😞does anyone else feel like their not accepted for being yourself?

@Tinywhisper11

A lot of times, Lolabeaan, more number of times than I'd like to admit. ❤

I feel, people view us from where they are, want us to be a certain way and act in a way that makes "them" feel comfortable and better about themselves. It mostly never has anything to do with us, just people battling their own insecurities feeling they may feel better about themselves if they make us feel worse about ourselves.

Unfortunately, some people cannot see others being happy when they aren't, and opt for using their hurt as an excuse to hurt others. :/

While it is valid for people to not be happy and express how they feel, nothing gives them the right to stop you from being you.

People can be hurting and still find something to smile about, it doesn't take away from their hurt ever. The hurt is valid, but so is the thing that makes them feel happy, when it does.

You don't deserve to be hurt or be questioned for your happiness simply because someone else isn't. 

Even so, we can do that, we can try our best to create a comfy space for others, but never at the cost of undermining who we truly are and how we want to be. 

They don't get to decide that, if someone has an issue at the table you're at, allow them to switch tables, you don't need to be the one to change yourself to suit their liking, because their liking keeps changing, one day you'll be the best in their eyes, the next day you'll keep being you but their liking may change, who changed? Not you; they did, and they will continue to do so, because apparently they didn't get the memo mentioning loud and clear that the world doesn't revolve around them. 

Just because you are being smiley, cheerful or happy, doesn't discount for all the pain you've endured and continue to endure, Lola, people only get to see a part of you here, they don't get a say in anything about your life and the challenges you've been through since they aren't you and never have been in the exact same place as yourself. 

The fact you've been through the worst kind of atrocities in life, yet have so much love and hope in your heart, makes me feel so touched always, there aren't many people who have been through darkness but still have their light shining bright as ever, and there most definitely isn't anyone like *you*, so you do matter exactly as you are, specially how you are and who you are. 

You don't know to be anyone else and I'm glad you don't, its the one thing I hope no one learns ever xD especially not you, you're such an easily lovable hooman, being exactly yourself and I'd hope you continue being you, the brightest beacon of light in the world.

We're all unique people, and there's all the beauty in that, people who fail to see that are missing out on a lot. But that's a them issue, not yours to tackle. 

Having said that, you deserve to feel accepted and safe in being you, in the chatrooms/ any space here, so please do report any instances where you feel someone's being unsupportive okie? 

Reporting isn't fun, I know, but some people can use a lil reminder that "hey, we are hooman too and hey, it is not easy for us as well but we are trying too". ~ and you are trying, so hard and so well, I'm always super proud of you. Never stop being you. Sending lots of love and hugs. ❤

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

I agree with this *wholeheartedly* Sun buddy 💛 

@LoveMyMoonflowers

Always such a beautiful encouraging force around, thank youu, Niibuddy, I wholeheartedly love youu!🤗💛

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

thank *youuu* sunshine for shining so much light and spreading so much love around owlways! 🥺💛 

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou 😭😭😭thankyou 😭😭😭dw theese are happy tears 😭😭😭 you are just the sweetest ball of cuteness ever ❤❤ Thank you so much for this, you have no idea how much this means. And yeah I understand everyone else is struggling to, but anger and mean words are a bit scary and knocks your confidence. So no I just leave the room when things happen. Cause I don't want no trouble or drama. Just feeling a bit sad rn. But Thank you sunny ❤I love you

@Tinywhisper11 and dw I will always be me

cause I don't know how to be someone else

@Tinywhisper11

Aww tears are okiee, I'm vv proud of you for sharing and opening up, when you're feeling sad. It is a brave thing to do. 🤗

We definitely can switch rooms when we no likey how some people treat us, peace over drama anyday lol. Again, a wise choice to make, you awesome hooman!

Yes, everyone has their struggles, but that doesn't mean they get to be meanie. 

Since everyone's struggling though, maybe a kinder thing to do for each one of us could be to practice a little extra kindness. 

I admire people who make the choice to be kind despite struggling/ hurting also.

And I admire you for the same reason, Lolabean. Love you too hehe! *huggles* ❤

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou hugs sunnyboo

@Tinywhisper11

Well said @Sunisshiningandsoareyou 👏

I can’t agree with you more, thank you for sharing your elaborate message 🙏🏻 with @Tinywhisper11.

You truly are a ray of sunshine @Tinywhisper11 … I had no idea of the unimaginable painful experiences you must have endured in life before I said this, but for you to continue to shine your light and spread positivity to everyone you meet despite your misfortunes, makes you really special 💎. Keep being you, you’re perfect just the way you are ❤️. Big hug ❤️💙💜

@calmPomegranate2721

Aw thank you, and thank you for being so kind and supportive too. You rock!🌸

@calmPomegranate2721 hi green ❤❤❤ gives you giant tiny hug ❤thanks sweetie ❤I love you ❤

@Tinywhisper11

❤️❤️❤️ I love you too 🙏🏻 and sending you a giant hug 🤗 you little 🌟 ❤️❤️❤️

@Tinywhisper11

*huggles Lola bean if okay* 💛 

@LoveMyMoonflowers huggs lovely back ❤❤ squeezes you tightly ❤ I'm gonna go to sleep. Doc. Sleep always makes you feel better by the morning ❤ I love you

@Tinywhisper11

aww sleep well, sweet lola bean 💜 i love you more buddy 💜 

@Tinywhisper11 I definitely do at times

@calmingBubbles82 it's really hard isn't it😞

@Tinywhisper11  You didn't deserve that, it always brightens up my day when I hear from you, and your positive energy isn't toxic its lovely. Keep doing what you're doing, don't let those rude people get you down. A lot of people including myself appreciate you just the way you are. ☺

@WavesofKei awww thankyou ❤❤❤

@Tinywhisper11 No problem, i know you would've done the same for any one of us. 😄

@WavesofKei of course I would ❤❤❤ I love you

@Tinywhisper11

Lolaaaaaaa 🤗🤗🤗❤️ I just wanted to say that I've noticed your activity on forums (as a teenie!) And I think your really inspiring and lovely! You is very funny and you have a great humour! ❤️❤️❤️ it's difficult when other people let us down and it's totally understandable how you feel ❤️ just know that we appreciate you and notice you 💛💛💛💛 keep being awesome! And of course you belong here! That's why your hereeeee! *Hugs if okay* thank you for always making me smileeee! 🙃🦕✨

@amiableBunny4016 🙂 thankyou ❤❤

@Tinywhisper11 your happiness is a blessing 

@honestEyes9608 hugs you ❤❤ thankyou ❤

@Tinywhisper11.  Your not doing anything wrong at all. I’m kinda a positive person.  I’ve been told off for being overly positive. I just say to myself that I don’t have to change my whole personality for anyone.

@adventurousBranch3786 yeah! We shouldn't have to change ❤❤ thanks branch ❤❤

@Tinywhisper11

@PineapplePickles thankyoU 🙂🤗❤❤❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤ that was sweet of you to say🤗

Girlll!! You aren't doing anything wrong!!! You are the sweetest and kindest person I ever know!! Your positivity isn't toxic at all! It's them who are toxic! Don't listen to them Lola. You're an amazing human being and you deserve all the good things in the world! ❤️❤️❤️ It really makes me sad to know that some people made you feel this way. I hope you're doing better tho. Sending you the biggest hugggggs❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Also wanted to say, if you ever feel sad or just wanna talk just tag me in a forum post and we can chat there (if you'recomfortableof course). Your replies to my recent posts made me feel so better and heard! And I wanna return the favor and help you as much as I can ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@23helicopters hugggs you back ❤❤ your so sweet ❤ thankyou. And yeah I'm feeling better now😁 🎶🎶 I get knocked down, but I get up agsin, noones ever gonna keep me down💃💃💃💃💃

Yess girl!! That's the attitude to have❤️

You're not doing anything wrong, it's just that some people are troubled and act in unwholesome ways, we've all been there and I'm here if you need to talk 🫂

@FriendlyAJ thanks Aj yeah I know everyone has issues, and take them out on others. I try not to let it get to me ❤❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤

@Tinywhisper11

I love you being here, you make my day better a lot just by seeing youve said something :) I'm glad you're here

it's just a fact of life that people aren't always accepting of everyone, but a lot of the time it's just because they can't handle that someone else is being themselves wholeheartedly. it's a really wonderful thing to be yourself, don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise :)

@linvi awww ❤ thankyou ❤gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ and I know others could just be having a bad day, I try not to let words get to me. And I will always be myself, I don't know how to be anyone else ❤❤❤

@Tinywhisper1

Yes, I often feel I'm not accepted for who I am. I'm sorry it happens to you to. You are doing nothing wrong.

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

Thanks for the reminder to watch my expectations. You remind me that meeting people who don't appreciate you as you are is a normal part of being part of a society. And I could save myself some frustration and disappointment if I kept my expectations realistic. I'm learning to be kinder with my expectations and I'm grateful for your posts that help me towards that.

@Clio9876 hugs you ❤❤ yep sunnyboo is a big inspiration to us all ❤❤ thanks clio ❤