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Aging Up Support Thread

Hope January 31st, 2020

Hi everyone! In the past few weeks, the Teen Leadership Team has been brainstorming ways to better support our transitioning teens. In an attempt to provide you with a space where you can get support on transitioning into the adult side we are launching this Teen Transitioning Support Thread. Here is it how it will go:

â This is a safe space for all teens who are soon aging up or have recently aged up to share anything that concerns them about the transitioning process, ask questions and get support.

â The thread will be monitored by our Teen Transitioning Mentors. Most of our Teen Transitioning Mentors have gone through the aging up process themself and are passionate about supporting our transitioning teens. They will respond to the members posting in this thread.

Important!

â This is not a place to get support on matters other than aging up as a teen. This is so we can focus our resources on supporting the teens who are going through the transitioning process. If you are looking for support on a personal matter/in need of a listener, please check our browse listener page.

*Aging Up: A period when a member/listener who joined 7 Cups as a teenager turns 18 and is moved to the adult side. It is also referred to as the transitioning period.

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sunshinegiraffe123 June 2nd, 2022

@Hope

I age up soon and I’m nervous…

yourmate2216 July 20th, 2022

@Hope thanksssss

lavenderMelon3599 July 20th, 2022

I have been having emotional episodes where I am crying nonstop about growing up and remembering how there used to be a time when I didn’t have to worry about college, money, jobs, and other scary adult issues that I know nothing about for the longest time now. It really started to get worse when the pandemic hit because it felt like two years of my life were taken away. I want to stop thinking about what I could have done in the past if COVID wasn’t a thing, but my mind hasn’t stopped going a mile a minute for the past year and a half. And now that I am only a week away from turning 18, I am terrified and don’t fully understand why. Pls someone let me know if you have been feeling a similar way so I know I’m not alone <3

lavenderMelon3599 July 20th, 2022

I think the scariest part about turning 18 is just thinking about time passing. I have been having a really hard time thinking about being an adult, going to college, and change in general. I had a hard time when it came to changing schools a few years ago and I feel like I am going to have the same reaction to moving to college, except its worse. This time, I won’t have my family to go home to and tell them how hard it is. It’s also hard because I think I am the only person I know in my family and in my friend group who is terrified about turning 18. I almost feel like my life is ending since nothing else is planned out for me like it was for the first 17 years of my life. I don’t even want to talk to my friends about it because I feel like they are excited for this big change and I am the only one who is constantly thinking about how upsetting growing up will be like. If anyone has any advice on how to stop overthinking this pls let me know. Or just knowing I’m not alone would help a lot!

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fairmindedBanana6038 August 21st, 2022

No I totally get it. I’ve been 18 for a total of 11 days and Idek what to do with myself. I have strict parents so I saw turning 18 as this big break to finally have control over my life and finally get some freedom but like now that it’s actually happened I just wanna go back. I graduated this year too so I just feel like I’m losing everything. I loved my high school experience and I took it really hard when I was leaving. Especially since most of my friends were in lower grades than me so I’m leaving them behind. For the first time in my life, I actually hate the fact that I’m not gonna be going back to high school in the fall. I just desperately wanna hold on to it and stay there instead of having to grow up so quickly.

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thoughtfulComputer9328 February 2nd, 2023

@fairmindedBanana6038 I feel the same way too, not being in high school is like a shock because...I don't really know what to do.

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Birchtreebird11 July 31st, 2022

@Hope I think I just got moved to the adult side a day too soon- it said it would happen on august and it's still July.

fairmindedBanana6038 August 21st, 2022

Please. I’m crying reading this thread because I didn’t want to be an adult yet. I’m not ready for this.

sarahR2004 September 1st, 2022

@Hope

Honestly I am terrified to turn 18 this year in a little over a month I'll be turning 18 and that completely scares me cause I don't know what to expect.

YenSummer1337 September 10th, 2022

I'm turning 18 tomorrow, September 10th. I'm not scare of, you know, becoming an adult, never really thought about it. Also my birthdays, I have never been excited about them, it's just another day where I completed another year of life, but yeah never been excited about them. Someone said something to me about when you are in your 12, 13, and 14 and it made me wonder what I did in that time and it wasn't much, just care about school and every year that passed see it as a year closer to finishing school. When you are between those ages that I mentioned turning 18 it seems a long way but when you about to turn 18 and look back it feels like you were 15 yesterday. I was always telling myself to enjoy the time I had because one day I would regret that I didn't now I'm turning 18 tomorrow and it feels like it came to fast and I did nothing in my teens. From my 13th birthday to this one now, they have passed like nothing. Again I'm turning 18 but I'm not really acknowledging that.

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MistyMagic September 10th, 2022

@YenSummer1337 Happy 18th! Congratulations I hope you have a lovely day. Don't forget you can reach out the the Teen Transitioning Team for support if needed too.

Listening - One Step At A Time!

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neatturtle9621 October 1st, 2022

@Hope umm why is this thread archived? the banner redirected me here...

politeDrum732 November 14th, 2022

@Hope I'm turning 18 in just a few days and I'm terrified and excited, haha. Thanks for making this thread.