2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support
As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions
Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!
Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.
The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.
All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.
Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.
(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:
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You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.
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If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.
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Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.
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When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.
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Avoid plagiarism.
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Use professional and appropriate language.
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If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.
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Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.
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Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.
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7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.
(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.
At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:
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Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.
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Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.
What are Keywords?
Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.
Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.
For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.
Activity
Review this Sample Optimized Answer:
Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?
Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications
Approved, Optimized Answer:
While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.
Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.
The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.
Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!
Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here
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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Reply:
A lot of people struggle with feeling like they are not good enough for someone. Although really common, this untrue feeling of inadequacy doesn’t come naturally. It generally stems from various factors such as low self-esteem, past trauma, childhood experiences, rejections, insecurities, and several other reasons. Sometimes, inaccurate information provided on the internet or social media can also cause you to question your self-worth and raise your self-doubt.
The first step is to acknowledge your emotions; to understand that it’s absolutely okay to feel how you are feeling, and to sit with those emotions. Generally, this feeling of not being enough brings with it a lot of thoughts that clutter our minds, and the best way to deal with it is to take a step back and breathe for a moment.
Once you’re ready, try to dive deep into the root cause by reflecting on your feelings and trying to take one thought at a time. Understanding the reason behind how you are feeling is a very significant step. Try to calm down your inner critic; the inner voice that criticizes you into feeling this way; and find your triggers.
Every person has their own strengths and flaws, but sometimes, negative self-talk can cause you to focus only on the flaws, ultimately making you feel inadequate. It’s extremely important to challenge self-criticism while acknowledging your strengths and practicing self-love. Treat yourself with the same level of kindness that you give to any other amazing person; this could be a big step towards establishing self-confidence. Open communication is crucial in any relationship, whether it's with your parents, partner, children, or any other family member. Although it might be a little challenging at first, communicating clearly and trying to spend good time together can also contribute to building healthy relationships. Additionally, therapy can also be beneficial for one's own personal growth and development.
At the end of the day, we are just human beings. Slow down; be a little more patient with yourself; taking a little more time is totally a right thing to do. Help yourself by setting small goals and taking small steps every day in order to improve yourself and become a better person.
@sia1325 Your strengths: 1) You have done justice to the provided keywords and have tried incorporating them in your response.
2) You have done a good job of providing a reason for feeling low and a suitable call-to-action because that is what most clients come to therapy for.
3) Your suggestions are practical and humanistic.
The only thing I guess you could work upon is the length of the answer. The cutoff is 100 words or 10 sentences, so as content writers we will be expected to write concise answers to our best (Though it is extremely challenging and trust me, I have failed in my attempt as well. My answer consists of 179 words too :)). Rest, I think you have done a brilliant job!!
@sia1325
- Loved that you provided steps :)
- Great use of keywords
- Logical yet compassionate
@sia1325 One tip would be to make it longer but I understand how difficult that is, I wrote it short myself :)
Not feeling good enough for someone may sometimes indicate a need for greater self-love and an adjusted sense of self-worth. Oftentimes our self-esteem takes a major hit when as children we accidentally prime ourselves to activate the inner critic and engage in negative self-talk. This is often a result of authoritarian parenting and having critical or overbearing family members around us. But the good news is that there are myriad ways to build self-confidence and take that first step to creating a healthy relationship with yourself. Anytime you are in self-doubt, it becomes imperative to remind yourself of all the right and great things you have done your whole life. It is important to remind yourself what an amazing person you are! Find your voice and do not always internalize others’ opinions about you. Remember, no one ever has complete information about what you truly are other than You and so, at the end of the day, what matters most is how you feel about yourself rather than worrying about whether you are good enough for this other person.
@royalPiano4520
Good answer, Royal Piano. Well said
@walkalot Thank you :)
@royalPiano4520
I like how you shared about the inner critic as well as how only the
individual knows that they are the one which knows who they are and what
is inside of them and not the other person. Great points on ways to build self-worth.
I appreciate that you related the inner critical voice being from having authoritarian parents, and yet there are some individuals out there who had wonderfully supportive parents who ended up in domestically violent relationships where they were so beaten down emotionally and gaslighted that their critical voice started from that relationship, not always in childhood from their parents. Just a note to share that there can be other reasons someone has a critical voice that dictates their lack of self-worth or putting others ahead of them or assumes they aren't good enough for another.
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: , self-esteem, , self-worth , inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship,, communication,
answer: you need to check is this feeling is a real warning that you are not the fit to someone or the other part is demanding more efforts from you ; after that you can choose how to handle that improving yourself , or stop trying .
@delightfulUnicorn38
Hi Unicorn. Did you sign up for the CDM program? If not, you should do that so we can track your progress and give you a certificate at the end.
You can find the application form on this page:
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@walkalot
yes , i did , i sign up for the CDM program , thank you for caring 🌷
@delightfulUnicorn38
Okay, I will check again
@delightfulUnicorn38
It says that you were deferred. Do you want to reactivate your course?
@walkalot
Yes please,
@delightfulUnicorn38
Okay
@delightfulUnicorn38
Did you do the first exercise
@walkalot
Yes ,i think
@delightfulUnicorn38
Haven't seen it. Can you just go do it again for me?
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Feeling like we aren't good enough for someone is a difficult feeling to experience. Many times this comes out of how we feel about ourselves. One way to deal with this feeling is to remind ourselves that we are good enough just as we are. Feeling good enough for someone else comes from the thoughts that we tell ourselves about we are or aren't good enough for someone. This means we are casting judgment on ourselves, and placing others on a higher level than we place ourselves.
In a healthy relationship, we both bring strengths and challenges into the relationship. None of us are perfect. Reminding ourselves that we are just as worthwhile as the next person, that there are good things about us too, can allow us to see ourselves in a more acceptable light.
Quieting the thoughts that tell us that we are not good enough for someone can also help us deal with this. Many times when we have critical thoughts about ourselves, we may project those thoughts and believe that the other person may feel that about us and therefore we do not move forward in making a connection or reaching out toward someone we want to connect with or someone we don't feel good enough for. Reminding ourselves of what is good about us, of our strengths, of our talents and of our heart can help us to see who we are inside, and reduce the voice that tells us we aren't good enough.
@KristenHR talking about several facts was helpful in this post. Great job!
@SoulfullyAButterfly What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Feeling like you're not good enough for someone can be challenging, but there are constructive steps you can take to address these feelings:
Recognize Your Worth: Understand that everyone has insecurities and moments of self-doubt. Remind yourself that you are a valuable person with unique qualities and strengths.
Identify the Source: Reflect on why you feel this way. Is it due to comparisons on social media, childhood experiences, or past relationships? Understanding the root cause can help you address it effectively.
Challenge Negative Thoughts: Combat negative self-talk and the inner critic by consciously challenging these thoughts. Ask yourself if they are based on facts or insecurities.
Practice Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend in a similar situation. Practice self-love and acceptance.
Set Realistic Standards: Avoid setting unrealistic expectations for yourself. Understand that perfection is not attainable, and everyone has flaws.
Seek Support: Talk to supportive friends, family members, or a therapist. Sharing your feelings with others can provide perspective and validation.
Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of dwelling on perceived inadequacies, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Engage in activities that nurture your talents and passions.
Limit Social Media Comparisons: Remember that social media often showcases curated highlights rather than the full spectrum of reality. Limit your exposure if it triggers feelings of inadequacy.
Communicate Openly: If your feelings of inadequacy are affecting your relationships, consider discussing them openly and honestly with your partner or loved ones. Healthy communication fosters understanding.
Celebrate Your Achievements: Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating your successes can boost your self-confidence.
Take Action: Whether it's learning a new skill, volunteering, or pursuing a hobby, taking positive steps forward can help you feel more empowered and capable.
Professional Help: If feelings of inadequacy significantly impact your well-being or relationships, consider seeking professional therapy. A therapist can provide tools and guidance tailored to your needs.
Remember, feeling inadequate is a common experience shared by many human beings. It's important to treat yourself with compassion and patience as you work towards building healthier self-esteem and relationships. At the end of the day, nurturing a positive self-image and understanding your own worth are key to forming fulfilling connections and living a satisfying life.
@ScorpiaD
hi @ScorpiaD I am given the task to identify 3 strengths and limitation of your answer so here it is.
Strengths : Your answer is very well researched and studied. It also shows empathy towards the person's feelings. You have also provided various options to help deal with the situation.
Limitation : You have tried to use all the keywords you can but were not able to use all of them, but it is understandable because it is hard to do so.
Anyway, your answer is great!
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day.
Answer : You must be going through a lot to feel this way. But trust me, relax and try to think about why do you feel this way. Know your worth and try to self-love. Everyone is unique and so are you. Take a step back and ask yourself what is the real reason behind feeling this way, is it a right thing to self-doubt, is it healthy relationship. You can also communicate with your partner about your negative thoughts and feelings. Try to find a best way out of this because you definetely can do this.
You can also talk with your close friends or parents or family members. The reason for doubting yourself can also be because you are comparing yourself with others and your inner critic and saying that you are not good enough. You should absolutely stop doing that. You are not inferior to anyone. You are you at the end of the day.
@Happysouled Great post! Good use of the keywords too.
@Happysouled
three things you have done well is your use of key words, empathy and provided many options, on the other hand one thing i would try to use a bit more of professional language.
great work!
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Feeling like you are not good enough for someone can be a challenging and emotionally draining experience. It’s important to remember that all human beings have intrinsic value and worth. The first step is to acknowledge your feelings without judgment. Consider talking to family members, such as your parents, who can offer support and perspective. Engaging in self-love activities and limiting social media can help reinforce your self-worth. If these feelings persist, therapy can be a valuable resource to address the real reasons behind your self-doubt and negative self-talk. Open communication with your partner can strengthen your healthy relationship . Remember to challenge your inner critic and replace it with positive affirmations, reminding yourself that you are an amazing person. Surround yourself with supportive people and focus on being a better person for your own satisfaction. At the end of the day, personal growth and self-confidence come from within, and everyone deserves to feel valued.
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
I would think of my self-esteem before anything. I will consider the person's attitude and will evaluate both (my self-esteem and the person's attitude). When I discover that my self-esteem is affected negatively and the person's attitude is not good enough for my existence, I will limit my interaction with that person and prioritize myself before them.
@soothingLove6591
Nice one. Remember to comment on a different answer too
@walkalot
You've done a great job emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and prioritizing self-care. I appreciate how you outlined a clear, proactive approach to managing these feelings.
To effectively address feelings of inadequacy, prioritize evaluating your self-esteem and the other person’s attitude, and take action by limiting interactions if necessary to protect your well-being.
@SoulfullyAButterfly Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Answer: Firstly, you must uncover why you feel insufficient for someone by asking and reflecting on yourself. Some examples are: What makes me feel like that? Any clue that triggers the feelings. Subsequently, you may ask someone you trust about this matter and see if it is real or just a feelings. In the meantime, practice self-love, and develop critical skills and a growth mindset. Critical skills would help you to analyze other people impact's on you. Growth mindset helps self- actualization.
If you find this matter alters heavily on daily life, or notice psychological abnormalities, please find a therapist.
@Eitas
Eitas, nice answer. Comment on someone else's answer too, please
@Eitas Excellent response! I like the example questions you present to consider. The way you presented the ideas in an ordered, organized way makes it easy to understand. The general accuracy and helpfulness of the response is wonderful leaving the reader with actional things to try.
One thing that could maybe be improved is utilizing more of the keywords.
Thanks!
@SoulfullyAButterfly
The foundation of relationships, whatever their type, whether it is a relationship with family, friends, or partner, is participation, where each individual participates in improving the growth of the other. Self-esteem represents an essential element in any relationship, and its decline may affect the relationship negatively, such as the individual becoming anxious for fear of abandonment or feeling insecure and this may develop into depression , This creates a close circle that is difficult to get out of without external intervention, as the inner critic contributes to amplifying the symptoms of depression, feelings of frustration, and lack of self-confidence,the inner critic is like a fire that consumes our insides, and if we do not control it, it may burn us completely. So we must silence it by practicing compassion for ourselves and boosting our confidence in ourselves and our partner ,we must always be clear about our needs and feelings with our partner, which contributes to creating good communication in the relationship. And we can always ask for support from friends, family, partner, therapist or anyone we trust , and surrounding ourselves with supportive people. Knowing our strengths and weaknesses and feeling proud of the simplest achievements will also make us happier and more self-confident people.
@Chocolate0 I think the message should be more straightforward and you should define what is "self esteem" here