to let go of them is

1. Check my physical/mental state 

Am I feeling tired or exhausted maybe because of the heat or emotional struggles in my physical life?

2. Where are these thoughts coming from? Are they based on things I was told as a child?

3. Put my thoughts on trial

What is the evidence for them, are there any cognitive distortions? Am I seeing only black and white, am I catastrophizing?

Is it part of being highly sensitive too?

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User Profile: TrueMind
TrueMind February 10th

@amiablePeace77 I am writing answer for your questions. Thank you for sharing your questions. 

How do you feel when experiencing negative thoughts?

Answer: General feeling is fear of failure of something and self-doubt. 


How do you work on letting go of any negative thoughts? 

There are days when old negative thoughts are visiting me. What helps me to let go of them is

Answer: Think of one negative thought at a time and see if that is valid and important thought or not. If it is not important just tell your mind to "let it go". 

If it is important then think of root cause of the thought and try to find some solutions by yourself or through friends or experts and tell you mind that "it is solved." If it is unsolvable and not affecting much then tell your mind that "I will deal with it later." 

1. Check my physical/mental state 

Am I feeling tired or exhausted maybe because of the heat or emotional struggles in my physical life?

Answer: You are possibly right that overthinking creates the heat or emotional struggles in my physical life. Therefore find root-cause and use above method to slowly overcome. Also engage with friends and family and enjoy life as much as possible.

2. Where are these thoughts coming from? Are they based on things I was told as a child?

Answer: You can slowly try to find root-cause of those issues yourself with help from family or psychologist. Sometimes those issues are not relevant but it holds fear into the mind. So always talk with family and friend to find solutions.

3. Put my thoughts on trial

What is the evidence for them, are there any cognitive distortions? Am I seeing only black and white, am I catastrophizing?

Answer: If you are thinking too much without recognizing trigger points and root causes you may feel cognitive distortions which is analysis paralysis. You may be feeling catastrophizing but you are good and brave to express your feeling. Such this may not real and that's why out of fear you may be seeing black and mind. So do not hold any toxic thoughts in your mind which do not belong to you. Command those thoughts to go aways. Try to do mindfulness activities and remind that your life is beautiful, and you are a happy person. 


 Is it part of being highly sensitive too?

Answer: You may be a sensitive person which is fine. I am too sensitive person. We need to understand what issues make us sensitive and then work on them sensibly. You are doing well. Make friends and enjoy life.

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 February 10th

@TrueMind

Thank you for your answers! You made some great suggestions!

User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP February 10th

@TrueMind

I agree love your answers and found them enlightening 


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User Profile: courageouspanda2006
courageouspanda2006 February 10th

Please add me.

Once my thoughts turn negative, they take over.

User Profile: humble101
humble101 February 11th

@pamharley003. Redirect your thought

User Profile: Clio9876
Clio9876 February 11th

@pamharley003

How do you work on letting go of any negative thoughts? 

Leaves on a stream technique. It always helps me to watch those thoughts float away.

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP February 11th

@Clio9876

Good way to see how you release negativity like a steam train or boat letting it sail away 

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