Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

@lueurspace

Aww.. that's very sweet of you!! Yes, completely agree with you on the care to be taken when phrasing feedback.

Hope you have an amazing day ahead :)

@FawkesCare12 I love your little mention of coffee and a nice book to read! Self-care is so important especially after news that might make you a lil upset.

@IcedEthan Hehe.. they're my magical go-tos most of the time

Hope you are practicing self care too :)

Hello Everyone!

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Regardless, the dismissal is for a role on 7 Cups or for any application in our reality, it certainly stings. I would feel down however I would acknowledge it. I trust and accept the choice of pioneers and I comprehend that they have picked an individual best fit for the job.

I would say thanks to them for taking their time to inform me. I will ask them for feedback so I could become more acquainted with what are the capacities and abilities I was missing and the focuses where I could chip away at prior to applying for the role again. I would likewise set aside some effort to consider my inclinations forward and will coordinate my energy toward that path as my definitive objective is to offer help to the peoples and give assistance to 7 Cups to its central goal. In the event that I would feel actually quite sad, I will either get some self-care break or contact Peer Supporters to share my sentiments and have a reviving talk with them.

Thank You!

Be the change that you wish to see in the world.

@Heather225

I would talk to them and ask them the following questions:

Am i a good fit?

why was i rejected?

what are the areas i need to improve before applying again?

what are some other roles that i might be more suitable for?

After getting the feedback i will evalute the data and will try to improve my skills and look out for roles that might be more suitable for me.

@DigitalKnight

That seems very thorough, I like the questions you'd be open to asking! You seem to be curious about where you can improve more on and that's very much like me as well - and something a leader should be open for. I do hope we are all provided with feedback that helps us grow to be better and hopefully we will get everything we want, all in right time

You can't give your life more time, so give the time you have, more life.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I will be a little sad but i will try to understand that i didn't get the role because i was not good for it. and, that everyone grows and accomplishes things at different time. How can i use the feedback to improve myself. I would like to thank the leader and will ask for feedback. where i was wrong and how can i improve.

@shallowWater7547 Feeling upset about not getting a role is 100% valid! It is good that you would ask for feedback to see what areas you might need to improve on.

I think you should respond with grace even if you aren’t happy about it. I would respond with “Okay, thank you for telling me. Can I ask what I can improve on?”

@Heather225 If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? It is definitely upsetting to find out but the leaders have rejected me for a reason and I still have space to learn and grow if I get rejected for a role I will ask for feedback and I will improve What would you say to the leader who has informed you? I would thank them for letting me know and ask for feedback on where I can improve and when can I try again for the role

@mamtasha22 It can for sure be upsetting, and that is totally okay. I'm proud of you for noticing that and also noticing that you can ask for feedback to help yourself improve <3

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I think I would just say "thank you" for letting me know of it. It feels a bit sad to know that I have applied and even waited to hear back for it but sometimes it can't be helped. We can accept that we did not get it at present and if we are provided with feedback, we can learn to do better and maybe re-apply if there's an opportunity for that. I would say to the leader, "Thank you for letting me know of it, I can understand that sometimes we still have to improve on some things before we get the chance to do more. I appreciate you for informing me. Is it possible to know why I didn't get it and if there's something I can improve on so the next time I may have a better chance at being accepted for this?"

You can't give your life more time, so give the time you have, more life.

@Heather225

Not getting the role that I wanted may be a blessing in disguise It may be a blessing in disguise because the role that I applied for wouldn't suit me in the way that I thought it would. Some roles are just way to restrictive for me. Sometimes it's better to wait for an opportunity that fits me better. I like to create my own roles and opportunities as well. I am the creator of my own roles and opportunities. Therefore, as long as I don't reject myself, I will never be rejected in the roles that I truly want.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would take self-care, make use of peer support, or my member account, whatever can help me feel calmer. I do not have to stay on 7cups out of necessity. Once I feel calmer, I need to pull constructive feedback from the leader(s) of that role, so that I can learn and apply again when I am ready.

@Fristo

I like the way how you have focused mainly on the "self care". I agree with you💖

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I would feel little sad and disappointed but first disappointment doesn't mean that we can't get that role ever. We can apply for that role next time for sure. So, by using feedback, by practicing more and improving in the areas where we need to improve we can be able to get that role next time. Sometimes, it can be difficult to accept the decision, so we should try to focus on self care. There are other areas too in which we can give our contribution.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

First of all, I would be grateful to them for providing me great opportunity to apply for the specific role. I will ask them for feedback for improving myself to do better next time. Moreover, I will ask about other areas that how can I contribute more. If I am more interested in that specific role then I will improve and apply for it again.

❤ Moreover I would like to add one thing. I remember when I have applied for becoming verified listener, due to some need of improvement I couldn't become. It makes me feel little bad but I didn't give up on the first discouragement. And I I did improvement and applied for it again and has given the mock chat test and got passed 😃

@LovetoGod I'm glad to hear that you were able to push through your discouragement. I'm glad to hear about your accomplishments!!!

@peacefulIris56

Aww thanks. And I really want to appreciate one thing about you that you try to give replies to everyone and I love that about you.❤❤

@LovetoGod You're welcome!!! I appreciate your kind and positive words.

@peacefulIris56

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@LovetoGod
I agree, we should focus on self care! And I am really glad you didn't give up and got verified!

@Hope2103
Yeah. Thanks for your appreciation. Good luck with program 💖

Thank you so much💙

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would ask the leader for some feedback so that I know what I need to work on in order to have a better chance at getting the role should I reapply in the future. I would make sure I take some self-care so as to not get overwhelmed or upset by not getting the role I applied for, and I might take some extra time away from 7Cups if I felt like I needed it. I would also request a mentor if I did not already have one, and ask them to support me in working towards reapplying if that was something I was still interested in.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
If I found out I was not given a role, I would thank the leader for taking the time to let me know I was not chosen for said role. And I would also ask them for feedback on what I did wrong and ways to improve.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would say something along the lines of the the following to the leader who informed me:
“Thank you for letting me know that I was not chosen for said role. What could I work on improving before reapplying?”

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I should respond with good behavior and with allowing my emotions to come and pass. What I would do is: I would be sad, but I would act with good behavior. I would probably tell them something like this “Oh, that’s okay. I’ll see if I can do another leadership role instead. Thank you for your time.”

@RimeSoul That's so important to accept your emotions and to allow yourself to experience them and to let them pass. Being respectful of others is advantageous in many ways.

@RimeSoul
It's great to explore more roles rather than feeling disheartened. Thanks for sharing.

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

If I am not given my desired role, I shouldn't feel disheartened. I may take some time off to deal with it. And then after taking the feedback I can apply again.

I would thank them for considering and use their feedback to improve on.

@helpfuldipper Right on, I agree. It is something we should remind ourselves not to feel disheartened over. Great reminder and well said :)

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Don’t take it personally. If I need time for some self-care I should step away from 7 Cups for a bit to do that. I should also consider a mentor.

I would thank them for getting back to me and for their honesty. I would ask them to provide any feedback or recommendations they would have for me and if it would be ok that once I worked on them if I try reapplying for the position again.

@FlourishingDimensions

Hello!

I liked that you would not take personally if you don't get a role you apply for. I know it could hurt and make us feel disappointed but it is very important to know that we can always give it another try and work hard until we achieve our goal.

@FlourishingDimensions
Self-care is very important here. I believe a break can really help. I myself took a long break and it helped in reflecting on my experience at 7cups.

@FlourishingDimensions
I'm glad you highlighted getting training from a mentor and taking a self care break. I think they'd play one of the most major factors in improving on your weak areas and getting that role ultimately.

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

If I did not get the role I wanted I would totally be sad, but I would understand that if it did not happen it was fair because there are requirements that we have to meet, and if I didn't meet the requirements then it is fair that I did not get the role because that means that I am was not ready to get it. I would thank the leader for letting me know, and I would ask for feedback in order to get better and make sure that I can be ready to give it another try.

@Andyallen
I totally agree that asking for feedback is really important.

@Andyallen
Its very nice to see that you'd be understanding and constructive even while being sad. We're humans and we'd obviously be sad and disappointed when we do not get something we desire, but I love your spirit of accepting it and working on it.

@BecauseImBatman22

That's a great point! Approach to a struggle/hardship is what can make a better outcome!

@Andyallen asking for feedback is really important argh i agree

@Andyallen
That's a very balanced way to react over a situation like this. Surely we must check on where we lack and we must work on that so that we can make it the next time. :)