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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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TodayIAmGrateful August 3rd

@SoulfullyAButterfly 

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Response: When feeling inadequate in a relationship or with others, start by recognizing the impact of negative self-talk and the importance of self-esteem. Seek support from family, friends, or a therapist to understand the real reasons behind these feelings and foster self-love. Communicate openly with your partner or loved ones, building healthy relationships based on mutual respect. Remember, social media often showcases highlights, not whole lives. Celebrate your achievements and focus on personal growth, knowing everyone has doubts. At the end of the day, self-confidence and inner strength are key to realizing you are worthy of great things and being an amazing person in your own right.
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walkalot August 8th

@TodayIAmGrateful

Nice answer

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Mellietronx August 6th

@SoulfullyAButterfly

How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Using a brown paper bag for panic attacks can help by reducing hyperventilation syndrome. Breathing into the bag helps balance carbon dioxide levels, easing symptoms like chest pain and stress. This simple method can benefit those experiencing asthma attacks or heart problems, as it addresses respiratory alkalosis, a common cause of these issues. Always consult a doctor for proper guidance and medications for these medical conditions.

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Are you feeling not good enough for someone? Start by understanding that all human beings have value, including you. Address your inner critic and self-doubt by challenging negative self-talk. Communicate with family members and your partner about your feelings. Building self-esteem and self-worth is key; consider therapy and self-love practices. Remember, social media often shows only the good times, not the whole life. Focus on the real reason behind your feelings and work on self-confidence. You're an amazing person capable of great things and deserving of a healthy relationship. Good luck on your journey!

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walkalot August 8th

@Mellietronx

Good answers Mellie. Keep up the good work.

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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Answer: 
When you feel like you're not good enough for someone, it's essential to take a step back and consider the real reason behind these feelings. Often, our self-doubt stems from an inner critic fueled by negative self-talk and comparisons, especially through social media. Remember that all human beings, even those who seem perfect online, have their struggles and insecurities.

The first step in addressing these feelings is to recognize that self-worth doesn't come from others' opinions or from trying to meet unrealistic standards. Try to focus on self-love and acknowledging the amazing person you are. Think about how parents and family members support you unconditionally, reminding you of your inherent value.

Building self-esteem and self-confidence takes time, but it's a good time to begin the journey. Engaging in therapy can be an excellent way to explore the root causes of your self-doubt, helping you to understand and silence that critical voice in your head. Therapy can also provide tools to improve communication with your partner, ensuring that your relationship is based on mutual respect and understanding—a foundation for a healthy relationship.

It's important to communicate openly with your partner about your feelings. Sometimes, our partners may not even be aware that we feel this way, and the best way to address it is through honest dialogue. At the end of the day, a healthy relationship should uplift and support both parties, allowing each person to grow into a better version of themselves.

Surround yourself with positive influences—whether it's supportive family members, friends, or mentors who can remind you of your worth. By challenging your inner critic and replacing negative self-talk with affirmations of your strengths, you'll gradually build the self-confidence needed to see your true value.

Remember, you're on a journey, and it's okay to seek information, make mistakes, and learn along the way. Good news is that with persistence and the right support, you'll start to see the great things about yourself that others see. Good luck on this path—you're doing the right thing by addressing these feelings and striving to become a better person.



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IsaboeOfLumatere August 28th

@thatoneguyfriend1121

I love the empathy you showed through this entire answer! Your tone of voice also remained appropriately professional, and the clear approaches / steps were helpful in organizing the information. The one thing I might think about changing is that you assume parents, family members, and partners are helpful for the person reading the answer (for example, "think about the way that parents and family members support you"). It's important not to assume that information, since family and loved ones can actually be the ones causing these negative feelings of self-doubt.

sweetnutella September 3rd
@thatoneguyfriend1121 I love how detailed and resourceful you are with your answer. It goes to show the time and energy you are willing to put into providing necessary information to the member. It also contains all of the important keywords mentioned. Though I have to agree with the point Isaboe brought up. Kudos to you! 🙌🙌
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IsaboeOfLumatere August 28th

@SoulfullyAButterfly

When you feel like you might not be good enough for the people you care about — whether that’s your parents, your children, your other family members, your partner, or anyone else you love — those emotions can be hard to deal with. You may find yourself falling into patterns of negative self-talk where your inner critic says that you’re doing everything wrong, and your self-esteem may slowly turn into self-doubt.

Although this may seem strange, the first step to changing these feelings is to let them in and be curious about them. Mindfulness is the practice of observing what is happening without judgment, and we can turn this practice inward to our own thoughts. You don’t have to let that inner critic come out and judge the thoughts you’re having. Merely let the feelings arise (and potentially fade) as they do. When you listen to your inner voice, you may discover what part of your life is causing the self-doubt to manifest.

After you understand what those reasons may be, you can begin to unpack and counter these negative feelings through positive self-talk. At the end of the day, the good news is: you are enough, exactly the way you are. You don’t have to let your self-worth depend on someone else’s opinion of you, or what you think their opinion might be. Developing your own self-confidence is one of the best ways to have a healthy relationship with yourself (and your inner critic).

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walkalot August 29th

@IsaboeOfLumatere

Hi Isaboe, nice answer. Keep up the good work

sillyLittleBook September 2nd

Way to use the keywords, stick to the sentence count, and stay on topic! One tip might be to be more suggestive rather than giving advice. Basically, remember that what you or many others find helpful may not always be helpful to the member :)

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sillyLittleBook September 2nd

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?


Feeling of inadequacy in relationships are normal, but hard. This does not only apply to romantic partners, but also friends, family, and more. The point is, you are not alone. The best thing to do can differ based on your circumstances. Some people find it helpful to process their feelings through journaling or meditation. Some may find it helps to question why they feel that way. It may also be helpful to communicate with the person you feel inadequate for. Again, everyone's different, though!

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sillyLittleBook September 2nd

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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?


Provided Keywords:parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day


Answer:


It is not uncommon to feel inadequate for our family members, partner, friends, etc. For many reasons, people can struggle with self-esteem and self-confidence. The best way to deal with these feelings may differ from person-to-person and situation-to-situation. Some people may find it helpful to retrain their inner voice to go from negative self-talk to one of self-love. Others may find it helpful to communicate with the people in their lives to gain more information on how they feel about the situation. Sometimes feelings are just feelings that need to be processed, and sometimes they are a sign of something wrong.


In any case, great things can come with trying to create healthy relationships. Asking for help here was a great first step!

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walkalot September 3rd

@sillyLittleBook

Good answers, Book. Nice work

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sweetnutella September 3rd

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Answer:


I think it is important to address the feeling of inadequacy with the person that you don't feel enough for. Another thing to note is to observe whether or not this feeling is a fact or a mere assumption. Because it's going to be easy for us to feel this way when, for example, we're overwhelmed with negative emotions. So fostering positive ones is recommended to lessen the thought of being not good enough since raising your level of self-confidence.

You can try to talk to your person about what you can do to become a better person if the feeling itself has proven to be a fact (maybe your partner has communicated this to you in the past, or given you a real reason as to why.) Remember to always approach this issue with an open heart to have productive communication.

But more often than not, this is something that's rooted in deeper issues, such as self-comparison, self-esteem issues, and/or past traumas, which can lead to experiencing inner critic, self-doubt, and negative self-talk. If this is affecting your quality of life, seeking therapy might help.

You can try to confide in someone that you trust the most, be it your parents, family members, or a partner. Having your voice heard can help lighten your load, too. The good news is, with the vast amount of information we can have access to these days, it won't be difficult to find people who are also struggling with the same thing so you will feel less alone.

Do you think it's possible for you to feel inadequate from your exposure to social media? Because if that's the case, limiting your screen time might be a good choice. It has been proven that extended exposure to social media can distort realistic standards of what our whole life is supposed to look like.

Nobody will only experience great things and healthy relationships in life, that is just what the media wants us to believe. But having struggles, or not going through a good time does not make you any less of an amazing person. You did the right thing by asking this question. The first step to recovery is to ask how you can help yourself, and I have faith in you to overcome this.

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walkalot September 4th

@sweetnutella

Nice one, Sweet Nutella. Good answer

Yougotmyback October 2nd

@sweetnutella

3 strengths in the provided answer:

1. Use of clear, systematic and professional language

       - The answer is easy to understand and is readable

2. Proper use of the given keywords in the answer

       - Appropriate placement and use of keywords

3. Empathetic Tone

       - The answer builds a connection by letting the reader know that they can reach out and are               deserving of receiving help

Additionally, I appreciate how the answer included divergent thoughts that would allow the readers to consider more than one possible solution.

1 tip for improvement:

You could have included research that shows how communication can help a person in dealing with feelings of inadequacy. The role of therapy could also be strengthened with some background research. 

Overall, good work!

Thank you.

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Cathylistens September 11th

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Not feeling good enough for someone/people is not uncommon and at some point, we all find ourselves in this situation. Have you considered if this is a feeling that you are getting from your inner critic? or is it a feeling caused by a reaction to this persons actions? This may help you figure out a way to cope in this situation. 

In so many cases, we are our own hardest critic, so if this feeling is leaning more to inadequacy due to self doubt or not feeling good enough, this will mean that you may consider self care and learning how to be your own friend. Talk to yourself as you would your best friend. Talk to the person who you feel not good enough for and tell them how you are feeling. They may be able to alleviate your concerns. Or if it is a person who you connect with via social media, and has an influence but no direct relationship to you, look at the pros and cons of maintaining the connection. Social Media is a lot of one moments portrayed to indicate a persons real life, in many cases their real life is very different to what is put out publicly. So consider this. 

If someone's actions are making you feel not good enough, this is very different.  We are all human, is it possible they don't know they are causing this feeling? Or is it possible that they are aware of the knock on effect of their behavior on you? Talking this out, here or with them directly will help you determine this. Communication is key here, along with self care and self love. If someone is aware they are causing you feelings that may lead to anxiety or insecurity, then you may consider reevaluating the connection. Those who love you would not consciously cause you this feeling so hopefully this would be the case. 

Regardless of the reasons, feeling not good enough is not a productive feeling and can destroy self esteem and confidence, so maybe focus on having a priority on you and what you deserve, which is happiness and confidence in life. Everyone deserves this. 

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Mya000 September 13th

@Cathylistens

I think the strengths are that this response acknowledges how common it is to feel inadequate and offers empathetic suggestions for dealing with these feelings.

It provides practical steps, such as talking to the person involved, assessing social media connections, and focusing on self-care, which are all very helpful.

The response also does a great job of distinguishing between internal self-doubt and external factors, offering tailored advice for each situation.

My tip would be to include a bit more detail on specific activities or techniques for self-care and self-love, as this could make the advice even more practical and supportive for those seeking guidance.

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Mya000 September 13th
@SoulfullyAButterfly

Feeling like you’re not good enough for someone is a common experience that many human beings face. I remember a time when I felt this way in a past relationship, constantly doubting my self-worth and wondering if I was enough. It’s important to recognize that self-doubt and negative self-talk can stem from your inner critic, often leading you to question your self-confidence. A good first step is to acknowledge that this voice doesn’t define you or the amazing person that you truly are.

Sometimes, comparing yourself to others on social media or through family members' expectations, like parents or even a partner, can trigger these feelings. In my experience, focusing on self-love and self-compassion helped me overcome these doubts. Therapy and open communication with loved ones were also crucial in addressing the real reasons behind these feelings.

Working through self-esteem issues and understanding that you don’t have to be perfect for someone else is vital to building a healthy relationship. At the end of the day, focusing on being a better person for yourself, rather than someone else, is the best way forward. I’s not about doing the right thing for others but about recognizing your value. You deserve great things, and with patience, I hope you’ll see your worth.



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pluckyVillage735 September 19th

@Mya000

This reponse is well thought.And it has all the key words related to the question and also included a personal anecdote to keep the viewer more engaging to the response. 

This response provide detailed information on what leads to negative self talk and also highlighted the fact practising self love and self awareness and focusing more on us than the other party's opinions is crucial regarding the question.

Overall, the response contains professional and appropriate language and it looks upon the viewer with an emphatic view.My tip is to focus a little more on sharing the viewers' doubts with the certain person so they can get the other person's perspective too.

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Mya000 September 19th

@pluckyVillage735 Thank you for your feedback!

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pluckyVillage735 September 19th

@SoulfullyAButterfly







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pluckyVillage735 September 19th

@pluckyVillage735 I am sorry.something glitched.

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pluckyVillage735 September 19th

@SoulfullyAButterfly

From our childhood we are learnt to impress others to find our own place in this big world. In fact, that's how we make sure we are remembered by people. And people who you consider close like parents,friends or partners have their own expectations for you and  it's to fit into their logical and emotional mindset they have build upon.It's not wrong to comply for them as much as your will and ambitions align with them.

But if you go past a certain limit where you can't or don't want to please it, you can find yourself thinking 'Am I good enough ?'and it's okay to have those feelings.but the point is to manage it positively. If you are to doubt yourself repeatedly it can lead to low self esteem and it can't make your sitution fine.

 The first step is to reframe your thoughts and find why you feel like that way.but you shouldn't rely on your inner critic as it's not framing your situation as it is but in a nasty manner.

And the next step and the right thing is to voice your side with that certain person as what you think is more oftenly not the other person feels.

But you should remember that your  mistakes don't devalue the amazing person you are. At the end of the day, even that person expresses that you are not good enough, you are who you believe to be.Therefore,with self love and self confidence, you can find the right way in your life.And there is always the option to go to therapy so you can get help to effectively build your self esteem and see the problem as it is.You are not alone in this.

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raysofmoni September 23rd

@pluckyVillage735

I feel the strengths are:

  • The suggested measures for overcoming the circumstance are simple and realistic for many people.
  • The way your answer is often applicable to many situations for many of us allows one to feel more relatable and less alone in their experiences.
  • The way you validated the experiences and suggested that many of us might go through them at some point.


One suggestion I feel for improving the answer is to make it more common rather than addressing the reader personally, which may be unsettling to them, leaving them feeling alone with their experiences.

For example, I believe it would be better if the line, 'The first step is to reframe your thoughts and find why you feel that way', were reframed as such. 'The first step we can do is to reframe our ideas and figure out why we are feeling this way'.
raysofmoni September 23rd

@pluckyVillage735 I failed to express how much I appreciate your response and the time it would have taken for you to frame it.🤦‍♀️💕

My heartfelt wishes are with you!🩷

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pluckyVillage735 September 27th

@raysofmoni

Thank you so much for such a well organized and complete review.😊💜And I wish the same for you.

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