2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

@SoulfullyAButterfly

A lot of us go through this feeling of not being good enough. It might be related to our parents or partners, or it might be a result of low self esteem fostered by the social media. This feeling of not being good enough is accompanied by the negative self-talk and self-doubt. We might get so engrossed in what our inner critic says that we tend to drift apart from the real reason of us not feeling good enough.

When this feeling arises, it is important for us to understand the power of self-love and self-worth. We are human beings, and we are all allowed to make mistakes and then strive again to become a better version of ourselves. Being kind and gentle to ourselves during such times is helpful. It can also assist with shifting the voice in our head and gaining more self- confidence. When things are bad, we can always turn outside for support, may it be from family members or in the form of therapy. At the end of the day, it is good to remember that we are not alone.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question : What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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This is a great question. We often feel, we are not enough or we are not good enough for someone, may it be for our parents, our friends, our partner, we feel that they deserve someone so better than us or we are not able to give them the love and care they deserve. Trust me this is not just you or me, we all feel this atleast once in our lifetime and it's okay to feel something like this. But this really doesn't mean that you're not enough for them🌻 It's just our thoughts and overthinking, makes us think in this way but it's really not true.

We spend so much time on social media, we look at others social life, we watch happy families on screen, happy relationships on screen and we tend to think that "ahh they're so happy, they're keeping their loved ones happy, I'm not able to do it, I guess I'm not good enough to be ____" but we should understand that whatever we see on screen is not real and we should understand that everyone is different. We all have our own ways of showing love to each other, caring about each other and we should never compare ourselves with someone else, who's so different from us, in every ways 😄

Self-doubt always makes us feel bad and it always makes us ignore our strengths and focus only on our weaknesses. But it's not the same when we think about others🌻 When we think about others/ our loved ones, we see only their strengths and ignore their weaknesses and when we compare their strengths with our weaknesses, we feel that we are really not good enough for them😄 Inspite of this, we should see our strengths too, yes we all have weaknesses but we do have our own strengths/ something we are good at, think about it, see that and you'll know that even you're worthy!

Never compare yourself with others. We all are different and we all are unique. No two person can be same so don't think about your weaknesses and rather think about what makes you beautiful, what makes you special🌻 And if you think you're having a weakness which you should work on, please work on it🌸 When you wanna improve and work on yourself, nobody can stop you from doing it😄

Know that every human being deserves to be loved and to be showed kindness🌻 So instead of overthinking, try to take everything in a positive way, and try to work on it, work on yourself to be the better version of you🌸

And at the end of the day what matters is you, your loved ones and your happiness🌻🌸 It doesn't matter how long you take to improve, be better, be the one you want to be, what matters is your happiness and the beautiful journey😄 Remember happiness doesn't come only when you reach your destination, it comes when you start your journey🌻😄

All the best with your life🌻

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

It's hard to feel as though your partner, parents, children, friends or other family members don't see you as the amazing person you are. Feeling this way can damage your self esteem and make it much easier to engage in negative self talk and self doubt.

We can't always control how other people feel about us but a first step may be to connect with this person and see if you can get some information to figure out how to get to a healthy relationship with each other. Communication like this can be very difficult though and you may not get the responses you wish for.

The best thing would be to work on thinking of yourself as a better person and increasing your self-worth. You could do this by participating in self-love activities such as doing things you enjoy, treating yourself, self massage etc.

It could help to remind yourself of the things you like about yourself which could boost your self confidence. Check in with the type of social media content that you are surrounding yourself with too. Comparing yourself to others could reinforce this negative view of yourself when actually you are capable of great things.

At the end of the day, if this is something you're struggling with please reach out and schedule some therapy if that is available to you.

@SoulfullyAButterfly As humans, there always arises a question " What if I am not good enough for them?". It is human tendency to self-doubt ourselves, or even have negative conversations with ourselves. We might fail to understand our worth in people's lives and might feel demotivated or discouraged in life. But the actual question would be, " Is it really worth me self-doubting myself?" Rather than doubting ourselves for the whole life, if we learn to embrace ourselves with our faults or imperfections, life will turn out to be beautiful that it already is. We are all born awesome. The more we compare ourselves with others, the more hurt or discouraged we feel.

What are the factors that lead to self-doubt? It can be after a terrible fight with your partner, or social media where you see a perfect couple posing, family members try to put that thought in your head, you fail to impress your parents, not being confident enough etc. We always have an inner self critic ready to criticize.

The first and the most important step to overcome this is to start loving yourself. You are the best and the most amazing person in this world for yourself. It is very important to know our self-worth, how much we mean to ourselves. Children are the best human beings who are not blinded by these thoughts of not being the best version of themselves. They always do things that make them happy. Self-confidence is the best way to overcome this. Self-esteem builds self confidence in us. All of these emotions are inter-related to each other. Self-love would attract great things in life including having a healthy relationship, having a good and quality time with yourself, having good communication with your peers and a life with peace and harmony. In the end, our peace matters the most as the most important person in your life is YOU!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Oftentimes we feel like we are not good enough for someone else like for example your partner, parents, family members, friends, or even strangers across social media. The first step is to analyze the situation: what makes you think that you are not good enough? What information do you have? Have these people communicated this to you?

Often we project onto others our negative self-talk and the way we see ourselves. If we lack self-esteem and think that we are lacking, then others must do too. But that is not always the case, our inner critic is just very loud. We can even take things that people say in the wrong way because of our lack of self-confidence.

I have been in your situation and these are my top tips:

• Communicate with your loved ones about how you are feeling, especially if they are the ones you think you are disappointing. It can be daunting but you will either get the reassurance that this is not the case, or feedback on how you can become an even better person. Communication is important for a healthy relationship, and being open about our feelings can lead to great things.

• Practice self-love! The best way to increase your sense of self-worth is by loving and accepting who you are. There are plenty of free online resources, including in the 7cups forums. Find the right thing for you, you can journal, meditate, paint, and get creative! If you are still struggling, consider talking to a therapist or psychology professional that can help you navigate these emotions.

• Look at the bigger picture. At the end of the day, there are 8 billion human beings in this world, each of them with their standards and expectations. Not everyone will be your cup of tea and vice versa. That doesn’t reduce their or your worth at all! You are an amazing person capable of great things, independent of how someone else may perceive you.

• Last but not least, it’s amazing to strive for self-improvement and personal growth! However, changing yourself and dedicating your whole life to fit someone else’s expectations is probably not the best idea.

It’s a hard thing to deal with and I understand it may feel frustrating. But the right people in your life will love you for who you are while helping you to become the best version of yourself!

Good luck, you got this! ☺️

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Answer: Sometimes there’s not much of a worse feeling than that of not feeling good enough for the partner you love. Unfortunately, many people experience this issue with self-esteem and self-confidence in their relationship from time to time and it is critical to find healthy ways of overcoming these thoughts. Sometimes, these thoughts come from our own poor self-image, driven by a myriad of factors that may not directly be the result of how we are treated by our family members. Other times, we may have the misfortune of being in an abusive relationship, whether it be physical or emotional abuse, thereby reinforcing our thoughts of feeling like a failure. The latter is not indicative of a healthy relationship and it’s important to reach out for help when we find ourselves in that situation.

Whether we have this feeling of not being good enough due to this type of abusive or manipulative relationship or whether it be from somewhere within, these thoughts can lead to persistent anxiety and even depression.

For people experiencing not feeling good enough and can find it in them to want to feel better (e.g.: not self-sabotaging), it is important to speak honestly to our partners and others in our lives about how we feel. Opening communication to those we love can share our sides of the story about why we feel the way we do and hopefully allow our loved ones to not only understand why we feel not good enough, but to also work towards reassuring us of our value and the ultimate goal of healing. Of course, the healthy way of doing this is to do so in a constructive manner, open to feedback, and neither party pointing fingers.

Additionally, it is absolutely vital to understand how impactful our words can be. Consistent negative reinforcement toward someone already feeling not good enough can be continually keeping them in this state. As the person feeling not good enough, we should ask the other person to choose their words more carefully and to rephrase things toward being more constructive and less leaning toward the negative. As the partner or loved one on the other end, we must be receptive to the need for change in how we speak as to promote healing and understanding between both parties.

Lastly, it may be beneficial to engage in therapy—not only for the one feeling not good enough, but also potentially inviting our partner/loved one along to discuss in this safe environment as well. Having a skilled mediator and translator for our feelings can help us in our goal to heal and to get back to feeling on an equal ground with our loved ones and finally to rid ourselves of our negative self-talk. At the end of the day, all of us should realize we absolutely are good enough and are perfectly equal and worthy of love, support, and attention.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

It must be really hard to constantly have thoughts around it and feel that you are not good enough for someone. I am glad that you have taken this first step towards identifying and working towards how you have been feeling. There might be a number of things that might be resulting in this, ranging from the self-doubt we have to a reflection of the self-confidence and self-esteem we have. At times, we have this inner critic that greatly affects us in a negative way due to all the negative self-talks that we subject ourselves to. I hope you will be able to work on identifying the real reason because of which you feel this. For a healthy relationship, it is really important to communicate how you have been feeling, indulge in self-love and care, know your worth and that might be helpful. It might also be helpful to reaffirm yourself while thinking about the good times and perhaps taking support from your family members. If you think that how you are feeling is greatly affecting your relations, then you might want to consider seeking therapy and going to a professional. At the end of the day, remind yourself that you are an amazing person and you’ll be able to work through this. You have got this!

@SoulfullyAButterfly
Sometimes we might feel like we’re not good enough for the people around us, whether that be our parents, children, our partner, or other family members in our lives. One reason we might feel this way, could be social media. Social media may negatively impact our self-worth by amplifying our inner critic and supporting negative self-talk and self-doubt. The good news is that it can also help. Through social media, you can find resources for therapy or other forms of self-improvement to become a better person than you already were. Using these resources will allow you to regain the self-confidence you deserve by helping you realize you are an amazing person with a voice that deserves to be heard for your whole life. You can also discover how to have healthy relationships by learning great things like better communication and other information on a healthy lifestyle and social life. At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that we are all human beings, and we are all capable of improvement with the right resources.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

This is a difficult feeling to interpret and understand. It can feel like a heavy weight on your shoulders, especially when it involves a loved one. A healthy relationship involves honesty and vulnerability, and above all, a foundation of love and support from your partner. Sometimes our inner critic and self-doubt can cause us to spiral into negative self-talk, which can feel very overpowering. When I was in a similar situation I communicated this to my partner and focused on building my self-love and self-confidence. At the end of the day, an individual may be an amazing person but not the right person for someone. Good luck!

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

This feeling of self-doubt is not an easy answer as most people want to believe. We feel this way when growing up from childhood to adulthood. There are many ways for the inner critic voice can go away over time is with help from therapy, supportive family members, friends, and support groups. It may be easy to voice negative self-talk but, the first step (which is not the easiest) is knowing you are an amazing person and deserve great things in life has to offer. Self-love will win at the end of the day.