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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

Heather225 August 24th, 2020

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Our next objective in this course is to master effective communication skills for healthy interpersonal and professional relationships.

Don't Gossip - Deepstash

Please watch this video
1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

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Harquinn909 August 4th, 2021

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is terrible because it's harmful to the people who are being spoken about behind their backs. If the person were to overhear what was said.. or someone were to pass it on to them.. it could really personally hurt someone.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

"I don't know the other person's side, so I prefer not to discuss anything about what they're thinking or feeling in their absence."

YES!! I use this. Especially when I'm caught in the middle between 2 friends

HannahPalm August 14th, 2021

@Heather225
1. Why is gossiping bad?
It is disrespectful to the person you are gossping about. It makes others lose trust in you and makes you look bad too.
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
You can change the topic to something more neutral or positive.

Ashvillium August 17th, 2021

@Heather225
Gossiping is deep rooted in the human society. The video is really worthy with the points discussed. Following are my responses for the questions respectively.

  1. Why is gossiping bad?
Gossiping in simple words is talking about anyone behind their back. While gossiping, people often judge the person where the person being judged is absent to defend themselves. This might cause an outbreak of false rumor and negatively worsen the situation creating a huge misunderstanding. It can lead to disastrous situation. Besides, on the personal level it delivers a negative trait about the person indulged in the gossip. It can create a lack of trust among people towards the person indulged in the gossip. People might feel unsafe talking out behind them. Hence, gossiping is bad and should be avoided in any situation.
  1. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
Gossiping can be stopped in many ways, but the best way to stop is to show no interest and switching the topic of the conversation to anything else. This can stop the gossip without creating stopping the conversation or creating a gap.

See you all in the next discussion!
Spreading love
Ash!

Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

I think gossiping goes hand in hand with criticizing people behind their backs, it seems to me that speaking ill of someone is something very low, we do not know how that gossip can hurt someone, that is very delicate, however many people do it and it is So many times those affected suffer a lot during a great part of their lives, unfortunately

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

1. stay away from someone who creates gossip within our community
2. Ask ourselves what is the point of repeating that information.
3. Find out the problem behind the gossip

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bubblingBreeze14 September 5th, 2021

@Crystaldancer

Very true.. I've seen most people doing that enjoying it. I have no idea why.

caringHope1976 September 16th, 2021

@Crystaldancer

Amazing! Well-done.

September 17th, 2021

@Crystaldancer

I definitely agree with you! It is important to not gossip, since it can possibly cause negative effects for that person without us realizing it! Your statements are also great, and I especially agree with the second one! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️

Textingpals October 17th, 2021

@Crystaldancer

You are very correct, gossiping hurts a lot.

jersey123456 October 24th, 2021

@Crystaldancer

Great Answer !


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bubblingBreeze14 September 5th, 2021

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it damages your image and it might show others that you're not trustworthy. In some cases it might also backfire to you and create situations where others might do the same about you.

By being trustworthy and by not gossiping you're showing people that you are a person of great character and a non-judgemental person. It might even make people talk good about you (Though that cannot be guaranteed with others personalities. Eg: If the other person enjoys talking bad about people or has jealousy over you they might talk behind your back even though you don't do the same).

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Whenever a situation comes when others are gossiping and expects you to join with them, you can say that since you don't know about that person's perspective you can't join in to that conversation.

You can also simply try to change the topic into a more helpful or fun area.

You also can talk about other stuff like travelling, food, new trends, new hobbies you've started in a situation where you don't have anything to talk about.

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caringHope1976 September 16th, 2021

@bubblingBreeze14

Such a detailed response. I loved it.

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bubblingBreeze14 September 17th, 2021

@caringHope1976

Thank You ❤️

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September 17th, 2021

@bubblingBreeze14

What an amazing response! You're so right that gossiping can portray a negative view upon another person, and how important it is to see the situation from that person's perspective! Nice job! ❤️

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bubblingBreeze14 September 17th, 2021

@Nerdtastic01

Thank You ❤️

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Prachi9876 September 8th, 2021

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it not only creates a negative vibe about the person but also about. The intent behind gossiping is to make yourself look good by joining in and relating to the conversation of making someone else look bad. It is unfair to do. It does not do anyone any good.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I will initially try to change the topic and instead highlight a good quality about the person but if that seems inevitable then I will clearly state that I do not wish to intend to be a part of this by saying

  • I am not aware of the situation to comment on it or have an opinion on it.

  • I do not know the other person’s perspective so I prefer not to discuss what I think they were thinking/feeling in their absence

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caringHope1976 September 16th, 2021

@Prachi9876

Fabulous.

September 17th, 2021

@Prachi9876

You're totally right! Many people want to gossip to fit in, yet it creates a negative aroma around the person who's absent! I definitely agree with both of your statements - just don't comment or say you shouldn't talk about the other person in their absence! Thanks a lot for sharing! ❤️

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caringHope1976 September 16th, 2021

@Heather225

Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it’s highly negative. It is hurtful to that person who you are gossiping about and it also puts you in a bad light.

List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I don’t know the other person’s perspective so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

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September 17th, 2021

@caringHope1976

You brought up some great points! Gossiping shines a negative light on the person who's absent, and it is important to emphasize that when the topic arises! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️

bubblingBreeze14 September 17th, 2021

@caringHope1976

Well said!

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September 17th, 2021

1. Why is gossiping bad?


Gossiping is bad because it can possibly damage someone's reputation and it can eventually lead to people thinking of you as unreliable and untrustworthy.




2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!


I would prefer not talking about the other person when they are absent, since I'm not sure how they were thinking or feeling.

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LavenderFlower September 25th, 2021

@Nerdtastic01

I'm happy to see you found a new statement to avoid gossip. Good work! You're making all the right steps to have better relationships with other leaders!

ASilentBunny March 24th, 2022

I totally agree, thank you for sharing!


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September 17th, 2021

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it can possibly damage someone's reputation and it can eventually lead to people thinking of you as unreliable and untrustworthy.


2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I would prefer not talking about the other person when they are absent, since I'm not sure how they were think or feeling.

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bubblingBreeze14 September 17th, 2021

@Nerdtastic01

Very true.. Gossiping is a two way thing. It could hurt others and it might hurt you as well. Nice job with identifying what gossiping is 😉

Izzy274 September 27th, 2021

@Nerdtastic01

That's true, gossip can have a really big impact on our views of someone even if it isn't true, and having this effect is a very negative thing. You have a great response to people if they try to start gossiping though!

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TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@Heather225

Gossiping is bad because it creates a toxic environment. People begin too obsess over who says what and often, get a bad image of a person they hardly know. People often gossip as a way to express their anger towards other people. Often though, these same people don't realize how much pain it could cause them and others. This is because gossiping is a cycle of negativity. If you are gossiping about someone else, chances are, they'll find out and gossip about you! It's better we stay away from such things because the consequences are huge. A line from the video that really stood out to me was "I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence."

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Izzy274 September 27th, 2021

@TheGoodHeartedBuddy

Yeah, I really agree with what you're saying about it forming a negative cycle, and once a cycle of gossiping is formed it can create a lot of toxicity and make the conversation a not very nice place to be. I really like your response to prevent gossiping though! :)

courageousheart96 September 27th, 2021

@TheGoodHeartedBuddy

Yes, usually the anger can be used in a productive way instead of badmouthing or spreading negativity in the community

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