In The Gloaming TW *just in case*

@mytwistedsoul

I know right?! The melted, gooey chocolate is all things- *droolssssss* xD It does look like a lava cake to me also, I honestly at this melted-point, do not care about the name or whatever it is, I just wanna dig innnn lol. 😭 *shares with youuu tooo* 🥰

Aww chocolate lasagna :o I dunno where to find it but it sounds super tempting and niceeeee for my tastebuds haha! *-*

Ooh yes, a tart, truth be told, I'm not the most experimentative or open to diverse flavors haha, sticking to chocolate feels safer usually. xD Still expanding on it slowly though, one new flavor at a time. 😆 I like blueberry cheesecake the most, in cheesecakes. :D

It does sound and look (I googled xD) quite summery and also refreshing? hehe. :P Time to hop to a bake-house pretty soon now.

Lol yes new xD 🍨 also this🍧? Haha!

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou Lol! Agreed 😊 it needs no name. Just a spoon or fork or heck a straw at this point 😁

Chocolate lasagna

Yum! 😋

@mytwistedsoul

Hahahaha yasss a straw would work too! 😆

Aw that's very understandable, and also same, Soul, sticking to the usual, known stuff seems just safer and better. :O You're right haha, can't go wrong with chocolate (I hope we don't jinx this xD).

Omigosh it looks so yummmm 😍 it looks like an ice cream I once had hehe, it was an ice cream sandwich sorta? With biscuit textured covers stuffed with ice cream (I think I am horrible at explaining this stuff but I hope you got it 😂😭), was sooo good also (perhaps one of those "lemme try something different" moments for me haha).

You made the chocolate lasagna then? :D I'm impressed. Does Soul enjoy cooking/ baking?

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou Gasp! No jinxing chocolate! 😯 The Oreos are crushed to make the crust. Then mix cream cheese with cool whip and spread on the crust. Then chocolate pudding and topped with more cool whip and sprinkled with little chocolate chips 😋

@mytwistedsoul

Hehe yes, no jinxing chocolate lol.

Omigoodness, Soul, I'm drooling already, it sounds so so delishhhhh, hope to have it some day haha!

Ooh now with my question you'll be able to guesss if I cook/ bake or not lol, so question is, are homemade biscuits and cookies too different from each other (baking process)?🙈

A zucchini bread?! Is that a thing too? Which rock am I living under haha!👀

That's so true lol, ramen and hotdogs, specially ramen is comfy (and easy) food 101 but oof yes, gotta satisfy the nutrient intake also xD sooo proud of you for trying to learn, have you tried these YouTube recipe videos and stuff? Some of these "look" really easy hehe, I keep adding some of these in the "saved" playlists but somehow don't come back to most of them (lol- not proud about it). XD ❤

I feel cooking is a super-power-like skill to have, and a super power I don't have xD I can cook enough to survive though, but yeah not much, hope to learn it more also. And yes baking, again, not much, but I can bake (simple/ easy-ish) cakes and I'm grateful for it. 😁

I make great iced coffee though, if it counts as "food"?😛 (let's pretend it is haha)

new tune

Boywithuke - Toxic

Omg omg omg! We got funky colored eggs!

@mytwistedsoul So cool. 😮

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou 😁 The Ameraucanas just started to lay! We only have three of those. Robin - Hedwig and Cheese lol

@mytwistedsoul and Cheeseeeeeeee!😮 Yay hehe, do all of them have different color eggs?😮

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou cheese 😁

yep all different colors! 😊

hugs Soul 💕💕

@Optimisticempath Opti! ❤️ 😊 *pounce*

You've been in my thoughts OptiBear ❤️ and I've been sitting with you quietly

@mytwistedsoul aw thankyou soul, I'm really happy to have your company 💕 it is vv comforting and nice 🥺 you in my thoughts too and me grateful to you

*pounces on you and keeps hugging* 🤗🤗

@Optimisticempath I'm really happy to have your company too Opti and I'm very grateful to you ❤️ 😊

@mytwistedsoul 🥺 *hugs tight* ❤ I love this gif lmaooo 😆

( Triggered) As I'm not supposed to use my sharp tongue, what does one do with passive aggressive people?

@mytwistedsoul something happened soul? 😔 I'm sitting with you and here if you want to talk about anything oki? *hugs tighterr❤

@Optimisticempath ❤️ It's kind of a longish story. Condensed version is someone from a chat room contacted me as a listener. They're unhappy because I don't chat with them as much as they'd like. I explained from the beginning that I don't sit on site all day everyday. I don't have hours to sit and live chat. I can't. So they leave passive aggressive messages. They had before and there was a strong reaction on my part and this listener freaked. I'm trying not to block them but it's starting to cause me some issues 😞

Thank you for the hugs ❤️ *hugs back* ❤️

@mytwistedsoul. I’m glad that you set boundaries with them. I been trying to learn to do this myself. Even telling someone “no I can’t” can be stressful for me. I hope that they will stop the passive aggressive messages. Those can be very disturbing.

@adventurousBranch3786 Hey Branch :) setting them is so hard but I'm finding that holding them is harder. Its like I'm just drawing a line in the sand only to have it erased

@mytwistedsoul. Omg it’s very hard for me to maintain saying no also! Irl I said no to 2 people and they kept calling me over and over again trying to see if I would back down. It was so hard for me I shook inside each time they challenged me. I didn’t back down on my no but it was very hard. I guess some people have learned to wear people down through repetition. I hope that you will be gentile with yourself. Setting boundaries is a challenging skill to learn when we didn’t learn it earlier in life!

@mytwistedsoul It wasn’t any easier with the second person. I almost gave into to them but was somehow able to stick to my no. There is now a third person that is doing the same thing. This time I am finding it a little easier.

@mytwistedsoul I just found this https://www.7cups.com/forum/CommunityProjectsEvents_184/ArticlesandQuotes_2369/5PhrasesforPeoplePleasersandBoundaryBeginners_292063/

@mytwistedsoul. It was equally as hard as the first but in the end I was glad that I did it even though it was hard. At least I didn’t get pressured into doing things for these people. I’m going to keep trying ,hopefully it will come more naturally with practice! Btw I’m sorry for posting that boundaries post here. I didn’t realize that you had already seen it.

@adventurousBranch3786 Nothing to be sorry for Branch ❤️ I'm glad you did post it. It will be easier to find it now when I need to read it again.

@mytwistedsoul aw I know how stressful the passive aggressive behaviour is and just makes us feel more annoyed and disturbed :( idk also hard to wrap my head around the fact that it's a listener causing you more stress .... aren't they here to like reduce the stress we feel from irl already and make us feel better lol?? 😔 I hate it when people make it worse .... if you cant make it better ....atleast dont make it worse .... it's just sad and vv annoying

I'm sorry Soul if i said anything i shouldn't have , i just sense that their messages really brought you down and I don't like it 😕 you do not deserve this and it is vv valid to feel as you do too ❤

boundaries are so hard ... we have had this topic before and I know you struggle with them too so I can understand how much more difficult it is for you to deal with this situation (which btw is totally uncalled for) also :(

please don't feel the obligation to reply to them or chat with them , you don't have to be here or here to chat with them all the time or as much they want to ... it's ok to say no, or simply not reply if they keep disrespecting your boundaries... if the push coms to shove... sadly yeah there's the block and report tool ...ik it's not easy using these too despite knowing there's a need for it and it's there for a reason :') *hugs* me here with you okii🤗

@Optimisticempath *hugs Opti tight* ❤️❤️ you didn't say anything wrong and you've nothing to be sorry for ok? You're allways so gentle in your replies. Thank you ❤️ It did bring me down 😕 I kind of just keep to myself more and avoid being here. It's hard because I like being here. I don't have a whole lot of people in my life except here. My fault cause I keep to myself and don't socialize in the real world

@mytwistedsoul

*hugs back tightly * awww Soul thankyou ❤ it means so much

I really understand how difficult it feels .... you dont need to keep away from a resource for you tho because of some random people, this is your support system and you deserve to have one ❤ it is easier said than done but we can try to remove the unsupportive links of this system and keep the rest mhmm? .... it be ok to not engage anywhere you don't feel comfy with ... the struggle of finding a good listener is relatable also :/

what about the setting or maintaining boundaries usually puts it off for you? I don't think it's your job alone Soul ... you're not a failure ❤ *hugs* trying hard is not failing.

Nope it shouldn't be this hard :( the dilemma is real, between wanting to know the right thing to do and discomfort with being told about it ... some people make it so much more complicated for us I feel :/ it's very manipulative at times and we keep blaming and finding faults within ourselves.... you're the kindest, Soul always very thoughtful and caring ... and I wish more people respected that more about you and were mindful of your comfort also :(

im sorry it's been a while here :") any updates? Did they say anything post your effort of setting some boundaries and staying your ground? how are things currently?

you don't need to thank for being with you ... ofcourse I am and happy to also 🤗*hugs back tighterrr* ❤

@Optimisticempath Hey Opti ❤️ We did talk about it alittle after I wrote about it here. I forget sometimes that everyone can read these posts - so - guess maybe you can tell what happened next 😬 He's being careful with things he says and I'm trying to keep in better touch. Compromise I guess? I guess it's just hard because I know he's dealing with things and I am too - so we're doing one day at a time

@mytwistedsoul

aw yes D: hope it was a safe chat and not like a confrontation ... you only shared your feelings and you're allowed to ❤

um yeah a compromise sounds alright I guess 😅 it seems they really like being in touch with you, honestly Soul anyone would ... you're such a caring hooman being 🤗 hope people on their listener account know better with boundaries also ... you don't need to be doing all the hard work or taking the blame always on yourself ... you don't deserve it either ... it's a tough topic and a complicated situation fr, ik you try hard and care for everyone ... and keep doing your best... you're doing as much Soul, it's ok to sometimes mess up or falter also ... no one's perfect and again, you don't need to take blame always alone :/ ik the excelling at being a self critic thing too well also sadly ... it sucks being good at that lol 😐 for every mistake you hold yourself up for ... I'll be here to remind you that it's ok and bonus , something you suck at ... do you know you absolutely fail at being Un-kind Soul 😮You also fail at being ungrateful 😮 and you fail terribly at being a bad-friend 😮 .... in other words, you excel at being kind, grateful, and a great great friend 💕🥰 and I'll keep reminding you that whenever needed! *hugs tightterr* thankyou⛄

you look so good in your pfp hehe 🎄

@mytwistedsoul- . Sorry to hear someone was taking advantage of your kind soul as a listener. Please know how much you are valued in this community. ❤️🐴🐴❤️

@NoneTheWiser Hey :) It's definitely ok to say. Thank you for such a kind and thoughtful gesture. I appreciate this so much 😊

Dropping off some hugs and good vibes. 🤗❤

How has Soul been?

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou *hoards all the hugs and good vibes* 😁

Soul is - how much time do we have? lol

@mytwistedsoul All the time Soul needs and a little more always! ❤

Hehe good luck hoarding, it's an endless supply of hugs and good vibes now! 🤗

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou You're allways so kind ❤️❤️

*sends endless hugs and good vibes back to Sun* 😊