Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is terrible because it's harmful to the people who are being spoken about behind their backs. If the person were to overhear what was said.. or someone were to pass it on to them.. it could really personally hurt someone.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know the other person's side, so I prefer not to discuss anything about what they're thinking or feeling in their absence."

YES!! I use this. Especially when I'm caught in the middle between 2 friends

@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
It is disrespectful to the person you are gossping about. It makes others lose trust in you and makes you look bad too.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
You can change the topic to something more neutral or positive.

@Heather225
Gossiping is deep rooted in the human society. The video is really worthy with the points discussed. Following are my responses for the questions respectively.

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping in simple words is talking about anyone behind their back. While gossiping, people often judge the person where the person being judged is absent to defend themselves. This might cause an outbreak of false rumor and negatively worsen the situation creating a huge misunderstanding. It can lead to disastrous situation. Besides, on the personal level it delivers a negative trait about the person indulged in the gossip. It can create a lack of trust among people towards the person indulged in the gossip. People might feel unsafe talking out behind them. Hence, gossiping is bad and should be avoided in any situation.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Gossiping can be stopped in many ways, but the best way to stop is to show no interest and switching the topic of the conversation to anything else. This can stop the gossip without creating stopping the conversation or creating a gap.

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@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

I think gossiping goes hand in hand with criticizing people behind their backs, it seems to me that speaking ill of someone is something very low, we do not know how that gossip can hurt someone, that is very delicate, however many people do it and it is So many times those affected suffer a lot during a great part of their lives, unfortunately

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

1. stay away from someone who creates gossip within our community
2. Ask ourselves what is the point of repeating that information.
3. Find out the problem behind the gossip

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it damages your image and it might show others that you're not trustworthy. In some cases it might also backfire to you and create situations where others might do the same about you.

By being trustworthy and by not gossiping you're showing people that you are a person of great character and a non-judgemental person. It might even make people talk good about you (Though that cannot be guaranteed with others personalities. Eg: If the other person enjoys talking bad about people or has jealousy over you they might talk behind your back even though you don't do the same).

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Whenever a situation comes when others are gossiping and expects you to join with them, you can say that since you don't know about that person's perspective you can't join in to that conversation.

You can also simply try to change the topic into a more helpful or fun area.

You also can talk about other stuff like travelling, food, new trends, new hobbies you've started in a situation where you don't have anything to talk about.

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it not only creates a negative vibe about the person but also about. The intent behind gossiping is to make yourself look good by joining in and relating to the conversation of making someone else look bad. It is unfair to do. It does not do anyone any good.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I will initially try to change the topic and instead highlight a good quality about the person but if that seems inevitable then I will clearly state that I do not wish to intend to be a part of this by saying

• I am not aware of the situation to comment on it or have an opinion on it.

• I do not know the other person’s perspective so I prefer not to discuss what I think they were thinking/feeling in their absence

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it’s highly negative. It is hurtful to that person who you are gossiping about and it also puts you in a bad light.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I don’t know the other person’s perspective so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it can possibly damage someone's reputation and it can eventually lead to people thinking of you as unreliable and untrustworthy.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I would prefer not talking about the other person when they are absent, since I'm not sure how they were thinking or feeling.

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it can possibly damage someone's reputation and it can eventually lead to people thinking of you as unreliable and untrustworthy.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I would prefer not talking about the other person when they are absent, since I'm not sure how they were think or feeling.

@Heather225

Gossiping is bad because it creates a toxic environment. People begin too obsess over who says what and often, get a bad image of a person they hardly know. People often gossip as a way to express their anger towards other people. Often though, these same people don't realize how much pain it could cause them and others. This is because gossiping is a cycle of negativity. If you are gossiping about someone else, chances are, they'll find out and gossip about you! It's better we stay away from such things because the consequences are huge. A line from the video that really stood out to me was "I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence."