Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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I will be sad. But it will give me an inspiration to try harder and better. I'll ask my leader for where I did go wrong and improve there
@DarkPiT23
I think asking for feedback is one of the best things you can do!
- If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
= Ask if I was given any other roles? Try to understand why I was not given that specific role. Work better on myself to get the role next time, or not because I might end up actually liking the new role I am assigned more.
@Listeningstars
I think being open to a potentially different role is a great idea. Also, working on trying to understand why you were not selected for that role might be a great form of self-care.
@Listeningstars it is nice to see that you are open to other opportunities.
@Listeningstars 👍
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I found out I was not given a role, I think I would first take some time for some self-reflection and self-care. To the leader that informed me I would say, "Thank you so much for the consideration, and I look forward to future opportunities." Then I would sign up for a mentor.
@Gnibellen I like that reply! It's very mature and understanding!
@Gnibellen it is good thing that you are open to learn and ask for help from mentors.
@Gnibellen Nice answer :)
@Gnibellen It's really important to take breaks in order to reflect to ourselves!
@Heather225
I will be understanding. I would ask for feedback to improve myself for the role. I will ask about other roles which the leader suggests for me to apply.
@hopezzy it is nice to see that you are open to other roles.
@hopezzy
It is so inspiring to see the positivity and openness.
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I just thank for this opportunity, and glad to learn new skills during this process. i will continue to be listener as 1 on 1 with members.
@dudewithaplan update:1
another aproach will be asking what i am lacking of and try to improve that areas.
@dudewithaplan ❤️👍
@dudewithaplan I am glad to hear that you wouldn't let it keep you down!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? Graciously
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for the consideration
I would feel a little upset but will take a pause and accept the rejection.
I would ask for feedback and try to understand that how I can progress towards getting the role in the future.
@AliveandAlive i think that's great ! it's awesome that you would take a step back to think about it and calm yourself a little in order to accept that rejection and know that you can always try again :) <3 it represents a lot of strength and growth !
@Heather225
I should try not to take it too personally, and do some self-care if I feel bad. I could get a mentor if I want to improve myself and get the role next time. To the leader, I’ll thank them for telling me and ask them for any feedback they had and how I could get the role next time.
It’s great that you would take some self care that care be really beneficial and awesome that you would thanks them
Hello there!
I would be definitely confused and sad in The beggining and i would want to know What stands behind The reason of not having The role i wanted to be able to improve myself and skills.
I would accept it and move on and in The end be thankful for The overall experience and opportunity.
Sending strenght and energy!
Lots of love,
🌸Hana🌸
@Livingtohelplive it's definitely understandable to feel confused and sad in the beginning-- i know what you mean ! <3 and it is a learning process :) it takes lots of time and it can really help you in the end !
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? Graciously would you say to the leader who has informed you? Thank you
@MinisterMichelle i do believe that it's important to thank the people that can offer us input <3 when we show more courtesy and gratefulness, they'll want to help us improve more !