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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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loyalace9302 September 15th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

A lot of us go through this feeling of not being good enough. It might be related to our parents or partners, or it might be a result of low self esteem fostered by the social media. This feeling of not being good enough is accompanied by the negative self-talk and self-doubt. We might get so engrossed in what our inner critic says that we tend to drift apart from the real reason of us not feeling good enough.

When this feeling arises, it is important for us to understand the power of self-love and self-worth. We are human beings, and we are all allowed to make mistakes and then strive again to become a better version of ourselves. Being kind and gentle to ourselves during such times is helpful. It can also assist with shifting the voice in our head and gaining more self- confidence. When things are bad, we can always turn outside for support, may it be from family members or in the form of therapy. At the end of the day, it is good to remember that we are not alone.

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cristlecares September 23rd, 2022

@loyalace9302

You've written so beautifully🌸😄

Three positive things about your answers :

1) It's empathetic.

2) You've used most of the keywords/key points and the answer is really on point.

3) You've written it really in a professional manner which makes it even better to read🌻😄

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loyalace9302 September 24th, 2022

@cristlecares thank you for your positive feedback 🤗

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cristlecares September 23rd, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question : What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?


Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day


This is a great question. We often feel, we are not enough or we are not good enough for someone, may it be for our parents, our friends, our partner, we feel that they deserve someone so better than us or we are not able to give them the love and care they deserve. Trust me this is not just you or me, we all feel this atleast once in our lifetime and it's okay to feel something like this. But this really doesn't mean that you're not enough for them🌻 It's just our thoughts and overthinking, makes us think in this way but it's really not true.


We spend so much time on social media, we look at others social life, we watch happy families on screen, happy relationships on screen and we tend to think that "ahh they're so happy, they're keeping their loved ones happy, I'm not able to do it, I guess I'm not good enough to be ____" but we should understand that whatever we see on screen is not real and we should understand that everyone is different. We all have our own ways of showing love to each other, caring about each other and we should never compare ourselves with someone else, who's so different from us, in every ways 😄


Self-doubt always makes us feel bad and it always makes us ignore our strengths and focus only on our weaknesses. But it's not the same when we think about others🌻 When we think about others/ our loved ones, we see only their strengths and ignore their weaknesses and when we compare their strengths with our weaknesses, we feel that we are really not good enough for them😄 Inspite of this, we should see our strengths too, yes we all have weaknesses but we do have our own strengths/ something we are good at, think about it, see that and you'll know that even you're worthy!

Never compare yourself with others. We all are different and we all are unique. No two person can be same so don't think about your weaknesses and rather think about what makes you beautiful, what makes you special🌻 And if you think you're having a weakness which you should work on, please work on it🌸 When you wanna improve and work on yourself, nobody can stop you from doing it😄

Know that every human being deserves to be loved and to be showed kindness🌻 So instead of overthinking, try to take everything in a positive way, and try to work on it, work on yourself to be the better version of you🌸

And at the end of the day what matters is you, your loved ones and your happiness🌻🌸 It doesn't matter how long you take to improve, be better, be the one you want to be, what matters is your happiness and the beautiful journey😄 Remember happiness doesn't come only when you reach your destination, it comes when you start your journey🌻😄


All the best with your life🌻



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gentleFox20 September 27th, 2022

@cristlecares

Hi Cris!

Three things I loved about your post!

1) Use of emoji's to promote empathy and warmth

2) It was longer than 100 words which showed thoughtfulness and dedicated time in your reply

3) It's clear that you've read around this topic and you expressed this in your own words :)

One Tip! Perhaps you could have balanced the article out a little more. There was a lot of lovely understanding shown but maybe some more tips or suggestions would have given the reader more guidance.

I really enjoyed reading your response!

🦊

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cristlecares September 27th, 2022

@gentleFox20

Thank you so much for the feedback foxy fox🌻🦊 And yes you're right about the advice/suggestion! I need to learn more about this to be able to give advices/suggestions😄

Will try to remember this point next time🌻

Hugs and Cookies🍪🍪🍪🍪🍪



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yourbuddy30 November 14th, 2022

@cristlecares Well said cris! The three most important things I liked in your essay was

1) It is very apt regarding how we as humans usually think. You portrayed our thoughts in a very beautiful manner

2) I liked the way you responded to how we usually think and how we are supposed to think to differentiate between the two

3) The positivity you spread through your message

One tip of improvement I would like to give is you haven't covered all or most of the provided keywords, that is something you could have added in your message but overall, it was awesome cris! Thank you for sharing

guidamaximo November 17th, 2022

@cristlecares

Hi!

Great answer!

Strengths:

-Great use of emojis, grabs attention and helps with breaking the text into sections.

-Lovely ending

-Great information and use of language

Improvement:

- I would avoid the use of such decisive words like "never do this" "do this" and would change it to more of a suggestion type :)


Overall, great work!

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gentleFox20 September 27th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

It's hard to feel as though your partner, parents, children, friends or other family members don't see you as the amazing person you are. Feeling this way can damage your self esteem and make it much easier to engage in negative self talk and self doubt.

We can't always control how other people feel about us but a first step may be to connect with this person and see if you can get some information to figure out how to get to a healthy relationship with each other. Communication like this can be very difficult though and you may not get the responses you wish for.

The best thing would be to work on thinking of yourself as a better person and increasing your self-worth. You could do this by participating in self-love activities such as doing things you enjoy, treating yourself, self massage etc.

It could help to remind yourself of the things you like about yourself which could boost your self confidence. Check in with the type of social media content that you are surrounding yourself with too. Comparing yourself to others could reinforce this negative view of yourself when actually you are capable of great things.

At the end of the day, if this is something you're struggling with please reach out and schedule some therapy if that is available to you.

yourbuddy30 November 14th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly As humans, there always arises a question " What if I am not good enough for them?". It is human tendency to self-doubt ourselves, or even have negative conversations with ourselves. We might fail to understand our worth in people's lives and might feel demotivated or discouraged in life. But the actual question would be, " Is it really worth me self-doubting myself?" Rather than doubting ourselves for the whole life, if we learn to embrace ourselves with our faults or imperfections, life will turn out to be beautiful that it already is. We are all born awesome. The more we compare ourselves with others, the more hurt or discouraged we feel.

What are the factors that lead to self-doubt? It can be after a terrible fight with your partner, or social media where you see a perfect couple posing, family members try to put that thought in your head, you fail to impress your parents, not being confident enough etc. We always have an inner self critic ready to criticize.

The first and the most important step to overcome this is to start loving yourself. You are the best and the most amazing person in this world for yourself. It is very important to know our self-worth, how much we mean to ourselves. Children are the best human beings who are not blinded by these thoughts of not being the best version of themselves. They always do things that make them happy. Self-confidence is the best way to overcome this. Self-esteem builds self confidence in us. All of these emotions are inter-related to each other. Self-love would attract great things in life including having a healthy relationship, having a good and quality time with yourself, having good communication with your peers and a life with peace and harmony. In the end, our peace matters the most as the most important person in your life is YOU!

guidamaximo November 17th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Oftentimes we feel like we are not good enough for someone else like for example your partner, parents, family members, friends, or even strangers across social media. The first step is to analyze the situation: what makes you think that you are not good enough? What information do you have? Have these people communicated this to you?


Often we project onto others our negative self-talk and the way we see ourselves. If we lack self-esteem and think that we are lacking, then others must do too. But that is not always the case, our inner critic is just very loud. We can even take things that people say in the wrong way because of our lack of self-confidence.


I have been in your situation and these are my top tips:

  • Communicate with your loved ones about how you are feeling, especially if they are the ones you think you are disappointing. It can be daunting but you will either get the reassurance that this is not the case, or feedback on how you can become an even better person. Communication is important for a healthy relationship, and being open about our feelings can lead to great things.

  • Practice self-love! The best way to increase your sense of self-worth is by loving and accepting who you are. There are plenty of free online resources, including in the 7cups forums. Find the right thing for you, you can journal, meditate, paint, and get creative! If you are still struggling, consider talking to a therapist or psychology professional that can help you navigate these emotions.

  • Look at the bigger picture. At the end of the day, there are 8 billion human beings in this world, each of them with their standards and expectations. Not everyone will be your cup of tea and vice versa. That doesn’t reduce their or your worth at all! You are an amazing person capable of great things, independent of how someone else may perceive you.

  • Last but not least, it’s amazing to strive for self-improvement and personal growth! However, changing yourself and dedicating your whole life to fit someone else’s expectations is probably not the best idea.


It’s a hard thing to deal with and I understand it may feel frustrating. But the right people in your life will love you for who you are while helping you to become the best version of yourself!


Good luck, you got this! ☺️

TwoCreamTwoSugar November 28th, 2022

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Answer: Sometimes there’s not much of a worse feeling than that of not feeling good enough for the partner you love. Unfortunately, many people experience this issue with self-esteem and self-confidence in their relationship from time to time and it is critical to find healthy ways of overcoming these thoughts. Sometimes, these thoughts come from our own poor self-image, driven by a myriad of factors that may not directly be the result of how we are treated by our family members. Other times, we may have the misfortune of being in an abusive relationship, whether it be physical or emotional abuse, thereby reinforcing our thoughts of feeling like a failure. The latter is not indicative of a healthy relationship and it’s important to reach out for help when we find ourselves in that situation.

Whether we have this feeling of not being good enough due to this type of abusive or manipulative relationship or whether it be from somewhere within, these thoughts can lead to persistent anxiety and even depression.

For people experiencing not feeling good enough and can find it in them to want to feel better (e.g.: not self-sabotaging), it is important to speak honestly to our partners and others in our lives about how we feel. Opening communication to those we love can share our sides of the story about why we feel the way we do and hopefully allow our loved ones to not only understand why we feel not good enough, but to also work towards reassuring us of our value and the ultimate goal of healing. Of course, the healthy way of doing this is to do so in a constructive manner, open to feedback, and neither party pointing fingers.

Additionally, it is absolutely vital to understand how impactful our words can be. Consistent negative reinforcement toward someone already feeling not good enough can be continually keeping them in this state. As the person feeling not good enough, we should ask the other person to choose their words more carefully and to rephrase things toward being more constructive and less leaning toward the negative. As the partner or loved one on the other end, we must be receptive to the need for change in how we speak as to promote healing and understanding between both parties.

Lastly, it may be beneficial to engage in therapy—not only for the one feeling not good enough, but also potentially inviting our partner/loved one along to discuss in this safe environment as well. Having a skilled mediator and translator for our feelings can help us in our goal to heal and to get back to feeling on an equal ground with our loved ones and finally to rid ourselves of our negative self-talk. At the end of the day, all of us should realize we absolutely are good enough and are perfectly equal and worthy of love, support, and attention.


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TwoCreamTwoSugar November 28th, 2022

@TwoCreamTwoSugar

7 Cups won't let me post my references to Better Help and Psychology Today! Why!?

SunshineNaina December 19th, 2022

@TwoCreamTwoSugar

The three strengths of the answer are that it is professional and uses appropriate language, have utilized quite a number of the provided keywords, and avoids directly giving advice. One tip for improving the answer would be that the answer is a bit long and at certain points, digresses a little. So, the answer can be a little concise.

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SunshineNaina December 19th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

It must be really hard to constantly have thoughts around it and feel that you are not good enough for someone. I am glad that you have taken this first step towards identifying and working towards how you have been feeling. There might be a number of things that might be resulting in this, ranging from the self-doubt we have to a reflection of the self-confidence and self-esteem we have. At times, we have this inner critic that greatly affects us in a negative way due to all the negative self-talks that we subject ourselves to. I hope you will be able to work on identifying the real reason because of which you feel this. For a healthy relationship, it is really important to communicate how you have been feeling, indulge in self-love and care, know your worth and that might be helpful. It might also be helpful to reaffirm yourself while thinking about the good times and perhaps taking support from your family members. If you think that how you are feeling is greatly affecting your relations, then you might want to consider seeking therapy and going to a professional. At the end of the day, remind yourself that you are an amazing person and you’ll be able to work through this. You have got this!

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empatheticpie December 20th, 2022

@SunshineNaina
If I could offer one tip on improvement, it would be to include more SEO keywords, most especially those of parents, children, partners, and family members to get your post a bigger reach. For your three strengths, I like how you largely focus on the positive and the goal of achieving a better outcome. I think your example post is highly empathetic and hopeful, which is very important especially about a topic like this one. Finally, your response felt very down to earth rather than clinical, which can be comforting for those searching for help and affirmation. Great job!

broadfemmelovelive January 3rd, 2023

Dear @SunshineNaina, thank you for this wonderful answer to the question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

I thought your empathy and professionalism in the post showed the reader that they weren't alone. Along with these two strengths you avoided giving direct advice but gave lots of options/ suggestions of where the reader could go from here.

If I had to give one tip it would be to organize the content into easy-to-read short paragraphs. But that is just my preference and each reader/ writer has their own.

I liked your use of the keywords as well and was personally motivated by this answer. 🤗



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empatheticpie December 19th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly
Sometimes we might feel like we’re not good enough for the people around us, whether that be our parents, children, our partner, or other family members in our lives. One reason we might feel this way, could be social media. Social media may negatively impact our self-worth by amplifying our inner critic and supporting negative self-talk and self-doubt. The good news is that it can also help. Through social media, you can find resources for therapy or other forms of self-improvement to become a better person than you already were. Using these resources will allow you to regain the self-confidence you deserve by helping you realize you are an amazing person with a voice that deserves to be heard for your whole life. You can also discover how to have healthy relationships by learning great things like better communication and other information on a healthy lifestyle and social life. At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that we are all human beings, and we are all capable of improvement with the right resources.

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amybrit10 December 20th, 2022

@empatheticpie

This is great! I would say as your first strength, I love the opening sentence as it's a more general statement that may help them feel as though this is a common experience. The inclusion of the keywords is great, and I appreciate your encouragement of using accessible resources to help. The only weakness I would say is that you didn't share a similar experience as that could make the listener feel less alone (depending on the question of course). Really great job!

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amybrit10 December 20th, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

This is a difficult feeling to interpret and understand. It can feel like a heavy weight on your shoulders, especially when it involves a loved one. A healthy relationship involves honesty and vulnerability, and above all, a foundation of love and support from your partner. Sometimes our inner critic and self-doubt can cause us to spiral into negative self-talk, which can feel very overpowering. When I was in a similar situation I communicated this to my partner and focused on building my self-love and self-confidence. At the end of the day, an individual may be an amazing person but not the right person for someone. Good luck!

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Vivikun9 January 2nd, 2023

@amybrit10

I love what you wrote. a great way of using a healthy relationship and how it connects to vulnerability. I also like how you explained how inner criticism and self-doubt lead to a spiral. I even love how you used your personal experience as a way to teach about how this feeling affects everyone. The one thing I seem to notice is that it focused on being with a partner aspect than say with friends, family members, etc. I think adding more that this feeling affects other relationships will make it stronger but overall this is a good answer.

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Vivikun9 January 2nd, 2023

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

This feeling of self-doubt is not an easy answer as most people want to believe. We feel this way when growing up from childhood to adulthood. There are many ways for the inner critic voice can go away over time is with help from therapy, supportive family members, friends, and support groups. It may be easy to voice negative self-talk but, the first step (which is not the easiest) is knowing you are an amazing person and deserve great things in life has to offer. Self-love will win at the end of the day.


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Vivikun9 January 2nd, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly

InvaderStitch January 2nd, 2023

@Vivikun9

@Vivikun9

Strengths:

  1. Your conciseness in usage of keywords. You were able to incorporate a few words that I had a hard time figuring out how to include and I thought it was great the way you included them!

  2. with help from therapy, supportive family members, friends, and support groups” is a strong statement providing resources, I didn’t think of support groups, but those are definitely helpful!

  3. You did a great job of avoiding direct advice which can be hard to do at times.

Thought for improvement:

While the answer you provided is consistent with research, including a researcher’s name or resource where you found information. People look at credentials that information comes from a lot of the time in determining if it’s reliable. It also wasn’t quite the 8-10 sentences as recommended, so you had room to add a bit more information or keywords.

I do think the way you presented the information was great and liked the conciseness because I felt like my answer was long winded and wordy trying to make sure I included as many keywords as possible, and so I really appreciate that in your writing.


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Vivikun9 January 2nd, 2023

@InvaderStitch

Ah thank you for the feed back ^^ I will kep that in mind. Idk what else to write in without feeling I will just keeping going without a answer. But I should try to use research knowledge into future writings. Just testing the waters ^^

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InvaderStitch January 3rd, 2023

@Vivikun9

For testing waters you did great and I can't wait to see what other content you bring to 7cups!

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