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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
Last post
 December 13th
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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Trauma Support Automated Taglist
by CaringBrit
Last post
 December 6th
...See more This thread controls an auto-updating taglist. To see the current list, go to Trauma Support Community [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/taglist?23eb3b680028ac32c998125af8d8f262]. <<<< checkin posters refer to this click then copy for taglist its instant updated To add yourself to this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words Please add me. To remove yourself from this taglist, press the Post to Thread button above and write the exact words, Please remove me. highlighting keywords as these are needed no forms to fill in just type to this thread . dont need to copy the colouring though just the keywords highlight is so they stand out is all. New taglist as of August 9th 2024 by audienta @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0
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We're a DID system. Are you?
by moonphasesystem
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more Hi, we're seeking support from others, mostly another system, ideally close to our body age (34). We really can't find a space to talk with other traumagenic systems/those who live with DID. We've tried some forums but so many are outdated and barely seeing posts. Reddit and *** feel overwhelming with non-traumagenic plurality, which we don't want support from (or to get caught in a debate about).
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Do i have Depersonalization-derealisation disorder?
by Faithfulmap3910
Last post
 December 12th
...See more I was suffering from anxiety recently and i am alot better now. But i feel like something is off. I feel like I am not real sometimes and sometimes I feel that things around me are not real which pointed me towards dpdr disorder. I don't feel my personality. I tried practicing mindfulness in which I focus on a particular thing. During the meditation, I totally forget everything around me except that object or being ( even about me) and when I remove my focus from it, I feel like what was that feeling? Then I feel that either me Or others are unreal. I started to feel like this since my anxiety started. Actually I have phobia anxiety which is that things around me are not real. Some people told me that it is anxiety's symptoms. Please guide me regarding my doubts.
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I opened up for the first time and it feels right yet so wrong
by Itswhatits
Last post
 December 12th
...See more I really hope someone bothers to read this, I deeply need to hear some reassurance or similar experience.  Yesterday, my best friend and I were hanging out and talking. She mentioned that she loves to analyze people's personalities, so she began to analyze my personality. She pointed out traits and behaviours she’s noticed in me but then she seemed hesitant to say something, so i urged her to say it. She said that sometimes it seems like I'm living as if I’m following commands, almost like a robot in a loop following whatever rules I have in my head. And that I'm trying to understand a thing i can't put my hand on. She couldn't be more right, I don't know if my *** was too obvious but no one saw it other than her.   I started talking about my own perspective, I've never opened up about this specific topic before and I felt everything in me fighting against the idea of telling anyone of this. I had to resist the physical urge to stand up and leave the room, then go to the most isolated place ever.  the moment I began talking, my heart started pounding and my vvoice was shaking. I felt so anxious and at all immediately triggered my derealization. I felt like I've broken a wall or crossed a boundary and there was no going back. I was speaking automatically. I shared things I’ve always kept hidden. I told her about how I’ve created a “fake” personality to deal with people because it makes life easier. how I feel like there are different voices or parts of myself inside my head, each one handling specific tasks or emotions. I said I don’t know who “I” am among all these parts. She listened. She really tried to understand and I felt guilty like I was overwhelming her with something too complicated. But she kept asking questions and encouraging me to share. She even told me she would research more about what I’m going through so she could understand everything .  I know what I am isn't considered normal. I said that I always look around at people and see how they interact with each other, How they show emotions and reactions So naturally and always question myself, why do I have to fake it so I can appear normal like them, and that left her speechless, which I understand.  She said that I should face those boundaries or whatever *** in my head, since they keep me chained. I have to fight back because I'm avoiding doing so. And I'm not sure. It doesn't feel like the right thing to do.   I was in a bad mental state, and I had to fight to stay aware and conscious. I eventually laid my head on her lap. She stroked my hair, caressed my back and arm until i fell asleep. Thinking of it now makes me want to cry because I've never felt so loved and cared for. Yet something keeps bugging me, telling me I've done the wrong thing.
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Authentic Communication with Parts
by LifeIsMyCanvas
Last post
 December 9th
...See more I was having some self reflection time this afternoon and listened to a few podcasts on trauma. I heard Gabor Maté say that ‘giving up authenticity in favour of attachment’ is a common trauma pattern. We all have 2 fundamental needs, authenticity (to accept ourselves and be accepted by others) and attachment. Attachment in early years is vital for survival. When bad experiences happen to us that cause us to override our gut feelings in order to stay attached to our caregivers, this is an example of attachment over authenticity. I recently went through some difficult experiences and noticed that many ‘friends’ weren’t there for me when I needed help. Increasingly I was having to ‘not be me’ to fit in so I left. But then it occurred to me that there are parts inside who have this same dilemma. So how can we authentically connect to our inner world/our parts after trauma? In DID open chat we often talk about our child parts needing/wanting attachment from others. Sometimes it can lead to difficult boundaries or feel embarrassing to older parts or those of us with a more avoidant attachment style. We always encourage child parts to connect to the adult parts because those parts will always be there for them. But what if they aren’t? Often old trauma patterns mean that we continue ‘give up’ our authenticity to ‘fit it’. I know for myself, making everyone else ok (externally) meant we were safer, so it was a logical defence strategy. But as we get older the cost of giving up our true selves is too great and can lead to addiction, chronic illness & disconnection from those authentic parts of ourselves that we say no to. We see this conflict play out in our internal world all the time. Some parts are angry at the injustices that happen to us (and rightly so). Then the protective parts come in to quieten things down to appease the outside and keep us externally connected. But some of our parts on the inside can feel that we have left them behind or exiled them in favour of outside connection. In our system they looked outside for connection because us inside adults taught them that’s what was important. How do we authentically connect to, and have safe attachments with our parts? We need to find out at what point were they taught to ignore their gut feelings. Us externally focused daily life parts need to sit with those needs and feelings that we have ignored and accept them. Work out what is needed, and make sure we accept the need. Then we need to negotiate how to meet the need without saying no to ourselves, and move to a healthier ‘yes’. Gabor Maté recently wrote a book called the Myth of Normal. In it he gives us 6 questions to work out where we got disconnected: - Where in your life to you have difficulty saying no? - What was the impact on you not saying no? (shame, loss of control - main trigger for stress). - What is the belief that keeps you from saying no? (It will probably show up as a story.) - How did you develop that story? Where or from whom did you learn that? - Who would you be if you didn’t believe that you must not say no? - What are you not saying yes to? Our parts often hold the memories that link to those beliefs, so we need them to help us with the missing pieces of the puzzle. By working through the questions together and making ‘internal enquiries’, we can begin to authentically connect. With connection comes an understanding of what was ours (the no’s we didn’t speak) and what was other peoples (the stories they told us). Lastly I leave you with a little poem: The body The body keeps the score, Yes, I’ve heard this before, It’s not just the score it keeps, But all the times we didn’t weep. It tells the story of the pain, The times we suppressed the shame, It holds all the no’s we shout, The ones that didn’t come out. The body kept us alive, It’s helps us to survive, It’s brilliant and ashamed, We disconnect it from our name. Pretend like it’s not there, Don’t give it any care, If it’s not really mine, I won’t let out a whine. But it is mine and it’s there, No matter how hard I stare, The mirror doesn’t become my friend, But body is still mine in the end. If you want to watch the podcast that inspired this reflection you can watch it here: https://youtu.be/PLvCXIvgrGQ?si=35MjT666h34ecApB
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New revelation about a "therapy" session
by alexaners7734
Last post
 December 7th
...See more I don't know if I ever mentioned on this site a horrible "therapist" I've experienced in real life over a decade ago, but another memory caused this to pop up. Then I made a horrible realization about her ideals from a conversation we had. I was so conditioned by my depression and my abusive family to always be shut down. No thoughts. "Therapist" asked me after a long silence (almost all sessions were pretty silent) in 1 session she asked what I was thinking about. I told her honestly "nothing, I'm just staring" Her ridiculous response "if you weren't thinking and had zero thoughts you would be dead. Everyone is always thinking about something." Later it got worse when this lady, knowing I almost didn't survive my only hospitalization so far and it was still a pretty fresh trauma uttered "I think you belong locked in a room of a mental hospital with no key for the rest of your life" I already knew a few things 1. I did not 2. That would be a pretty short life 3. I don't do well in those hospitals 4. I was actually not that bad mentally 5. I think that's illegal 6. She knew how traumatic that statement would be considering I had a recent bad experience.  But worst of all I don't think I ever thought about until now is most hardened criminals or the most criminally insane probably don't even get treated this cruelly. I was literally treated like a criminal by a mental health "professional" just for being a little out of it.
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Suspecting dissociative disorder; how do I cope with it?
by MarkEthos
Last post
 November 13th
...See more Hello! My name is Mark, and I'm a host of an undiagnosed polyfragmented fictive-heavy system. We've been trying to find proper therapy for a good long while, but it's hard to do so when you're freshly unemployed with no way of being able to afford any type of help. So, I'm posting here. If you're triggered by trauma discussion, specifically topics of abuse, I'm gonna try to hide it under a read more but it doesn't seem to have that option so I'll just add a horizontal break line. ------------------------- We struggle to remember large chunks of our life, but from what we've been told it started as early as 6. Our father was chronically abusive, both physically and mentally, and never provided the comfort and stable connection often needed for kids that age, and we had to move away from my childhood home shortly after. Every 2-3 years we'd end up needing to move again as we were surrounded by narcissistic and abusive family members, and as a result of trauma our own mother was no help half the time as she was very emotionally volatile and occasionally took her anger out on us. Usually in the form of emotional manipulation and abuse, but we very vividly remember to this day moments where she would physically hurt us in drunken rages. She was an alcoholic almost our whole life, only recently stopping within the past 4 years. The first thing we remember as far as symptoms go, was the presence of uncontrollable "thought" voices in our head. We assumed it was imaginary friends, but we also had pretty bad maladaptive daydreaming and would often imagine ourselves as fictional characters, despite them acting almost exactly like the host. Then came the memory issues, concentration issues, executive dysfunction... Eventually the symptoms regarding the voices and "pretending to look like/be fictional characters" became not as noticeable, despite persisting, and a few times we ran into discussions of DID and its symptoms and we related, but shoved it aside and refused to address it. We instead thought our concentration and memory issues were merely ADHD as our mother was diagnosed with that very problem. April of this year, however, we got back into watching a Youtuber named Soren, whose channel is named DissociaDID. And we got into watching The Entropy System, and The Ring System. I noticed the symptoms were very much like mine, and began to question whether or not I was a part of a system. As a result, all the symptoms came flooding back in, alters seeming to appear left and right as though they were waiting for me to discover them again. Primarily fictives and other introjects, but there were plenty of "brain made" alters as well. Now we're struggling to figure out how to cope as the dissociation has gotten worse, and the other trauma symptoms have worsened as well, especially since I seemed to have fused with a former host that had my deadname. She was the "first", so to speak. Basically, what I'm trying to convey, is that I'm wanting to ask how other systems have coped? How did you manage to get through it, and is EMDR worth a try? Should we try and dig deeper into our past and work through the trauma ourselves, or is it not worth it and should we just wait for therapy? And how do we let others know of the whole "system" thing without being accused of faking or being judged? How do we deal with our own feelings of denial and feeling like we're just roleplaying the whole thing? It's embarrassing, but we cannot for the life of us explain why. It just is. Thank you for taking the time to read this, and thank you for any responses you may decide to send to me. We appreciate every single bit of it.
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My experience with DID
by FormalPsycho
Last post
 November 5th
...See more For about a year or two now I have had a second personality living inside of my head He calls himself "John" and to be honest I have no idea how to even deal with him I still don't know much about him, he's a complete enigma to me Just wanted to see if posted would help me feel better about him
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Are you a listener who supports DID 1:1? Let us know.
by Heather225
Last post
 October 28th
...See more Hello, everyone! Just want to inform you that we have an official classifieds thread in General Support dedicated to connecting listeners and members on the topic of DID. Are you a listener passionate about supporting DID? Follow this link to share your experience and contact information and help members find tailored support here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/generalsupport/Classifieds_360/ListenerClassifiedsDissociativeIdentityDisorderDID_339333/] Thanks! ❤️
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Did system....
by DCcat1989
Last post
 October 28th
...See more I feel like I'm the only "oldie" who is a system..... Please reply if you are also a system... Hi I'm Dandan and I have did. I have 5 alters who can range from 3-34....  My system includes a cat, a little, a protector and a teen, and myself (host).  My goal is to feel less alone 
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How do we fix ourself?
by SaturniidSys
Last post
 October 28th
...See more (using 'we' and 'our' bc we are a plural system.) TW for mentions of abusive behavior, SA, and SH I feel like we can't hold on anymore. we are so violent and lost. We need to distract ourselves. We can't keep doing this. Lloyd is extremely stressed and traumatized from like 4 alters touching them, I(morro) miss my partner who is sleeping for a LONG time, Katelyn is overworked with protecting the system, and overall, just very stressed. because of one thing, we formed 4 alters. (2 resulting from a split). One of the alters is of our ex who called us abusive for swearing. we are afraid that this current relationship might also be seen as abusive. The body is getting urges to SH and we can't stop them. we are tired.
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DID/OSDD
by reservedJar1498
Last post
 September 26th
...See more Hey! I recently started developing DID symptoms about 5 months ago and I got a diagnosis a couple months ago. I know about simply plural but I was looking for literature or websites that talk about DID and how to live a fulfilling life as a plural. Another thing, does anyone else have experiences with an alter that is completely uncooperative with communication. They refuse to log their fronting and often do really irresponsible things. I know she has no control over this but she hasn't cofronted in weeks and since I blackout when she comes out I haven't been able to communicate with her. Is there anything you think might be helpful?
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I'm scared
by sympatheticTiger2424
Last post
 September 9th
...See more so i just want to rant. thats all i was scared for years to talk about myself in public, but i need to do that to heal im not here to help anyone, im broken and im fixing myself. i need to be selfish in my aproach. i cant help you, only you can help you. thats the way i look at it. only i can help myself too i started my journey a few days ago, relived my truma few times, it gets easier and easier every time but i hve so much doubts about myself, my own feelings. i dont have control over my own self i just want to heal and get better ive been isolated for 22 years, and its enough i will get through this im proud of my proggres so far when i first broke thought my trauma, i had the feeling this will be easy and it will be solved in a day but it wont. it will take a lot of time 22 years is a long time to run away from yourself. it will take a lot of fixing. introspection, facing my fears, helping myself, learning and improving its nice to get support, it feels good that others are there for you. i needed this my whole life. but it was also what was keeping me down i had a strong need for others, and triyng to get from them something i can only give myself and thats self love others cant give me self esteem, others can give me confidence. they can, but in small doses, it doesnt fix the core thats inside of me i will learn how to do that myself the need for others is a trap so i dont start loving and working myself i need help i need help so much that its overwheling but im here i will help myself

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Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
Read the 7 Cups Guidelines
Community Leaders
Community Mentor Leader
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Chatroom Moderator
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