Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #6) How to Accept Feedback
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Accepting feedback is a crucial part of being a good leader.
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
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@Heather225
i think when people are getting feedback generally they become defensive and think someone is attacking them, i would lie if i said I didn't feel that way too. I feel the reason of this is because we are so concerned about what we do and how others think of us that we lose our focus , feedback is not to put anyone down but to help others up. The video taught me that being appreciative towards the feedback is important, sometimes we fail to realise that as hard as it is to receive feedback, it might be harder for the other person to speak up and give you feedback
@Heather225
Think about the most recent feedback you received:
I will be thinking of the most recent negative feedback
How did you react? How did you feel?
I froze, because a negative feedback wasn't something I was expecting. I felt blood gushing through my head and palms being sweaty.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
My reaction was in fact an indication that I am not perfect. Which we do know, but we forget at times. And in such times negative feedback hits us hard like that
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
I will indeed take deep breath next time I am about to get a feedback, because that would give me time to remember that it's okay to fail and try to improve. :)
@DonaldDraper
Well said! We are not perfect, but we can get better!
@DonaldDraper
The deep breathing sounds for a great idea. I might have to steal that next time.
@DonaldDraper I understand how a feedback can be unpleasant and kind of scary but it's great that you try to improve! Good job!
@DonaldDraper
I love the idea that it is okay to fail and try to improve from it! It is something very true, that we often forget!
@Heather225
The last feedback I received wasn't the best one, honestly. I felt a bit sad about it, but I didn't let it take over me and accepted it, because maybe it could've been a misunderstanding between me and the member. Or maybe I really was wrong. But I reacted that way because I know that it was something I could fix and that I could contact a mentor, too, to see if something was going wrong. I think I reacted well, because I kept myself calm and didn't give up because of this feedback. And i don't think I'd do anything differently.
@kateaala
It seems you did react pretty well to the feedback! It is natural to feel upset, but you seem to have handled those emotions well. I also like how you were really honest!
@kateaala
Very well done!
[Posting again as I searched for my answer and it was only half complete!]
I think I reacted well - I accepted it, understood it and internalised it. I felt encouraged to do better. The most recent feedback I received was regarding discussions. I did feel as though it was a way of telling me that I had done something wrong, or that I wasn't good enough, but I realised it wasn't this at all. It was more so that I needed to push myself to be even better. I think I reacted like this because I was always pushed down when I was younger, and as a result I seem to think that this is what's occurring now. This is not the case, however. I don't think I'd react differently having watched the video - I know now how useful feedback is.
@RebekahRoyal
That's awesome that you can recgonize how useful feedback is! Amazing job Rebekah!
Think about the most recent feedback you received:How did you react?
I recently received a negative feedback that unexpectedly affected me
How did you feel?
it affected me very hard, because what I received negative feedback from, I received positive feedback from others before and after
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
maybe because I’m too maximalist for myself. I still have a lot of work to do with this
negative feedback is helpful. I learn from it and that is very important
Question :
Think about the most recent feedback you received: How did you react? How did you feel? Why do you think you reacted and feel that way? What would you do differently after having watched the video?
Answer :
I keep receiving feedback from bosses on regular basis, like once a week, for various matters, because I'm entrusted with a wide range of high responsibility tasks at work. I'm really glad they give me feedback constructively. Yes sometimes they just burst with disappointment but at the the end of the day I know very well that they reacted that way because they have "High Expectations" from me and they do provide "High Warmth" as well. They want me to grow as much as I want it myself. They count on me. So usually I accept their feedback openly and think about it and work on it, but when they blast me I feel very sad and frustrated. But then I sort through my thoughts and feelings over time and I find my balance and rationale back. I become more accepting. I implement the feedback positively.
After watching this video I think I'll do a few things moving forward. (1) ask for feedback proactively, (2) separate myself from my work so that tough feedback doesn't hurt my ego and self image, (3) practice giving better feedback to my team members and peers.
@peacefulWarrior10 This sounds great! The video was quite helpful for me too.
@SofiaT2000
Thanks <3
@Heather225
The most recent feedback made me realize that actually the person had a valid point. It just made me reflect, there was no good or bad feeling because I did not feel attacked. In the past this was different though and I felt I was losing confidence. To me it’s important to remind myself the feedback is there to help, it is not personal (provided it is constructive feedback).
Think about the most recent feedback you received:
How did you react? How did you feel?
The most recent feedback I received was a mix of both positive and negative. I reacted pretty positively to it, although the negative part of the feedback was disappointing.
Why do you think you reacted and feel that way?
I reacted (mostly) positively to the feedback because it was given to me in a very supportive and constructive way. That helped me look at the situation objectively and identify my strengths and weaknesses.
What would you do differently after having watched the video?
In this particular scenario, not much would change, but in general, I will try to take negative or constructive feedback less personally.
@Heather225
When I recieved feedback, I was surprised. I felt disappointed in myself that I had let someone down in my capacity to try to help them. I think I reacted that way because my reason for volunteering here is to help others, I never want to add to someone's pain. I have learned since watching the video, that feedback of all types helps us grow and improve.
@Heather225
The most recent feedback I received was positive and I was happy with it and reacted in a good way. The feedback complimented my rhetorics style and that made me feel proud of myself. I don't have anything to improve, but I would remind myself to behave positively towards critical feedback as well as affirmative ones.
