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Finding comfort through grief using mindfulness

User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 December 2nd

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Last week I had to put our family fur baby of 12 years down because she was having problems walking, her hips were giving out . Some know I own a pit bull named harley davidson, she is our world and it was too much seeing her in pain. Here is the last picture of her waiting at the vet. 

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How do we find comfort through grief:

Grief is associated with losing a loved one, relatives, friends and pets. It can also mean losing a job we were doing for years or a long marriage or relationship dating someone. Grief is a mixture of a lot of feelings and emotions.  The path of grief is a personal journey we all go through it some hit ourselves more than others, it is how to deal with it, we are all different in handling things.

There are times when grief can come back after experiencing it first time around. The following is how to handle grief when we are experiencing it .

Common ways grief may show up:

Emotional rollercoaster: The range of emotions we face are anger, sadness, guilt, confusion and even relief. No one is the same how we handle these emotions may be different person to person.

Physical symptoms: Grief can also effect our physical well being. It can bring fatigue making us want to sleep our worries away. It can also hinder our daily activities to where we do not want to do anything, headaches and stomach aches.

Social withdrawal: Grief can make us not want to be around anyone during social functions. It also can make it hard to talk about to others, so we distance ourselves.

What are some ways you handle grief?

What emotions are you feeling when dealing with it?

There are a lot more different ways grief affects us it is how we manage to handle them to feel a little better.

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User Profile: daydreammemories
daydreammemories December 2nd

@pamharley003

What are some ways you handle grief?

I usually let myself feel the way i feel, or write it down. Talking to my friends also help.

What emotions are you feeling when dealing with it?

Overwhelmed. Sad. Frustrated. Numb

And so sorry for your furry friend🥺💙

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP December 3rd

@daydreammemories

I understand writing things down helps me look back and work on things 

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 December 2nd

@pamharley003

I am so sorry for your loss pam. Losing a beloved dog often feels like losing a loved family member. 

What are some ways you handle grief?

What emotions are you feeling when dealing with it?

When I lost my dogs due to age, I never had the time to grieve. Those days were kind of chaotic for me and I just had to focus on getting through in life. This is about 24 years ago and for more than 15 years I was mourning inside, carried a deep pain with me. My dogs were like my babies. I still dream about them but it's okay now.  One thing I like to tell everyone who experiences loss is to let your feelings out, never suppress them because suppressed feelings will not leave you. 

When my mother passed away this year, I allowed myself to feel what I felt, I was in disbelief and cried but I could come to terms with it. 

Feelings need to be acknowledged and heard.

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP December 3rd

@amiablePeace77

I agree that pets are family members. Harley had a lot of aunts, uncles, boyfriends and BFF's. I know I did the right things just hard because she was so all over the shop or house. I guess right now grieving is going to last and eventually I can face the fact it must of been hard on her too 

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User Profile: Tinywhisper11
Tinywhisper11 December 3rd

@pamharley003 😥😥 I'm so sorry about your fur baby😥 loosing a part of your family, is devastating 🙁 hugs you tightly ❤ we are all here for you ❤

the ways I deal with grief, is take it one day at a time, it creeps up on you different days, months times of the year. It always helps me to have a place to go where I can talk to him and God. It also helps to write him poems and but him presents. But the best advice is to just let yourself feel and go through the emotions ❤

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User Profile: pamharley003
pamharley003 OP 11 hours ago

@Tinywhisper11

Working one day at a time is all we can do put yesterday behind us and work on today's things in our life. 

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User Profile: tealOrange9801
tealOrange9801 December 3rd

@pamharley003 so sorry for your loss, they're are definitely family 

@pamharley003. I’m very sorry to hear about your loss of your beloved dog.

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pamharley003 OP December 3rd

@adventurousBranch3786

Thank you, She is not suffering anymore which is better We could not see her in pain 

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul December 4th

@pamharley003 I'm so sorry about your fur baby. It's so hard saying goodbye ❤️

Last year I had to say goodbye to my dog. A week and a half later my father passed. 
Mostly I'm still numb. Sometimes there's some anger and I get irritated quicker. I'm tired but have trouble sleeping and I don't have much desire to do anything. I have distanced myself from everyone. 
To be honest I know I need to reroute but I kind of like the numbness. I know there's big emotions I need to deal with but I'm afraid to let them come to the surface 😞 

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User Profile: amiablePeace77
amiablePeace77 December 6th

@mytwistedsoul

You suffered 2 big losses in short time! This is not easy to deal with and I can understand that you feel afraid to face those painful emotions.  Do you feel that talking to someone like a listener here or participating in sharing circle could help? 

Sending comforting beams your way 💙

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul December 9th

@amiablePeace77 I've found that a lot of people are uncomfortable with talking about grief (which is understandable, it's a hard topic) The sharing circle is a good idea, I've never been to it before. Thank you for the suggestion and your reply 💜

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@mytwistedsoul. Someone on this site mentioned an online grief community called My Grief Angels. The person said they attend an online support group with them. I haven’t tried them yet but saved the name for the future.

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mytwistedsoul December 9th

@adventurousBranch3786 Oh! Thank you Branch! I'll have to check it out! ❤️

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User Profile: Coralium
Coralium December 7th

@mytwistedsoul hi

I came back to 7cups after years because I'm dealing with grief right now and I think I'm feeling like you...like I need to reroute.
I have had severe depression for over 2 years now and were stable for about 4 months before my aunt passed away November 19th. I'm still so heartbroken...she was like a second mother to me. 

Anyway, my point is: I keep trying to avoid to deal with the emotions I need to deal with, but it's making me have a relapse on my treatment. Don't do this to yourself...I know it's hard, it's so, so painful, but it's necessary. Avoiding my feelings and letting numbness take over is how I got to the bottom.

Seek professional help if you need to, I had to. I know we don't know each other, but we are in this together...for real.

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User Profile: mytwistedsoul
mytwistedsoul December 9th

@uselessfat I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry you're relapsing. I know that makes it harder too. I know I'm not dealing with all this in a healthy way but more the way I was taught and how I was expected to deal with anything involving emotions. I have a therapist that been helping with emotions involving childhood trauma but then these losses happened but I've been thinking maybe I need to see someone who focuses on grief

I hope things get better and you find your way from the bottom
Thank you so much for your message 💜
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User Profile: calmMango9611
calmMango9611 December 7th

@pamharley003 I am very sorry for your loss. I truly am.

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User Profile: NewAurora
NewAurora December 7th

I'm so sorry. I know how hard that is. I had to put my furry soil mate down a couple years ago and it still hurts like crazy today. They really move in to our hearts and make it impossible for us to let them go. But for me, the love and experience I had with him is worth 1000 of those heart aches. Hopefully you feel the same as well. You made a very difficult decision for the benefit of your baby. That's a tremendously hard thing to do and speaks volumes about your character. I'm so sorry your going through this but I'm also so happy for all the memories and good times you have to hold on to. 💗