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what are your pronouns and chosen name??

Listeningsarinn June 17th, 2021

Happy pride month awesome lgbtq+ community!

If comfortable share with me in replies <3
What are your pronouns and your preferred name?? How do you identify??
What makes pronouns and chosen names such an important context is in fact, that how you are referred to is not only one of the hugest things, giving a person sense of identity and comes as a way of expressing who they truly are, but also others saying it and using it in daily conversations is a way of showing acceptance and acknowledgment of one’s identity by people around them
A way of experiencing one’s true self and having it seen and validated
With that said, being referred to with wrong pronouns or dead names (the name assigned at birth that does not fit in with the gender identity one identifies with) can come as extremely hurtful, especially if a person is out and is being referred to intentionally in a wrong way
Even as a closeted Trans or non-binary person being referred to in a wrong way can be a trigger for more extreme social and mental dysphoria and cause a sense of being invalidated or being unseen as who they are, the very known feeling of being in the wrong body, or carrying a heavy weight of wrong identity
~ if someone uses more than one pronouns, using either of those is okay but it's usually preffered to switch between the chosen pronouns, for example for a friend of mine using she/they prounouns, i'd go like, "they came to my place and when i asked them about their kid, she said..."
A reminder that who you are, and how you view your identity and yourself is completely valid, accepted and enough exactly the way you are
~ If someone misgenders you:
Don’t be afraid of correcting them, if the idea of correcting people makes you uncomfortable you can make it easier for yourself by practicing with your reflection in the mirror or a friend/family member you are out to
You can also ask someone you are out to, to help you with correcting people either by telling them upfront or using the right pronouns in front of them
As an ally you need to know that:
~ asking is better than mistaking, please do not “assume” one’s pronouns by their clothes, or their sexual body parts
it’s always okay to ask a person what pronouns they use or, how would they like you to call them, most people will be happy to have you ask and respect their answer keeping it in mind in future conversation
~ if asking is not possible for you in a given situation, it’s safe to use they/them pronouns until you can be sure, in the meanwhile, listen for people close to them referring to the person
~ a person’s “real” name is their chosen name and the way they identify is their “only gender”, asking for birth names and gender assigned at birth is a rude and inappropriate act
~ Do not out a person, unless they are asking you to help with coming out
~ do not push your idea of a label someone has chosen on them, every one’s experience is unique and that is completely okay and won’t make their experience any less real
~ you may make mistakes and misgender the person at times which is completely okay and normal, humans make mistakes, if you misgender someone:

  • Don’t argue or take it badly if they or someone else corrects you
  • Either If you are corrected by someone or you notice your mistake yourself, don’t make a big deal of it, that can make it uncomfy both for you and the person you misgendered
  • Apologize briefly, correct yourself and move on trying to be more careful in the rest of conversation
more to come on dysphoria and how to cope with it!
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Ari163 June 19th, 2022

@Listeningsarinn

My pronouns are she/her. My preferred name is Aria and I am a cisgender girl.

😄

Alkina June 28th, 2022

@Listeningsarinn My preferred name is Mars and my pronouns and They/Them (most of the time)

tokenfairy June 28th, 2022

@Listeningsarinn

my preferred name is vero! (shortened version of my given name ^^;) my pronouns are she/they. i identify as a nonbinary bisexual <3

Loukasishere July 2nd, 2022

@Listeningsarinn


My names loukas or Ben and my pronouns are he/him or dei/deis!
I'm under the xenogender umbrella,mainly under religion based genders
Im a label hoarder through so!I have quite the list of things I use depending on.. everything but the one I use the most is genderpunk which..is the easiest socially to use
AmazedAgaric September 14th, 2022

Thank you so much for this lovely post~!

ampersands September 20th, 2022

@Listeningsarinn

my pronouns are xe/xem and he/him. my name (among others lol) is cherry !! i identify as a transmasc enby :3

lonnieandco September 24th, 2022

My preferred name's Lonnie and my pronouns are they/them! I'm androgynous, bisexual, and asexual 😎

antico September 25th, 2022

Hey all !

I'm a trangender woman, my pronouns are she/her and my chosen name is Anna (Ann, Annie, or any of it's derivitives). I dont really have a story behind the name I chose for myself, it just popped into my head. It's a bizzare story, I dressed into my woman's clothes and looking at myself in the mirror, the woman inside me just introduced herself to me. It was a moment of revelation.

JayJayUnicorn95 September 28th, 2023

My preferred pronouns are He/Him and my preferred name is Jay-Jay.


Ftm trans


Not quite out the closet yet



LoveMyMoonflowers September 29th, 2023

My pronouns are she/her 💛 and my preferred name is Ni :3