Weekly Prompt #37: What challenges are you facing that you need help with?
Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week.
Last week we discussed: How does your cultural background or upbringing influence your experience with depression? Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you
This week's prompt: What challenges are you facing that you need help with?
Let's get started to share our challenges and support each other.
my Biggest challenge is finding hope and wisdom. I’ve been dealing with a complex medical condition that’s not well understood or recognized for years. It effects all systems in my body. It had caused a couple of medical issues that really impact my quality of life and capabilities and relationships about 3 years ago. I’ve been to dozens of doctors abd Cleveland clinic and nothing has helped or suggested any way for future improvement. It continues to take away my life and I’m not myself when I feel like this.
@Llc214 I am sorry to hear that you have been struggling with a complex medical condition that has impacted your quality of life and relationships. Finding answers and solutions can be difficult when multiple options have not provided relief. How do you currently find yourself coping with these ongoing challenges?
@ASilentObserver Every day for months I've promised myself a day of indulging myself - doing my hobbies, resting, pottering around, praying... And each day has brought a load of problems & demands that have needed my undivided attention - from gas & water leaks to medical appointments to my live-in relative. So, tomorrow I'm having my Day of Indulgence regardless of anyone, anything...
@cal1860 It sounds like you are craving some time for yourself after feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities for quite some time now. It is admirable how you keep putting others first but it is important to prioritize self-care too. How do you plan on spending your day of indulgence?
@ASilentObserver The day was a total slob-fest. PJs all day & just pottered about.
@ASilentObserver I am my greatest challenge. I am violent even though I dont want to be, I am too aware, I dont know where I am half the time, I am mentally not there, I dont belong here, I want to leave, I dont know how I got this way, I am in dire need
Making phone calls for needed appointments, medical and otherwise. Afraid of rejection or a nasty discovery of further austerity and being unable to pay for necessary treatment due to poverty because of disability.
I have an event to plan for work and I've barely done anything. I feel paralyzed. It's next Saturday. I just want to cancel it.
@selfdisciplinedPenny281 It sounds like feeling paralyzed can be really tough.Would you please share more about what makes you want to cancel the event?
I now have four days left and just afraid no one will show up and I'm also afraid of the opposite and then I have to manage the event.
I planned most of it out, but I still need to work on day of logistics. I'm doing a bad job of promoting the event.
I would love to cancel it but now too many people are getting paid to help me so I can't.
Finding wholistic balance in all areas of my life consistently
@ASilentObserver the challenges that I’m facing is abuse I’m not receiving support my mental health is bothering me
I don’t have any respect from my dad doctor my family history family situation is tough I am challenging it’s with the weather nutrition my pain might hours the weekends
@dhabib I understand you are experiencing some difficult situations right now, especially with lack of support and family dynamics being tough. How has the abuse impacted your mental health?
@ASilentObserver I’m glad you do it’s severe it’s painful it bothers me it’s really bad I need to talk that’s why I messaged you I need support
@ASilentObserver
a challenge I need help with is reframing my self-beliefs.
as much as I affirm my strengths and weaknesses to cancel out extremely negative self-beliefs (e.g. I'm a failure already what's the point of trying etc) and construct a more conducive one (failure or not, I'm worthy of giving myself the best efforts to try bc it makes me proud of myself at the end of the day) to move myself forward in life, and some days I struggle massively to believe it.
I know it takes persistent practice (reframing negative thoughts, journaling down some pitfalls I face and good examples of me trying, feeling proud with no attachments to my ideal outcomes) for the conducive self-belief to concretise but jeez, it is a challenge!
I wonder if there are any more tricks to add to the practices to have some variety and fun in the mix.
@ASilentObserver I struggle with bouts of depression and anxiety due to the pressures I feel on my shoulders. I spend most of my time alone and in isolation, not because I wish for this, but it’s just how it is right now.
This is a late response upon your initial post with this prompt. It took me a while to figure out what challenges I have been struggling with. Also had been recovering from a cold, been off work for my 3 prescheduled shifts.
During this time of recovery and spending my days at home with my online business, I've finally spent some time thinking about my life more. I think the number one challenge in my current life is getting myself out there and actively looking for a partner. But it's difficult to even leave the house at times, as there are so many childhood traumas that happened in my hometown, that although I'm an adult in my mid-late 30s, I'm still not confident in my own shoes when I'm out in the public. It also doesn't help when those closest to me (my parents) keep hinting me that I'm not good looking or dressing my age or that I'm boring.
They do not rush me to find a partner, to get married (I do know it's one of my parents' worries about me, I know they want me to have a partner to take care of me when they are gone), but at the same time, as each year passes, I feel more and more desperate, and yet, I'm stuck. All I do now is daydream and imagine that I'm not all alone. Only this way, I can reassure myself and hold onto a thread of hope.
@ASilentObserver
@Jaeteuk hear you feeling lonely has been weighing heavily on you lately. Feeling self-conscious about yourself and receiving negative messages from loved ones can add to the struggles. What thoughts go through your mind when you start to feel these negative messages?
These negative messages often shatters me and makes me more self-conscious. But then, it also angers me because in my mind, I just want to be comfortable in my own shoes.. so when family tells me that I don't dress my age or that I'm boring.. I feel a little anger.. because I'm just being me.. They make it sound like I'm lesser of a person or that there's something wrong with me.
@ASilentObserver
