Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback

what if you don't really want to be a leader but people give you their unsolicited feedback anyway:?!

@dworth257

Getting feedback is something everyone gets, regardless of being a leader. Leaders are just the people who give the most feedback. Feedback is for everyone, not just leaders. It is a learning experience if you accept it as such. Everyone has room for improvement and thats all feedback is, a suggestion for improvement.

@CognitiveACE

So true!

@CognitiveACE

I agree! Getting feedback on anything is an important part in growing, for everyone, regardless of if you're a leader or not!

@CognitiveACE

Leadership is a learning experience. Leaders give the most feedback.

@CognitiveACE

Thats so true !

@Heather225

Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?

Most Recent Feedback- About reporting people - I felt that the feedback was not great but I accept it and that reporting is still good to do .

How did I feel- I was just shocked to be honest that some behavior is acceptable by some and not others..

Why Do I think I reacted and felt the way i did - Because I am one who believes in following the rules set in place but of course I can break some rules myself nothing big but I am sure I do.

What would I do differently after watching Video- Nothing really because I learned and accepted what was told to me and understanding how reports are seperated and points given..

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Yay! Keep the learning up!

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

It feels that you are hurt. I wish I could be of help. I wish you the best in your journey ahead.

@shiningSound31 Thanks for your reply but No I am not hurt I was not the one reported I had reported someone and had screen shots and nothing was done ... I am good no worries lol...just how i felt about it.

Thanks Tye...

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Oh Okay.

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

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@shiningSound31 Thank you for the heart and Smiles and Congrats by the way you are my 2000th Forum Post !! weeeeeeeeee weeeeeeeeeeeeeee ! I wanna give you a Badge for this lol..... Tye's 2000 Post Badge awarded too ShiningSound31 lol

Have a blessed day !

Tye

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Thanks, Tye

@shiningSound31 Yvw

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

I can understand your view and agree witn you

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

You sound like a really perceptive and appreciative person - also really calm and understanding! Kepp it up <3

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

even i learned that point through video that feedack is different and not to take personal.

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 I loved how honest you were in the last part of your answer !

@Tyedyedbutterfly65, I can understand how this made you feel. I myself am also a strict rule follower so when they aren't it can become frustrating among other things.

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Even I was shocked to know that some behavior is acceptable by some and not others..

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Thats a really moral and well explained answer

@Heather225

How did you react? The feedback was a little unexpected because I thought I did my best and was expecting to move to the next phase

How did you feel? I felt as though the feedback was necessary, because what I thought I understood, I really didn't

Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? It's never exciting to receive feedback because you don't know what the feedback is going to be about

What would you do differently after having watched the video? I need to realizse that there is always room for improvement and you can learn through receiving feedback

@CheeryMango

Inspiring!

@CheeryMango

Mango, I really like your answer to the last question. I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

@CheeryMango

Feedback is the best scope of learning. Great point noted. All the best!

@CheeryMango This was very inspiring Mango! Feedback is indeed necessary sometimes to understand if something in our approach is wrong and to improve it.

@CheeryMango
I agree! It's scary not knowing what the feedback might be, but it helps us grow :) most of the time

@CheeryMango

So beautifully explained

I just received some feedback from my graphic design team today and the feedback hurt me a bit since I worked really hard on a project but I understand that with this feedback I'll be able to grow as a person.

@softMusic9759

Whatever the feedback was, and even if we can always improve, I am sure that your work is amazing! Congratulations

@softMusic9759

I really liked your positive attitude toward receiving feedback. I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

@softMusic9759

So glad to see you are turning the emotions to a positive note! You will do great ahead. All the best!

@softMusic9759

I love how you were able to see the positive in the feedback and grow from it. Well done :)

@softMusic9759

that really nice perspective .

@Heather225

Hi! How are you?

I took the feedback, not with a smile (since it s hard for me, and it was from a challenging person), but I took it.

I felt very bad, like a terrible person.

I reacted and felt that way because of the lack of warmth in the feedback, and because of my self-esteem issues.

I could apply conflict resolution skills, even if it s not a conflict itself.

@Daf8 That makes sense that feedback expressed in a cold/harsh way would feel upsetting, especially if you were already feeling like "Ugh I'm not doing anything right." I definitely feel sometimes like I have to reword feedback or translate it into my own personal language to make it a bit gentler, warmer, and relevant to how I think about things before I'm able to accept, process, or act upon it. (And sometimes after thinking about an issue, I might honestly decide that there isn't anything that needs to be done or can be done right now.)

@QuietMagic

I agree! Thank you for your words

@Daf8

Though its not a conflict itself, its feedback acceptance, but very well compared. It is an internal conflict that we need to address. Sure conflict resolution techniques can be used in this context. All the best!

@peacefulWarrior10

Thank you for this! It means a lot. All the best for the best!