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what are your pronouns and chosen name??

Listeningsarinn June 17th, 2021

Happy pride month awesome lgbtq+ community!

If comfortable share with me in replies <3
What are your pronouns and your preferred name?? How do you identify??
What makes pronouns and chosen names such an important context is in fact, that how you are referred to is not only one of the hugest things, giving a person sense of identity and comes as a way of expressing who they truly are, but also others saying it and using it in daily conversations is a way of showing acceptance and acknowledgment of one’s identity by people around them
A way of experiencing one’s true self and having it seen and validated
With that said, being referred to with wrong pronouns or dead names (the name assigned at birth that does not fit in with the gender identity one identifies with) can come as extremely hurtful, especially if a person is out and is being referred to intentionally in a wrong way
Even as a closeted Trans or non-binary person being referred to in a wrong way can be a trigger for more extreme social and mental dysphoria and cause a sense of being invalidated or being unseen as who they are, the very known feeling of being in the wrong body, or carrying a heavy weight of wrong identity
~ if someone uses more than one pronouns, using either of those is okay but it's usually preffered to switch between the chosen pronouns, for example for a friend of mine using she/they prounouns, i'd go like, "they came to my place and when i asked them about their kid, she said..."
A reminder that who you are, and how you view your identity and yourself is completely valid, accepted and enough exactly the way you are
~ If someone misgenders you:
Don’t be afraid of correcting them, if the idea of correcting people makes you uncomfortable you can make it easier for yourself by practicing with your reflection in the mirror or a friend/family member you are out to
You can also ask someone you are out to, to help you with correcting people either by telling them upfront or using the right pronouns in front of them
As an ally you need to know that:
~ asking is better than mistaking, please do not “assume” one’s pronouns by their clothes, or their sexual body parts
it’s always okay to ask a person what pronouns they use or, how would they like you to call them, most people will be happy to have you ask and respect their answer keeping it in mind in future conversation
~ if asking is not possible for you in a given situation, it’s safe to use they/them pronouns until you can be sure, in the meanwhile, listen for people close to them referring to the person
~ a person’s “real” name is their chosen name and the way they identify is their “only gender”, asking for birth names and gender assigned at birth is a rude and inappropriate act
~ Do not out a person, unless they are asking you to help with coming out
~ do not push your idea of a label someone has chosen on them, every one’s experience is unique and that is completely okay and won’t make their experience any less real
~ you may make mistakes and misgender the person at times which is completely okay and normal, humans make mistakes, if you misgender someone:

  • Don’t argue or take it badly if they or someone else corrects you
  • Either If you are corrected by someone or you notice your mistake yourself, don’t make a big deal of it, that can make it uncomfy both for you and the person you misgendered
  • Apologize briefly, correct yourself and move on trying to be more careful in the rest of conversation
more to come on dysphoria and how to cope with it!
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KatePersephone June 19th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
What are your pronouns and your preferred name?? How do you identify??
my pronouns are she/her, and my preferred name is katherine or kate! (which, by the way, is not my birth given name...theres a long story on why i have changed it 😛), and i identify as a woman! (im a cis girl

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Listeningsarinn OP June 19th, 2021

@KateDoskocilova
thanks for taking the time to read and reply the ever awesome kate❤️🍃
i'd love to hear the story if you are comfy sharing as well!

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KatePersephone June 19th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
things related to my past and my trauma :O thats basically it

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bubbleSea26 November 26th, 2021

Hi everyone! My name is Fable and my pronouns are he/him! I’m a trans man and I’m also pansexual. I’ve been apart of the community since 5th grade so five grades ago and apart of the trans community since 9th grade so one grade ago.


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AniyahBrooks June 19th, 2021

My pronouns are she/her and my preferred name is Aniyah or AJ

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Listeningsarinn OP June 20th, 2021

@AniyahBrooks
thanks for sharing with us aniyah! ❤️🍃 how' you doing??

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DipSurya June 20th, 2021

My pronouns are he/she/hemr(him+her). I preferred to be called Surya or Yuki the most, but sometimes Xexlest. I identify as pansexual/bisexual.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 20th, 2021

@DipSurya
aw yuki is the name of one of my favorite anime characters as well! Thanks for sharing! Also, happy happy pride month❤️🍃

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sapphicelf25 June 20th, 2021

my pronouns are she/they, maybe they/them? im still trying to figure it out lol, my preferred name is olyvia, its legally my middle name but my first name holds some trauma and i don't like it anymore so :p and i identify as genderdoe!! which long story short means a gender fluid person who never identifies with masculinity:))))

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sapphicelf25 June 20th, 2021

ahaha i got confused on the what do i identify as, i identify as a lesbian or sapphic

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eshk June 20th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
I'm Esh, pronouns she/her or she/they, still not sure. I am cis female (for now). I am omnisexual/pansexual, but that's also not certain yet. Long story short, I'm confused about everything from sexuality to gender to pronouns :)

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Listeningsarinn OP June 23rd, 2021

@eshk
hey hey esh! I get that confusment very well, been there just remember, no dead line into having wverything sorted out it's always okay to have the labels you feel comfy with or avoid labels if non feels comfy and still look for ones that fit you better and feel more like you *~^
thanks for your reply and happy happy happy pride month!❤️❤️🌈🍃

struggler64 June 30th, 2021

Join the confused club! I'm hella confused! I'm just out, bi, female, and whatever else. Born female. Out only in the last two weeks for the first time. She/her

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Alexl5l June 20th, 2021

My pronouns are she/him and my name is Alex.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 23rd, 2021

@Alexl5l
heya alex! *~^ nice to meet ya and thanks for sharing +~+
happy pride month!

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TheAutumnWitch June 20th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
Hey Sarinn! (^_^)
My accepted pronouns are she/her and they/them. Please call me "Autumn". :) I am a non-binary demisexual who is fine with either being referred to as female or gender neutral.

Thanks for the lovely thread! <3 I appreciate you.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 26th, 2021

@TheAutumnWitch
hey hey! thanks for sharing *~* i truly admire your personality!

struggler64 June 30th, 2021

What does demi mean in sexuality. When I was growing up in the apparent dark ages, there were only a handful of choices--gay, bi, lesbian, and what they called "drag queans". Not trying to be pejorative here. Now it feels like an alphabet soup that confuses the crap outta me. I want to understand. I just got most of the LGBTQ, and now it has more tacked on. I'm not a stupid person. I nearly have a master's degree. Had a 3.68 GPA. I understand the import of identifying with something in a culture that alienates anyone who doesn't fit the norm. That being said, if people identify with what is considerably further out of the norm, don't we risk alienating ourselves from the general population and creating more alienation instead of unity that benefits everybody? Just asking!

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Khaii June 16th, 2022

@struggler64

Demisexual folks are only sexually attracted to people with whom they share an emotional bond. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and they can identify as either male or female. The prefix "demi" might refer to someone who is midway between sexual and asexual! Hope that helps :D i understand it can be confusing for sure, and im so happy that youre taking time to understand! You sound like a great person :)

You can also always google for more information

all the best

- Alïa

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Stoffel June 21st, 2021

@Listeningsarinn

My chosen name is Felice :) Which is short for Feliciano.
I'm nonbinary and my pronouns are they/them.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 26th, 2021

@Stoffel
aw, that's a beautiful name felice! i like it!
happy happy pride month!

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lookatthestars22 June 21st, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
heyyy!!! This is an awesome post!
My pronouns are she/them. My preferred name is Sam! and I identify as Bisexual!

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@lookatthestars22
yay yay! Glad you like the post sam! And super lovely pride pfp *~^
thanks for sharing💙💗💜

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lookatthestars22 June 30th, 2021

@Listeningsarinn
aww thank you!!!!❤❤

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lavenderHuman1766 June 21st, 2021

My pronouns are they/them and my chosen name is Asher, Ash for short. I identify as non-binary.

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Listeningsarinn OP June 30th, 2021

@lavenderHuman1766
thanks for sharing ash! *~^ I specifically love the name asher, gender neutral names are super lovely to me🍃 happy happy pride month!

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