I don't like going through this every month
I never really talk about this, because i feel a bit embarassed, but i guess this is me venting about my periods, and i dunno which subcommunity this belongs in so i'm posting in general support. But anyways, my periods are really hard to deal with right now. They're painful and messy. My mother wont let me use anything but pads and i find them very irritating for my skin. I'm leaking all the time, and it's really messy. I don't have the freedom to lie down whenever i want because i'm worried I'll leak if i lie down. i dont understand why my pads leak all the time even if they arent fully soaked, maybe i'm not using them properly? I cant even swallow the period cramp meds properly because i'm pretty new to swallowing tablets. My periods cause me so much stress and anxiety every month and it's not fun. i hate dealing with this.
tagging my forum buddies @Cottonn and @bestVase7265 if you dont mind, feel free to ignore this tag if i'm bothering you
Hey sorry to know that you are dealing with such problem. But I would like to say that you are brave enough to talk about thisđ.
I understand for some people period pains are too much and they get frustrated due to all this. More power to you dealing with your problems.
I can feel you when your mother doesn't allow you to use tampons or menstrual cups... Idk why does she say that some people have beliefs or it maybe because she haven't tried herself.. Just give her sometime... tell about benefits of using menstrual cups... till then try different pads.. you may use night pads.. or just check video on internet to confirm that you are using it rightly :)
@Vagi Thanks for your reply. I dont the pain is always too much, it sometimes is, but even if it isn't, it's frustrating nonetheless.
Yeah, she wont allow me to use tampons or menstrual cups, obviously she hasn't tried them herself, she grew up using cloth and used pads as an adult. she claims that she's heard doctors not recommending tampons or menstrual cups for young people, so i need permission from a doctor to be able to use them. i honestly regret not asking the obgyn about this when i saw her in may because my mother might never take me again.
I understand her concerns, but she wont let me use period *** either. at least period parties might be less irritating than fragranced pads. keyword: might because i dunno. she says she'll buy them for me but then she comes up with the excuse of not being able to know the right size online and they're not available in stores you know. so i guess I'll have to stick with pads.
I've given her enough time, i first requested her to let me use something else back in march last year. i did a bunch of research and tried to write her a letter, but she wasn't convinced. I've given up hope now.
Yeah maybe I'll try more pads. i dunno what I'll do. yeah, i already use overnight pads at night when i need to. and i believe i'm using pads correctly, or so it seems. but i still leak, so i dunno what's wrong.
@exuberantBlackberry9105. Can you call the doctors office where you were seen and ask if they approve of tampons?
@adventurousBranch3786 I can't imagine doing that.
@exuberantBlackberry9105. I have doctors that I have left messages for with the secretary or medical assistant. Just in case you ever get up the nerve to ask. It could be as simple as I forgot to ask the doctor if they approve of use of tampons. Â I used to wear both a tampon and pad due to heavy periods. There are also adult diapers. If I wasnât able to use a tampon I probably would have used a pad and diaper together on heavy days.
@adventurousBranch3786 I wont be able to do that, Branch. I can't just go take my mother's phone and call the doctor's office or leave a message for them asking if they approve of tampons. If anything, i have to convince my mother to call the doctors office or leave a message for them. I can't just do it myself from her phone, or can i?
And anyways, they probably would approve of tampons in general. what my mother is concerned about is my age, she doesn't want a 13 year old to use any internal protection products (like tampons or menstrual cups). and i understand her concerns. but she could let me use something else like period pant!3s too, right? or she could let me try other brands of pads other than the two brands I've tried so far.
i don't think i'd need to use two products at a time like both a pad and a tampon. my periods aren't that heavy. i know there are adult diapers hehe, but I'm not an adult, I'm 13. aww sounds like your periods used to be a bit hard for you, a pad and diaper together sounds uncomfy. I'm sorry for you.
@exuberantBlackberry9105.  Using your  phone without her permission probably isnât a good idea. Hopefully when you are a little older you will be able to have some more flexibility in the products that you can use.
@adventurousBranch3786 *her phone
Periods are not fun to deal with. They take quite a bit of adjusting to. You have to learn to figure out how often pads need to be changed. I was never very good at it, but I did become better. You also will become better over time at dealing with the pain meds. But if you ever feel like things are really excessive, talk to a doctor. They can help quite a bit. Sending peace. @exuberantBlackberry9105
@bestVase7265 I agree hehe, they aren't fun at all. I guess i just have to figure it out. The problem is most of the leaks happen without the pad being totally soaked, so i dont know how I'll figure that out. But yeah, hopefully I'll become better at swallowing tablets over time because not being able to swallow them properly causes a lot of drama at home. I dont think I'll get to talk to a doctor about this, it's not too excessive anyways but still annoying nevertheless.Â
Some of it is body positioning and it can be especially hard in terms of leaking out the back. Lots of people use menstrual cups or tampons which supposedly leak less. I was never really good with those though. @exuberantBlackberry9105
@bestVase7265 i know! Leaking out of the back is hard and leaking out of the side is even harder hehe. I've heard that menstrual cups and tamons leak less, but my mother won't allow me to use them, so i dont know what to do....
You do the best with what you have and change pads more often than you think is going to be necessary, especially in the first 48 hours or so. @exuberantBlackberry9105
Hello!
I sympathize a great deal as I also struggle a lot with my period.
One thing that can help with swallowing pain tablets is putting your chin to your chest and then swallowing.
Larger pads, while more uncomfortable, may help with the leaking.
Best wishes!
@courageousSea2758 Hey, I'm sorry to hear that you struggle with your period too, i know it's not easy.
Oh, nice. Thanks for the suggestion. I think it means i should bend my head in front while swallowing the tablet. I'll try. I used to tilt my head behind while swallowing but recently discovered that it helps to not do that and instead keep your head straight, and I've tried it and it helps. Maybe bending my head in front will help even more. I'll try that out the next time i have to swallow a tablet. :)
Haha, i know, larger pads are more uncomfortable. Sometimes they do help, but i dont think they always help with the leaking. Sometimes i leak even with an xl or overnight pad. And my period isnt always heavy so I'm hesitant to use a large pad because they're more expensive and I'll still have to change them regularly even if they aren't full. I'm still willing to do that, but i dont understand why they still allow leaking......
Best wishes to you too, Sea!
Hello @exuberantBlackberry9105Â
I understand periods can be really painful and messy. You are strong for dealing with this.
Pads can make skin unnecessarily warm which can be uncomfortable. Some pad brands can also irritate the skin.
Periods are naturally messy. Sometimes it can flow sideways and leak out. (Even when sitting upright or standing) I am pretty sure you are using the pads correctly. It's stressful!!
Tablets can be hard to swallow, how about cutting tablets in smaller pieces? It is good that tablets help with the pain.
I understand period causes a lot of stress but don't give up.
@calmingcomfortero Hey there! I do find pads can be uncomfortable and sometimes irritating. Not everyone feels that way, but i do.
Oh, periods are naturally messy? I dunno. But yeah, I know, sometimes it flows sideways and leaks out.
I actually never swallow those tablets whole, I've never even tried that. I break them in half and then swallow them. But the problem is, if i somehow fail to swallow it in one gulp, the tablet starts dissolving in water and that tastes so terrible that i cant keep it in my mouth. I immediately cough it out, maybe not exactly cough it out, but i dunno what to call that. If I'm near a basin, well and good, if I'm not, another mess plus yelling from my mother..... Any suggestions?
Hey, thanks for sharing this ! Id like to suggest maybe u could use the 32cm - long pads.. if itâs irritating to your skin, sometimes it means u need to change the pads often when they are a lot.. some would suggest using a pad made from cloth that can be washed . U can get them through online shops . Hope this comment would help you get through messy periods!
@lavendereyes33 yeah the overnight pads are 32cm long, and i do use them at night. But i feel like they're too big to use during the day.
I do think i change pads often enough, i change them when they're mostly soaked or after a couple of hours if my flow isnt that heavy and it's not very soaked. I still get irritation.
Yeah reusable pads right? My mother has been telling me that she'll buy them for me since months. She hasnt bought me anything yet, sadly.
Have you maybe tried period underwear? I havenât looked through all the comments, so maybe someone said this, but period underwear can be useful because they are just like pads though they are underwear so maybe it would be a bit less likely to leak. If it feels like they are getting dirty and uncomfortable over the day, just try using toilet paper to wipe them off. And you can probably wear a pad or another pair of under around them if it might work better. If your interested at all, you can find some on Amazon.
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@JustWantingToMakeFriends Hey thanks for your suggestion (hey, you dont have to worry about someone else saying that, and you dont have to read all the comments, it's too much time and energy). I havent tried period underwear, but i have heard of them. I do think they might possibly cause less leaking. My mother says she'll buy them for me but then she comes up with the excuse of not being able to know the right size online and they're not available in stores sadly. By the way, your username says that you want to make friends, I'm here if you ever want to talk.
