2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

@walkalot thanks, I am sorry I was not happy with the response when I reread it, I fixed things, but they did not get edited right. That frustrates me.

@coolvibes

Strengths:

1. Good use of given keywords.

2. Well structured answer of a good size.

3. Mentions of do-able strategies to improve self esteem.

Tip for improvement: Suggest reaching out for professional help/therapy or researching information from verified sources to get more details. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: , partner, self-esteem, , good news, best way, first step, ,   better person, good time, good luck,, real reason, whole life, voice, right thing, great things, information, 

Not feeling good enough can be something we may all relate during different periods of our lives. We think that we can do better, and it's daunting. It can come along with feelings of rising inner critic, self doubt, negative self talks, and we find ourselves in a vicious cycle of sinking deeper and deeper. One point to remember is that, our self worth is not bound to the circumstance we're in. As we are all human beings navigating through ups and downs in life. As children, we raise in an environment that parents, relatives, and many people have influence on us. Sometimes we might end up internalizing the issues others came across to tell us, but let me tell you one thing, it's not always true! At the end of the day, You and only you are the one who needs to be content with yourself buddy. If I want to give some options to help increase that, practicing self love, self confidence, surrounding yourself with supportive family members, creating healthy relationships, and not allowing social media to affect us in a bad way would be good alternatives. Therapy can also be helpful. 

Remember, you're an amazing person who is trying your best, keep it up, and good luck! 💚

@daydreammemories

Well done. Good answer

@daydreammemories

1  I can sense you are really  understanding 

2 good at putting in the keuwords.

3 very easy to read.

@daydreammemories

i can not find anything bad about your answer

@daydreammemories

-met the word count-past 150

-good personal ancedote (fantastic)

-wrote in own words  

-tip : maximize keywords ! 

 I know it hard when you are so used inner critic  does a lot of negative self-talk that can cause you to 

Self-doubt.  What  you are feeling very valid and understandable. I want u to know that are amazing person  that does good things and always try to the right things, have you considered going  to therapy to worm of self love,  self-esteem,   self-confidence and self-worth.  having a good support system that includes  family members and friends that you have a healthy relationships with can help you grow as a person. Doing this will be the first step for a whole life of being. A better person. Good luck with journey and wish u the best. 

@Heartsandrosesandpaws

Good answer. Keep it up

Answer:

As human beings, we tend to strive for self-improvement and to be worthy of our loved ones. Parents encourage their children to try harder and do better, but it is important to incorporate self love and acceptance into our mindset. The best self improvement we can achieve is when it comes from a basis of self love and care. As we grow, we find more and more flaws within ourselves, which feeds our inner critic and keeps a near-constant voice of self doubt and insecurity. Breaking away from this is a difficult yet important task. Some tips to help build your self esteem are: 

- Surround yourself with loved ones who can provide you with a good support system. A support system is essential to help you ward off negative thoughts and identify patterns in your way of thinking that help feed your inner critic.

- Avoid negative self talk. Try to stop yourself from spiraling into constant criticism of yourself. Ask your loved ones to help distract you. Remind yourself of your positives as well your goal to achieve a healthier view of yourself.

- Focus on healthy communication. Have people implied a general dislike of you? Reach out to your loved ones and colleagues at work/school and genuinely ask them what they think of you. Look for constructive criticism. You may ask them to list a certain number of your positives and negatives. Review the list to see where you can improve- but focus on the positives too. Remember, human beings tend to make mistakes. The objective is not to put yourself down as useless or unworthy of others but to find areas for you to improve and learn from. 

- Imagine someone else in your place. How would you support them? Tell yourself what you think you would tell them. Is there any advice you would give them? Remind yourself that you are as worthy of loving as this imaginary person. 

- Seek professional help. This includes therapy and mental health resources online. Research verified information on self esteem and confidence. 

Remember, at the end of the day, you are not alone in your struggle. The hardest and most important step might be reaching out for help, but once you have achieved this you can embark more easily on your journey to achieve self love.

@unassumingEyes

well said

@unassumingEyes

Hi, Unassuming Eyes, well done. Good answer

@walkalot Thank you!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: How can I deal with medical emergencies?

Provided Keywords: psychiatrist, stress, hospital, suicide, suicide ideations, resources, emergency, self hate, injuries, common flu, clinical signs, doctor, breathing problems, help

Approved, Optimized Answer:

I've been approved of this before in terms of medical issues and conditions, and while I am not a doctor, these helpful tips to be embraced could consider things that are in of immediate attention, as in life threating emergencies or experiencing fatal or rushed and/or needs help pain on the upper respiratory level, like a hurt in the upper bodies of the chest or medical symptoms of stroke. While there may be a doctor's office available, in case of immediate attention, consider urgent care and for heart issues, any sort of sudden violent, non-visible, sensory breakage of airway patterns, or any openings of soft muscle, please call or dial 911.

@Cnguyen1 

Question: How can I deal with medical emergencies?

Provided Keywords: psychiatrist, stress, hospital, suicide, suicide ideations, resources, emergency, self hate, injuries, common flu, clinical signs, doctor, breathing problems, help

Approved, Optimized Answer:

I've been approved of this before in terms of medical issues and conditions, and while I am not a doctor, these helpful tips to be embraced could consider things that are in of immediate attention, as in life threating emergencies or experiencing fatal or rushed and/or needs help pain on the upper respiratory level, like a hurt in the upper bodies of the chest or medical symptoms of stroke. While there may be a doctor's office available, in case of immediate attention, consider urgent care and for heart issues, any sort of sudden violent, non-visible, sensory breakage of airway patterns, or any openings of soft muscle, please call or dial 911.

♡@SoulfullyAButterfly ♡

✓ Reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Strengths: 1. Appropriate and professional language incorporated into response 2. 100-150 words were use to give response 3. Answer was related to the question

Tip: @Cnguyen1, It was a pleasure reading and learning from your response. However, I do not believe that this is the correct question in which we were to respond to. Here is the question below:

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

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@Cnguyen1

Hi CNguyen, Good answer. Keep it up

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

✨Answer✨

Not feeling good enough, is one of the most common thoughts people feeling and experience. It's like that your story of not feeling good enough for someone is similar to mine, and also different from mine. Being judged my people around us, being rejected by people and jobs, and watching all the happy and pretty people on social media may influence us negatively. The feeling of not being good enough sometimes can stem from low-self-confidence, low self-esteem, self-doubt, and low self-worth.

Many of us were told that we are not good enough, to be pushed to be better. The first step is to recognize where this feeling of not being good voice is really coming from. Is it coming from the inner critic or is it because of the environment and situations? Human beings who had this feeling of being not good enough, need to practice more compassion. They need compassion from the people around them, and more importantly need to give themselves compassion.

At the end of the day, we often dont know in the moment how people and situations In our lives affect us in the moment. Hopefully, this information gives some insight of how to sort out this belief and the feeling of not being good enough so that one can rise up and discover the amazing person within.

Good Luck 

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@PetiteSouris

Hi Petite, thanks for reviewing my answer, there. 

I think your strengths are 

• the opening line - told they need to be better, there.
• compassion - love that
• investigated the belief! Gave the general direction, of upliftment .

Tip: I think you could potentially consider circumstance of the person i.e.

   self-criticism / self-worth at a party, for example

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yes. You did it! 

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* I think side note, I think a comma could be inserted before the word, 'negatively.' And start the sentence with "This" at the beginning of the last sentence of the first paragraph . 

@PetiteSouris

Hi Souris, Good answer. Artistic too.

@walkalot

@PetiteSouris

1. Where does the feeling of not being good enough come from?

Knowing the root cause to any problem is important in order to resolve it.

2. Rejection from people around us.

Sometimes we are surrounded by people (in many cases is our own family which is even worse!) who tell us mean things, they may be direct or indirect and in lots of cases they want to hurt us not caring about our feelings and self-esteem.

3. Social Media Exposure:

Nowadays so many people especially youngsters utilize social media for many hours every single day and they see “influencers” as role models which can be dangerous because many of them don’t know what they are causing on people’s mind especially when they are young and susceptible. If they don’t fit into what is good for their favorite "influencers" then they will start feeling sad, anxious or can even try to do things that aren’t good for them just to fit in.

@themightyhealer

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, self-growth, mindfulness, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day, strength, self-care, never give up.

Sometimes We Feel That We Are Not Good For Someone But

Why Do We Think That?

1. It’s My own perception.

If You are doing things right and even that someone tells You so and You’re still thinking that You are not good enough for that person then You need to start working on changing your mindset because You are being hard with Yourself, You are not believing in Yourself and that’s not beneficial for You!

Fortunately, that perception can be changed but it requires Your willingness to do it!

2. That someone told me something that made me think about it.

Maybe that someone told You something as an observation or a simple commentary but You took it too personal and even as an attack?

If that’s the case then you might be bringing forth your own insecurities and therefore, You need to work on it otherwise You will have the same problem all the time.

3. That someone seems not to care about me.

If someone does not care nor value You as a person then it’s time for You to move on. You need to know that You are a valuable person and nobody can’t tell you otherwise. Also, You need to think about Your own well-being and happiness, so if someone does not appreciate You as a person then that individual does not deserve You. Therefore, You need to move on and carry on with your life.

It’s important to know that Our well-being is in Our own hands and in most cases, we have everything necessary to change our bad habits but sometimes We just need guidance which can be found in books, spirituality, therapy or any other method that can be right for you!

So don’t give up, grow as individual every single day and be happy!

@themightyhealer

Nice answer, the Mighty Healer

@walkalot Thank you!

@themightyhealer

I enjoyed the writing very much ! 

It was very practical and lighhearted. The 'You' resonated with me, if you don't mind me saying, so I think it was not plagarized at all. It makes me think that. 

I think the spiritual help book is great advice, I would even add 2 book recommendations for someone who is really a beginner. That would be my tip to improve the answer ((; otherwise, I would love a personal anecdote from you! I think the answer one completes it very well, but somehow it makes me more intrigued about YOU, ha ha! And it makes the viewer feel seen. 

The circumstance is do-able. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

It’s important to remember that our journey as social human beings with awareness begins with our parents. It may seem obvious, but the first interaction you have with your parents affects your self-confidence and the way you communicate yout whole life. So as we grow older, it may feel like we do things for no reason. That’s where self-doubt and negative self-talk kicks in. Your inner critic focuses on the past and ignores you, the person behind that stone wall, full of uniqueness and possibilities. Just because you couldn’t see the right examples, doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of having healthy relationships and doing great things in life. You’re more than your past. You are all the first important steps you took, all the therapy sessions you have been to, all the information about mental health you researched. They will never go to waste. Don’t give up.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Reply:

A lot of people struggle with feeling like they are not good enough for someone. Although really common, this untrue feeling of inadequacy doesn’t come naturally. It generally stems from various factors such as low self-esteem, past trauma, childhood experiences, rejections, insecurities, and several other reasons. Sometimes, inaccurate information provided on the internet or social media can also cause you to question your self-worth and raise your self-doubt.

The first step is to acknowledge your emotions; to understand that it’s absolutely okay to feel how you are feeling, and to sit with those emotions. Generally, this feeling of not being enough brings with it a lot of thoughts that clutter our minds, and the best way to deal with it is to take a step back and breathe for a moment.

Once you’re ready, try to dive deep into the root cause by reflecting on your feelings and trying to take one thought at a time. Understanding the reason behind how you are feeling is a very significant step. Try to calm down your inner critic; the inner voice that criticizes you into feeling this way; and find your triggers.

Every person has their own strengths and flaws, but sometimes, negative self-talk can cause you to focus only on the flaws, ultimately making you feel inadequate. It’s extremely important to challenge self-criticism while acknowledging your strengths and practicing self-love. Treat yourself with the same level of kindness that you give to any other amazing person; this could be a big step towards establishing self-confidence. Open communication is crucial in any relationship, whether it's with your parents, partner, children, or any other family member. Although it might be a little challenging at first, communicating clearly and trying to spend good time together can also contribute to building healthy relationships. Additionally, therapy can also be beneficial for one's own personal growth and development.

At the end of the day, we are just human beings. Slow down; be a little more patient with yourself; taking a little more time is totally a right thing to do. Help yourself by setting small goals and taking small steps every day in order to improve yourself and become a better person.

@sia1325 Your strengths: 1) You have done justice to the provided keywords and have tried incorporating them in your response.

2) You have done a good job of providing a reason for feeling low and a suitable call-to-action because that is what most clients come to therapy for.

3) Your suggestions are practical and humanistic.

The only thing I guess you could work upon is the length of the answer. The cutoff is 100 words or 10 sentences, so as content writers we will be expected to write concise answers to our best (Though it is extremely challenging and trust me, I have failed in my attempt as well. My answer consists of 179 words too :)). Rest, I think you have done a brilliant job!!

@sia1325

1. Loved that you provided steps :)
2. Great use of keywords
3. Logical yet compassionate

@sia1325 One tip would be to make it longer but I understand how difficult that is, I wrote it short myself :)

Not feeling good enough for someone may sometimes indicate a need for greater self-love and an adjusted sense of self-worth. Oftentimes our self-esteem takes a major hit when as children we accidentally prime ourselves to activate the inner critic and engage in negative self-talk. This is often a result of authoritarian parenting and having critical or overbearing family members around us. But the good news is that there are myriad ways to build self-confidence and take that first step to creating a healthy relationship with yourself. Anytime you are in self-doubt, it becomes imperative to remind yourself of all the right and great things you have done your whole life. It is important to remind yourself what an amazing person you are! Find your voice and do not always internalize others’ opinions about you. Remember, no one ever has complete information about what you truly are other than You and so, at the end of the day, what matters most is how you feel about yourself rather than worrying about whether you are good enough for this other person.

@royalPiano4520

Good answer, Royal Piano. Well said

@walkalot Thank you :)

@royalPiano4520

I like how you shared about the inner critic as well as how only the individual knows that they are the one which knows who they are and what is inside of them and not the other person.  Great points on ways to build self-worth.

I appreciate that you related the inner critical voice being from having authoritarian parents, and yet there are some individuals out there who had wonderfully supportive parents who ended up in domestically violent relationships where they were so beaten down emotionally and gaslighted that their critical voice started from that relationship, not always in childhood from their parents.  Just a note to share that there can be other reasons someone has a critical voice that dictates their lack of self-worth or putting others ahead of them or assumes they aren't good enough for another.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: , self-esteem, , self-worth , inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship,, communication, 

answer: you need to check is this feeling is  a real warning that you are not the fit  to someone or the other part is demanding more efforts from you ; after that you can choose how to handle that improving yourself ,  or stop trying .

@delightfulUnicorn38

Hi Unicorn. Did you sign up for the CDM program? If not, you should do that so we can track your progress and give you a certificate at the end.

You can find the application form on this page:

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@walkalot

yes , i did , i sign up for the CDM program , thank you for caring 🌷

@delightfulUnicorn38

Okay, I will check again