Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

@Readylistener I think the approach to the second part is spot on.

@Readylistener
That is great that you are reminding yourself, (and us, that read this), to stay positive and not let it bring us down should this happen! :)

@Readylistener
I really like your spirit of trying!!

@Readylistener So happy to see your positivity and eagerness to improve!!!

@Readylistener

Exactly. Improvement is a constant process.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

A: usually I can get what I want without my mom,dad, and god sister. I would tell my god sister what she said wrong about me; however, with my parents, I would wait until I really got angry with them!

I'd be sad and disheartened. But it's okay. I'll always remember that there is a scope of improvement and will keep in mind that I can try again the next time after working on myself and maybe then, I'd get selected. I'll ask the leader as to where I can improve, and would also seek their help to get better.

@SweetDreamer69 Remembering there is room for improvement is definitely necessary for this situation.

@MarleyR I agree with you. If a person is unable to think that way, there is a chance that he / she might get surrounded with negativity.

@SweetDreamer69

Glad you mentioned the part about inquiring what you can improve on!

@SweetDreamer69

I like to see that you are open for improvement

@SweetDreamer69 Yes it does feel sad to not get something we were feeling enthusiastic about, yet it's so good that you will look to be patient until the required learning takes place for you to apply again once ready.

@SweetDreamer69

Hello!

It is really inspiring to hear that even though you would feel very sad about not getting a role that you applied for you would still work hard and take it as a growing experience. Sending virtual hugs! :) <3

@SweetDreamer69
There is a scope of improvement! Cannot agree with you more!

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I will look for more information so I can improve and can apply next time. Definitely initially it would be bit upsetting but looking it big picture it good to drive car when we pass the driving license instead of driving without it. As it going to damage oneself and other.

@blindHeart12 the drivers license metaphor is a good way of putting the situation into something relatable.

@MarleyR
thank you for appreciation.

@blindHeart12 Amazing answer ! You are on the right track

@blindHeart12 Glad to see your positivity and eagerness to improve!!!

@blindHeart12

Initially I would be upset, but then I would realize that I would have more time to prepare for the next time I apply. I would accept the feedback from the leader and work with a mentor to improve the qualities I lack in for the role.

@MarleyR

It's good to see that you are willing to work with people.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

Ans: If I find out that I have not been given a role, I should try my best to respond as positively as possible. Maybe the role wasn’t the right fit for me! Of course, negative feelings will arise and healthy coping methods can help me through it. I could reach out to a peer supporter or try to stay away from cups for a little while to cool down the negative feelings. I shouldn’t let these feelings interfere in my path of improving and working on myself to be ready for the correct role at a later time.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Ans: I would ask them for constructive feedback and what steps should be taken to improve myself.

@cuteeeezombieeee
I really like how your answer has all the relevants points and is concise to boot! That's honestly amazing!

@cuteeeezombieeee

You have expressed your views very well!

@cuteeeezombieeee

You have really explained your answer very well. I am agree with you. And I really like that how you have focused mainly on feelings which can be really difficult to accept ❤

Asking for feedback is a great idea!

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
Talk to the leader – I would patiently ask them for feedback on what areas I lack and need to work on, in order for me to get the role the next time I apply. I would also be sure to not take it personally, since the role may not have been the right fit for me or I might just not have been ready to take the role yet.

Take some self-care – Naturally I would be upset on finding out that I was not given the role initially. Hence, it would be best for me to take some time off from 7 Cups so that I can reflect, recharge and return stronger! Another great option would be to talk to a peer supporter for some after-care.

Get a mentor – This would be the best way for me to grow personally and professionally as an active listener and a member of the 7 Cups community, since a mentor can provide me with much needed guidance on how to achieve a role that is most suitable for me.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Firstly, I would thank them for letting me know and for the opportunity. Secondly, I would ask for pointers on what I need to do to be a right fit for the role or alternatively, ask if they have any idea on what other roles, if any would be suitable for me.

@Cristen

Well put and all your tips for improvement is really informative

Wishing you the very best

@giggleZebra2708
Thank you so much! All the best to you in the program too!

@Cristen

heyy! I really appreciate that how you have highlighted the three specific points and have described them so well!

@Cristen

I really like one thing about your answer that how you have mentioned points. And you have really explained it very good 😊

@Cristen

amazing !

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

When I find out that I was not given the role that I applied to, I would try to reflect on where I might have missed with the specific requirements. I will try my very best to work on those requirements and do the very best to work on the given role. I would thank the leader for the opportunity and ask them for their feedback to learn where I might have lagged for my intended position.

@giggleZebra2708 Self-reflection and pulling feedback sound good approach of handling the situation.

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I think you should respond in a calm matter, because getting angry at the leader will not help your case. I would ask the leader for feedback and how i can do better next time or what other role they feel would suit me better.

@Lww873

yeah! I agree with you that getting angry at the leader won't help us in any way

@Lww873 I like that you are open to feedback and that you are willing to explore other options when things don't work out. Having good communication helps with these things.

Hello friends :)

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I think I’d be a bit sad, initially. Then I’d take a moment to understand why I didn’t get the role (after taking a comfort coffee and a good book to read).

I’d thank the leader and ask them if possible, to give some feedback as to how I can improve upon it. I suppose the leader who has to give the news would be in a tough position than me.

I’d probably then reapply for another role because there is no shortage of roles here :) and I may be better suited to another role than the one I’d initially applied for.

@FawkesCare12

Hey, I like how you mention that you would take time to understand why you didn't get the role - drinking coffee and read a good book, that definitely sounds comforting and we all deserve to go easy on ourselves after hearing not-so-pleasant news. And I like how you also understand that giving feedback is not as easy! I hear you on that, it may be so hard to even word it properly so that you don't discourage the other person, it's very important to give feedback properly! I absolutely love your answer! There could also be other roles we may enjoy taking up. Thank you so much for sharing, you helped me expand my thinking a bit more on this!

You can't give your life more time, so give the time you have, more life.