Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
6 I never had any of it ever happen to me.
7 it can lead to a toxic p environment and unhealthy relationships.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
One example of passive-aggressive behavior I have experienced in my life are subtle insults.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is harmful in the community because it puts others down and does not help anyone, it is very unhealthy.
@zareya I am sorry you experienced the subtle insults aspect of passive-aggressive behavior. I myself fell a victim to it so I know how it feels :(
@zareya
Agree!
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
* silent treatment (ugh!)
* subtle insults (ugh!)
* procrastinating on purpose (ugh!)
* sabotage (ugh!)
* keeping score (ugh!)
What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?
All of the above.
Silent treatment and procrastinating on purpose from former lovers.
Subtle insults and keeping score from so-called friends.
Sabotage from my mum.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It's detrimental to growth, all of those signs/behaviour. :(
Personally, the worst way you can treat me is to give me the silent treatment. You could tell me in advance that you plan to be quiet and stay away for the time being. I would understand that and while I'd be concerned, I won't be anxious about it compared to not talking to me out of nowhere. It can lead to overthinking or a magnitude of misinterpretations. We need open communication in our community.
Subtle insults are also not healthy. I mean, if you can't say anything nice, better to not say anything at all as negative things whether it's subtle or not just don't help any situation. It remains a riddle for me what about insults make them feel better :(
Procrastinating on purpose to assert dominance and control over a situation or a person, or to make someone feel insignificant and unimportant is just plain.. negative. I wanna say a whole lot of other negative words but let's go with that. It's unfair, it's a waste of time, and it's not helpful in any way. The same could be said of sabotage.
Keeping score is very offensive for me, whether it's with friends, family, colleagues, a partner, or even with activity buddies. I do things without thinking of what I could get out of it in return. I cannot, for the life of me, understand what this does to someone's mental, emotional, and spiritual health. I don't even know if it has a physical benefit, I highly doubt it. So why do it? :(
@CosmicMiracle
Love your explanation!
@CosmicMiracle
I liked reading on how you detailed every example with an explanation on how not effect passive aggression is!
@Heather225
Silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage and keeping score
@Heather225
I have not experienced this personally, but would imagine that it leads to hurt
@Heather225
Hello everyone,
1: The silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage & keeping score.
2: I would say that the most recent would be subtle insults. I feel like I am on both sides of them, really simple to say but really hard to understand.
3: I have to say that any type of aggression is damaging to our community. Being passive-aggressive will only undermine our goals & mindset here at cups.@Josh3889
Thank you for sharing your perspective!
@Josh3889
Yes in all honesty we are human and can be on both sides of passive aggression, I enjoyed your post and honesty
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Considering non-confrontational in an absolute way, being indirect with feelings, saying things which are don’t really meant, using sarcasm and expecting from others to just “get” how we feel.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have experienced sarcasm mostly in my life when it did made me uncomfortable and question my thoughts, it did made me feel bad about it but I tried to communicate later by questioning and being open about the situation.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression so damaging to our community because people may fear losing control, insecure, or lack self-esteem. It happens and in result they might do it to cope with stress, anxiety, or to deal with rejection or conflict. Alternatively, they might do it because they have a grudge against anyone, or feel underappreciated.
@iStarlight
I really enjoyed reading your post!! I loved your perspective!
@iStarlight
Sarcasm is the worst- It makes you feel belittled or misunderstood, even ashamed. When people are sarcastic I feel they believe they have that upperhand, not a fan of sarcasm
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3.Procrastinating on purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?
I've experienced the silent treatment from my ex. I didn’t know what I did. But he wasn’t replying any of my 20+ messages I sent. Broke up soon after
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression creates a strong barrier between us. It has a toll on people’s mental health. It ruins the trust and peaceful environment in our community.
@Immakindlistener22
I'm sorry that happened between you and your ex, you didn't deserve that! Thank you for sharing your story
1.Procastination intentionally
Silent treatment
Sabotage
Keeping scores
Subtle insults(being shady)
2.Silent treatment
When I’m in a bad mood or I feel offended I tend to ignore
3.I learnt from the video that instead of ignoring I can always find a common ground and be outspoken
4.it is because it destroys the rust of people in the leaders and members
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage (deliberately messing something up)
5. Keeping Score (People who keep track of favors)
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior
you have experienced in your life?
Subtle insults
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It makes people feel unwanted and uncared for in the community, that’s not what we do here, we want to help people and give them a space to be heard
