Course 3, Discussion 3: When you don't get the role you want
Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for the opportunity and the time they took to review my application, and ask for constructive feedback so when I apply for a different role, I can make improvements.
I won't let it discourage me, when one door closes another one opens :)
@Shannon1996
i think your comment about when one door closes another opens is an important thing to remember when we don’t get a role that we wanted.
@FrenchToast
Thank you so much for your time and consideration. I understand. Is there something I can do to improve my skills so that I can get the role when I apply at a later time?
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for considering my application! I immensely appreciate the opportunity, and the time you took out to provide feedback! If you have any other advice on how I can improve, I would be grateful if you shared them. I'm eager to learn and grow, and your insights would be incredibly valuable to me.
I understand that I may not be the right fit at this time. Could you please let me know when the next opportunity to apply might arise? I'm eager to contribute in any way I can :)
Thank you!
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi,
Thank you for informing me about it and I'm really grateful for this great privilege. Can i get some genuine feedback from you on where i faulted?. I will continue to put up a good fight and you will get your desired congratulations.
Hi leader, I really did want this position. But i understand i need more experience.
Hi leader, I really did want this position. But i understand i need more experience.
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hello there! I am sending this to thank you for considering me for the role on 7 Cups. I truly appreciate the opportunity and the time you invested in the selection process. After hearing your decision, I wanted to let you know that while I'm naturally a bit disappointed, I understand that tough decisions have to be made. Although this particular role may not have worked out, I am still very much committed to contributing to the community in any way that I can. I would like to ask if there is any feedback that you can provide me with regarding my application. That would help me grow both personally and professionally. Additionally, if there are any opportunities or areas where I can contribute on this platform, I would be more than happy to explore them. Thank you for your time!
✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
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@crypticwhisperss1
wow, very nice plan for being positive about not getting the leadership role you wanted!
@FrenchToast
Hi 'Leader's Username',
Thank you so much for getting back to me. While I am a little disappointed, I'm grateful for your time and consideration in reading my application. If you have a few minutes, I would really appreciate some feedback to help me improve with future applications. I wish you all the best.
@Rosey16
Great reply. It is helpful to get constructive feedback.
@FrenchToast
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Responding should be taken with a reflective, courteous response.
If presented with a "decline" by a leader:
Hi (leader). Thank you for letting me know. I appreciate the opportunity to apply. I would, so much, to get feedback of what happened in my application, that I was unsuccessful. Thank you.
In the meantime, I look forward to serving 7 Cups, to the best of my ability & knowledge. Please take care.
@CaringSub
That's such an amazing response, it's so great that to acknowledge that you have areas to improve!
@FrenchToast
✒️Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Hi [leaders name],
Thank you for reaching out to me, and thank you so much for taking the time to look over my application. If you have the time I would appreciate some feedback on how I can improve for future applications. I hope you have a great day/night.
@Soul576 Great responseeeee