Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
If I find out I didn't get a role, I should respond with gratitude and a positive attitude.
I would say to the leader,
Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate the opportunity to apply. Can you please provide me with some feedback on how I can improve next time?
@Damonchandio That's a great message!
@FrenchToast If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I think you should respond politely asking for constructive criticism from the leader and if feedback is given to try to learn on what you can improve. I think you can should say Hi! I heard I didn't get the role and congrats to the people you did. Just wondering whether you had any feedback which I could improve on or anything which I did well. If not, that's okay. Thank you for the time.
@Ivebutterfly
Very well said!
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would say something similar to this:
Heyy *leader name* thanks for letting me my results i can't say am not a little disappointed of it , i would really appreciate it if you gave me a feedback on my results take your time i know you are busy thankss for your hard work.
@Noor511 that's a really good response, good luck in your future application!
@FrenchToastQuestion: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would accept it. Nothing in life is guaranteed but I would contact the leader to ask if there are any feedback to improve on my next application
@CaringCompanion22
Yup, you are right!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello 'Leader's username'!
Thanks for informing me. I really appreciate it. I respect the decision and understand that I am not ready enough for this role yet. I am excited to learn from this experience. If you have any feedback or guidance for future, I would be really grateful to hear your thoughts as it would be really helpful for me in future opportunities.
Thank you so much again for all the support and help till now.
Warm regards and have a wonderful day!😊
@KindleMissie
great response!
@FrenchToast
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would accept the outcome. I would ask if are any changes I could make to potentially reach this role
@FrenchToast
Hello, thank you for following up with me and letting me know the results of my application. I understand that I am not the best fit for the role currently, and would appreciate if you could give me feedback and let me know what areas to improve on if I were to reapply. I appreciate you taking the time to help me!
@hirai111
That's a great response!
@FrenchToast
Thank you for letting me know about the decision.I would like to understand more about the decision and any feedback you might have. Could you share what factors influenced the choice and how I might improve or position myself better for future opportunities?"
I like this response. It is very to the point, which shows that you want to improve directly in areas that you feel you might be lacking in. Thank you for sharing!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello Leader!
Thank you for responding to my request earlier. I understand my proposal got rejected which is slightly upsetting to me at the moment, however, I'll definitely take into account the pointers you've mentioned in the areas I need to develop and will surely work on it. I sincerely hope to work with you soon. Thanks again for your continued support and care. I really appreciate this!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
@Onyx000
i like how you asked a lot of questions and asked for feedback in a respectful way. Amazing response💕