Day 2: What were the biggest challenges you faced and how did you overcome them?

@ASilentObserver

A challenge I overcame was working in a toxic job and surviving the psychological abuse that was going on. I'm socially awkward and struggle with social cues, my nervous system is quite sensitive. The boss that I had was unrealistic with her expectations and emotionally stunted. She ran the job like a highschool clique. I wasn't meeting up to her standards and she started to bully me and band the rest of my coworkers to bully me. Eventually I found another job but honestly at the time I didn't feel that I could make it. I thank God everyday that I made it out of that job and that I'm thriving and recovering now. 

The most significant challenge I have encountered is managing my emotions and dealing with my mental health concerns. I would say that I have had times where I would cry and feel powerless. But I realized that no one is perfect in this world. I realized that these weaknesses helped me work on them. And made it a strength. It taught me many lessons such as resilience, courage and patience.

My sibling was convicted of murder and sentenced to life in prison. My husband lived a privileged life and can not relate to my heart break. I causes conflict in our marriage. I feel alone. I’m have not masted coping with it but I’m trying to get there.

In 2022 I got diagnosed with neck disc, which is really rare at 18.Back then, I was a jock, constantly training, and on the verge of going pro. I poured over 4 hours a day into sports.

I also made a living out of it by teaching it to kids and teens, which was my favorite part💙

I really loved the sport, and the sudden change in lifestyle was really hard.

Since then my life has been empty and meaningless and I've changed alot from someone energetic and ambitious to being lazy and purposeless.

By the ends of 2024 my country went through war and I lost alot like my house, and most painfully my dad.

I atill haven't recovered from anything if I'm being honest.

If you see me maybe you'd think I'm ok, just another person living a normal life, but my life feels so empty and meaningless.

@ASilentObserver

My biggest challenge by far was learning to love myself, coming from an abusive home and having a narcissistic parent.

Eventually, I went to therapy and realized how toxic the environment I was in was, and realized I had to leave for my own well-being.

I moved from the east coast to the west cost all alone with no money. I was desperate and had no other choice. Staying in a toxic environment was literally killing me, in terms of stress.

It was the best choice I ever made to leave. I couldn't get healthy in that environment. I had to cultivate love for myself gradually, even when I was never loved throughout my life, by anyone.

This took immense strength and courage to do. To look at everyone who thinks you have no value and tell them that they're dead wrong.

Now, I'm homeless, which has its own challenges, but I've grown so much as a result of getting out on my own. I don't regret it at all. I've gone from a people pleaser to someone with very strong boundaries. Adversity will push us out of our comfort zone, which is exactly where we need to be to grow.

Think about how the adversity you're going through can be used to make the changes you know need to be made.

See it as an opportunity.

@ASilentObserver

I have overcome a lot of significant challenges. I have had many serious addictions and mental health disorders from the trauma I experienced as a child and young adult. Most of my family are estranged because they gave up on me when I was going through these challenges. So I've had to overcome most of these things alone or with the help of close friends. I taught myself many skills to help myself heal and overcome these challenges. 

They taught me so much about myself and life. I learned how strong I actually am, how to be a really great mother to my son, led me to a close relationship with my higher power, taught me about my core values and beliefs, patience and acceptance, and led me to my calling in life. I also learned that even though we may suffer in this life, all the suffering can teach you something and help you grow if you allow it to.

@ASilentObserver I developed anorexia in college to cope with anxiety, depression, and extreme loneliness- I was physically breaking down for two years, but since my grades were great, nobody lifted a finger to help me because 'I was doing great!' And I convinced myself that I was doing great too. It was only when I could no longer jog, had heart problems, had violent anxiety attacks, couldn't stop obsessing about food, and was about to off myself that I sought treatment. And even then, I had to call my parents to ask them whether or not I should drop out if I had been seriously planning to off myself (it's ridiculous thinking back on it). I felt like a failure for dropping out and being hospitalized, but through all the pain of that rehab (physically and emotionally) I came out alive somehow and here I am, almost a decade later. I had to learn the hard way that it's okay to ask for help and that you shouldn't need to force yourself to hit rock bottom before you deem yourself worthy of that help. I have my days of wishing I had just died instead of getting treatment, but I've never abused my body like I did back then since. Each *** you go through will just be another interesting chapter to add to your memoir. 

idk. ):

maybe.. i really don’t know,gosh🥲😅

@ASilentObserver Life is all abut challenges. Nothing comes free and my believe is that it's all a test from God. I have endured by being patient, by doing what's in my control and praying for a good outcome.