Welcome to my account!

Who are you?

Hello 👋

For the purposes of 7cups, my name is Jamie. I turned seventeen in January of this year. Although I was born with the equipment needed to be classified female at birth, I do not really care about gender and have been told I have a "boyish attitude". My hobbies are writing, (bullet) journaling, Minecraft and running through the beautiful landscape that is Germany, the country where I was born and raised. 😊

I love blueberries, creative work, sugar free ice tea and peppermint tea. Other favourites include, but are not limited to: English class, rainy weather, salted chips, stickers with dogs on them and the smell of pine trees. If I could pick 3 things to bring to a deserted island I would bring a Captain and his boat, as well as a million dollars (for when I'm back on solid ground). And if I could be reborn in any fictional world of my choice, I would be an earth- or firebender in Avatar: The Last Airbender so I can meet Uncle Iroh!

I would describe myself as kind, dedicated, open-minded and creative. I still need to work on my irritability in real life, my dark humour (that I don't ever use in 7cups chats) and my emotional regulation. Otherwise I am confident in my own abilities and think I'll be able to handle whatever life throws at me. If life gives you sh*t, plant a flower in it and see it grow! 🌻

You can find more about me under "Why do you want to help?" ⏬

How can you help?

You might have read through the "rules" listeners have to follow and found out that we are neither professionals, nor can we give advice. This is because we don't know all the specifics of the situation you're in, and even if we did we still can't just choose for you. It's your life afterall.

So now you're thinking: How do you even help, then?

Every listener's answer will be different for this. My answer is that I can listen. Listening and asking questions will help the both of us better understand the situation you're in, and even better, your feelings about your circumstances. Also, it's just great getting things off your chest. If you just want to tell me stuff without me asking or commenting otherwise, you can tell me beforehand and I'll go into "vent-listening-mode" where I passively listen and try to understand what you're going through.

We can also brainstorm solutions together. This will not be me suggesting stuff and you implementing it, but rather us thinking about your possibilities and choosing on your own what you want to do (with my assistance, of course!). But even if we don't do that the conversation will still probably help because I know how to support people in getting their head out of the clouds that are their issues, granting them to see clearly.

Although I'm not a therapist, I do know some tips and tricks on how to calm down, beat stress and panic attacks and find out what you really want in life. I have a full arsenal of exercises we can do together so you can be your best self.

I'm sure there's much more I can do, but this is enough for now to give you an appropriate overview of our possibilities.

Please be aware that I cannot help suicidal or homicidal users and will refer them to a therapist or other helplines. I also will not tolerate any harassment (in this case I will warn you several times before blocking).

Why do you want to help me?

I might not seem like it on this profile, but I've been through a lot. My lived experience includes: anxiety (diagnosis: anxiety disorder), panic attacks, depression (diagnosis: moderate depression), hospitalization, physical assault, loss of a loved one (here: my dear mother), social issues (diagnosis: social communication disorder), compulsions, bullying, school stress, burnout.

I started therapy after a hospitalization (length: 4 months) at the age of 13. Right now I'm still in therapy (1-on-1 and group) and continue to learn what works and does not work for me. I still try to remember stuff that didn't help me, since it might help you!

So to make a long answer short: I want to help because I know how it is to need it. There are so many people that are in situations just as mine (or worse) and I think I can help. You just need to reach out. If I'm not the right listener for you, maybe someone else will be.

What topics do you specialize in?

I personally think I'm especially good in providing support for those who suffer from anxiety, panic attacks, depression, OCD, self-esteem issues and student life issues. I still do other topics like abuse, loss or disabilities/cancer but those are not my specialty.

The only things I strictly do not do are addiction/drug abuse, domestic violence, financial stress, men's issues and sexual health.

When can I send you a message?

You can send me a message whenever you want to, although the answer times may vary.

🔴 RED: I am offline. You can send a message and I'll reply once I am online again!

🔶 ORANGE: I am busy. I am probably helping other people right now. You can send me a message and I'll reply as soon as possible, but answers might be slow.

💚GREEN: I am online! You can send me a message and I'll answer immediately.

Do you accept long-term members?

I do! I don't do more than one or two at a time, so space is limited. Right now I still have the capacity for one more long-term member. This includes regular chats on 7cups. I will only be there on the weekends (evening, CET) and on one weekday (evening, CET) but you can always text me and I'll answer you as soon as possible, it'll just not be instant.