cynderislame
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Number of ratings110
Number of reviews27
Listens toOver 18
LanguagesEnglish
Listener sinceAug 28, 2016
Last activeover 6 months ago
GenderFemale
PathStep 175
People helped164
Chats259
Group support chats48
Listener group chats38
Forum posts48
Forum upvotes51
Bio
Hello, everyone! My name is Cynder, I'm a 19 year old girl, and I'm a listener here on 7cups! I specialize in issues dealing with a whole slew of things including mental illness, family issues, and substance abuse, but I'm sure I could help you out with just about everything or at least refer you to someone who would be better equipped to help!
It's important to know that 7cups is a 100% Judgement-Free zone! If you need help, you don't need to feel embarassed! Tell me what you're comfortable with telling me and I'll help you to the best of my ability.
Poem of the Day- Mingus at the Showplace- William Matthews
I was miserable, of course, for I was seventeen,
and so I swung into action and wrote a poem,
and it was miserable, for that was how I thought
poetry worked: you digested experience and shat
literature. It was 1960 at The Showplace, long since
defunct, on West 4th St., and I sat at the bar,
casting beer money from a thin reel of ones,
the kid in the city, big ears like a puppy.
And I knew Mingus was a genius. I knew two
other things, but they were wrong, as it happened.
So I made him look at the poem.
“There’s a lot of that going around,” he said,
and Sweet Baby Jesus he was right. He laughed
amiably. He didn’t look as if he thought
bad poems were dangerous, the way some poets do.
If they were baseball executives they’d plot
to destroy sandlots everywhere so that the game
could be saved from children. Of course later
that night he fired his pianist in mid-number
and flurried him from the stand.
“We’ve suffered a diminuendo in personnel,”
he explained, and the band played on.
How sweet and lovely dost thou make the shame
Which, like a canker in the fragrant rose,
Doth spot the beauty of thy budding name!
O, in what sweets dost thou thy sins enclose!
That tongue that tells the story of thy days,
Making lascivious comments on thy sport,
Cannot dispraise but in a kind of praise;
Naming thy name blesses an ill report.
O, what a mansion have those vices got
Which for their habitation chose out thee,
Where beauty's veil doth cover every blot,
And all things turn to fair that eyes can see!
Take heed, dear heart, of this large privilege;
The hardest knife ill-used doth lose his edge.
It's important to know that 7cups is a 100% Judgement-Free zone! If you need help, you don't need to feel embarassed! Tell me what you're comfortable with telling me and I'll help you to the best of my ability.
Poem of the Day- Mingus at the Showplace- William Matthews
I was miserable, of course, for I was seventeen,
and so I swung into action and wrote a poem,
and it was miserable, for that was how I thought
poetry worked: you digested experience and shat
literature. It was 1960 at The Showplace, long since
defunct, on West 4th St., and I sat at the bar,
casting beer money from a thin reel of ones,
the kid in the city, big ears like a puppy.
And I knew Mingus was a genius. I knew two
other things, but they were wrong, as it happened.
So I made him look at the poem.
“There’s a lot of that going around,” he said,
and Sweet Baby Jesus he was right. He laughed
amiably. He didn’t look as if he thought
bad poems were dangerous, the way some poets do.
If they were baseball executives they’d plot
to destroy sandlots everywhere so that the game
could be saved from children. Of course later
that night he fired his pianist in mid-number
and flurried him from the stand.
“We’ve suffered a diminuendo in personnel,”
he explained, and the band played on.
How sweet and lovely dost thou make the shame
Which, like a canker in the fragrant rose,
Doth spot the beauty of thy budding name!
O, in what sweets dost thou thy sins enclose!
That tongue that tells the story of thy days,
Making lascivious comments on thy sport,
Cannot dispraise but in a kind of praise;
Naming thy name blesses an ill report.
O, what a mansion have those vices got
Which for their habitation chose out thee,
Where beauty's veil doth cover every blot,
And all things turn to fair that eyes can see!
Take heed, dear heart, of this large privilege;
The hardest knife ill-used doth lose his edge.
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Took the time to help me out
Lovely person.
Best by far
great
best help i've ever gotten!! super helpful, and very kind!!
Very helpful
I feel so comfortable with her, she's really a good listener
Very helpful and kind. She can help you.
very nice to talk to
GREAT. Super understanding. I needed help with an anxiety issue, and they were GREAT. Really helped me calm down and think about it.
Really thank you for talking me you have no idea how much I need this.
She was great! :)
Great person! Replies could be a little bit faster, but overall you do amazing! keep up the work!
Just an overall great person who actually feels like they are listening. First person to ever speak to about how I truly feel
They have honestly been a massive help - a short conversation has made me feel so much better. Thank you :)
I really appreciated my chat with cynderislame, he or she made quite an impression and I felt better within the first minutes
only listener I've ever had that feels like a real person, love her plus she's funny and cute 10/10
Really kind and caring with a quick response
Sweetheart
This listener is so amazing!
You are amazing!
cynder is a fantastic listener! super sweet, helpful, she cracks a joke every now and again to keep my spirits up. she's my go-to!
Cynder is wonderful
She/He is amazing, they don't take time to reply , and they discuss everything patiently , trying to find a possible solution calmly.
I love her! She's the best listener on the site
really nice
Cynder is such a sweet girl! She suggested I check out the anxiety guide, and she also helped me realize that creative writing helped my anxiety significantly! She even showed me a song to help with intrusive thoughts. Great 7 cups experience!
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