Milestones or Steps Completed! Share and Celebrate Here :)
Congratulations! You made it to the next level on your growth path. Share with us the #1 thing you learned on this leg of your journey!
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I made it to level 50. Notas high as some of you guys, but you gotta start somewhere!
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140! take it slow at first so you'll surprise your enemies when you attack full force
1 step. 1 second. 1 direction.
Step 200 now - Yay
I'm learning that a journey like the ones we're going through on 7 cups can come with a lot of backslides. Despite working on my depression, I still have days where I don't want to get out of bed. Despite working on my anxiety, I still have panic attacks and jumpy reactions. Despite working through my grief, I still surprise myself with sudden sobs because the smallest thing will remind me of my grandmother. Despite working on accepting my breakup, I still have days where I miss him terribly. Despite working on building confidence, I still have those haunting thoughts of "I don't belong here" when I talk to others in my graduate program. Despite working on repairing my concentration, I still have days where I can't focus on my responsibilities. Despite the work that we do on 7 cups, there will be days that seemed harder than the ones preceding them. It's important that we remember that those days don't mean we failed. It just means that emotions are confusing and we need to be patient with ourselves while we work through them. Today might be difficult but as long as we don't give up, theres a great chance that tomorrow we'll be back on track to improving our quality of life. It will get easier and those hard days will resurface less often and be less challenging to face. Just be patient
210 and frustrated bad today
Step 100. Still moving forward and learning new things about myself
Every cell in my body is vibrating with health, vitality & joy!
@GlenM That I need to speak
Thank you! I learned from a clip on 7cups about OCD by Katie d'Ath "How to stop self from having thoughts you don't want to have..." https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AR6k2h9PRzc
Namely, we can't. It's not possible.... but she gave us some tips how we can empower ourselves through CBT.. habituation, that she explains in this clip... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCqA5Ua3OVA&t=17s
The repetitive patterns I engage in are OCD are to fix/lower the rising anxiety, but that if I sit through the anxiety... and wait and wait and wait... (for what feels like forever)....my body will actually begin to de-escalate and normalize the situation for me... I don't try to stop the thoughts.. because I can't... but I can de-emphasize, ignore or take away my focus and intensity and just let it be there. (Eg. don't imbue it with meaning, feed the thought, argue with it, push thoughts away, and don't act on the thought.)
Instead, I let the thoughts be in my head and not pay attention to them...
Contrary to my belief that I was taking care of my anxiety by doing something to make the anxious feelings go away, I was actually just creating an endless loop of anxiety-->repetitive neutralizing action-->anxiety-->/neutralizing pattern--> etc. etc..
Katie's videos on anxiety, obtrusive thoughts and ocd really helped me. So I did nothing but sit with my anxiety, and it took a very long time...anxiety felt though the roof, but then finally the anxiety did come down on it's own without me fixing it or doing some neutralizing action... Just with me sitting with it, and doing other things in the meantime and not focusing on it... over time things came down and I didn't feel as anxious all the time... Celebrating baby steps!
Thanks 7cups!